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Q: Just to make it simple...

I(18) met this girl(18) from school and she recently broke with her boyfriend. We've been together for 10 months now and we are so happy with each other. She love me so dearly and told me that I really mean everything to her.

How come, when she went home for the holidays, everything changed she told me that she doesn't have feelings for me and she wants to end our relationship.She told me that she's back with her boyfriend the one that she broke up a couple of months ago...

just want to ask is it possible for a girl to loose her feelings over a guy or is it she still have feelings for her other boyfriend.

She probably truely did care and love for you but she had gone home and wasn't around you and her feelings for her ex may have not gone away and he probably convinced her to go back out with him. good luck. i am sorry you are going through something like this.

Q: i have the biggest freakin pimple.
i swear ive popped it like ten times.
and it keeps getting its little 'head' back.
i though once you popped it.. it was gone?
i dunno. i guess this is my first huge pimple ;
since im known fer my super clear face. hahah.
yeahh..
welll any advice?

when you pop it push all the puss out until it starts bleeding. and since its pretty big than it should bleed a lot.

Q: whioch heat protecting spray is better the ion one or the beyond the zone one?

theyre both from sally's

im not sure about those but i use treseme heat spray you can buy it at walmart

Q: 14-F
I really like this guy
Lets call him P
So, me and P. We talk everyday, every time we see eachother
ALL my friends insisted he liked me back
So, a few day ago, P found out I liked him
That same day, we talked alot on the bus
He didnt think I knew he knew
So today, he completely ignores me
I try talking to him, he looks at me, & turns his back to me

Im so hurt
Ive been crying my eyes out
What does this mean?
What should I do

I have no confidence what-so-ever

go after what you want and if it doesnt want you back that it doesnt deserve you anyways with that said.. ask him what is going on.

Q: yesterday, my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time. we were both virgins. we used a condom, and it did not break. i dont even think my cherry was popped all the way. but when he took his cock out, he had a little cum on it. it touched the tip of my vagina. were not sure if it even went in, we just know it was right there. he did not fully "bust a nut", he just 'came' a little. is there ANY way i could get pregnant? were so scared. i think half of this is because we are both virgins and we dont know a lot about sex, but it wouldnt hurt just to make sure.

yes there is a chance that you could be pregnant. but dont stress over it right now give it a few weeks like 5 than take a pragnancy test.

Q: whats a better curling iron with obvious curls but still look cute and natural and bouncy?

1" or 1 1/4"??

also what curling iron youd recoment would be gratee!

i would go with the 1"

you can look on you tube how to curl your hair i watch a video on it off there and i did my hair after watching the video for my graduation it turned out amazing

Q: I would really love some recommendations for books. I want a good love story. I've read Twilight, and I want something like that, I really liked it. And yes I have read Vampire Kisses, not really my style.

Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!!

i know you said you have read Twilight. but have you read the other books with in twilight there are 4 of them now and the 5th one comes out in Decemeber. and the movie comes out 11-21

FYI... at StephenieMeyers.com there is away you can read they book that was supose to come out.. im upset not haha

Q: (she's 13 im 15)
ok last night i told this girl how i felt i told her everything and she said it was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to her and it made her cry and so she said she would think about it and so i talk to her today she said once again it was the sweetest thing anyone has told her and that i was an amazing guy but she doesn't feel the same way which sucks to here but im ok with that but she feels horrible about it and keeps asking if im ok does this mean she could possibly have a change of heart?

ask her. you will never know the actual answer unless you ask her. Be like how come you keep asking if i am okay. it sucks that you dont feel the same way but i am alright with it.

Q: I cheated, and the guilt haunts me every single day. If I were to describe the whole, huge situation and the circumstances, it would take forever, but basically: My friend and I went to our friend's apartment. We drank, and we didn't want to risk driving home, so we stayed the night there. A guy I barely know took advantage of me, and we kissed and he tried to do more, but I wouldn't let him. I regret every second of what I did, and if I could rewind time, I would never have even put myself in this position. It was terrible and even though I was under the influence, I know it isn't an excuse.

My boyfriend and I are still together and happier than ever though, because he won't ever find out it's true (someone told him, and I denied the whole thing, which is the main source of my guilt). I think I have punished myself enough, by having so much of this guilt on my shoulders every day. It sounds very selfish & terrible, but I cannot lose my boyfriend. He means the world to me and I know how lucky I am to have found someone so amazing. We have so much fun together and I can't see myself with anyone else.

I just want to hear other people's accounts of cheating- being cheating on, doing the cheating, etc. Were you forgiven? Did you keep it a secret? What happened? Any advice/comments are welcome.

tell him if i were you i would sit him down and tell him you denyed this because of being afird of loosing him but now you feel like you are hurting him by not telling him the truth.. tell him everthing that you wrote on here you drank and didnt want to drive because you were underthe influence. a guy had taken advantage of you and the only thing that happened was him kissing you and you aren't going to put your self in a situation like that again let him no how much you love him and you cant loose him. if he truely loves you he will be upset but it will take him a little to trust you again. he is going to want to know where and what you are doing. good luck,

Q: I'm 13, & I'm rather short for my age.

I've had my period already, but I don't seem to be getting any taller.

you may just be short. look at your family is everyone tall or shorter? you may or may not grow until high school. good luck.

Q: I would like to know about the stories of the people who have cheated or been cheated on. I want to know what happened before after and during it. Details help. Thank you. Random question, i know.

i had been dating my son's father and he cheated on me while i was pregnant and i just delt with it after my son was about 3 months old i started relizing i dont need to be with his father to be happy. i had meet another guy when my son was 6 months old. his bio father wanted nothing to do with him this guy did at about 6 months we broke up because he got very controlling. (december) Feb 1 we started talking and hung out got caught in the moment and slept together. my son and i stayed the night at his house and the next morning was his 18th birthday party i helped cook and set up for it that night he kissed me after he dropped me off and told me how much he loved me ( i was so happy) the next day i called him and he had his girlfriend answer and tell me not to call him and he said that i deserved to feel like crap. he keep calling me when he girlfriend wasn't around telling me he loved me and i was depressed and sucidal. the girl my sons father had cheated on me with became my bestfriend and helped me move on with out a friend to help me i probably would have done something stupid

till this day he still calls me telling me he misses me and stuff (now that i moved away from all that in ohio to missouri) but now i no i dont love him and i just tell him to leave me alone. it takes a very long time to get over someone. and i am glad i didnt do anything stupid because now im engaged and happier than ever.

Q: I got married on very short notice. I have known him for a total of three years today in fact and been married for 17 months now. I was very young and so was he. Still are. We are both 25. We both have children from another relationship and one together. If I could write in detail everything it could take forever. lol Here is the thing. I am changing as a person and he is not. He is not trying to grow with me and he really doesn't know me at all. We never talk only through text including when we are at home. All he cares about is sex and he wont understand how I can't unless the emotional part is there. At work another man is paying alot of attention to me. He doesn't work there he is just a customer. He actually makes me feel really good about myself unlike my husband who would rather call me names. Did I mention he has cheated 6 times in three years? Not sex but it might as well been to me. Even before this other guy came into play, I wanted out. I can't take the hurt he has caused me but I am terrifed of leaveing. That is just a quick some of things. Now what I would like to know if anyone has been through this or something simular? Will you help me figure out what I should do? I still love my husband but I do not like him if that makes sense. This has nothing to do with the other guy and all I do is talk to him from time to time about everyday things. I cant do that with my husband. This other guy just makes me feel like I'm not crap. That I can do anything I want still. He makes me feel free again. Please. I really don't know what to do.

My mom was married to my father for 15 years and she wasn't happy no one was. There was fighting, arguing, no one got along. I mean they got seperated and my mom is so much happier! and so is my father to an extent things have changed for me and my brothers i mean i am old enough now to understand. but she is with a "stupid" guy and she picks him over her family and we have learned to just get over it. I wish my parents were still together sometimes but im glad they are happy.

I hope a child's well im 17 view on your situation could help you out. i also have a son and i know that i couldnt marry his father and pretend to be happy. well good luck

Q: I'm trying to find more music to listen to, any suggestions?

I like A Day To Remember, Bring Me The Horizon, 3OH!3,Forever The Sickest Kids, Dance Club Massacre, etc...

Also, I just broke up with my bf of almost 6 months, and i know i hurt him terribly. I still love him, and I definitely know he loves me..any songs about my situation? Any genre of music is fine.

Thank you so much!

acdc
avenged sevenfold
hollywood undead
korn- creep
Tantric

Q: I have a boyfriend right now but i feel like my feelings for my ex have been comming back.
I dont know if i should just i.m. him and like catch up but i havent talked to him in about a year and i dont know what to do. Any suggestions?

If you are going to start talking to your ex again a year later than i think you should break things off with your current relationship. Maybe things arn't going to well and you are just looking for a reason to break things off with your boyfriend so your mind is bringing up the past. its things arn't going well tell your boyfriend that. if you still feel like you need to speak to your ex go for it.

Q: My mom does stuff just to irritate me im 18/m and in January I leave for the army for four years. So now im just tryna have fun while im STILL A TEENAGER but it seems like she just doesn't want me too.nd im tryna hav fun b/c from 13 to 17 I was n foster care so I realy cudnt do anything. she just recently took my car away for the dumest reason ever I was at a party nd didn't get bc till 6am, big deal who cares? I've told her that I jus wanna have fun before I leave b/c I won't ever be 18 again. But all she wants me to do is spend time wit her nd I dnt want to because all we do is argue cuz she criticizes me bout everything. She thinks I need to depend on her for everything that's why I can't wait to lev. Oh yea we jus moved to a new city away from all my friends wich I think she did on purpose.
So basically my question iswhat shud I do im goin crazy bein home all day nd I can't really talk to her. Nd all my friends r goin out havn fun nd im stuc home.What shud I do?? Thanks

I think you should spend sometime with your mom if your conversation starts turning into an argument change the conversation. She is probably scared or nervous that you are going to be leaveing for the army and with the war going on. shes just scared for you and knows that since you guys are fighting shes afrid if you leave that you arn't ever going to come home. she is probably afrid you are going to leave her. maybe make her dinner one night and tell her why you are joining the army and that your not going to forget about her and that youll come home and see her. tell her you want to spend time with her but you would also like to spend sometime with your friends before you have to leave for four years.
good luck.

Q: I just found out last week that I'm pregnant, and my boyfriend already signed up for the navy [active duty, if that helps] .. so he really has no choice there. What I'm wondering, is how much do they make and when do they get it? The thing is: after I give birth to the baby, he wants me to move wherever they have him stationed and live on the base with him. My family keeps trying to tell me that they really dont make that much, and that we'll be down there with no money to take care of the baby. I really need help on this, because it's a crazy decision I have to make.. and I want to choose the right one.

They make more money if you to are married and even more with a child. although your not married so he may not be making enough to support himself, you and a child.

children are very expensive, diapers, formula, wipes, clothes, medication if and when your child gets sick think of everything.

Q: okayyyy so i met this guy at this party and we hit it off. hes not the cutest guy but hes really funny and nice! the next weekend he was at the same party as me again and we got closer the whole night we were flirting and all over eachother and we madeout ya ya blah blah. the next day we talked like all day on the phone and his friend was telling me how much he liked me n whatever. that week at school we would see eachother afte 2nd hour and sit at lunch together and i realized how weird he dresses. its a big turnoff.. he dresses in the same things and it looks kinda trashy. its starting to make me not like him which seems bad, but seriously its a turnnnnnn off. help with this lol? any adviceee?

The way someone dressed shouldn't affect the way you feel about them if you really had feelings for that person. I guess all you can do is tell him the truth.

Q: we cheat? why do people cheat? is their any way to jusify cheating? i just want the people on advicenator and their imput on cheating. not just cheating is wrong and thats that. :) think more about it. thank you.

I believe people cheat for different reasons; they aren't happy with their partner but find it easier to cheat than break up with them first, they "love" their partner but arn't happy with their sex life with each other. People tend to see cheating as the easy way out rather than comfronting their partner about their feelings.

I have been cheated on by several guys and don't get me wrong i think it is very wrong and i think if someone really loves the other person than cheating isnt am option.

Q: Ok. I know everyone is going to say that I am to young for this. Well I am a 14/f and I had sex for the very first time. I am not on the pill and I think I might be pregnant. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years and i thought i was ready. We used a condom but he put it on inside out. It has been 2 weeks after we had sex and i am feeling uncomfortable. I have not had my period yet and i have been feeling sick everyday. I do not know if i am pregnant and i do not know how to tell my boyfriend please help!

ahh i had gotten pregnant at 15. you are probably just stressing out about thinking you may be pregnant. calm down and relax. you missed your period probably from stress. take a pregnancy test in a few more weeks. if it is positive then tell your boyfriend. tell him you were feeling sorta sick so you took a test and it came out positive. after telling your boyfriend its to telling your parents telling your mom first is ALOT easier than telling your father. but really depends on your relationship with each parent.

Q: 15/f
So Im going out with this kid, hes awesome, and I know im ready to kiss him, and I want to make out with him but im afraid I wont know how to do it, Ive never made out with anyone before, and im kinda scared, he plans on making out on Thursday which is 3 days from now and I dont know how to get over this.

My first kiss was at a school dance and it was crazy because he or i had no clue what we were doing that's what made it fun. make out isn't something you plan it just kind of happens. but i mean you can practice on a pillow or mirror or something.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.