TARAfying's advice column

askTARAfying

advice column ask question view feedback favorite columnist advicenators

Q: I wanna make my boyfriend something for Valentines Day.

I found out he is proposing then, and I really want to get him something nice, and from the heart.

So far, I've got him a feather rose, card, and DVD player. ("VERY" romantic...I know) So, what can I get him thats really romantic and from the heart. Something hand made maybe?

Any websites and/or suggestions would be nice.

Thanks.

Aw, cute. Well I was planning on making a pillow for my boyfriend. Like a heart shapped pillow with fringe, etc and sow it completely by hand. If you don't like that idea I recommend going to an arts n crafts store & wandering around. That's how I got my idea & I'm sure a lot of gift possibilites will pop out at you. Good luck!

Q: ok, my choir is going to chicago over spring break. I need 242.50 by feburary 2nd, and i need another 242.50 by March 2nd. I don't have a job because i'm too young. My dad says he doesn't have the money, and my mom is 1000 miles away. I must have asked about 50 people to buy something from me from a fundraiser, but i only got 3 people to buy. the fundraiser is due Monday January 22, 2007. My question is, is there ANY wat AT ALL that i can earn the money. If i can't earn the money, it will be a total waste. Thank you guys sooooooooo much in advance!!

Babysitting, Petsitting, Cleaning Houses, & Lawn Work

You said your mom lives really far away, but you can still call her and ask her to mail some cash. Maybe work out a loan system with a neighbor or family friend? Good luck!

Q: whats a g-spot and does a guy find it?

http://www.talksexwithsue.com/Gspot.html

"The G Spot is a small area, (about 1 inch diameter) inside the vagina, up about an inch and half to two inches. Appropriate stimulation will cause the female to take a deep breath and push down real hard. Most women describe the sensation as feeling they want to urinate - they have a powerful urge to "bear down", same sensation of pushing when delivering a baby. They take a deep breath, hold it and push right down to their bottom."

Basically if a guy finds a girl's g spot, she will feel maximum pleasure during sex.

There's no specific way for a guy to "find" it. I guess practice makes perfect.

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been through a lot. We recently broke up because he cheated on me, but I gave him a second chance. Before all this cheating stuff happened we were both ready to have sex. But now that he cheated and stuff it kind of pushed me away from him. Like I love him a lot but I really don't know what to do. Someone help me! Please!

It's completely normal and justifed to feel that way. If I were you I would definately wait a couple of months until I started discussing sex again. Make him work to gain back your trust, etc. Once you guys are in a good place again, then you can consider it. Make sure you don't let him pressure you into anything! You know what's best for you & your relationship so good luck!

Q: whats a tea bag or something that sounds like that (not a tea bag that you make tea with . I know what that is ! ) i know its somthing sexual.
does any one know what i am talking about?

thanks in advance =)

This website will provide you with more defintions than I could ever come up with.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tea+bag

Q: My boyfriend and I had sex without a condom...I am not on birth control, but he pulled out long before he cam. Is there any chance I could be pregnant?

Yes. Guys can't control pre-ejaculation. So even though he pulled out before cumming completely, pre cum could have still touched you.

Q: Like many people in high school living in a cold area, Im obsessed with summer. I cant wait. I look back at last summer (most amazing time of my life) and I want that so bad. I cant focus on anything but getting out of school and getting crazy. Is this normal or am I like the only one? Because none of my friends are as excited/anxious about summer as me. Theyre excited to go skiing..Anyway, I think I may have seasonal depression. What do I do about all this?!

I'm sorry but there's really nothing you can do. I know your obessed with the hot weather & all that comes along with it... but just try to stop thinking about it. Also talk to your parents about going on a spring break vacation to somewhere really warm! This will give you a mini summer to keep you pleased til the real thing. Good luck!

Q: i really like this guy. and we started talking a lot towards the end of 9th grade.. and like over the summer we talked and texted.. and one night we even stayed up till 2 in the morning talking online. we talked for four hours. and now 10th grade has started and we kind of haven't talked very much. i mean we texted for a little once... and i talked to him online like once... but that's it. i feel like he lost interest in talking to me. and like i want to reach out and keep talking to him but i don't want him to think of me as bothering him. he never reaches out to me... so should i just stop?

I'd say wait a week more. Randomly im/text him and just say hey. See what happens. After this conversation I would definately leave it up to him. You've put yourself out there & there's nothing left for YOU to do. If he doesn't make a move I'd move on. But do whatever you feel is right & good luck!

Q: I got the top of my ear pierced a week ago and it had quit hurting, but tonight it started hurting and it's swollen where the back of the earring is. Is it swollen because it could be infected or because of the earring irritating it? What should I do if it's like this I cleaned it with peroxide.

It could be swollen for either reason. If it still hurts by tomorrow night, I would definately take it out. I know you just got it pierced & there's a chance of it closing up.. But I personally couldn't deal with the constant pain. I'd rather have no earing & feel good. Best of luck!

Q: i really want a tattoo for my 15th birthday! i want a small heart, maybe like an inch in size (just outlined). i want it on the front of my hip, just below the jean line (if your wearing ultra low-rise jeans). but im afraid what my friends will think of me. i dont want to sound snobby but i am popular in my school and go with the whole "classic girly girl from hollister/abercrombie". i dont want this tattoo if it makes me look trashy, especially at my age. what do you think? thank you for your opinion! =)

That sounds really cute & not trashy at all. You said you're afraid of what your friends might think. Don't be! They're your friends! & shouldn't think differently of you for having a little tattoo. I really wouldn't worry about it all. I say go for it!

Q: there is a guy that i really like. we met on facebook and he is friends w/ some of my friends. he and i started talking a lot online and on the phone and really really connected. we liked eachother a lot but still hadn't met. well we finally did and he tried to make out with me the first time. i told him that i am not a hookup person and that i dont want that but he still did it anyway. i know hes more experienced than i am and i don't want to be pressured if i do go out w/ him later on (which we've talked about). do you think this would happen? i tried to tell him afterwards that it upset me but i dont really know if he understood. hes not used to girls like me i dont think. what should i do?

Him pressuring you in the future could very well happen. Just to be safe, I would hang out with him AND a group of friends at the same time. This way you can continute getting to know him, but still have the support of your friends in the backround. Sense your friends are there he probably won't be as touchy. Once you think you know him well enough and vise versa, I'd say it's safe to hang out one on one. Make sure to remind him once more how you feel about hook ups and how long you like to wait before doing "stuff." Good luck!

Q: Hey everyone!!! Well, I am redecorading my room and I am going to do a tropical theme. I already have a tropical bedspread, some pillows, a calander, and 2 pictures of palm trees. Where else can I get some cute, and not to expensive, tropical stuff. Thanks everyone!!!!

Wander around stores like Linens N' Things or Bed, Bath, and Beyond. You'll find stuff to match your room, for sure. Have fun decorating!

Q: im a 13yr old female.
& my boyfriend is 18.
i have no idea what i should get my boyfriend for our one month aniversary. its on the 9th but i just have no idea what he would want. but its also his birthday and i know what he wants, but i doubt i will give it to him because he wants to have sex with me.

does anyone have any suggestions on what i should get him?

thanks.

It's been a month & he wants sex? Def. hold off on that for a while. I'd get him something inexpensive but thoughtful for the 1 month. Maybe a burned cd & a tshirt. Happy Anniversary.

Q: Whats a mob boss?

I'm not trying to come off as a smart ass... But honestly... a mob boss, is just the boss of a mob. The top dog.

Q: can your hymen break using a tampon? because a penis and tampon go in the same spot and i know your hymen breaks during sex..im confused

thanks in advance!

Yes, it can.

Q: so im on vacation at the beach yay! since weve been here i finally convinced my parents to let me get my belly button pierced, so i got it earlier today. its been good and all but i was wonderin.. will anything bad happen if i get in the ocean or pool? ill still clean it when i get out but will it hurt or get irritated or anything? what about puttin on sunscreen and stuff? lol i so didnt think about this earlier! thx guys

I know for a fact that after you get your ears piereced, you should wait atleast a week to go swimming anywhere. I'd apply the same rule to any piercing. Call up the place where you got it done, and ask them to be sure! Because it may be longer.

Q: im 21 going on 22 i got married at 20 and had a baby 8 months ago...i love my husband VERY much but i'v noticed that lately i have been looking at other girls a lot, and had a couple sexual dreams about me with another girl not anyone i know just a random girl...i am still attracted to my husband but our sex life has gone down hill i think it might just be the whole new parenting thing so i talked with my husband and he is not worried but i am a little, i mean am i a lesbian? or bi? or am i straight and just going through a phase?...please help

Your mind can play pretty crazy tricks on you. After hearing your story, I personally think... After having these dreams, you got into a mindset that scared you. You started freaking out & thinking I must be attracted to women? Or something like that? If your thoughts were souly trigered by these dreams, just remember you CAN'T control what you think while sleeping. So you have nothing to worry about. If I'm way off on this, I'm sorry. Best of luck!

Q: first off, i do not have annorexia or bulimia. i always watch what i eat & exercise a few times a week. the thing is, if i do eat something out or fattening, i am ALWAYS thinking about it & cry over it. i know i have to eat & i hate throwing it up, so i do not do those things. i skip meals a lot. what is it that i have?? i think i am afraid of becoming fat but a lot of people say i might have an eating disorder mentally & just don't follow through with not eating//throwing it up. i can't fix it. i've tried & many people say i am not fat. but i think i am & i also afraid of getting there. i'm around 5'9 & 145ish lbs. idk. any ideas??

thanks!!

They're right. Eating disorders are just as much mental as they are physical. Watching what you eat & exercising are good! But don't beat yourself up over one fatning meal. You are allowed to treat yourself! 5'9 at 145 pounds is the perfect weight! You see, someone who is 5 ft even is supposed to weigh 100 lbs. Then with each inch you add 5 more pounds. So you're right on the money with that one. You said; "what is it that i have??" and I'm really not sure how to answer that... Honestly I think you are fine. Just stop getting mad at yourself & concentrating soo hard on everything you eat... and I think you'll be fine. If you still feel stressed out by the whole situation, ask your parents and maybe they can find someone to talk to you about it. Nothing to be ashemed of. Good luck!

Q: I'm doing on project for English. I'm trying to find a picture of someone looking in the mirror and seeing someone else. Like she sees what she could be. Thanks so much!

http://delivery.gettyimages.com/xc/200434225-001.jpg?v=1&c=CFW&k=2&d=4B58254881E9B7B86EBA7ECE2FA8BE3C10621193DB58D674

http://delivery.gettyimages.com/xc/200382971-002.jpg?v=1&c=CFW&k=2&d=4B58254881E9B7B86518BA55738C349A74CAD5E0305E9055

If you don't like either of these, get back at me & I'll find a couple more.