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Q: 14/f

I do NOT have a clothing style. and sometimes this bothers me because when i go shopping, i feel like i dont really know what i want. i have a whole range of styles in my closet from scenish to preppy hiphoppy to sporty, but i dont want a style that can be so easily fit into a stereotype like that. so how do i choose?
I know what you mean, I used to feel like I didn't know what I wanted, but now I do.
The best thing to do is think of about seven people (either people you know in real life or celebrities) whose style you really like and admire. Think of reasons to describe each of those people's style, and pick the three words that come up most.
Think of these words as ways to describe the style you'd like to have, and then look through magazines and on the internet and cut out clothes and accessories you like that fit those three words.
Stick them in a book and you'll probably soon start to see a pattern in the clothes you like.
Then, go shopping (take the book with you) and pick out clothes you like that fit those three words.
Hope I helped, xxx

Q: I'm Natalie and i am 14. All my life i have been extremely boy crazy even since kindergarten. I have had boyfriends and gotten the butterflies. Sometimes even when i had a hard day and i was depressed i would day dream about me and like the perfect guy being engaged... lame i know but it made me feel better. But lately i dunno when i see a girl i sorta get turned on, and that scares me. I am a full supporter of gay rights, and have many gay friends but i just cant imagine and i don't really want to be one... at all. I do have anxiety and alot of the time i just freak my self out and obsess over something... am i doing that? when i do freak myself out i compare girls to guys and it changes but when i say girls i freak out and im scared.Im also a big believer you dont choose to be gay, and since ive always been boy crazy... but what do you think? Am i a lesbian, bi,or just a crazy straight girl? please help!
I don't think you're a lesbian, although you could be bi. Have you ever felt sexually attracted to a girl? I so, you could be bi, but it could just be a one off thing.
I wouldn't worry about it if I were you, just carry on and see how your feelings develop, you may start to notice that you like girls in that way, but if so you're probably bisexual.
I highly doubt your a lesbian.

Q: any tips on how to get over a girl? not just any girl, the best girl ever. she was seriousely amazing... thanks :D
Well, I know it'll be hard, but first off all, you need to stop yourself being reminded of her. This might sound silly, but get a shoebox or something similar, and put everything that reminds you of her in there. This way you'll have memories to look back on, but won't be constantly reminded of her. Also, try to stop accidentally bumping into her and hanging out. If you don't see her much you'll start to accept that it's over.

Now, this will be really upsetting, but if you're ever gonna get over her, you need to feel sad about it and really think it through first. Remember all the good things you did together and all the things you liked about her. It may feel horrible, but you need to do this if you're ever gonna let her go. If not, you're just going to be covering up your feelings. Spend some time alone, thinking about when you met and how she made you feel.

After this, you need to stop mourning. Talk to your friends about it, and also make sure you arrange tons of things to do with your friends and have a good time with them.

If you're still wondering about anything, like why you've broken up or she didn't feel the same way (I don't know whether you were an item or not), write a letter to her, but DON'T send it. Screw it up after you've written it, because just writing it will make you feel better.

After this, be positive, think of things you want to achieve, and go do them.

Sorry it was long, and maybe seemed a bit silly. But trust me, it should help.

xxx

Q: I love using black eyeliner. I dont do it very dark or anything though. However after like not even like 15 minutes its already wearing/comming off and smudging. Any suggestions or any brands that work all day long? No links please! thanks :]
Liquid eyeliner is great because it stays put and hardly ever smudges.

Q: ok so i like this guy and hes a really cool guy. we used to flirt a ton earlier on in the year, but then we didnt have ne classes and didnt see each other as much. now we like never talk. ive tried to talk to him online or somehting bc i never see him, but he never answers. but now hes going to a whole different school, and i wont ever see him.
how do i keep this relationship going. i atleast wanna be friends. thanks for reading.
The only suggestion I have is call him up and suggest you meet up. If you don't want it to be just you and him, suggest he brings some friends and so do you. And after that keep meeting up with him outside of school.

Q: okay, here i go;
My dad. wow. a very protective guy. The other day one of my verry close guy friend called and we talked for hours. and ever since we've been talking on a daily basis. Were just friends, no more and never will be. I can only see him as a brother. But my dad doesnt 'approve' talking to guys. I mean, well that kind of sounds qweer. its hard to explain. i dont have a strict family at all, but when it comes down to this. WOW. My dad doesnt 'like' me talking to guys. he says ' at this age guys are very dangerous' . blah blah. Yes i know. And im an actually good girl. I rarely do 'bad' stuff . I know whats wrong from right. IM SMART. its just, my dad , ugh. How can i get him to stop and let me talk to my friends?!? its bugging me , and most of all, EMBARASSING ME.


please help! michp appreciated.

depressed Deana
It might not go down too well at first, but maybe you should ask your dad if you can have a few friends round. Yes, including boys. Tell him you know how he feels about you talking to boys, but that you can honestly say that your boy mates are not dangerous in any way and are good friends. And you'd like him to know what they're really like. Hopefully he'll eventually let you and he can meet your friends and see that they are absolutlely harmless.

Q: How long are you supposed to wait after a break up to start dating someone else?
There is not set length of time you're supposed to wait after a break up before sating someone else.
You should wait until you feel ready and don't have any feelings for the other person.

Q: There is a boy in my class that i like but he doesn't i like me i don't think well i know that he likes my best friend but she doesn't like him and he is always hitting on her and feeling on her and i am starting 2 get jealous bcuz she knows that i like him and she hasn't told him that i like him.we have only had a couple conversations and that was only bcuz i wear sex bracelets a lot and he said he will break one i mean i know i am not the prettiest girl in the world but i know i look better than her so why doesn't he like me. If anybody has any advice on how 2 make him like me pleez let me know.14/f. Sorry its so long,thanx
Well, first, talk to your friend and tell her how you feel; that you'd like her to not give this guy any sign that she likes him. I know she doesn't, but she could be accidentally leading him on.

Secondly, you have to remember that looks don't mean everything. You may be prettier than your friend but he might like her for her personality. You say it like the only reason this guy would like someone is because of their looks, so maybe you rely on your looks too much.

Get to know him better, show him your personality, be yourself and flirt.

Make eye contact with him, tease him and make him laugh.

And then see how it goes, maybe suggest you two go out on your own. A good thing to do is invite him out somewhere, and see what he says. If he says yes, he'll probably also ask who else is going. Say, 'Just me and you so far'.
And see what he says, if he suggests inviting other people, he may not see you as girlfriend material yet, but if he says, 'cool' or something, it's a good sign (:

Q: i feel really stupid right about now. Because this guy that I really like. WEll he tALKS TO ME AND STUFF. He shows me that he likes me. I know that he likes me but he's messing me up. He makes me feel stupid because he'll act like he wants me so bad and yeah. Then he'll go away and wont talk to me. So I feel very stupid. I'm 14 and I'm not used to this stuff. Guys are so confusing. I think about him all the time. I just want him. Thats all. He has to make it difficult. although I couldnt really picture myself with him. It would be amazing if it was possible at all.
It sounds like he's messing you around, and if he is, no matter how much you like him, he's not worth it, and you deserve better. My best friend really likes a guy and is having the same problem, and she's decided not to go after him because he's just messing her around.

However, although it sounds that way, he might not be, he might be confused about his feelings for you which is why he is acting like he wants you and then pulling away. He might be scared or nervous of getting into relationships, which could also be the reason.

I think the best thing to do is carry on getting to know him, try to be friends, but still flirt a bit.

When you know him better, ask him straight out how he feels about you. It sounds hard, but you owe it to yourself to find out. You need to know where you stand. Tell him that sometimes it feels like he likes you but at other times it seems like he doesn't. Ask whether he genuinely likes you or if he's just playing a game. If he says he likes you, then tell him you like him and see where it goes on from there.

Maybe try to spend more time alone with each other and just see how it goes.

I hope I helped and message me to tell me how it goes =]


Q: what is the meaning/difference of these words?

oral sex:
anal sex:
blow job:
hand job:

also, can a blow job and hand job be performed on both a man and a woman?

thank you very much
Oral sex is when someone sucks and licks the penis or vagina.
Anal sex is when the boy inserts his penis into someone else's bum.
A blow job is sucking and licking someon's penis.
A hand job is moving your hand up and down the penis.


Q: is it better to shut down your computer when you're not on it and turn it back on when you want to use it or keep it on all the time?
It's much better to shut your computer down when you're not using it and turn it on when you want to go on it again. That way, you use a lot less power and it's better for the environment.

Q: 15/F
Lately, I've been getting really popular, after my first year of high school (I'll be a sophomore now). Anyways, basically, throughout middle school, not a SINGLE guy liked me. Now, I have like a lot of guys wanting me, but thats a different story. So basically, my family doesn't think that I'm popular because of the way I was in middle school (but I wasn't like a loser...). Anyways, I hang out with all these popular guys that want me AND theire ppopular friends like every day now, but my family doesn't know about it. Should I tell my mom that I'm hanging around boys, because she knows them: I went to elementary school with them and she thinks theyre all "sweet." What she DOESN't know is that together, we drink, and occasionally get high. So if I told her, she'd probably suspect that we're drinking, and then forbid me to hang out with them.
I don't really think you need to bring it up. My mum knows I hang out with lots of boys, but not because I told her. If she asks who I was with, I tell the truth, and thats the only way she knows.

So if I were you, I wouldn't bring it up. But tell the truth if she asks who you were with, if she forbids you hang out with them, then hey, hang out with anyway and lie. But she probably wont mind.

Don't be afraid of having them round either. You're mum might say, 'I didn't know you were friends with them!'. Just say, 'Yeah, we're friends now. They're really nice/fun'.

Don't mention drinking or getting high, if she asks say things you did which you know she won't mind, and dont bring up anything else.

Q: help! im 13/f and ive been having hevay disharge dialy for like 6 months, and for the past 2 days its been brown? why? i dont have my period yet, could that be it?
It's very likely this is your period.

It's the exact same thing that happened to me. Often, when you start your period, the blood is brown.

Q: My screen name is really old and I need a new one. Can you guys help me think of some? My name is Jackie and my middle name is marie. It doesn't HAVE to marie in it though.

PLEASE don't give me ones that are all girly like
xoxJaCkIeMaRiexox or xXxBaByJaCkiexox
No offence if you like those but that isn't my syle. Like i really don't want x and o in it.

do you think thejacster is corny? lol
I don't know if you'll like this idea but some people use another word which usually isn't paricuarly nice but starts with the same letter as their first name. People I know have used words such as delirium, misfit, pandemonium, acid, seizure, massacre and stuff like that. For example, you could have:

JackieJaguar
JackieJealousy
JackieJeopardize
JackieJoyride
JackieJurassic

Hope I helped, xxx

Q: what do you value the most? and why?
Friends. They are the most important people in the world to me. I honestly don't know where I would be without them. They can always put a smile on my face and whenever I feel like giving up they can make me feel positive again.

I love my friends so much. They have helped me get through everything in life and truly are amazing.

Q: You are sitting on the ground, as your friend is sitting besides you, they slowly gets close to you and then grabs your arm and holds your arm and hug it as they lay their head on your shoulder and cruls up to you.
but thay are the same sex (females).
Do close friends do that to each other?
or is the one who is the toucy person is trying to tell you that they like you?
It really depends on the person. I know I wouldn't do that to one of my friends, but I know people that do that type of thing.

They are probably just a very tactile, touchy-feely person.

Q: My name is Amy. I need a new myspace name. And I want something with my name in it.

Something like: amyABNORMAL.

But I want something a bit emoish. Not something like amyAMAZING.

thanks so much.
Me and my friends do this with our names too! I know what you mean by not wanting something like 'amyAMAZING'. People I know have used words such as pandemonium, delirium, misfit, massacre, seizure, acid - stuff like that. So here are some you could try:

amyABANDON
amyABLAZE
amyABNORMAL (yeah i know you already suggested it)
amyABOLISH
amyABSTRACT
amyABSURD
amyABUSE
amyACID
amyACTION
amyADDICTION
amyADRENALIN
amyAFTERLIFE
amyAGGRO
amyALCOHOL
amyALCOPOP
amyANARCHY
amyANGER
amyANOREXIA
amyAPHRODISIAC
amyARMADA
amyARREST
amyATOMIC
amyAWOL
amyAZURE

Hope I helped, xxx

Q: ok so i'm 15m
theres this girl in one of my classes that i like. i wana ask her out but i just dont now if she likes me or not. she does things that i dont now if they mean she likes me. like she puts her foot like a mila meter over my foot and nudges it sometimes, or she flirts w/ me, or she's always tryin to grab my hand to draw stuf on it or like if i try to take somethin from her bag as a joke she grabs my arm and holds it for like 30 seconds before lettin go. but she also tells her firends that she doesnt like any1. so does she like me and whats a good way to find out if she likes me or not
It sounds like she probably likes you, but it could just be her personality. Watch her to see if she does it to all the other guys. If she does and she probably just thinks of you as a friend. However, if you're the only one she does it too, it's very likely that she fancies. Although it's not definite, if this is the case, then watch as she walks by with her friends. If they point at you or whisper to this girl then she probably has told them she likes you but they have said she doesn't because they don't want you to know.

When she's with you does she make eye contact? If a girl sticky eyes you (this is when a girl looks yu in the eye, looks down for a second, looks you in the eye again and then smiles at you) she definitely likes you. Does she flick her hair around you and laugh at our jokes?

To me it sounds as if she fancies you, but make sure she doesn't do the same stuff with all the guys first and then check to see if she does any of those things. If she does then ask her out. Good luck.

Q: I am 4'11. and wish I was 5.2 how I get taller
There is no way of actually making yourself taller except for seeng if you grow, but I'm short so am always looking for tips on how to look taller. You should wear outfits all of a similar colour, wear tight clothes, wear long jeans that skim the ground and wear high heels. Also, if you wear shoes the same colour as your trousers/tights it will make your legs look longer.

Q: does anyone ever cry their selves to sleep?
i know i do at least once a week.
is that normal?
PLEASE answer both my questions if you can.
thank-youu
-natalieee
I used to cry myself to sleep all the time but I don't anymore as I seem to be going through an ecstatically-happy phase at the moment. When I did used to cry myself to sleep though I had most of the symptons of depression, so maybe you should check whether you have any symptons. Search the net for 'depression screening test' or 'signs of depression'.

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