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Q: wow this is incredibly embrassing but... ok so i started shaving my armpits like normally people do years ago but for the past maybe... year? when ever i shave i still have this little bit of hair left! so i had a venus and figured the blade was just dull so my mom got me an offbrand bag of razors but that didnt help either! ive never told anyone though.. but does anyone have any idea how to get rid of this? thanks!

get it waxed
-*Tori

Q: i have a b/f and im fourteen. im so ready to have sex but my parents dont think so. im thinking i shoudl do it behind their back but idk signed- im so cunfuzzled

dear im so confuzzled(nice word by the way lol)

in this case if you feel like your ready to do this then do it but only if you have planed every thing out like what kinda protection are you going to use and what happens if that protection dosnt work all that good stuff that no one thinks about any more and when they get pregnet they get all depressed and dont know what to do when really its ther own damn fault sry if i sound mean but thats the way it is
-*Tori

Q: im dating this guy...it seems like we are not goin out...i mean he is my ex-boyfriends best friend i think that he has be talking to him and they have been talkin about me saying all this shit about me and making my boyfriend not wanna go out with me why???

he mighht still like you and to see you with this other guy that is his friend probley has him envy of his friend

-*Tori

Q: i went out with my boyfriend for awhile, and we broke up on new years. it really sucks, because we're not gonna be together again because he doesn't want to hurt me. i have to respect that, considering he's thinking about me. but i dont know when ill be able to get over him! i would die if i saw him with another girl, and i see him in the hallways all the time, plus he's in my lunch hour. so what could i do to make me lose interest in this guy so i can move on? i rate high for good answers.. thanx

believe me it just takes time just try not to think about it
-*Tori

Q: OK so I have my period, and Im really just not in the mood. You know cramps all that fun stuff. But what I really wanna know is well... this is embarassing but I wanna shave down there and every time i try the hair gets stuck inside the blade and it really hurts. What am I doing wrong?

thanks~

try using shaving cream that should work
-*Tori

Q: i dont want to sound stupid when i say this but im 14/f and me and my b/f have been together over a year now and well i havnt done anything besides kiss him, see ive never done anything with anyone and well lets just say i have what usto be a "sex god" for a bf until he got with me. I want to do somthing like give him a hand job or blow job because as much as he tells me he doesnt mind i know he does. im just wondering... how? i mean what do you do while your giving and hand job? what do you look at? how do you do it? i dont wanna totaly suck at it and i wanna know what im doing before i try it!! please anything? any tips? advise? anything?

only do things if your ready to do them just because hes ready that doesnt mean you are and a hand job is just that use your had to make him happy im tryen to do this with out it souding like a porn thing well thats all the advice i can rly think of giving you im me or add somthing to my column and tell me what happens if you want to
-*Tori

Q: im 15 and well honstly ive only made out with 3 guys, and thats all ive ever sexually done... ive never "masterbated" whatever that means or anything like that but my bf keeps trying to finger me and stuff! if i let him do it..is it gonna hurt? can my "cherry" pop? is it gonna feel really bad? and if i let him do it will i be labled a slut? (me and my bf have been together 10-11 months now) anything?

well lets see it might hurt and if u still have a "cherry" then it most likley will brake and when your hymn brakes then you might feel a little pain but depending on the guy it should feel good from then on and if your boyfriend really cares then you wont be labled a slut
-*Tori

Q: i have a new booyfriend and we are sleeping together but he always comes really quickly. is there anyway i can help him so i can enjoy sex aswel? im over 16 and at first i thought it was because it was because he was just with someone new but its all the time. help!

im sorry for being so grapic but you can go get a cock ring and have him put it on right b4 you guys have sex that should delay him a little

Q: Ok, i have a friend that does to much druges and drinks A LOT and she doesn't live inthe same town as me so i can't watch what she puts in her body. And what she drinks. Is there any other why i can tell her that i am afried for her. Michy

tell her mom or who ever she lives with so they can get her help
-*Tori

Q: I wish girls didnt like me becuz of my looks I mean I try to find some I like and I am so popular at my school but they just like me becuz of my looks and the spread stories around that I have sex on the first date and stuff liek that and I do have a girlfriend and we been going out sence 8th grade and we are in the 10th grade now but the other girls always tells my girl friend that I am cheating on her and I am really not please help

tell your girlfriend that its not true and if she loves you alot then she will believe you or go to plan b and use 3way just call the people that were saying all this and be like y did you say so and so to my girl friend but have her on the phone with you and tell her not to make a sound and of corse there not going to ammit to it or it could be the other way around and your gf could call and you could be on the phone well how ever it works out im me or add somthig to my column and tell me
-*Tori

Q: my hair is REALLY wavy and frizzy and cruly to a point were it looks horrible when i let it dry or blow dry it. so i bought a chi iron- if you dont know what that is it's supposedly "the best" stragitener- but when i straighten my hair with it after about ten minutes it starts looking bad! i've had it for about 2 years- so is it just dying? but it happened when i first used it 2! am i just not doing it right or should i use hair spray and how much hair spray? does anyone also know any other syle besides scruncing that might look good w/ my kind of hair? help is really appreciated! thanx!

i have hair like that ik its a pain in the ass but go out and get another stragitener but first work some frizz controal stuff through your hair then do it and when you want to have it wavy try alot of hair spray after you have sprayed your hair of the point you cant breth from the fumes from the spray take a towal and scrunch your hair
-*Tori

Q: I have this boyfriend, he's 17 and I'm 14. My boyfriend's home situation and law situation aren't too good. He has outworn his welcome at my house because of my dad. My dad has tried to convince both of us to break up with eachother. How do I tell my father that I'm being responsible and love my boyfriend and age doesn't matter? Or is he right?
signed,
in need of help.

dear in need of help

i think that with that big of a age differnt and that his law situation is not so good im afrade that im with your dad for this one i know that it might be hard but explane things to your boyfriend and if hes as cool as your talking about then he will still be friends with you im me or add somthing to my column when you make a disision i would love to hear back from you
-*Tori

Q: i don't experiment with my hair. usually just keep it straightened and long. but anyways i feel like doing something new with it and i just took a shower so it's still pretty damp but with my actual question: what does mousse do to your hair? i've been trying to get that like crimped *but not so crimped* like.. wavy/curly look. and when i talk to girls who do it they say their hair is naturally like that and they just gel it up. but my hair is like.. just small wavy when it's gel'd and my best friend said just put mousse in it but problem is i don't have any mousse and i'd like to know what it looks like before i go borrow or buy some.

it depends on what you do with the mousse to get your hair wavy when your hair is damp flip it up side down and get alot of mousse and scrunch your hair then flip it back and part it or fix it how ever you want
-*Tori

Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a year and were totally in love. Of course we've had our problems and now we're doing great. The problem is I don't see him alot because we don't exactly live close to eachother. My best guy friend and I have been hanging out alot and we started to get strong feelings for eachother. Now, he wants me to dump my boyfriend and I can't even think about doing that. My boyfriend has been my life for a whole year but I can't help feeling for my guy friend. What should I do?

i think you should stay with your boyfriend i was in the same kinda thing once but i stayed with my boyfriend and i couldent be more happy
-*Tori

Q: do you think its better to fit in and go agianst yur own beliefs OR to be a little ""less popular"" and do what you want to do? i am stuck in between.

deff do what you want to do really being popular gets old after awile and in high school as long as you have friends you might not even give a crap about being popular
-*Tori

Q: okay so im 14 and im ready to more with guys than just make out and i was wodnering like .. i know a lot of girls shave .. and i was wondering like how much to shave and like what it shoudld loook like i guess.. not to be sick but im just wodnering .. cuz i dont want to get embarassed please just give me some advice

i would shave all of it off
-*Tori

Q: Okay, I know I shouldn't have but I did!! Everyone told me not to do it but I did it anyway. I popped about 4 pimples because they were huge and just staring at them made me feel grossed out. When I popped them it swelled up and had puss coming out of them. Is there anything you can use to make the swelling stop and to shrink or not to show real badly. Please don't tell me to use coverup, makeup and all those acne scrubs. Tell me an ingrediant something you can put on the pimple that you can make out of everday items. thanxz, please hurry!!

all you have to do to make the swelling go down is put cold water on it but it might still be red and who cares its just a pimple its just part of growing up as long as you cant see the white part then dont mess with it any more to get it to go away cuz all that will do is leave scars
-*Tori

Q: ok...for the last day of school, before break, i wore white pants...because they were white, i work a thong...im not a slut, so i dont let it hang out, and i usually wear a belt with my pants, but these were nice pants that i didnt need a belt for...well during lunch, i was walking up to my friend and my guy friend wanted to hug me from behind, but ended up steping on my pants adn everyone saw i was wearing a thong. he didnt pants me, but some people saw the string...i know its not bad to wear thongs, but that was a pretty embarassing situation, and i didnt want everyone knowing. tommorow i go back to school, and i dont want everyone laughing at me...what do i do?

dont worry no one will laugh at u nothing really bad happend and if they do say somthing mean calling you somthing use the old 3rd grade thing i know you are but what am i or you can be more grown up about it and say that they were white pants and i didnt want any one to see my undie line but eather way it will get them off your back if any thing comes up
-*Tori

Q: How old do you think a girl has to be to sleep over at their boyfriends house, say if their boyfriend was the same age or 1 year older?

i think at least 16 or 17 it all depends on the person and the people living wit them
-*Tori

Q: ok... i have a wonderful b/f and we don't fool around or nethang which im not that kinda person to fool around like that lets say his name is "todd". Todd is a very funny person and like the attention but then sometimes he can be the sweetest guy ever. the thing is i don;t like how he flirts with all of my best friends which thats jus the way he is but i wish he didn't do that cuz when he talks to them he's like "Hey sexy" and stuff and he doesn't really say jus kiddin, ya know? what should i do?

talk to him about it just say that it makes me upset that you go up to other girls right in front of me and call them sexy all you have to do is tell him how you feel and if he cares about you then he will stop
-*Tori

bio

hey im tori but i have alot of other nick names it getting to the point where i will answer to about most any thing that im use to hearing but any ways i love helping people i applyed to answer qusetions on some other websites but i havent got a email back yet conserning them well thats all that i can think of to have in hear for now if i think of other things then i will add them