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Q: 17/f my bf is 18

My bf and I seem to clash a lot. We live together, but he tends to get annoyed easily, he is impatient sometimes, and he gets mad for no reason sometimes. I, on the other hand, am very sensitive, have a lot of patience and have a high tolerance, but my emotions get the best of me and I break down. So when my bf and I fight, it's like none of us apologize, things are said, and we just ignore each other or act like we are separated. And I know it's partly my fault for acting the same way by ignoring him, but I end up hurt and lock myself in the bathroom and let my emotions out.. (Im a big crier). I really don't know what to do... We have been together for 2 years and sincerely love each other but during these moments, I easily get hurt and he sucks at comforting me... I hate when he gets pissy or anything along the lines of it, because either I start losing patience little by little, or I get hurt...

Am I just too high maintenance or is it him?

Thanks in advance.

honestly what you are discribing is how my ex boyfriend actted before i caught him cheating on me.

Q: Alright, my boyfriend and I love each other a lot and then a few days ago his ex calls him. He doesn't know why she wants to talk to him because he hasn't seen her in ten years. She won't tell him over the phone, so yesterday he went to go meet her for coffee.

He has a daughter. She's almost ten and all she wants for her birthday is to meet her father.

I'm not calling my boyfriend a lier because he never knew about his ex girlfriend being pregnant, and I don't think he's lying to me about that because we've always had a very open and honest relationship. He already told me he wants to stay with me, and that his having a daughter changes nothing between us.

My worry is, what if his daughter wants him and her mom to get back together? I'm freaking out about that. I know he loves me, but I know (even if he never knew about her) that his prioreties put his daughter before me. I'm okay with that, but I don't want to lose him.

I'm afraid to bring it up with him because it's still a sore subject. He went to go meet her today, and honestly I'm just freaked out. Could someone give any advice on how to calm down and maybe stop worrying over this?

Let him meet his daughter once by himself.. now if he wishes to continue seeing his daughter he should do a dna test and get some sort of rights. he will have to pay child support. but she will be able to meet you.. if he loves you he isnt going to leave you for his ex.

Q: Okay so I have a kitten..we took her to a vet and, among other problems, she also has fleas. My questions are:

Are they dangerous to humans?

Is my kitten going to be okay? (We put this powder stuff taht kills fleas on her and all over the house..yet, she still scratches..)

What do flea bites look like?

And finally, I heard cat fleas don't like humans, so all they do is bite us and fall off because they don't like our blood. Is this true?

Thanks!

ahh okay i haven't been bite by a flea.. but on the other hand my two year old son gets attacked by them BAD.. if you do get bit. you can use over the counter meds.. like hydrocrotisom (SP) cream, take a bath with johnsons baby shampoo all over you and use diaper rash med on it to dry up the bits.. any ways to get rid of the fleas.. walmart has cheap flea and tick shampoo cat bath sucks wear gloves lol.. any ways.. scrub really good use your nails and finger tips to work into skin.. get a flea coller.. and med on it.. now put your kitten in a cage and in your car... flea bomb your whole house with a coupe bombs.. read directions good.. good luck.. oh and after that make sure your cat doesnt go outside..

Q: My mother recently had her thyroids removed (both), and we have a question concerning medicines that she may or may not be able to take.

If you've noticed on some medicines (over-the-counter types such a cold and cough medication, etc.), it says "ask a doctor before use if you have a thyroid disease". Can she take this medication? Technically, she doesn't even have thyroids, so we were confused. I think she plans on asking her doctor at the next visit, but does anyone know about this?

Thanks.

we aren't doctors so best way to find out is, calling your hospital and asking to speak to ER.. then ask them to speak to a nurse.. and ask that nurse.. also talk to your doctor.

Q: My mother just recently lost her license for 6 months, however I just got my permit. If I were to be driving and get pulled over.. who would get in trouble? Both of us.. or my mother.. or just myself?
If it helps, I live in NJ.

you will. you know the rules that were given to you. if your mother doesnt have a valid licenses any more she doesnt count on someone who can ride in the car with you.

Q: 15/girl.

so i liked this guy for nine months and two weeks ago he finally asked me out. i was soo happy even though i knew he was a player and "soo many girls like him, he could have any girl he wanted". and he had told me he had cheated on a girl before but he said he wouldn't do it again and i believed him. and so we were going out for one week and we didn't talk everyday more like every other. and we don't go to the same school. but like one night i was talking to my friend and she was like yaa but he has a gf, and i was like yaa i'm going out with him, and she goes um he's going out with my friend, and i was like um since when and she goes since last night. so she texted him and was like your going out with both of them and he broke up with me when he found i knew. so i called him and was like you cheated on me? and he was like what? nooo. he so denied it. and my friend that told me, they were talking and he was saying how he didnt mean to cheat on me cause he wouldnt wanna hurt me like that and feels really bad and feels like crap. but he should be telling me this and he never wanted to cheat againand then i think he blocked my number or something? cuz like when i call from my cell it rings once and then goes to voicemail? why do you think that is? cuz when i call from a different phone it rings all the way. and idont know if he gets my texts but like just last night my friend was texting him and she mentioned me and he didn't reply or say anything. sooo i really don't know what to do at all???? like i really REALLY need to talk to him. and i don't know what to do because of his phone and stuff?
h e l p:(

I am married now and trust me I have been cheated on by more times you can count.. I came to the conclusion.. a man cheats on you one time lose him he isnt worth it. one day you will find a man who wouldnt to a thing in the world to hurt you. you may argue once in a while be he wouldnt disgrace you by dating another girl. you are better then the hun. you dont need a man to make you happy but it sure does help find that right guy. take the time to get to know them.

Q: When I blow dry my hair well try to blow dry it straight it just comes out poofy and thick. Its SO annoying. When my hair dressers do it they do it perfect. I don't understnd why I can't do it! What products should I use and just step by step instructions how to make it straight and not poofy! Thanksss in advance=)

I dont remember the names of the products so hopefully someone else can help you with that.. when blow dryer, blow dry it on low not high.. use a circle brush put it in at the top pull down hold it and blow dry while blow drying make sure you keep the brush going... i know you can find the stuff at walmart like certain shampoos you just have to read the bottles.

Q: I have been in a relationship with a musician since I was 14yrs. old now I am 25. We have two girls and I am pregnant now again.Occasionnally we like to have threesomes. Now just found out he went back to one of the girl's and made out with her. She told me they kissed and well almost had sex, but didn't happened because her mom was coming home. She told me he wanted her to call him so they can hang out once in a while. She couldn't bare the pain and ended up telling me. I asked him and of course he blamed everything on her. Now the only part is He was the one that showed up at her house, so obviously he wanted something else other than his girlfriend/ fiance back at home. I don't know what to do,...I want to leave him, should I? OH, AND another thing always has his phone on locked and on vibrate. Tells me his phone is his business. Is this right? or am I just another victim who falls in the hand of a cheater.

Honestly your a victim of a immature man who is fixin to lose his children, the mother of his children. I know i dont know him but ive been there. hell start accusing you of cheating. its sad cheating is stupid.

Q: im not sure if anyone can help but ill give it a try, ill give a little back round info.. i found out i was pregnant at 7 weeks i went to the hospital and i heard the heart beat i was feeling a little odd at 10 weeks so i went back and it turned out my babys heart had stopped.. with that said i had to get an abortion on july 11th i had spotting for about a week and half after that.. and i still haven't had a period since then.. does anyone no how long it takes to get back on track? how long until i should be worried ive had unprotected sex since then.. but i haven't had a period since the spotting witch is normal to have after the abortion so if someone could please help me and tell me when my period should be coming thatd be great, i just want to get it so i can move on.. thanks

you must live in a big city?? I live in kind of a small town and at 10 weeks and 4 days my doctor couldnt hear a heart beat so he sent me to get a ultra sound my baby is fine. he said usally you cant hear the heart beat until around 12-13 weeks. any who.. its takes about a month in a half after i gave birth to my son mine were all messed up.. try the pill.. so you can get regular if after a month in half your still not regular.

Q: How do you know when a guy is just using you?

he will usally call only when he wants something. doesnt want to hang out. doesnt invite you around his friends. treats you different in front of his friends.

Q: alright, well there is this kid nick, i liked him alot, but he wasnt telling me if he liked me or not, and last year this kid eric i liked alot and enough to wait, i ended up waiting 4 months now he doesnt talk to me, but back to nick i just didnt want this happening to me and him, so i gave up. now theres a kid name dillon, hes sweet cute and treats me right. his ex girlfriend jill was mad about me and him talking but she got over it, but her friend carol was told by nick that i played nick out when i didnt, carols mad and wants to fight me shes physco though, she keeps calling and calling me and threatening me i dont know what to do, help...

what you need to do.. is not care.. who you like.. who you talk to flirt with what ever is your business what should it matter to them. tell that girl next time she calls. tell her I am not going to fight you. im not scared of you but what your saying is not true. and who i like isnt your buisness.

Q: Recently, I just found out that the boy I've liked for 2 and a half years doesn't like me. But I don't know if he was lying because everyone is saying he is lying but I'm not so sure. And I've liked him for this long so I think we are meant to be. Please help me!!! I really do love him and I think I'm in love wit him.

if he tells you he does not like you.. he probably doesn't. i say move on.. flirt with other guys. youll defintlly find out if he likes you then because hell get jealous if your flirting.. then if he does come to you tell him. why did you tell me you didnt like me.

Q: Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl and yeah, here's the thing. So there was this one guy I liked who I hung out with who seemed really sweet and we had been friends for like a year. Anyway, while we were chilling we started to make out. He started taking it too far and when I told him to stop, he didn't. I tried to get away from him, but I couldn't. I mean, I was physically not able to. He completely overpowered me and I got really scared! He wouldn't let go off me and he wouldn't listen when I told him to stop. Then I yelled. Of course, after he saw that I was serious he stopped and apologized. I don't think he meant to do anthing, but still, I was REALLY freaked out. I never want to feel that helpless and weak again, and it really makes me sad for girls who have been raped. Because if I'm feeling this bad from that, I can't even imagine what they're going through.

I'd just like to add that I'm in shape, and I'm strong and stuff, but I'm a fairly small girl, and I just can't change that. Also, I have taken self defesne classes which I thought would come in handy, but they didn't. At least not in this case. And the reason I take care of myself and took those classes is because I HATE that feeling I got when that boy did that to me. I hate feeling weak.

Anyway, the problem I'm having now is that I'm really scared around guys that are like bigger than me. I just look at them and I think 'He could do anything he wanted to me and I wouldn't be able to do anything about it'. I even think these things about my guy friends that I've known forever. It's almost like trust issues? But it's also this pissed off feeling I get when I think about all those guys who take advantage of girls like that one boy could have done with me. It really makes me angry. What goes through those guys's minds? Why do they do that? I mean, I know they just want pleasure, but they have to know that they are hurting those girls in ways that aren't just physical don't they? Like why would you do that to a girl? Aren't guys supposed to use their strength to protect us? If someone could answer those questions, that would be great, because at the moment I am just so mad.

Thanks!

you should see a counsler and you should really tell your parents what happen. tell him he didnt have sex with you (unless he did) you were still raped. you helpless and scared.

when i was almost 13. I worked with a police program i told the community service children what to do. this kid raped me. i quit voulunteering there i was miserble scared i took off running and crying.. when i was 17 i moved to missouri.. I meet this guy we talked he asked me over and over again to kiss me i told him no no no then said i want to go home.. he kissed me i pushed away. i was against the door couldnt get to the handle i was scared. he got my pants off and stuck it in for second i cried and just stopped struggling after a while and gave in i felt like i let him do it.. this web site helpped me because someone told me i was raped. thers websites.. groups you can talk to he only had it in for a little bit but it was still rape.

Q: help me! this person in my class is threating to kill me! he keeps saying dont tell any parents or he really will kill me, and when i try telling them they dont believe me! what should i do?

you need to tell your principal and your parents and the police.

Q: what if i never get a peroid?

add some more in this. we can give you a better answer.. Age??

I started my period when i was 13 years old. after i had my son i started missing periods. once i went 4 months with out getting my period. (scared me though) lol. any ways talk to your doctor.

Q: This morning i woke up with a pain that started from my neck and traveled up to the back of my head to the side of my head. I dont know what this can be? does anyone know what this can be? as of now it is still hurting me =(

if you are like me you get stress head aches.. first.. i rub bengay its like a sports cream if you havent heard of it you can get it at drug stores.. it makes your neck hot but works wonders. my fiance used it the other day on his back after two days of complaining of a pulled muscle he said ar eyou secretly a doctor haha. any ways.. i also used to take advil liqud gel.. used to because im pregnant now i cdan only take tylenol :(

Q: okay. i didnt drink that much last night, i think it was just the mixture. i went from liqour, to wine, to beer, to liqour again.

now this mornin i cant even hold down water ! even if i see food on tv i throw up. i dont even have anythin to throw up anymore but my body still tries.

how do i stop !?!

Im not to sure but you can try tylenol. with ginerale and crackers drink very slow and eat tiny bits and slow... i no you cant hold food but itll help.. exceppially if you have nothign to throw up your throwing up acid.

Q: i'm going away and i'm probablyyy going to get my period, just cause im that unlucky...i just started using tampons last month towards the end of my period but i've never been in water with them...im afraid its going to just leak everywhere and be really embarrasing. im using tampax pearl..i can also feel it up there...i thought i stuck it pretty far up there...it didn't necesarily hurt (only when i took it out) but i felt it. do i just have to get used to it? or are you absolutely not suppose to feel it? thankyouuu!

I use the same tampons and I love them. Well im pregnant now so i cant use them for several months any ways last time i had my period. I went swimming.. just make sure you stick it in good before you go and you shouldnt have any problems. professional swimmers use tampons during practice meets etc. you cant help when you get your period.. not sure if this will help but when you take it out place your foot up on the toliet or bath tube squat a little and pull it doesnt hurt as bad.. mine used to hurt alot when i first started using them. but you start to get used it.. may take a while though.

Q: (im 12) theres this girl im n love with i keep dream of her i have this feeling that id die for her

that sounds like love. but you are also 12 years old back sure you take things slow. maybe ask your parents if they would be willing to drive you and this girl to the movies if they say okay ask her to go. or maybe go to a park together.

Q: 19-female

what are the chances of me getting pregnant if i am on birth control, have been for about three years now and i take it at the SAME time every day and the guy uses a condom?

with birth control and condom your chances are very very slim. there can always be a slight chance of you becoming pregnant but i doubt it. a friend of mine was on birth control for 7 years when she decided she wanted another baby she got off it and got pregnant right away. that was the depo shot though.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.