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Q: Ok i like a girl and we always talk and ive known her for a long time more then 4 years and i just asked her who did she like and then she told me who do YOU like? i sayed you tell me first and i just didint answer it i just kept trying her to say first then i asked her why dont you tell me and she sayed something about she didint want to ruin her freindship with this guy and i really think she was talkin about me and i wanted to tell her somethin so badlybut im shy and now a couple of months past and she has not been acing the same with me shes acting more away from me different and i want to tell her something now ask her out or ask her to me my girlfreinds anything to let her know i still like her alot so can any one help me AS SOON AS possible with as much information and details on what i can do thanks i am a guy 14 and she is a 14 also

If i were you id sit her down and ask her why she has been acting different. Even if your shy and all thats ok because some girls find that attractive. but anyway i advise you to do something about all this, call her or speak to her in person and tell her about that night when she said she didnt want to ruin her friendship with this guy well tell her if she was talking about u then that you really want to be with her and that being together would only make you and her have a strong relationship. Ive had this happen to me before. I really like this guy friend of mine but i wasnt sure if he liked me but one day i asked him and he did and we were just sooo happy together and actually studies show that being friends before starting relationships actually makes it stronger because you already know things about her. so go ahead dude and just go for it. You wont regret it trust me because if you dont go after her then that is what you will regret.

Q: hi 14/f
ok i have been on and off with this guy and im over him well thats what i thought...he isnt over me he takes my pic that is on my best friends binder ok and he stole all of them and i was like freak and hes like why are you mad at me and he over reacts ok me and him have never kissed ok!and well he said he wanted to go to the movies with me and my best friend and her bf but her and her bf broke up!ok so he said well thats ok they didn't need to come i mean me and you would just makein out and what not so i laughed i thought he was joking so he asked if i wanted to go this Friday... but i have a date!kinda im meeting this guy i met on myspace!(don't say that i should meet this guy bc im not asking you that ok!!)well i told him i couldnt but what if hes at the movies when i go to meet this guy!i will feel really bad bc hes my best friend and i dont see him as a boy friend any more bc hes a player!like hes a realy big player!so im not in to him at all and i just can't say taht to him bc it will crush him ahh hes my bestie and i feelso bad about it!

If you dont see yourself with him AT ALL then tell him that. And keep telling him that, he will get it sooner or later. So what if he likes you, take it as a compliment. Ive had bestie guy friends to that liked me alot but i would tell them that i didnt like them that way and they would get over. Its life and if he doesnt see that you dont like him you must be sending mixed signals to him to make him keep fawning over you. And i would never say that you shouldnt meet that guy because ive done that myself but as long as you know the whole story about this myspace guy you should go meet him!! but anyway about the other guy...if you dont like him then thats the end of the story and sooner or later he will quit. trust me. i know. ive been through that before.

Q: so, this is kinda a stupid question, but what would happen if you drank an entire bottle of niquil?

Obviously your overdoseing on a drug so i suggest you dont do it because there will be consiquences to your actions

Q: Okay. Well. Yeah. =]

I'm a 17-year-old guy and I'm bisexual. It took me a while to admit to it, but I finally accepted it. =] Anyways, I've told my mom and she has no problem with it. My parents are divorced, by the way. Well, I want to tell my dad, but he is extremely homophobic. I seriously think he would yell at me. He lives in another state. I visit him in March.

Should I tell him I'm bisexual, and if I should, then how? I'd like to tell him before March because I wear eyeliner and don't want to stop wearing it when I see him.

Tell him when you feel comfortable about it. Well you might not ever feel comfortable about it but hes your dad and he needs to except you for who you are. and no matter what he will love you if that is what you are worried about. you never no all this might turn out better than you think, so stop thinking about the worst situation possible. If he yells its just because its a shock to him. He will get over it though. trust me. i had a friend go threw this same thing.

Q: lately the friends ive been hangin out with for like a year have been gettin on my nerves. i mean like my x best friend is now like the person i most avoid because of how annoyin she has become, or was she always that way and i never noticed till now.all these ppl that i thought id be friends with for like ever, are now very annoying and i jsut dont want to have anything to do with em. i want to go and make new friends but does that make me a bad peron for ditchin em for other ppl?

no you are not a bad person. this happened to me to about 2 years ago. I was maturing wayyy faster than a few of my friends and i started hangin out with people that "got" me. if you understand what im sayin. if these people are annoying you then tell them that you are because im sure they are probley thinkin that you are annoying them too. So think of it from their point of veiw also. If you want to save these friendship i sugguest you talk to the friends that are annoyin u so bad about all this. if not then maybe you just need to move on. Friends come and go. Thats life for ya.

Q: ok let me tell you a story about me and this guy
ok im 14/f and hes like 12/mor13/m idk but we have pe together and hes perfect

ok hes just how perfect he is!

1.perfect smile
2.perfect body(not that i have seen it lol)
3.sadly perfectly taken!
4.perfect hair
5.perfect flirter
6.perfect friends
7.perfectly kissable
8.perfectly hot
9.perfectly amazing at sports
10.perfectly easy to talk to!

ok lets get to the story
ok well form the first day i saw him last year i thought he was cute. ok so this year i just happen to be in his pe class and wow!its amazing!he sits there and will smile at me and one time he winked im not one to brag or be so head over heels about a guy but ahh i like him so much!and i think he likes me too but at the time when he was single i was taken but an asshole :] but he was going to ask me out but i didnt know it at the time so . i didnt do any thing but know im not taken and he is and i want ot ask him out his friend says he still likes me but he likes his gf too and his gf is kinda mean to me and she makes him do all kinda a stuff for her:\ and its not fair for him

so should i wait for mr.perfect or should i juts steal her or should i just get over him?

I agree the worst thing you can do is try to go for him when he has a girl friend because karma will come back and bite you in the butt if you do that to that poor girl. so if i were you i would flirt with him but you have to be careful because well from my perspective he seems like a player but thats just me. So even if you do like this guy it doesnt hurt anything to watch ur own back in this situation. But hey if you find out he likes you and all take the oppertunity in gym and talk to him a little. There no law that says you cant talk to a guy. or flirt for that matter... just try to have fun with him

Q: 16/f
i used to be friends with this kid back in like elementary school and kindegarten and stuff. well in about 2nd grade he moved halfway across the country. then over the summer he came into the resteraunt i work at with his sister and i was his waiter but i didn't think it was him. he looked at me like he kind of knew me but i didn't want to take the chance and start talking to someone who possibly had no idea who i was. anyway about two weeks ago he moved back and i know its him this time because i remembered his name. we're in the same grade but i have no classes with him except for lunch. by the way, he's very hot now. so while im sitting in lunch i'll look over at him and he's always looking at me. i think he remembers me but we weren't best friends or anything so im not sure. i really want to talk to him but he always sits with kids i dont know at lunch and when the bell rings he's out of the cafeteria so fast i could never catch up to him. i really really like him and i've overheard some of his conversations and we like so many of the same things he's like the male equivelant of me. i can't explain the connection i feel with him when we're staring in each others eyes from across the room.

how can i get to know a guy who i never get to see or talk to?!!

Like that other person said breaking the ice is the hard part but after you do it you will be glad u did. you could find out what classes he has and walk down that hallway and "accidently" bump into him or you can just say hey dont i know you. Whatever you decide to do you wont regret it. Because im sure he is thinking that he knows you to if he is looking at you the way you say he is. So just go for it!!

Q: ok i masturbate like once every 2 days and i was wondering..can i pick up sperm from like anywhere and have it be on my hand and get pregnant. does sperm just like float around on surfaces? i know i'm probably stupid but help!!

Your not stupid. just curious as i was when i was first learning about that kinda stuff. but no i dont think so because sperm doesnt survive on dry surfaces that well so if you wanted to get pregnant then you would have to get a boy and have intercourse with him. Simple as that.

Q: I need idea's on what i should get my boyfriend for valentines day we've been together for 3 months he's 15 and lebanese christian and i'm not sure what he's into i know but it's kinda hard to say :S sorry lol any ideas ?

If i were you. Id kind of be sneaky about it and set something up real nice. even though you have only been together 3 months and if you really like him id do something like that to show him that your serious. Or if yo udont want to set anything up romantic then just think about his likes and dislikes and kind of think what he would really like. If he really does like you he will say he likes whatever you get him. So dont worry that much

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.