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Q: I am from Bangladesh.A Muslim women(38years) .Age of my marriage is 14 years.I have three children of 12,10 & 8 years old. I had a very good relationship with my husband(45years). He is very honest ,caring to me & my family . He is from a very good & honorable family.I never find any bad habit in him.But recently he made a sexual relationship with my maid in my absence at home.I couldn't realize due to my blind believe.But when the occurrence comes out ,he confess. he said it was just an accident.he didn't control him at that 7/8 times.he tried to return from that situation.There was no other mental involvement.He sick my forgiveness .He still love me.He can't think himself without me,give promises that this will never happened again etc.etc.In this situation i am very much upset.I love him very much & don't think to live without him. I don't understand what i have to do in this situation & what will be my behavior to him.Finally how can i forget all this thing which seems very much painful to bear.

well get rid of the maid and get some old lady. honestly you guys are married and hhave three children to think about. If a man cheats on me well then that is it. it is over and will never have a second chance. he slipped up one time in 14 years. i would give him the second chance but watch him dont get over your head though because that can ruin your relationship with him. let him no how upset you are but you are willing to forgive but not forget and it happens again you are wanting to end it. if that is how you feel.

Q: 15/f

My parents got divorced last summer after my dad found out my mom was cheating on him. So they've been divorced for about a year now and my mom got married to the guy she cheated on my dad with about a month after the divorce was final. My dad was heartbroken for a while but eventually found someone he's totally in love with and they're engaged. Basically, when they were getting a divorce, my dad wanted to make it quick and clean so as not to cause any emotional stress to any of us kids [My older brother (16), and my two little sisters (8 and 9)]. So he offered to be the one to move out and allowed my mom to have custody of us kids because transportation to and from school would be easier if we lived with her. So he moved into a small house close to our house so us kids could walk to his house anytime we wanted. Well, for a while after he met this women, my dad and his current fiance tried having her move down to where we live so he could stay here. However, her entire family lives in florida and her 20 something son has some sort of brain and spinal cord disease so she felt better moving back. Of course, my dad loves her very much so he wanted to go with her. Well, my mom had a MAJOR problem with this. She threatened to go to the law and everything all because she didn't want my older brother (he just came back from running away with his preggo girlfriend and was put under house arrest. He basically hates my mom with a passion because she told him he was going to hell because he told her he was bi -_-) to come live with us (he was living with my dad). So my dad asked a judge about it and fixed it so my brother was able to go to florida with him. Now, I don't exactly HATE my mom. I do, however, think she's stupid and lives in her own perfect fantasy world in which she pushes all things in her life that are bad away. So no, I don't hate her, but I do have major problems with her that she doesn't currently know about. My dad and my brother are basically my lifeline. They keep me living and sane and I'm very close to both. The mean the absolute world to me, especially my dad. So, I guess you can say I'm the "good teenager". I haven't done anything really bad because I went through my "rebelious phase" when I was like 13 and now I'm over that crap. I've never done anything wrong, so my mom keeps me around to stay in her "perfect" litte family, unlike my brother who she made move in with my dad. Also, because I'm the oldest girl, I think she thinks we have some sort of special mother-daughter relationship. After my dad moved, I thought I'd be able to handle not being able to see him and hang out with him, but I'm losing it. I guess I'm not literally going crazy, but everytime my mom says something I want to scream at her and run to my room and pack my bags. It's just that everthing she says is so...stupid. For example, We went to see "The life of Benjamin Button". We were sitting there, halfway through the movie and she leans over and whispers "Now, is this based on a true story?" -_-. And she says things that equal that level of stupidity everyday. So yeah, losing it here. I REALLY want to move to Florida. I can make new friends I don't care. All I care about anymore is living with my dad and being happy. I've told my mom I've wanted to move before. Everytime I bring it up with her she breaks down crying and says "If you leave now, I'll never get you back". I've pointed out that the guy she married knows NOTHING about kids and taking care of them and being a father, whereas my dad's fiance at least has experience so I wouldn't be without some type of female guardianship. I told her I'd keep in touch with her if I moved. I've told her about the educational benefits of me going to this really cool art school down there. I've told her all this stuff and told her I'd be happier if I lived with my dad but she just WON'T listen. She cares more about her own happiness then mine. So I'm held captive here. My dad knows I want to live with him. My dad is trying to help me move down there. However, he said it wouldn't be a good idea to cause a big uproar and upset her. Apparently everytime I say something about moving to my mom, she calls my dad and freaks out on him saying he's telling me to say things and trying to steal me away. I've even told her that he's not telling me to say anything and that I can think and speak for myself. So, my dad doesn't want me to get mad at her and I'm basically "playing along" until he comes here and we "talk it out" with my mom. And I have no idea when that will be. I feel like my dad is trying, but he doesn't want to 'scar me emotionally'. Which, it's pretty much too late for that. So he's telling me to keep the status quo, she thinks I'm just fine and peachy because I haven't brought up anything about moving, and I'm incredibally unhappy with my current living situations. I just want to move. I just want to be happy. Please, please help. I'll take any advice I can get. Also, thanks for taking the time to read all of this. Thank you SO much.

Why don't you tell your dad you want to try and talk to your mother one more time. Sit down with her and look her in the eyes. Ask her to hear you out and to listen to when you have to say. Tell her you love her but you are not happy with the living situition. Let her know your not happy and what you aren't happy with. Tell her how much you miss your father and your brother and you are torn between your mother and father. Let her know when you get the oppurtunties to come back and see her you will take them. Ask her think about me this time mom not you self. I really need this I have been very upset lately and I just want to be with my dad ** this worked for my little brother**

Q: I dated a boy for about 9 months three years ago. We were 'in love', even though we were very young. about 7 months after we broke up we dated again for about 3 but we were always fighting so it didnt last long... now two years after we finally broke up and i've had only 2 kind of serious relationships since, he has had one; he told her he loved her. We never had sex because we were really young but he had sex with his last girlfriend (the one he loved).

Now i am talking to him a lot lately and i hate that i'm falling back in love with him but its nothing that i can help. the only friend that knows about it hates that i am falling for him again but i can't help it.

should i tell him that i like him again and potentially be heart broken or should i keep it to myself and try and move on?

advice please... =]

If this is someone who really has your heart. why not take the risk and see where is takes you. Ask him how he feels about the situation. If you are having even one doubt I wouldnt do it. Good Luck

Q: Hey im 18/f ive been dating my first love off and on since i was like 15. We were really in love the first year of our relationship then things started to get not so great and we started fighting all the time. Sometimes we wouldnt even know what we were fighting about. This past year we've broken up and gotten back together quite a bit. My mom really doesnt approve of him but i love him and thats all that matters. Recently we got into a fight and we started seeing other people. (dating for about a week) he started dating someone else to. Now we're talking again and talking about getting back together. I really am tired of fighting and so is he but i love him to death! Should i keep trying to make it work or move on? :(

Sorry so long but thank you for reading!

Honestly. I am in the same situtaion. My son's father and I have been together on and off for a long time. well its been a year or a little more since we have been together and every relationship i get in i think about him etc. I would try maybe one last time. if you start fighting than maybe seperate i mean if you only broke up because of fighting. My Recent ex and i broke up because he cheated on me well i refuse to take him back because of that. maybe dating other people you both relize your not happy with anyone except each other

Q: Hey!
So I think it's an age old question, but I could always use more opinions preferably from women.
I'm a fit 21 year old in College, but I'm tired of the whole "college" dating scene so I'd like to meet a mature type of women. I'm not looking just to pick up, I'd like a relationship.
Where's a good place you'd recommend other than coffee shops to meet women??
-Thanks a bunch!

Sounds funny, but I meet guys of myspace.com I had just moved to a small town didn't know to many people so got on there. I also made a lot of friends and meet some pretty cools guy at my work. I work at wal mart.

Q: I have a really good friend. We are basically "online" friends, although we go to the same school. The thing is, he is too shy to talk to me in person, what should I do?

Make the first move. Say hi to him ask him how he is doing are you having a good day etc.

Q: 15/f
Im going to a party this week and i know there's going to be drinking. im scared if i get drunk ill let my secrets out that i dont want people to know. will that happen? even as small as they might be?

thaanks

Dont get completely drunk. but your secerts wont come spilling out people usally have to trick you into that. its just a joke to worry people about drinking. have fun.

Q: she always talks about herself, she doesnt really asks me anything about my life. When we talk the topic is always about her, but when you have a problem she tries to help, listen and give advice or if you look sad she asks if im ok but other than that she talks about herself a lot is she considered as self-absorbed?

No. She may just be lonely. Needing someone to listen to her. Or not sure on what to ask you.. She jumps right into talking about her self. She may be just wanting you to jump right in and start talking about your self. I am the same way. Nervous on what to ask but Willing to listen

Q: Hey. I'm 17/white/female. I started dating my boyfriend (who is 18 and black), in january. Before we started dating he led me on so many times and he let me down just as much. Although he led me on and made me feel like shit, I liked him and I really let my guard down with him and we were great friends, he was just confused on what he wanted. After like the 3rd time he led me on, I told him I was done. I moved away that summer and we talked every once and a while. I really missed him but of course I wanted him to think that I was fine without him. During the summer we talked about a whole lot of stuff all the time. When school came back around, I moved back to the town I came from (where he is also from). We talked for a while about everything and I knew he had a gf, but we just talked as friends. They broke up one day and he came to me telling me about how he broke up with her. I wasn't sure what to think because I knew him and I were just friends. Well november comes around and we went the the movies with a couple friends. We didn't go together, we just saw eachother there as a coincidence. He came over to me and sat down next to me. During the movie we didn't really talk and we were sitting right next to eachother. He texted me like 30 minutes before the movie ended and said "idk if this is the right time but I think we should be more than friends" and he saw me read the text and I smiled. I looked at him and smiled back. I told him that I'd have to think about it because of our past. Well we talked a lot about getting together after that. I have never believed in love. I believe that you can love someone without being in love with them. And I told him that I loved him. As we got further into our relationship I started to get really serious with him and he became my best friend and my boyfriend. I knew that this was more than just love. He was always the one that said that he was IN love with me and I told him that I didn't believe in falling IN love, and he understood. He was completely crazy for me and I knew that. He promised me that he would take me out of this town when he graduated. He promised me a lot of things. And I'm falling IN love with him and I don't know how to act. He's everything to me and more. I'm completely crazy for him. He's my bestfriend;boyfriend. I truley believe that I NEED him. And I want to be with him for the rest of my life. We talk about our life all the time. I'm graduting a year before him and he's helping me believe in so many things. I don't want to break up when I graduate because I know I would be devasted if we were ever done. We've been through hell and back with eachother and everything is beyond perfect. How do you think I should deal with the whole college situation? how should we talk about it? Any suggestions? Sorry so long..thanks in advance.

Look college is a great deal I am happy the two of you set your difference's aside and made what truely matters work. first off in any situation you are going to need your general studies. Which you can take at a college in town? that gives you two or four years to think about you and him to where you want to move to.. maybe go to a college in town for a year then transfer together to a better college. You can go to the college which you please now and him come when he is done. there are several possibilities you just need to sit together and talk about it.

Q: Ok...My friend's cousin's girlfriend dont like me for no reason she dont even know me we only talked like once dats it and she told me before that she thinks m cool and everythin and now she dontlike me and it gets me mad because she cant be judging and she dont even know me....Should I stress about it?? Or wat should i do?

If you are a female.. she could be just jealous or think your a threat to her relationship. but its nothing to worry about i would just ignore her.

Q: for the past two and a half years, i had been dating my bestfriend, he was everything to me. we were bestfriends before we started dating for a year. Recently we broke up, and then i found out he was cheated on me multiple times over summer. and now, a week later he has a girlfriend. it is so hard to deal with this, i h avent been single for two and a half years. and its so hard because i was always with him, and i was friends with him before, and the friends i had before there gone and moved on with there lives. and the friends i have no, aren't reliable. i'm trying to make new friends but no one seems to care, or want to hangout with me.

what am i supposed to do? like i feel so lonely.
i just want to get over him but i cant seem to do that because i dont go out because i dont have friends anymore

You know my ex fiance cheated on me. I didnt have friends to help me.. well i had few.. but i made them through my work.. or on myspace? its hard trust me. I still think about my ex and miss him. I get sick to my stumoch when i think about how he cheated on me. I got over him by being with another guyy. it sounds bad but it really did help me.

Q: hi im 17, and a junior in high school. (i turn 18 in december) i am white, and live with just my mom. we dont get along well at all, infact we just got into a fist fight the other day, but thats not the problem. oh and one quick little fact about my mom, shes racest.

the problem is that my boyfriend is black. and we oviously have sex. he is also 21. we used a condom, but it broke. and now i am pregnant for my first time. oh and one other thing, my mom dosent know i have a boyfriend. he, by the way, wants to keep the baby.

i adore my boyfriend, and he has way more then enough money to support me every step of the way for my pregancy, and is planning on renting an apartment for us as a family, but i want to know what you think i should do.

i believe my mom will flip when she finds out im not only pregnant but im pregnant with a black child.

is there any way i can move out?
what if my boyfriend and i break up, and im stuck a lonley white girl with a black child?
what would you do?
what should i do?
ect.

Ask your self these questions. I had sex at a very young age and became pregnant. I am 17 now with a 2 year old son. His father left well technically. he treated my son like crap didnt care. only time he did care was taking him out to pick up girls. well i left moved everything life is tough. but i dont believe in abortion and adoption... no.. couldnt live with knowing my child is out there some place.. so think what is best.. do you think you can take care of baby you didnt plan it but it happened for a reason.. and for your mom its not her problem its yours. she will get over it sometime. and maybe it will help her into growing up and figureing black people are just like white people. do you really like your man would leave you? plan ahead then. start saving money.. do you got a job. when will you be 18. they have government apartments but you have to be 18. well good luck.

Q: Hey i've got a boyfriend who knows all the perfect ways to turn me on without really getting outta first base. ya know? but ya see i kinda feel like i'm not returning the favor. I'm pretty much clueless and how to turn a guy on and i was hoping i could get some suggestions on little things i could do that would do the trick. If your a guy thats an even better plus

my boyfriend likes when i talk dirty, of kiss his neck or bite his ear a little.

Q: im 14, female obviously, and i have a problem. i have had my period for a little over a year. i get my period REALLY heavy, as in i have to change my pad every hour, even really heavy ones because they feel disgusting if i dont. I want to try tampons and ive tried before but they wont go in! i thought i knew what hole they went in but aparnetly no, because it wont go in more than an inch and it hurts so badly while doing it. ive asked my mom to help me but even SHE cant get it in...and shes been using tampons for 30 years. ive considered menstrual cups, but i cant use those until something goes IN my vagina. Does anyone have diagrams or advice for me? and the reason i need tampons so badly is because im a swimmer and its such a pain to carry around so many bulky pads...THANKYOU

i use the tampax peral.. super any ways when i was in middle school on the track team (i thought it hurt and was uncomfortable) i didnt have much of a choice though. I put one foot like on the toilet or bath tube and squatted alittle bit. takes time getting use to take a deep breath while doing. it takes practice. good luck

Q: Last summer when my niece turned 16 I gave her my car as a gift, as she was about to learn how to drive. It was 8 years old and had 120,000 miles on it, a perfect car for a young, new driver.

Now, partly because the economic collapse has made it a buyer's market, my brother and sister-in-law have decided to buy a new car. However they can't afford, for insurance purposes, the gifted car, which would now become a third car in their family. So with my niece's okay they decided to sell the car which I had given her as a gift.

My question is (not for legal reasons but regarding the etiquette of the situation) should I receive any money once the car is sold? I feel like I gave my niece a gift, the type of gift which a teenager rarely receives, and that gift has turned into a money-making sale for my brother and sister-in-law, which obviously was not my intention. They see the situation differently, i.e., the car is now theirs, the picture has changed, and they can do this without regard for my feelings.

Thank you for your response.

I think it should be up to your niece. what is she going to drive once they sell her car? Honestly i dont think you should make a profit off the car. your niece should. you gave it to her so its not yours anymore.

Q: i work at a day care with 3,4, and 5 year olds and i have a 3 year old who likes to spit and everything we have tried backfires also she acts out a lot throws a ton of tantrums and agrees to everything even if u say she will go to time out or go up front or something like that cause her mom works there so she thinks she will get to see her but the spitting just needs to stop but we dont know how. any ideas

Try the time out but away from her mother and the other children. have her sit facing the wall or something for so long. she comes back to play and does it again put her in time out again. its going to take some time but she will start to relize she isnt going to get put in timem out to see her mom or play with the other children

Q: Ok, so one of my friends went out with a very beautiful girl and i began to like her. I was not aware that he still likes her and i recently found out. But he would not admit it to me everytime i asked him. I do not know if i should not take any actions because she tells me all the time im cute or i dress the best or im hot and all this stuff but i do not think it is right because he is one of my close friends and he acted like he doesn't care so what do i do?

I had liked a guy for months. we finally hung out a few times and i had been talking to his friend on myspace. he was really sweet and i told him that. he said if we would have started talking before me and his friend hung out we probably would have hit it off but couldnt now. so i would try talking to your friend about it.

Q: now i was dating this guy it dident work out so i talk to his brother is that a hoe so me and the brother has a good relationshop he wants to have a baby but the brothr i use to talk to is telling him lies and he's believing it and when i call he tells him im some one else and when he tells him this he believes now this is hearting me please tell me what to do im 17 years old and female airiel

A little advice. i had a baby at a young age i am 17 now and my son is two. you dont want your child growing up with out his or her father. trust me. my sons father is just now getting into my sons like wanting to know him. make sure this is something that is really going to last. tell your boyfriend that your not trying to ruin there brother friend ship but what he is telling you isnt true. if he believes his brother and not you thats not a relationship that is going to last. good luck

Q: You know how everyone says that your gut instinct is usually right? Well... I know this is random, but is your gut instinct the best thing to follow even if the decision that you have to make is purely based on chance? For instance - If someone had to make the choice to move to a brand new place and their gut instinct told them not to, even though there is a 50% chance that it will go really well, should they take it? Could they just be confusing that instinct with anxiousness/nervousness? Sorry if that is confusing - trust me, I have a good reason for asking it : )

i had to move to missouri where i have no family no friends nothing last june. first few months. really stunk. ihated it i wanted to go back to ohio. i miss my friends and family. but love it i have made some friends, a good job. im starting college soon. and im also going back to ohio to visit soon. i would take the chance and go

Q: I recently got an underage drinking ticket at college and I do not have enough money to hire a lawyer. It is my first citation other than one speeding ticket I got a while back. I am also supposed to leave for basic training this summer so I cannot be put on probation. I need to do community service before I leave on April 29. When I go to court without a lawyer, will I have somebody there to explain my situation to or do I have to explain my situation directly to the judge? Could he possibly be lenient since I am going into the National Guard. If not what can he do to me? Also, since I will not have a lawyer, will it be impossible to get the charge dropped? Will having the charge on my record prevent me from getting into nursing school? Any advice is tremendously appreciated. Thank you

you can possibly go and get a lawyer that rep. you for free. (i dont remember there name) but when i went in i talked to the judge and because i was leaving the state. he allowed me to pay just the court fees. i would tell him your situation. you understand what you had done and you understand that there are consquence but you leave on april 29th for the national gaurd.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.