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Q: I got a ab lounger about a month ago and I was wondering if there is anyone that has had theres for awhile and could give me tips and things on using it. Did it work for you?

I was thinking about getting one. Please let me know if it works for you.

Q: I have these weird discolorations on my arms and my leg and my hand. I've told my mom about them and she says its from the sun but I dont think so. I dont know what they are and they make me embarrased when I wear t-shirts. What should I do?

It's probably sunspots. There's some cream that you can buy to fade them. You should probably start using sun screen. There's lotion and make-up that has sunscreen in them.

Q: how can i give up the foods i love like ice cream, dots, and soda. i've tried so hard but i cant, whats an easy way?

It's really hard at the beginning, but it gets easier with time. Everytime you feel like eating or drinking something you shouldn't, drink a big glass of water quickly. This will make you feel full. Once your body gets used to not having those things, you won't crave them as much anymore.

Q: I know this sounds totally gross but since I'm from Sicily Italy and i have really dark brown hair. There is almost black hair on my arms and I dont like to wear t-shirts cuz it shows off my arms and im afraid someone might say something. What can I do?

There are a few different things that you can do.

Lots of girls shave there arms, but they have to shave really often because it gets picky. (It's just a myth that it will grow back thicker or darker.)

There are lots of products that you can buy over the counter like hair removers, bleach, or wax.

A friend of mine had the same problem. She used to shave her arms, until she broke her arm and was in a cast for a month. She had planned on shaving again as soon as she got the cast off, but her boyfriend said he thought her arms were sexy just the way they are. So she never shaved her arms again.

Q: I have intense hair flaking. The skin on my scalp is coming off and causing dandriff. Its really gross and a few people asked me if I had lice and I said no its just hairspray but the fact is I dont even use hairspray.. This is really gross and Im constantly worrying about it so I dont know what I should do..

I used to have the same problem. The best dandruff shampoo is Denorex extra strength. It's about $9 a bottle and it really works. Believe me I tried them all.

Q: What do you do when you someone tells you the guy you like will never ike you should you give up?

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Should I give up?

No, don't give up. Who are they to say what the guy feels. As long as the guy you like doesn't tell you that himself, you've still got a chance.

Q: I have dark hair on my arms and I wanna bleach it. Do I sue regualr bleach like the stuff for clothes or what?

No, household bleach will burn your skin. There are special bleaches especially for hair. Check out the beauty supply section of the supermarket or pharmacy.

Q: okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions?

I can honestly say that I've never doubted God's existance and here's why:

I was born 2 months premature and the doctors said I wouldn't live, but I'm still here.
The doctors said that due to lack of oxygen to my brain during the delivery, I'd be retarded, but I graduated highschool with a B average.
The doctors said I'd never walk, but when I was 20 months old I finally took my first step.
The doctors said I'd never walk properly, but I became a Native American traditional dancer when I was 14.
The doctors said I'd need assistance to walk after puberty, but I walked across the stage on my own at my highschool graduation.
The doctors said I'd be in a wheelchair by the time I was 20, but I'll be 25 in a couple weeks and I've never been in a wheelchair.

My grandmother prayed for me when I was born, and though the doctors didn't believe I had a chance to live a normal life, my grandmother put her faith in something greater than medicine. My life and my abilities defied all medical science. Though I believe that I'm a strong person, I know that I didn't do it alone.

So if anyone needs proof that God exists, here I am standing on my own two feet. That's all the proof I need.

Q: ok heres the issue-
theres this guy at my school(lets call him josh) and me and josh always hang out at school. about the second day after we started hanging out, josh started to flirt with me. ALOT. the problem is hes a senior, and i think he has a girlfriend, but she doenst go to our school. should i flirt back???
thanks

There's nothing wrong with flirting. Just be sure that you don't let it go further than that if he does have a girlfriend.

Q: okay I really dont know what to do..
Heres a little(a lot) about me. Im not gona say alot of details because i know a couple people on here

Okay well im between 13-18 and a guy. I'm in honners classes but doing really bad in them. My parents expect me to be just like my crazy smart sister. My teachers just had a conference with my mom, it went really bad. MY parents are really strict, and they're not the understanding type of parents because they didnt grow up around here. Thats why i can't figure out a way of telling my parents I have ADD everytest I took online (about 25) said that i was ADD positive. Some people think I have it all because of their current job positions and family income. But I really hate my life, n o one knows what it is like to be me. I have 3 or 4 really good friends. But i can practically never hang out with them. I can't have a girlfriend.
I listin to my music all the time, and am forced to study because of my grades. I think of suicide all day, and I am constantly depressed. the other day my room was partially messy(bed not made) and my mom gets really mad( i think she is bipolar) And makes me tear apart my whole room and makes me stay up till 3AM on a sunday cleaning and i had school the next day. My life a always a drag, its basically a set schedual. I can't change anything I have to be what my parents want me to be otherwise I will be looked down upon.

I know I jumped from topic to topic im really sorry. please reply..i need peoples help

As far as the ADD issue goes, I think you should confide in a teacher or counselor at school. They would have the resources to have you properly tested, then it would be the school's responsibility to inform your parents. That way you'd have one less thing to deal with.

You should use your home situation as inspiration to do better in school. The better you do in highschool, the more choices you'll have for college. You could pick a college far away from home, so you could live on campus and finally have independence.

Q: First, let me preface this by saying that this is going to a bit long and that I'm not highly religious. I always believed that if you lived your life morally and right, God or the cosmos or what have you, would reward you in a way. You would be able to affect people's lives by the way that you live.

So I've lived my life well- I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, engage in pre-marital sex, am always kind, and work hard helping others, however, I'm losing my faith that its all meaningful. It seems to me that people in general are becoming too superficial. There is no more great search for knowledge and truth and TRUE beuty. People don't trust people anymore- always thinking the worst ulterior motive, even when there is none. I feel like I'm fighting a dying battle to keep a little bit of innocence and purity. Am I just being naive thinking that if I keep living my life the way I am, will "reward" me in the end? Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I the only one who thinks that we're not progressing but rather giving in to our most carnal urges? I'm losing faith and I know eventually all the people I help will feel it by the way I treat them. Your input would be appreciated.

Don't give up! That's the problem with society, so many have given up and that's why things have gone downhill. Don't live your life to change the world, just live the best life you can. If your efforts only touch ONE person's life in a positive way, then it's worth it. I applaud you for living a positive life. It's not easy to resist the temptations that we all face everyday, but you've done well so far. Keep it up. I truly believe you will be rewarded in the end.

Q: heyy, omg i am really gud frends with my frend...and well she has everything i have ever wanted..like shes so hot, has no pimples, darklong thinck eyelashes...and well nice hair...all the guys i like fall 4 her, she says she likes them after i do FIRST! then wen they ask her out, she says NO!! and i have told her 2 stop flirting with my crush but she does it even more...how do i stop the crazyness?!!

She doesn't sound like much of a friend if she continues to do something that hurts your feelings. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't stop, then she obviously doesn't really care about you. Maybe you should find a new friend.

Q: Too old for birth control?

Ok I must be the luckiest person on the face of the planet. I have been sexually active since I was 16 and haven't had anything horrible happen to me. I have been tested for AIDS on two occasions and have come back clean (teenagers can just be stupid sometimes you just pray it wasn't the wrong time).
I have abstained from sex for a year and a half. My period is very regular, but it is really heavy. It has always been that way. I am 30 ish and will be married next year. I have never been on the pill or any birth control other than condoms. My boyfriend is catholic (and I will be soon), and although he says its up to me, I wonder why do I bother with birth control now? Granted I want to be married at least one to two years before we have children, but the clock is ticking. I am very torn on this because everything seems to be in "working" order, but what if taking birth control wipes out any chance I ever had of having a child? And is anyone trying to use the temperature method to decide if its a good day to have sex? I know it isn't 100%, but I can't imagine just going haphazardly into this.

Going on the pill would be your best chance to make sure you don't get pregnant for the first year or two. But if you don't like the idea of going on the pill, you should discuss it with your husband and see if he would be okay with using condoms. Most men don't like to use condoms once they get married. I don't think birth control would mess up your chance of having a baby, but since you are 30 ish, I wouldn't wait too long.

Q: Ok for Valentines Day I am getting my boyfriend of almost 9 months a box of chocolates, a dozen lollipops that taste really good-have REALLY long stems-the actually candy part of it looks like glass, and a silver key with a heart engraved on it with our intitials on it (K+C). Is that a good idea if not what are some good ideas?

ps. NO colonge bc i like how he smells already, he wouldn't like a teddy bear, prolly wouldn't like a mix cd w. love songs on it, and no boxers (I am not sure of how his mom would feel about that)

I don't think you need any help in the gift department. You have some great ideas already, just go with that.

Q: hey..ok, this is akward but i need sum adivice lol. lets just say im not that big in the boob department. im 13 and most of my friends are like really big, i used 2 be bigger and now i have like shrunk or something! i got a paded bra, but now in the summer guys will see that im way way smaller in my bathing suit!! i heard chicken makes them grow...? :S

You are still young and they probably aren't finished growing. Just be patient. I know that's not what you wanted to hear so I'll give you a simple solution to your bathing suit problem. You should buy a bathing suit with a built in padded bra.

Q: Is there anything you can do to make your hair heathier. I deep condition my hair every other day. I've died my hair over 24 times and I know its really really bad and now I've stopped and I haven't died my hair in like 6 months, and my hair has almost grown out my the ends of my hair are really hard and prickley. I can't stand it, I use everything I can possibly think of to make it soft. I get my hair cut every month and I really don't know what else I can do. Any suggestions?

I have really dry hair and I use mayonnaise about one a month and it really helps. Put the mayonnaise in your dry hair, then blow dry it for about five minutes. The heat will help your hair absorb the mayonnaise. Then wash it out.

(If your hair is naturally oily, don't do this because it will make your hair really greasy.)

It feels gross but it works. I've been doing it for years.

Q: tommorow at school we'll have to do a run for 12 minutes and i have a soar throat. if i run for that amount of time my throat will taste like blood and i dunwant to make it worse so what can i do to fix my soar throat?

This is an old home remedy that really works:

Dissolve an aspirin in a glass of warm salt water and gargle.

Q: I am 16/f and my boyfriedn and I are planning to get married when I am 18, My bf is 21, but my mother said she wont except this marriage as i am too young and have to finish my education first. I dont want to hurt my mother as she is very upset. But i am absolutely in love with my bf and so is he. We are totally sure about this marriage. What should I do?

Once your 18 you don't need your mother's permission. It must be painful for your mother to not accept the love of your life, but it is YOUR life. Hopefully, in time your mother will come to accept your relationship. Follow your heart and everything else will fall in to place.

Q: What if you think your falling for your best friend and its not a guy and you know she BI do u tell her how you feel? or what Help i kno this sounds gay but please help!!

I think you should tell her. If you know she's bi, then she's the one person who will understand how you feel more than anyone else. Confide in her and see what happens.

Q: Do you think its wrong for a tenth grader to like a seventh grader even if the seventh grader is supposed to be in eighth grade? Im a female tenth grader and theres this male seventh grader thats hella kewl....what do you think?

There's nothing wrong with that at all. I say go for it.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.