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Hey my names ali i'm 17 from new jersey. i'm usually really fast with advice so ask whatever you want and i'll answer as soon as possible!!
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im a cheerleader and break out alot on my back and on my chest. i am finally done with cheerleading season, so yesterday i put a clearasil acne controll cream on my back and my chest. this morning i got out of the shower, and i was real itchy so i looked in the mirror, and i was forming a rash on my chest, and my back was real red. this had never happend to me before when i had put the acne treatment on it...can someone give me some advice, and what products work best to clear back-acne...THANKS

Don't use clearasil. It's crap. Basically, anything you can buy from the drugstore is crap. It's not worth putting on your skin. Before splurging on something like proactive or a visit to the dermatologist, make sure when you conditioner your hair, you wash off your back with a sponge using a mild soap like Dove or Dial. Do that every day for 2 weeks. If you don't see an improvment, talk to your mom about seeing a dermatologist or ordering Proactive. Proactive works, I did use it but my skin was addicted to it and it freaked out when I stopped using it. Just a warning!
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hi im 15 and still a double a (crazy, i know), is there any way i could make my boobs grow naturally?someone at my lunchtable said carrots? i need boobs!! i mean im 15! and im tired of everyone saying things about them i want to cut theirs off! okay yeah im weird someone help me!

Well, you boobs might not ever grow any larger. Accept yourself for who you are. If you are not happy with how you look, try a water bra, padded bra, or pushup bra. I heard that chicken has hormones in it that can make you get bigger boobs, but I don't know if it is true.
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hi im 14 and i got my period in august and i only got it once and i hadnt had it since..august! i know im not pregnant! do i have cancer or an infection?? someone help me!

No! Most girls do not get their periods every month for a long time. There's no need to worry . Your period will become more regular as you get older and have had it for longer.
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theres this thing on my leg and its like 20 purpleish pinkish dots. i dont know wat it is. does any one know wat it is or how to get rid of it? thanx

It sounds like hives. You could be allergic to any products you have just applied to your legs, like lotion or soap or it could be a new laundry detergent. Just leave it alone and try to wear shorts for a little while and it will go away.
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well theres this guy that i think im starting to like, but im not sure if i really do yet because i've liked this other guy for sooo long. im not sure what i should do because i dont really talk to the guy that i used to like that much because things got really weird when we broke up . and this new one is nicer and we have fun together. im not sure because the feelings for the old one will never go away, and i know this because it's been a long time and i still like him alot. yea so what do i do, try again for the old one, or stick too the new one?? (yeahh sorry so long) but yeaa what would you do.

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oh yeah and birth control pills can make you fattt?? does it go away after a certain time cause i've just started them

It sounds to me that things between you and the old guy are over. Move on! If you really do have strong feelings for the old guy though, maybe you should tell him, but I think you should go for this new guy. He seems better and he could help you get your mind off the old guy or make you realize that the old guy is really what you want.
``birth control pills might make you fat, yes. They trick your body into thinking its pregnant, so you could gain weight. Some women do, some women dont. It all depends on the person. I think if you gain it, it probably just wont go away.
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OK im about to get my permit and I was just wondering what is the test like? and what do you have to do? (I've already read the book but I can't remember all the things)

It wasn't hard. To prepare for the test, read over your manual like 3 times, and go to Google, and search for your state and a practice driving test. www.safetyfirstdrivingschool.com has one for new jersey.
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I saw someone ask a question about an itchy pubic area and someone answered with it could be `crabs`. Im scared i might have it!! what is it and how do you know if you have it?? what happens if you DO have it? Please help!! Where does it come from and stuff?

Crabs is a lot like "pubic lice" but instead of just laying eggs and making you itch, crabs clamp onto your skin, go under the skin, and suck your blood. You will see signs of this normally itchy red bumps. You get them from sexual contact (not just sex). Sometimes, people say you can get it from toilet seats, but you have more of a chance from getting a disease from the sink handle then you do getting crabs from the toilet. If you shave, its totally normal for you to be itchy. If you really are worried about this, you can go to your doctor and get checked for that and other STDs.
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is it ok to curl ur hair with a curler when its still really wet?

No! It can seriously damage your hair. You should never straighten curl or style your hair when it is even damp! It can dry it out and make split ends and really nasty dead hair!
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my boyfriend wants me to give him head or a nad job .. i want to do both but i aint never done it before and i dont know what to really do!! i would app it so much if you could help me thanks alot!

Ok, well, I hope your boyfriend knows you have never done either before and accepts that. If he doesnt know, tell him. By telling him, he will tell you almost like what to do or what he likes while doing it. A hand job is easy, you just move your hand up and down his penis, fast or slow depending on his preference (which he will say). Giving him head, well, you dont 'blow' its more of a sucking motion. Move your head the same way you would move your hands in a hand job and move your tounge around a little. Your boyfriend will tell u what he likes.
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for about a year now i have cut and i try really hard to stop but then like i get pissed off at someone and just end up doing it again..and i started it cuz i love this boy and he doesnt like me..and now 2 of my friends found out and whenever i hang out with any of the 3 of them i feel really weird..and i hate having to hide my wrists and the scars..what should i do..and how do you get scars to go away?thanx .xoxo.

Well, cutting is a serious problem. You should try to go to your school guidance councelor for answers. You need to get help. It is a mental problem and the only way to get over it is with help. It seems that your problem is becoming almost out of control. Also, talk to your friends. Explain to them that you cant help yourself and its something you need their help with to get through. The only way to get rid of the scars is to let them heal then put cocoa butter / neosporin(sp?) on them and it should help.
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i shave my vagina almost every other day..i was wondering if its bad for me to shave so often.. but i like to be completely clean..ppl say that i shouldnt ( im 22yrs old ) shave there so often but i dont mind if alot of hair grows back coz life is short and i dont want my bf seeing me hairy there. please help..

Ok, shaving that much shouldnt irritate you too badly, but be careful. If you see like little red bumps, I would caution you to stay away from shaving for a little while. Also, try nair as an alternative to shaving. If these are not helping, just let it grow back in. Pubic hair helps stop unwanted friction when having sex, so letting it grow back could be a good move.
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Hi.
If I don't wash my hair every night then my hair gets and looks so oily.I usually do wash my hair everynight but every once in a while i don't have time. Does anyone know any products that i could use to make my hair less oily or anything i can use so it doesnt look oily....please.

Thanks!

Washing your hair and blowing it out, straightening it deff can be a MAJOR pain! A little secret that I know (works best on people with blonde hair but if you are a brunette it still works) is use baby powder all over your roots before you go to sleep. If you have brown hair, be careful with the babypowder, its really visible and you may be able to tell if it all hasnt come out overnight.
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what happened when a guy gets an erection? can he get one from making out?

Well, blood flows into his penis when he`s feeling 'sexually arroused.' The penis becomes stiff and hard. This can happen when he is making out, thinking about a girl, or doing other sexual things. It is pretty noticable and it cannot be helped. This happens to all guys and it`s totally normal.
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Ok, my armpits are so sweaty. Like after church, I took off my polo and there was sweat all over it. It's so gross and I'm afraid people will like make fun of me. Especially because I wear tight shirts. Anybody know how to stop this. I'm a female and use anti-persperant deodorant. It keeps the smell gone but not the sweat. The brand is Secret. Help! Thanks and I rate.

Try a strong deodorant in the mens section for now (watch the scent), and if that is not helping, see a doctor. They can perscribe this stuff for you to stop the sweating but you still have to wear deodorant. Talking to your doctor can really help you solve this embarassing problem.
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i just got my hair permed 2day and i was wonderin if i can get it wet and just not wash it??? thanks

No! If you wet ur hair at all, you will lose the curl and all that money you just paid to have it done! Just wait the 48 hours even though it may seem pretty gross!
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How would a girl know if her cherry is popped if she hasn't had sex since the hymen can be broken in other ways?

There really isn`t a way to know besides going to a gynocologist(sp?) and getting checked out. Any girl, 17 or older, or having sex, should go see one not just for that reason. If you have anymore ?'s, drop one in my inbox.
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Does anyone know of a good eyeliner that stays on all day and doesnt smear?!?! I can't seem to find a good one!!

1) Revlon, Wet Dry Eyeliner - blackest black (prices can range from 7 - 9 dollars) - found in drug store
2) M.A.C - Charcoal (12-14 dollars) - found at a M.A.C store or macys
3) Sonia Kashuik (sp?) - black
(about 5 -6 dollars)- found in drug store

If you want to know anything else, drop one in my inbox
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My girlfriend and i are 16 and weve been thinking about having sex ive held back a little my worry is my penis is not that big only 3.5 inches long
hard and im not sure what she'll think im not sure im a bit worried will it matter?

Alright, first of all, are you sure you are ready to have sex? If you are worried about what your girlfriend will think of your penis, I'm not sure that you are ready to have sex. If your girl really cares about you, she wont care that you have a small penis. It shouldnt matter about the size of your penis, but some people are shallow, and if this girl is, you need to find a new one. Good luck and make the right decision.
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alright..ive liked this boy since i was 8, im not 14, but just a few months ago i kinda stopped liking him. well we were talking and i asked him if he wanted to be freinds with benefits..and he said yea. so its been like a month since we agreed on that, and weve hung out alot with 2 of our other freinds who are fwb and everytime were together i freeze. and i feel that i should make the first move cause i asked him, but i cant because its weird cause i kinda still like him and were not goin out. ive never actually like made out.. i just kinda skipped that base, so i was wondering how should i start, like hold his hand or what??and how can i not be so nervous around him.. thanx so much

If you are feeling uncomfortable with the situation of FWB, you dont have to be in it! But, if you are totally ready and want to be FWB (and can accept that this could be all you 2 will ever be together) then, make a move! If your not confident at first, start small, hold his hand, give him a small kiss, then, slowly, you`ll feel more comfortable and ease into things. Maybe he is feeling uncomfortable also, and thats why he hasnt made a move either. Start small and work your way up! Good Luck!
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ok me and my b/f broke up today. me and him were goin out for 6 months and 3 days. and now i REALLY REALLY like his bro. do u think its wrong for me to like his bro now?

Well, you can`t really help being attracted to his brother, but it would be totally wrong to go out with him. I think you are just upset about losing your boyfriend and his brother is the next best thing. Don`t get between a brother2brother relationship, you could cause serious problems between them. My advice is, go for someone else! There are many more guys out there who are just as amazing, or even better!
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