about

hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

advice

when does the average female lose her virginity?

There really is no exact answer for this question. It all depends on the girl, and when they're ready to give up their virginity. It is true there are girls that are loosing their virginity at like an age of 13! But at the same time, there are those other females that even wait until marriage, which could be from their mid 20's and on.. I can tell you that I'm 18 yrs old, and stiill a virgin. It really depends, but taking a wild guess i would say the average is between 17 and 21. because of prom, parties, college and all that stuff...
hope i was on some help =)

VB

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i am horney all the time and i fingure my own self... what is wrong with me?

Being aroused is more than normal =)
There's nothing to worry about. If anything you're doing the right thing by pleasuring your body. Some do it more often then other, but no matter of often or whatever, its perfectly normal!
don't worry about it =)
and simply have fun =)

VB

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Well tonight, I gave head.
It wasnt my first time or anything, than after that he stuck in me for like literally 5 or 6 seconds, and then i jumped off.
He deffinetly didn't cum at all,
and then I finished giving him head and after a long time ,he finally finished and i swallowed a tiny bit of it.
I know there is a risk or me being pregnant but is there a very high risk or a low risk?

The only risk of getting pregnant would be if he had cum near or in your vagina...
but there is no risk whatsoever of you getting pregnant from swallowing his cum =) so don't worry =) you're ok =)

VB

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and i dont know, we're sorta growing apart cuz this ordeal. We've been friends for not even a year, but we're really close friends already. what do i do to keep our friendship? Do i act like i agree with her?

thx.

kp:)

When it comes to friendships, or just a starnger sitting opposite you, you have to rememer that not in everything will you agree upon =)
trust me, i've been through it all when it comes to friendshipis and our view and opinions and stuff like that.
My advice is don't pretend like you agree with her, because that in the end will just make the matter worse. Simply talk to her, tell her that you understand and respect her view on the matter, but that you have a different view on it too... But that is no reason for the two of you to end the frienship over it. that you still love her dearly and don't want to end the friendship because of difference in oppinion. =)
trust me, if that was the matter, i'd be friendless! haha!
Just remember, stand up for what you believe, but at the same time respect the beliefs of others =)

Best of luck =)

VB

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uh..... how come sometimes you feel like a heartbeat "down there"? btw im a girl.

I know exactly what you're talking about...
It can be weird, i know it was when i first started feeling it haha! i just wondered to myself "what the heck???"
But its nothing to worry about. It really just you paying extra close attention to the flow of blood.... at least in my case, i expirience this when my bosy is the most calm... like if you sit perfectly still right now you'll feel the "beating" in different parts of your body ..and yes, i just did it myself.. haha! but its just the flow and movent of blood through your veins... =)

much love!

VB

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When my boyfriend fingers me, sometimes after awhile i tend to moan. lol && afterwords my boyfriend likes to annoy me, perhaps the next day or so and tries to copy the moaning sounds i make. It's kinda annoying haha. so girls do you also moan when being touched there?

oh sweetie, moaning when being touched is more than natural! haha! so to answer your question, yes, we do. Hey, it feels good! why surpress how we feel? It just happens! trust me, i know O=-)
haha! if anything, it just means that your bf is doing a really good job! mention that to him, and he just might quit the teasing about your moaning! =)

much love!

VB

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so basically, this sounds weird and all, but whats the order of sex? Like in most situations it starts by like making out on the bed. Do you have to go in order by the bases or what? i'm a little confused on what comes after the feeling up part.

haha ok thanks.

order of sex...? hmmm
well, there really is no order. Just do what feels right =)
it'll all flow... no pun intended haha
just listen to your body, and his... your feeling and wants will tell you exactly what to do next =)
Just remember to enjoy it and have fun =)
and it'll all be good ;-)
hope this helped =)

VB

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Do guys enjoy doing second base/going up a girl's shirt/etc? Or do they do it to try and please the girl? Because I personally don't get anything out of it, so is it for the guy's sake?

awwww i'm sorry to hear you don't get anything from it.
But in general, you know how boys are, they love a girls body! they love getting a feel.. and all that.
And sometimes the girls might like the feeling...should be a mutual feeling really... But all in all, the guys difinitely love it! what can i say, boys will be boys... =/ haha

much love

VB

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Whats the difference between bi and bi-curious?

being bi myself, =)
well when you're bisexual you are interested in both males and females. are naturally actrated to both.
while bi-curious, is that you curious about being with someone of the same sex. Like to simply experinment, see what its like..

Hope this helped =)

VB

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i'm not sure why, but i just so happen to be a girl that moans and breaths heavy a ton during anything sexual with my boyfriend... should i try to contain myself, or do you think my boyfriend enjoys it?

hun,
don't contain yourself! express yourself! te sounds that you're making simply mean that you're enjoying what is happening, your body is loving it!
As for your boyfriend, well let me put it this way, guys love it when you make noise. A very high percentage of them at least. It turns them on even more! They think its sexy for their partner to be "loud" , just shows that their enjoying it =)
If he didn't like it, i'm sure he woul've said something... If you want to be 100% sure though, simply ask him =) ask him how he feels about it =)

much love!

VB

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is my dick big enough for female liking?
i got hard and measured and its a little less than 6 inches
is that good?

sweetheart, to be totally honest, guys are really the only ones that are obsessed with their penis size... no matter what you hear, the truth is, females don't care that much about it. remember this, when it comes to your penis, its not what size what matter, but how you use it. its really not a old cliche, its actually true. If you know how to work it, and know how to please me, size doesn't matter at all =)
and either way, all in all if you're still a bit conscious about it, i can tell you, 6 inches, is definitely a nice size =)
so be proud of your thang!

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So latley ive been asked by my guy friend to have phone sex and just completly talk dirty to him, what are some of the things guys love to hear? to make it the best ever.

haha!
Oh good old phone sex!
I know it can be nerve racking thinking about it.. what do you say? what does he want to hear..?
ok, well, being pretty much an expert on the subject ( just ask my bf... haha! just kidding hahaha.. not really hahahah!) simply be yourself. Say and express what you want. tell him what you want him to do.... tell him what you're doing... imagine that you're evn right there with him... and make it like a story, as if you're reading from someone where.. a narrative... role play... simply have fun and go wild! thats really the best i can tell you. =)

have fun! =)

VB

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I was wondering how birth controls works.. is it important to take the pill before you have sex or the next day? And also how long does it take to become affective once you begin taking birth control?

siiiigh.... the pill
I took the pill for a while, and one thing you MUST remember about it, is to take EVERY day, at pretty much the same time.
To become fully effectie, you should give it about a month prior to having unprotected sex.
the pill, basically how it works is that it has certain hormones that create a hard layer around the egg, making it practically impossible for the sperm to break it and fertilize the egg...
although, you must remember that the pill is not 100% effective, but its pretty darn close! haha! and also, that it doesn't protect you against HIV or any other STD.
well, hope this helped some =)

VB

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Is the week before your period the best time to get pregnant?

hey =)
OK, unfortunately, there is really no certain way to say when the body is the most fertile. It really depends on each body. As you might have heard endless number of times, every body is different, and therefore its fertility peak varies. But it does tend to be between periods... but then there is the how much apart are your periods and how fast the egg can get to and through the tubes....
so, basically, there realy is no certainty...
Hope i could be of some help =)

VB

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if i text my friend that lives in arizona
and i live in illinois
will i get charged for long distance?

haha! texting! i'm all over it! haha
and the answer, is no =)
you will only get charged the normal text fee =)
trust me, i know haha i live in NY and text friends all over the country all the time lol =)

text lover

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ok my big brother has this friend right
his friend comes to the house at times
he comes into my room when my brother isnt paying atention
he lays on the bed when im there
and he starts talkin about my body parts
like that i have big tits and stuff
and then he starts feeling on my lips
and then he starts touching me were i dont like to be touched
i dont want to tell my brother because then his friend will tell everyone that im a snitch
then when i use to go out wit my brothers friends best friend he use to ask for a kiss and i use to say no
now that we broke up he wants one and more
what should i do?

sweetheart....
Please, please please please tell someone! because this boy is basically sexually harrassing you! If you don't put an end to this he'll keep doing it! If anything, your brother is going to defend you!
Or at the very least he should... No matter if this guy is his friend, he can't be doing this to you! If its not something that you want, it difitely shouldn't be something that you should do, or have done to. Stand up for yourself hun. Don't let him touch you again. Tell someone what he's doing asap! Or things could really get worse...

very much concerned

VB

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Me and my boyfriend were messing around and he was naked and I was just in my underwear. We were dryhumping and all of that. Could I be pregnant?

hey =)
the answer is o. If you two were dry humping and like you mentioned, you had your underwear, you should be ok =)
unless he had anorgasm and ejaculated in you, you're good to go! =) don't worry =)

VB

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[NOTE: User is from India, so please don't make fun of their English]

hello i was masterbuting since past 3 years dut to this my penis is enlarged and my penis balls has dropped, and my ass has grown bigger and its very very paining, due to this i am unable to put my desired dresses and its very hackward view and i can't sit long time, so please give me a solution for this, I am asking this question from my deep heart.

hey =)
well, honestly hun, mastebating has nothing to do with what happens to your body. there are no side effects to masterbating. In the contrary, is good for the body =)
whatever changes your body has gone through doesn't have to do with masterbating =)
don't worry =)

much love =)
VB

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can masturbation make breast bigger?

unfortnately, no.
Thats a big lie....
i wished it was true though! haha! then i'd have nice big knockers! hahaha!

VB

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my boyfriend says that i don't 'feel' the same when we have sex like im 'loose' or 'stretched' im not cheating or using any sex toys can you tell what can cause that?

OK, let me start by asking how long have you been with this guy?
If you've been wth him for a while, and have been active with him for a while too, and specially if he was your first, of course he's going to feel a difference.
The enital area is full of muscles... and the more intercourse they're going to tend to expand due to the size of the penis....


VB

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