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Q: i really love to watch cheerleaders and people do back hand springs and cartwheels and all the flippy spinny stuff =] i just wish i could do that. is there some things i could do to teach myself at home? like how i can make myself more flexable and stuff. so that i can do that. please give me specific things.

thanks =]

well you really shouldnt do those stuff on your own. But there are exersises that if you do daily you might get more flexiable.
just stretch, really you can make up your own exersies, but make sure that you are no where near furniture and have room, and are on soft carpet or something.
some exercises i do
1. nod my head right left, up down, side, other side
2.stretch your arms by rolling them forward, then backwards, then combo
3.the butterfly.lay on the floor and squat your legs so they make a circle together and your feet are against eachother then IF YOU CAN put your head down on your feet, or just look down.
4.spread out your legs, and just be creative spread out your arms and try to rest your head on one leg.
BE CAREFUL WHEN DOING lol
so sorry if it isnt clear but i tried my best.
good luck
and hope i helped :]

Q: How do you ask a guy for his cell number?
I like this boy at my camp, but he doesnt go to my school or live in my town. I want to ask him his phone number but i'm not sure how i should go about asking it. We are friends, but he flirts with me ALL THE TIME. Camp is over next week (July 20) so i have to get the number by then. He's been saying stuff like "My ringtone is beautiful girls" so i think he wants me to have it. I dont know how to ask though. PLEASE answer by the 20th.
P.S. we get autograph books but i'm not ending camp until August some time so i wont get my book until then, so i can write my number in his book but he cant write his in mine.

*sorry it's long!*
but thank you SO MUCH!

well next time he flirts with you or talks about his cell or something just say "speaking of your cell blah blah blah." just ask him, and say something fun with it. Tell him that you will miss him.
good luck
hope i helped :]

Q: Ive noticed some things about myself and i was wondering if these are normal and how to change them.

I could go outside with my family and have the best day of my life, but then come home and after a few hours be misreable and angry.

When i am having a great day, it never seems to last. But after a little bit i can cheer myself up. But then ill be sad again.

I get to sleep at about 11 (or somtimes 2) at night (or 2 in the morning)

I have wierd eating habbits where i dont get hungry (expt i always love candy/munchies) until late at night, when i need to go get somthing to eat.

I'm a 13 year old girl

I broke up with my boyfriend (who i had been datin on/off for a year) out of the blue. (The day after i had heart surgery and he has been so suportive about it, saying he would visit me and everything) He was perfect and amazing but i didnt think i loved him and some days im over him and im happy for him and whatever new life hed like to have and i want him to get a girlfriend and move on and other days i just want him back. But i know i cant because i dont even know what i want.

Some days when i think about things my ex-boyfriend would do or say, it would make me be thankful it was over and other times the same things make me miss him.

I know im smart enough to get straight As but i get As and Bs because its so much simpler in theory. I get to stressed from all of the pressure of quizes.

I have high expectations of myself and i seem to fail most of them.

I used to think i had the best body but now im losing faith in my self image.

Im in-consistant in everything.

I used to think i needed to be perfect in everything..

Im inspired easily but easy come easy go.

I feel like my life is ina downward spiral and that im going crazy. But tomorow when im happy everything will look so clear.

What is my problem? Why am i like this?

Please help. Id love any advice that you can give me.

i am 13 to, and i have been facing similar stuff like that, my mom tells me its harmones and it can give you mood swings, also there might be some stress, and maybe a tiny bit of after a party and then feeling a bit angry might be because you hate to see it end. you just have to try to control it, and its good that you are letting it out other then just holding it all up, and it does help to have a friend or someone close with you, but some people like to deal with this kind of things by themselves not wanting other people really in this.But you should reconsider and remember that you do have friends and family here for you, and that is one of their jobs, to help you when you are down.
hope i helped:]

Q: i cannnotttt fall asleep as hard as i try, ive tried music, ive tried warm drinks, ive tried reading, watching tv, I CANT GO TO SLEEP!its driving me crazzzzzy i lay in my bed for at LEAST 3 hours. then finally fall asleep, does anyone know anyways you have tried falling asleep and it worked? THANK YOU!!!!!!!

try to lay in bed and close your eyes and think of your favorite movie, Tv show, or memmory and maybe you will drift off asleep
good luck
hope i helped:]

Q: I was wondering what are some pretty good things to tell someone when you comment their picture? I'm getting tired of say"gorgious" & "wow pretty" & all that other old stuff. Just give me some nice things to say.
thanks :D

- i heart that!
-tres cute!
-omg cute outfit
-i love your hair
-i love the outfit
-adorable pic
those are some suggestions hope i helped :]

Q: My whole family is filled with clean freaks. Basically, we are the family with perfectly clean carpets, no dust or mold anywhere. You could eat off the floor.
Anyway, my Mom usually does the cleaning & today she was cleaning the bathrooms with all her cleaning stuff. She got really dizzy & had to sit down & she was crying. I want to help but I have the same symptoms. She had brain surgery last summer so now she's super paranoid about headaches & dizzyness.
My question is how can we prevent this happening in the future? Is there anything we should or should not use?
We mostly use lysol products with bleach [I think] but no actual bleach or chlorine.
Thanks a lot!

I'm not sure if this is it, but sometimes when you breath in to much of thoses chemicals it can make you feel dizzy and give you a headache, you just need fresh air, and be careful with the amount you are using and try not to inhale it all. And your mom might be extra sensitive to it. im not exactly sure, but i do know that if you inhale to much of that cleaning stuff you will get headaches, and feel dizzy.
hope i helped :]

Q: ok well i like my best friend and have liked him for a while but its not going to work out because he sees me as a best friend and nothing more. im starting summer school this monday at a new school and i want to have a new crush and maybe even a boyfriend because i really do need to forget about my best friend. i dont want to get hurt again so if i find a guy i like how do i make it so that he might like me? thanx

well all you mainly have to do is flirt, and giggle, let him no that you are relaxed around him, smile let him no that ou are having a good time, and just have fun.
hope i helped :]

Q: hey!theres this guy I like himmm veryy much and all but he doesnt like me plus he has a gf.I know I have to 4get about him cause that situation makes my life miserable(I cry almost every day).the problem is I dont know what to do to move on???everything I tried so far didnt work ..I still love him the same way and even more..help me please I really cant live that way anymore.

okay well it is always a little hard to move on especially to someone you really care about. but just think that he is living his life with his girlfriend and that you shouldnt stop and just wait for him, you should be living your life and enjoy it.
hope i helped :]

Q: Okay I have a couple of blisters on my nose fom a sun burn. Will they leave scars? Is there anything I can do to make them go away?

i had sun blisters to when i went to colorado.
You really just have to wait until they peel, i dont think they give you any scars. :]

Q: okay last month my friend was moving soon and i was hurt so i avoided her and she asked me why i was avoiding her and stuff but i said"im not" and after that we slowly stopped talking, and then in before the last day of school i gave her gbye/apology letter and the last day of school i broke down and cried front of her and she cheered me up but i was still crying so it didnt work and after that she left and said"im gonna go so dont cry anymore" and she went to her friend and we didnt talk after all i try iming her but she didnt respond me and now we havent talk since the last day of school which was last month and i dont know if we still gonna talk to eachother and im really sad and regret what i did do you think we're still friends? and it feels like she doesnt wanna talk to me since i avoided her before i dont know what should i do anymore what do you guys think? sorry its too long...= /

i have a friend that had almost the same thing happen.
i think that maybe you should just give her some time. But dont just give up. She might be dealing with stress and all with the move and leaving her friends and all.
I think that you should give her a email or a letter, or im or something telling her how you feel, and that you want to still be friends.
hope i helped :]

Q: My best friends mom say no to have a sleepover everytime I go to her house and that she will miss her too much. But might not say no if she knows about it before. Evertime I ask my mom to have a sleepover she always says YES! We really want to have a sleepover. How could my friend convince her mom to sleepover my house.

well if it really is really worried about missing your bff thing which might not really be it, then tell your bff to talk to her mother because its not like when she gets older and has her own house the mother will sleepover their.
But maybe you could tell your friend to tell their mom that they will call to say goodnight at a certain time.
another thing you could do is show the mom you are responsible and mature. some mothers are uneasy, my mom is with my bff but i just have to show her how fun and trusting my friend is, and would never make me do something i dont feel comfortable doing etc.
i hope i helped :]

Q: How can I be more comfortable talking to people...? It's almost like there's two sides of me; the quiet side, and the never-shuts-up side. I guess I sort of run out of things to say, even around my friends, and then I end up not saying anything at all...

I know that most of you would just say "Be yourself", and I try to, but that still doesn't help at all with my problem.

Please help me, any advice will do. Thanks in advance.

the same thing happens to me sometimes. Just think that they are people just like you. They like to have fun, and they probably understand. Alot of people have 2 sides. you just have to try to control those two sides. Like talk a little, then listen to what your friends have to say then talk again. Just try not to blurt out things all at once. I also understand that it is hard to be yourself, its hard for me because im afraid myself isnt really that great, but my friends like it when i be myself. Just stay calm and whatever comes to your mind just think it over before you say it, and see if its the right time. hope i helped :]

Q: Long story short, I used to be best friends with this guy. (he's 16, i'm 16/f) Anyway, this year stuff's been rocky and we both have been trying to get back to the friendship we used to know, it's not working, it's been about 6 months. I think, at least on my part, I can't remember how I was ever his friend 'normally', like without being so close, but that's how I need to be now. I can't expect to hang out with him all the time, and call him/him call me, etc. How can I get myself used to being okay with being just normal friends? And also..how can I treat him like a normal friend?

(If this makes no sense, what I'm trying to say is I still see him as a really good friend of mine, though he doesn't for me. he's willing to be my friend as long as i treat him as a 'normal' friend as he says. anyone, HELP!)

just be yourself, and hang out. if you guys were best friends then he must like your personaility. Have fun, and just act like it was in old times. or you could try to start fresh.
Ask him what he would like to do.
Just have fun
hope i helped :]

Q: ok. well my momo says if i "want" stuff i have to pay for it my self. anni ideas on main money??

you could get a job,
like............
1. babysitting
2.chores or extra chores
3. animalsitting
4. help out at the vet or store
5. tutor
hope i helped :]

Q: I just got mad at my aunts boyfriend son because he sent a message to one of my friendS telling them i think their hott and all this shit.Anyway i caught him and told him what he was doing and he said nothing so I grabbed him by the collar and he said he woulD aonly tell me if he told my cousin that way he can tell me.Hes such a coward.After a few minutes my cousin came out told me that he said that he sent a message to my crush,my frist CRUSH!Then a i got a message back and it was from my friend.I was almost on the verge of tears,thats what I get for not logging out of my myspace.I knew he was a jerk but i never knew he would go so low.Its almost like he wants ruin my life because this ai'ent the frist time did somthing heartless to me.i'm trying so hard not let my anger rise because I know if I let out all my anger i might send someone to the hospital.any ideas on how to calm myself down?

well you could talk to someone close to you spilling out whats been locked up.
take deep breaths in and out and then make a calm nonchalant place in your head, and relax
whatever you do you shouldnt keep all of this locked up. but just make sure you control yourself, and dont hurt you or someone else.
What also might help is if you went in a room where there are no intrupptions, no busy furniture and where you just can think and clear your mind and calm yourself down
hope i helped :]

Q: I want to be an actress but the problem is I cant sing. I'm not so sure what to do. And usually to act you also need a little singing skill. Any advice? Also I'm not aloud to take singing lessons I already take ot many dance classes. Any acting tips also? thanks!!!!!=]

i really want to be an actress myself but im totally not a good singer, and like u i have dance so i cant take singing lessons. But i realized that not alot shows or movies have people singing, and if you are still a little uneasy about it why dont you take choir or something. And maybe if you get a part they might give you lessons if you need it.
hope i helped
and good luck :]

Q: hey i need some good r&b songs or some love songs thanxs

summerlove
runawaylove
hey there Delilah
My love
Sexy back

hope i helped:]

Q: REALLY LONG, AND IM SORRY..
but i had to tell the whole story so you would understand it.

16/f
At the end of my freshman year I became friends with this girl Katelyn. Me and Katelyn became really close, and she was my BEST friend. We Spent everyday in the summer together!!
I always had a boyfriend, Katelyn never had a real relationship.
So during the summer I was dating a kid name Bradley. He was great, and he always took me and Katelyn to the movies(of course katelyn paid her way) But I wasnt allowed to go, so i had to sneek. And I ALWAYS thought she liked that i took her along.
So comes 10th grade and we start out close, best friends, nothing is wrong. Then I start dating Marcus, I REALLY Liked Marcus, so I didnt sneek to the movies or anything with him. So I spent everyday with him(bad move, i know) So me and Katelyn start to loose our closeness. (i;m still with Marcus) So come Feb. we get into a BIG fight. Mainly bc i would sit with her at lunch, but she wouldnt say one word to me the whole time.(bc she got other friends, which are the fakest people in my school.) So we got into a fight.
Now I was in class with her old best friend. (Long story sort, Betty was a hoe our freshman year and said some guy raped her, when he really didnt. And it was at katelyn's party. ) So Im in calss with her ALL year. So when me and katelyn get into a fight, i start talking to Betty more. And I start saying things about Katelyn that at the time i would thing to myself and say "shouldnt say that" but Katelyn was my main friend, and I didnt have one after her. And I wanted a friend sooo bad. So i would talk about Katelyn behind her back(fake i know)
But now she wants to be friends again. I want to so baly bc i miss her soo much. She was like a sister to me. But i dont want to go back to school and people think Im fake and all bc of the things I said this/last year.
What should I do? Be friends with her again and not care what people say or think bc i have my best friend back.
Or not be friends with her bc of the things I said??
Please help me!.. =[

well it sounds that you guys were close, and i think that you should be friends with her again, cause the bad talk would stop, but if you chose to not be her friend, you might lose her for good. And anyways there might not even be any gossip or people calling you a fake, cause they shouldnt be talking. Everyone gets in arguments with there friends and sometimes we just say things, which is wrong, but it just happens. And it doesnt really matter what other people say its better to be happy with your friend then be miserable without one.
hope everything works out :]

Q: me and a girl that i like have been going out couple a coupla dais..and there's alwais lyk this awkwardness between us when we kiss and hug?
and i really like her and want this to work out..is there things we could do to make it feel less..awkward?

almost at every start of a relationship feels a bit awkward doing that stuff cause you guys are new at it, it might take awhile to get used to it. but what might make u guys feel less awkward is 1.flirt 2hang out with her, but make sure she feels comvterable, and dont take it personally if she acts werid or not herself she just might need to get used to everything 3 try to loosin her up and have fun, but dont freak her out
hopefully these suggestions will help all of this feel a bit less awkward.
hope i helped :]

Q: alrightt
so tomorrow im suppose to go downtown chicago
with some of my friends
and im 14
and i live like 30 or 45 min rom it?
and my mom told me i have to ask my dad if i can go
and i have been bugging them all week, well my mom
cause she gives in more then my dad
and i have a feeling he is gonna say no
and yeah im 14 blahblahblah im gonna get rapped
and i know theres gangs and stuffy like that
but really if i didnt think i wasnt gonna be safe i really wouldnt ask
and we are gonna go on a train
how can i get my parents to let me go?

well you have to show them that you are responisible and mature. So maybe make a list, or a paragraph why you should go and you might have to hear out your parents rules if you would be able to go. like tell them that you or your friends have a cell or maybe you can ask to borrow your parents in case of emergancy, and tell them how you guys are going to stick together.
good luck
hope i helped:]

bio

hi, my name is emily i am 14 years old and in 8th grade
i love hanging out with my friends,good with little kids, shopping,boys, cheerleading, dancing, music, fashion, eating haha, and giving advice :]
I also really enjoy going to my beach house, especially when i bring my 3 bffs.