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I have an in home daycare and I have been caring for these two wonderful, beautiful boys who I love very much. One is 3 and the other is 14 months. Their parents have become good friends of ours, who we hang out with some weekends.
My problem is, that I feel taken advanage of and I don't know what to say or how to say it.
I charge them very minimally...$200 a week. Their hours of care are from 9:00-6:30. Lately, they have been getting dropped off at 8:40 and being picked up as late as 6:40, sometimes 7:00. In the beginning, if they were gonna be early or late I would know in advance. But now it's happening more and more often without notice. I really don't appreciate it. I have 4 other kids in my daycare and 1 of my own and my time is very precious. Especially in the AM when I am trying to get ready for the day.
Here's what really makes me mad...Their mother's work schedule changed and she had a CHOICE to work either M-F 10:30-7:00 with saturdays off or M-TH 9-6:00 and work saturdays. Normally, my daycare closes at 6:30- I don't want kids later than that! Without asking me, she CHOSE to work the M-F 10:30-7:00 shift so she could have saturdays off. She never even asked me if that was ok. That would mean that they wouldn't get picked up until 7:30 with travel time.
Now I am in a position. We are friends and I love those babies. But I really don't wanna have kids in my house from 7AM til 7:30PM, ya know?? What can I say? They really don't have any other friends or family to help them out and I am the only one who watches their kids.
Any advice?
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Just talk to them about it. Honestly, if they have nobody else to help them out they are going to learn really fast how to appreciate you.
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I run an in-home daycare. I have 7 children (1 is my own). Yes, I know that I am crazy :) Being summertime, I am having a difficult time finding activities to fill the day. I have structure, but I would really like to replace some of that "tv time" with things we can do together. I have two different age groups, and they tend to split up...so that's good news. I can do things with the babies while the big kids are playing and vice versa. I have all boys, ages 2, 3 and 14 months. The bigger boys are 6, 8 and 8. I also have a baby girl who is 8 months...don't need ideas for her, but I thought I would throw her in the mix! I am looking for inexpensive ideas. The typical coloring and fingerpainting just isn't cutting it anymore! Any suggestions?? Thanks!
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I know taking my kids outside to play helps me a lot. It also helps them get rid of some extra energy. Having them help sort toys or clean might be a good idea, too. It just depends on the level and temperment of each child. I personally think that is too many kids for one person. If you can't grab them all in the case of a fire, it's too many. Just my rule of thumb. Good luck.
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Ok,I'm 13(gal)and i babysit 2 boys 3 times a week for about 4 hrs. There 1-1/2 & 6 yrs. old the 6 yr.old will NOT listen, i tell him not to do something and he still does it. Every time i have a problem i tell the dad when he gets home,but he never does anything.I have been babysitting for around 3 years and I've never run into this problem before. I'm thinking about starting a discipline plan.If he acts up i will tell him to go to his room,if he doesn't do that I'll tell him were not going outside that day etc.(i say what i mean and mean what i say).Then if it still doesn't work after a few days I'll tell his mom i cant babysit him anymore.I just cant handle him.I just need to know if other babysitters like me think this sounds good. thanks. (link)
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Try a reward chart. Tell him if he is good he will get extra playtime or whatever. Make homemade playdough or other activities for him to do to keep himself occupied. Take him outside and let him run all of that extra energy off, so when he gets inside he will hopefully calm down. If he acts up, send him to the "naughty chair". Treat him as a young child (even 1 and a half, like his sibling) and tell him until he can act his age he is going to keep getting treated this way. Make sure you show him respect, though, because he needs to learn that it goes both ways. Don't threaten with telling the parents if the parents aren't going to do anything about it. Just make sure he doesn't get "fun time" when you are there if he can't listen. If it continues, tell the parents you can't babysit anymore. Good luck.
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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You deserve a million dollars for being a dependable babysitter. Seeing as the parents can't give you the million dollars, they are giving you what they can afford. If they couldn't afford it, they wouldn't give it to you - or they would ask about lowering the rate. Just make sure you let them know how much you appreciate it, and you can even tell them if they are short on money one week not to worry about it. Be sure to go the extra mile, treat the kids and parents with the utmost respect, and do the best job you can do at babysitting. That is all any parent asks for. :)
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okay well I baby sit my neighbors and I love there kids and they are 8 and 7 but ehy pay me like 30 dollars i think it is like way too much but i dont want to say because i like just started baby sitting and they are my only clients being 13 and all i know i started a little late but what ever please help me with the pay problem do you thikn 30 dollars is too much should i set a number of dollars an hour? help me (link)
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If they couldn't afford $30, they wouldn't give you $30. Take the money and be happy about it. Just make sure you do a great job at babysitting the kids. Go the extra mile to make the kids happy, but make sure they stay well-behaved for mom and dad when they get home. You don't want the parents thinking you let them run wild. Let the parents know how much you appreciate the money. Make sure you telel them "thank you" every time, or even write them a little thank you card. Parents really appreciate those things.
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I dont know wat I should do. Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18 and for his friends 18th birthday he is inviting all his close friends to his party at a stripclub, and my boyfriend is invited. I first heard about this when I was on my boyfriends myspace. My boyfriend go an invite and had told another friend that he should come as well. I didnt think i should ask about it so I just kinda decided to wait to see if hed bring it up with me at least. A few days later he told me that his friends wanted him to go but he knew that I wouldnt want him to so he wasnt going. But he also told me that his friends were trying to convince him to go and just not tell me anything about it. Im glad he told me and Im even more glad that he said that he wasnt going to even if I gave him permission, but Im still a little nervous. I know he wont hook up with girls there, and I trust him but Im worried hes going to go behind my back. I heard from a friend of his that he had told them he was going. What should I do? Do i confront him? I really dont want him to go but I dont want to be unreasonable. I dont think its right if we r in a committed relationship and hes out looking at other girls... Am I overreacting?
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In my opinion, you're not overreacting. First of all I want to let you know that 18 year old boys are only concerned about sex. Seeing half naked women dance is something he WANTS to do - even if he isn't telling you this. Letting him go is just showing him he can do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. It's degrading to YOU as his partner. If he loves you and knows you aren't comfortable with the idea, he won't go. Most men are just egotistical pigs at this age (or any age!) and won't care about your feelings. He will probably just go and then say "sorry" a million times about it, knowing you will forgive him..
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The other day me and my bf were talking and she said that when she pees sometimes it smells like anomnia or whatever and it stinks? What could that be caused by. I mean she doesn't have stds or anything. (link)
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It could be a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection) or a Bladder Infection. She should go to the doctor and get it checked out. If she doesn't visit the doctor, drinking cranberry juice might help.. but I really suggest a DR visit.
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Ok so, my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a long while now it all feels really good but it seems as though the more times we have sex, the less he can control himself!
We've talked about it and know its a problem, he's tried everything he just can't do it!
I hardly get a chance to 'get into it'
We're both open about it and can talk to each other about it, i've tried helping him but he just can't get it together!
I love him so much and he loves me and i'm being so patient with him, he appreciates it but he also gets embarrassed.
How can I get him or what can he do to hold his load or be in control of when he cums?
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This happens a lot, especially with younger guys. Lots of foreplay might help you "get into it" more but it almost always takes us longer to be satisfied than it will them. Take it slow and try to be patient with him. Most importantly, make sure you are protected or you will have a little baby running around and won't have the time or energy for sex! :)
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my one friend wants to help me with my imperfections..i mean she hasn't said it but i know she wants to.so should i be offended? or should i think its nice? (link)
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Try hard not to be offended. It's a nice thought, but it was rude of her to say something. Let her help you with YOUR "imperfections", and then YOU offer to help with HERS. Maybe she will take a look in the mirror and realize she's not perfect, and it probably hurt your feelings by her saying that. Honestly you guys should just have fun and give each other a makeover. She was probably just trying to help. Good luck!
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Okay, so, im 15, and im going into my first year at high school. Its summer and there is this soar program (summer school basically) the introduces me into algebra. The thing is, I am like majorly terrified! what will high school be like once the year starts? will the people be nice? the school is like a maze, im gonna get lost for sure, I am so scatter brained! What should do? Does any one have advice for starting the school year or surviving the treacherous mayhem of algebra and puzzling world I am now cursed with? (link)
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I know it seems like a HUGE deal, and really it is, but you will adjust. Chances are, the "upperclassmen" will not be overly nice. You will probably get lost the first few days, but everyone does. My advice to you is to get a buddy. Someone who can either show you around, or at least get lost with you if nothing else.
Once the school year starts there will be a lot of homework. Just make sure you study as much as possible - don't be a slacker or it'll only come back to bite you in the rear. The teachers will help you with learning your algebra. Algebra will be the least of your worries. Try to enjoy the whole experience. It's over too fast.
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