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Q: i have this best friend she likes this one boy but he rather be with me i dont mean in a love kind of way he already told her he didnt like her so now she gets mad when he talks to me and she keeps asking me if i like him i told her no but she wont let it go and she even started saying that he likes me iv told her to drop it but she keeps picking at it and i dont know what to do cause i dont like him and i dont think he likes me what do i do stop[ talking to him but if i do he might try harder to talk to me and get her even more mad what do i do

Hay I'm C.L.N
Its pretty well known she hates that he rather talk to you then talk to her.
Tell your friend don't trip you don't like him and tell her you want do her like that.
I can remeber something like this with me. But my friend try to hook me up with some guy who did like me and I liked him to but once I went out to talk to him it was too late he was kissing her my friend. So yeah I can pretty much see what she feel. Don't stop talking to him what did he do for you to stop. And your friend she is just going to have to stick through it she's your friend, she is supose to be down for what ever.
Any other questions feel free to ask
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Q: im just really curious lol wwhat does C.L.N stand for is it the letters of your name?

Yes it is the letters of my name but it is also a name people call me you just say it fast and you'll hear it.
C.L.N...... LOL

Q:

Okay as I should know this but I'm a little confused lol

When someone gets married is it really required to be married by a priest? Can anyone marry you?

Also.. again lol I should know this but I thought about it and I got myself confused

but when the guy buys the rings is it the guy that buys the rings? Or is the girl supposed to buy the guy his ring...or does the guy buy both of the bands?...Help?

Hay I'm C.L.N
So yeah the proper way to get married is by a priest but you can do it another way but you just will feel married but your realy not. A priest has to do because he holds the priest hood ( the word of god) and he blesses you with marrieg pluse how could any guy bless you right. And also it must be a man who dose it cause weman do not hold priest hood
Last the guy is suppose to by both rings or els it wouldt be a big suprise for the girl. So hope I helped out bye
C.L.N

Q: Hey, I've been wanting to buy lingerie for awhile to surprise my boyfriend...ive worn all the "matching" bra and panties, but i want some REAL lingerie. What do YOU think is the best kind to buy him? I really am clueless on this type of stuff. I looked on victorias secret but its too much. I am 5 foot 2 inches, i weigh around 115 lbs (i'd say that im slender, but not fit. i dont really like my stomach) i have size 34C boobs. I am very pale with brown hair if that helps with colors? thank you!

Hay I'm C.L.N
I'm soo like you . I was once just like that I didn't know what to wear for my boyfriend and I asked him what he likes and he told me it dose not have to be expensive he just he just wants it to be sexy. But sexy for your boyfriend can be different so like I did ask him what colors he like and try just looking for regular underwear but not just any kind.
Its underwear like where the panties look like booty short with the bra that mach me my guy say he likes me in black and I have black booty short panties and a black bra that is kind of like a shirt but see through and it covers my stomach. So you can also through things together and ask him things he like he can proble give better advice then anyone so good luck
C.L.N.....Bye

Q: im 14 and i want to kiss my boyfriend when he askes me and i for some reason make excuses up everytime. he askes me before hand because he knows that im uncertain about the hole thing and he understands but i really want to kiss him just somethings holding me back and im not sure what it is. ive never kissed anyone before and im not sure how im to aproach the hole thing and to what level i take it. im just uncertain and worried about the hole thing. i really want to but yeh :(

Hay I'm C.L.N
Oook I see this is always a problem do you know what's holding you back is ot a thought or something your not liking. Are people saying things to you like why your dating him cuz this could be the problem scared of jugement. One more thing that it can be is you don't know how to so you avoid the kiss but don't let that stop you try just kissing him and you will know by the feeling what todo. If you don't have that feeling your moving to fast so try it and good luck friend
Any other questions feel free to ask me
C.L.N

Q: I'm 19 years old. I stole $34 worth of merchandise at a Walmart in Georgia. This is my first crime (other than traffic tickets). I am in college. I went to jail and I was bailed out 8 hours later. My court date is April 1st.

What can I expect to happen? I don't care if I have to do community service or probation. But I really don't want this to ruin my life or to have a misdemeanor on my record. Please help me out. :(

I am poor, also..and I live in Georgia.

Hay I'm C.L.N and I can tell you a little
This will be put on your record but its not that big it depends what you stole.
It can afect you proble trying to get a job like sailing things when your older or it can be good if you keep you record clean then people will see you changed and had not did any crimes since. Hope eveything is good for you and SOOT( stay out of truble) bye
C.L.N

Q: Me and my boyfriend haven't been together long (less than 2 months) and we never really actually got in a fight ( well one time !) but the only thing that we sometimes feud on is his communication with me. He's a really busy guy and i understand that,but sometimes he doesn't text me for almost a day (if its the weekend!)or we will make plans to hangout and sometimes they work perfectly and other times,he messes them up.For example,on monday i asked him if he wanted to go to the gym with me...he said yeah and at 5 o clock when we were gonna go to the gym ,he told me he couldnt go because he had to watch his sister and that we'd go tomorrow.The next day comes around and he had a parent/teacher meeting with all of his teachers after school and told me he'd call me after it was finished.He did and said he couldn't go because his mom said he had to stay home and finish all the work he was missing and had soccer practice.and his best friend told me it was true,so i guess he wasn't lying about that. But today,i found out from his other best friend that on Monday when he told me he had to watch his sister,he was really hanging out with a few of his guy friends and a couple of girls.I confronted him and he finally admited it and he said he didn't wanna tell me he was with other girls because he thought i'd get mad...which i wouldn't have.I'd rather have him tell me the truth! Finally,we moved on and made plans TODAY to hangout.Directly after school ,he usually comes to my car and he did and showed me a text from his mom saying "that he had to come straight home and clean the house and his room because spectators or something is coming to the house" i believed him but ofcourse got upset and let down.He told me he'd call me after he's done with thqat so we could chill.It's only been 2 hours since he told me that ,but i texted him and no response yet.Is he just busy? Or to busy to even have a girlfriend? I've talked to him about it and he says he will change! but i feel like im being annoying...He's a reallllly nice guy .I just don't think he realizes how much he's hurting my feelings.i feel like he doesn't like me! But whenever we are together he always holds my hand,hugs me ,kisses me,does all the cute stuff.So im confused!

I realy get what you are saying my name is C.L.N and I want to help
First I want to tell you I had the same problem with my boyfriend but the difference was we live a distance and we still hardly talk like 2hours a day if I'm luck mabe 5hours so don't give up if you realy like him
Also like I did ask him if he's avoiding you not saying he is, but try and this will let him think you think he is avioding you and if he realy care he will won't to spin time with you to prove that he is not avoiding you. That's realy all I could say ooooh and try telling him how you feel about him make him open up and let him know you will give up a day with friends to chill with him. Good luck!!!!!!
C.L.N

Q: how should i get noticed?
i just wrote a song and its reaaally good.
should i send it to a radio station?
idk where to go from here but i know that it will be a hit.
it's called "and then you came" its like a cute tay swift song mixed with kate voegle and then i wrote another one called your love makes me higher and it sounds like a justin beiber song!

Hay I'm C.L.N
Waoool that's realy cool but the only way you can get noticed is call a studio thay will work the way for you. Me I play piano, I sing, and I draw all very good.
It don't matter age you are the will want you. I think give it a try pluse my boyfriend write songs and he wrote two about me and yeah he just found someone to sing his lable by going to a studio or do like Justin Bieber try making a vido on youtude and someone will see it that is looking for the next bigest star and they will get in touch hope I helped so good luck .
C.L.N
Bye .

Q: hi i am 15 / f

1st of all i am Not sexually active at all like i have never even kissed a guy! but i do work out alot! like every single day for 4 hours (if that says anything to my problem) ... so .... i do masturbate though but i do not finger myself or go inside (if u know wat i mean) at all ! never...... just around the clit (wats it called) But when i loooked in a mirror of it i noticed that their is like a fleshy thing covering the entrance kinda like their is only a tiny opening maybey the size of a pea! their is kind of an odor but not to noticable or at least i havent noticed this. I do not have any pains or itches and i never noticed this until i just randomly decided to see what it looked like lol but i am pretty sure this is not normal and i am mostly worried because it has been like this for about 4 months. i have noticed that their used to be like no opening at ALL ! but now their is a little opening the size of a pea. but i am in no discomfort at all! is this just an infection? a disease? please help ASAP i am stressing over this sooooo much!

Well hay I want to help I'm C.L.N by the way
So you have to be young and going through changes. Sweety its normal the flessy part is just the walls of your clit and the little opening you should know what gose in. If there is no rash or burn, bumps or weird sures then your good to go.
Hope I helped out
! ! !Bye! ! !

Q: How do I tell my parents that I'm pregnant?

I live with my mom and I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. My mom thinks he's OK so it isn't like she hates him. I heard her telling my dad about it on the phone once when he called to see if I wanted to come down to his house on the weekend so I know my dad knows about him too.

Anyway, I've been having sex with my boyfriend since we got together. We used a condom every time but I guess one didn't work because I didn't get my period this last time. I bought some home pregnancy tests (4 of them total) and they ALL came up positive. I even took once mid-way through the school day and it still showed pregnant. I totally didn't want to get pregnant, especially in high school, but it looks like I am anyway.

So, I need to tell my mom that he got me pregnant. What's even worse is that I was just about to break up with him. Now I feel like if I break up with him my mom will make this situation even worse.

How do I tell my mom I'm pregnant?
How do I break up with this guy without my mom freaking out?
I plan to keep the baby and raise it myself and I want my mom to be supportive of this. How do I break the news to her and tell her my plan?

Sooo knocked up congrates in a good way.
My name is C.L.N and I never got pregnant but my sister did at 16 so one thing she did was just started out like this

Mom I have something I have
to tell you but you have to
Swear you want get made or
through in opions ( if see say
Ok ) I knew I shouldn't have
but me and .....been messing
around and I'm pregnant
Please forgive me

If she feels she have to tell dad then tell her to cuz if you do than he will most likley yell or not want to talk but if your mom tells him the right way then he will want to talk to you.
And your mother should want to support you she's going to be a granmal. Even when my sis had got knocked up my mom ofered no help but now she has him every weekend.
Hope I helped good luck!!!!!!!!!

Q: I have a very odd, rather embarrassing, sexual fetish. I have always been "into" this sort of thing and all of my fantasies and sexual thoughts revolve around the fetish itself. I really don't want to have this sexual fetish any more though.

I have searched online on how to get rid of a particular fantasy or sexual fetish and all I can find is to embrace it. All of the material is the same thing: Embrace your sexuality, embrace your sexual differences, be unique and enjoy your sexual desires and kinks, fulfill your sexual fantasies, etc. That's not what I want.

How do I get rid of this odd sexual desire though?

Like I said, it really isn't common so it isn't like I can find friends to share my sexual interests with or find a partner "into" the same thing I am. It's incredibly embarrassing and I don't think I could even say it outloud to another person if I had to. Since it's a strange, unusual sexual desire it makes me feel like a bad person. I'm tired of these feelings and I'm tired of thinking about it. I want to be more "vanilla" and normal.

Please, help me get over these sexual thoughts revolving around this kink! Any idea or tip is highly appreciated!

I realy get what your saying my name is C.L.N and I'm going to try to help you
I hate to say this but you should try pleasing yourself like.......masterbateing it can help where you want feel for those thouaght and try avoiding porn and things with nudeity cuz it can bring that feeling back to you.
If age is good sex could help and another thing is live your fantasies so that you already did it before it won't hit you as much.
Hope I helped alittle bye

Q: 16/M

When I masturbate I cannot ejaculate. It's really embarrassing and I'm not going to go to my parents and say, "Hey, when I masterbate I'm not able to cum out! Should I see a doctor?"

I have masturbated many times now but I never reach orgasm. I've tried different techniques, have tried "cumming" quickly, and have tried jacking off for a long period of time before trying to "cum" but it never happens!

What's more embarrassing is that I urinate instead of cumming, it seems. I've peed on my bed twice now because I was trying to reach climax. I now stand over the toilet to masturbate so when it gets to the point of urination I won't make a mess again. It is most definately urine and not cum.

I haven't gone past kissing a girl because of this. It's SO embarrassing and gross. Yeah, I can get hard and it feels really good to jack off but then the wrong thing happens in the end! I just cannot tell a girl I can't have sex with her because I can't cum but will, instead, pee.

I feel so messed up. Something is seriously wrong with me, obviously, but I don't know what to do about it now. Please, help me!

Hay well I'm a girl just so you know my name is C.L.N and I want to help you.
Your proble thinking your a girl how could you help but I got pretty good advice so lets move on
Do you have a girl friend? If yes then if your age is good try to have phone sex first cause sometimes you can't cum cuz your missing something like.......a girl. Pluse don't think its bad you can't cum cuz from a girls point of veiw the longer you last in bed
If that still don't work again if your age is tight try just haveing sex I'm sure things will pop off
C.L.N

Q: Female
When I masturbate and orgasm I get this weird creamy like white substance and it could be for a few days or a week. It's not a yeast infection I dont think, I've had them in the past and it's not the same cottage cheese look and it doesn't itch. I'm not sure if the smell of this dischage is normal or not. I'm not really that sexually active either. Any idea what this could be?

Hay C.L.N speaking
So yeah well like you said orgasm its a part or it just like a guy. When a guy have an orgasm he comes. Well just like girls we come when we have orgasms and that what creamy stuff is floids that are remaining(come). And it is normal for it to take place for days because it means your horney because you haven't been doing it
So yeah have a nice time bye!!!!!

Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now and we have a great relationship. He comes over to my house once a week and we cuddle and he's really a sweetheart. My problem is that we don't really talk about anything. Ever.

I don't know what to talk to him about. I don't really have anything to talk to him about that I haven't already said. I don't want to end this relationship because he's such a good boyfriend but it's getting boring and, to say the least, strange.

When we talk on the phone we say the same things we usually do. I've been trying to cut down on the time we are in communication with eachother so that when we get together we have more to talk about but it doesn't seem to change anything. It's like our "conversations" don't REALLY start, you know?

What can I do to save this relationship?! What are we missing?

Oooooh well hi I'm C.L.N and I realy get what your saying. Me and my boyfriend was going through the same thing but I was like you didn't know what to do or say to pop something off.
So how my problem got solved was I went to him and I asked him what I can do. So you sould proble do the same. And if he feels the confused what my BF told me to do is to say things he like, like I love you, kiss me, I'm so happy your here and he should react to that and even if you have to repeat it still let him know in advance that you care for him hopefully things work out for you wish lots of luck.

Q: hi

welll...
what do you people think of phone sex..it it really bad..i did it a couple times with my bf..and it feels really good. To me it makes me feel..slutty..;/ My bf treats me well..and we hardly see each other.. i never felt this way about someone before..but tell my should i be ashamed of doing this..my mom almost caught me..she's suspicous now...;/ help me out? thanks nd plz dont be to harsh..

Hi C.L.N speeking

Well not at all I think phone sex is not bad pluse even if your mom do find you or hear you haveing it she sould be happy he's not in there with you but also it can be bad on your side because you could lose trust with your mom you know that over protective stuff so keep it down
Oooh and on the other hand........I did phone sex with my bf too and your right it dose feel good.
Bye
Bye!!!!

Q: Okay, so I met this guy on the computer. We started talking alot and we got really close and started liking eachother but he lives out of the United States which is where I am but that really wasn't an issue because we talked all the time. Now, my one friend opened her big mouth and said that I was webcamming with my best friend, which I was but you know how when you webcam one person can have the camera open, yea that's what we were doing, I wasn't webcamming because I don't have one. So, now he is mad at me because I'm not webcamming with him. I told him numerous times that it wasn't me who was webcamming and he just doesn't believe me. What do I do? I also saw that on his facebook, he has lyrics to a song with -SS which are my initials. The lyrics were "take it back when she knows that your doing it right" what does that mean? thanks.

Ok hi I'm C.L.N, I seen your question and it drawn me because I'm kind of going throuhgn the same thing but yeah the lyrics of that song sounds like you can only get it from something he tells you so it sounds like he is saying some kind of mastake is being made by you or it can be that he's trying to get you to confert him. So try that and also try telling him how you feel about him mabe then he will believe you.

Q: So I like this guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me! I think he likes this really pretty popular girl in my class but I'm not sure. He's really cute and I just want to go up to him and say I like you alot but I can't say it!! What should I do to get him to like me or what I should say to him! We both are athletic and play baseball for the same team! :D

K I once in the past had the same problem but the difference is I blew my chance so I want to help you out.

You can let a person also know you like them witout telling them so feel free to smile at him if or when he looks at you and not to fast but then look away because it give him a reason to look at you and plus he will keep looking at you to see if your still looking at him at this time still glance at him off and on.

Another way is draw attention 2 yorself crack a joke not the kind to get you in truble but ask for a paper or pencil even try to ask him.

One more thing you can try. Do your hair different make it stand out so he can notice you and dress nice oooh and smill gooooood.

So you know the reason why I no this could work is because I myself was like this I'm a cheerleader and I liked this guy he liked another girl and I asked him if he liked me he sad he liked someonels but I tryed this and he started to like me and we've been going out for 1year and 3month now.
So good luck..... From C.L.N

Q: This is really embarrassing. I went to a nude beach last weekend and I kept getting an erection!

I am sure people noticed! I guess what I need to know is do people find getting hard at a nude beach rude? I wasn't doing it on purpose!

Help?

K I know that is embarrassing. Where you nude 2. If so even worst but I know you proble looked around to see if anyone noticed so if the look on their face was like ewww!!! Then that's proble bad and if I seen this happen at a nude beach then I won't fell like your being rude its like your expressing your feelings tards weman ... nude. but next time you go I can tell you a way from stopping that from happening but first I need to know your age.

From, C.L.N

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I am always willing to answer any question you have make sure you include your age. Just know if u dont want to ask in public you can always email me (loveworks.cn@gmail.com)

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