what do i do when my mom says i trust you i just dont trust the world im almost 16 and cant ride around with friends or go anywere. i m not the kind of kid that gets into truble so i dont see the prob what can i say to her to get her to understand?
please help
Well, in some ways, your mom might be right. Mothers can be very overprotective, and I understand that. But you're a teenage girl. A lot of bad things happen to teenage girls. I think that your mom truly does trust you -- you don't seem like the type of person that gets into a lot of trouble and does a lot of stupid things. But, even the most innocent person can get hurt in some way or another. Talk to your mother and try to compromise. See if you can go out in group outings. Have her meet your closest friends, so that she knows who you're hanging out with. Have her talk to their parents. Make sure that you show her (not just tell her, but show her) that you're a responsible person.
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ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him
Well, there are a lot of risks involved with meeting someone in person that you've met online. A lot of times, these people don't turn out to be the way you hoped, or the way they made themselves out to be. I'd really suggest not meeting this guy at all, but if you feel comfortable doing so, make sure you take a few precautions:
-Always meet in a public place, not somewhere private. Don't go off on a private little walk somewhere, because this could turn out bad.
-Make sure a few people know where you are. If something bad happens, and you've told no one where you're going and who you're meeting, it could mean a matter of life or death.
-Don't do anything with this guy that you wouldn't do around, say, a younger sibling. That means no drinking if you're underage, and no drugs. It could impair your judgement and something bad could happen.
I'm not trying to scare you, but a lot of bad things happen when people meet like this. Take as many precautions as you can, if you choose to meet him.
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im a freshman and all the senior guys are all over me. its great but its kinda bad ya no. this really hott guy invited me to a party and there will b drinking drugs sex and everything there and i dont want any of the guys to expect sex or a hj or bj from me. do u think i should go to the party? thnx
Well, that's completely and totally up to you. It's obvious that you're smart -- you see all the possible situations and the risks involved with going to this party. Why don't you make it clear to this guy that he shouldn't expect anything from you? Tell him that you're just not that type of girl, and make sure he knows it by your actions, not just the way you talk. Take a look at what may be making guys expect things like that from you. Maybe you need to make a (very minor) change in your behavior? But that's your own business. My advice is, to make sure that this guy knows exactly what to expect from you -- and what not to expect. If you feel uncomfortable with anything he does, remove yourself from the situation (sometimes your safety may be at stake).
If you decide to go, have fun. But don't do anything that may impair your judgement (like drugs or drinking). First of all, it's illegal. Secondly, and even more importantly, you may end up doing something you'll regret for the rest of your life.
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will you marry me holly?
you-know-who
Hi You-Know-Who.
Maybe. Where's my ring?
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what do you do when you REALLI like someone but they don't see the true side of you cause all they are worried about is getting "some"..my ex b/f is like that and i don't know..it just feels like they are the only kinda guys i attract! what can i do to help let guys see my inner side?! i realli need help! thanks! i'll rate! =)
Well, when the only thing someone is worried about is sex, something's wrong with them. Your ex seems like that kind of guy (no offense to your taste in boys). A lot of teenage guys are like that.
I'll make this short and sweet. If the only thing a guy is interested in is having sex with you, get rid of him. That's not the type of guy that you seem to want, and you obviously don't need that type of person around you all the time.
Try harder to bring out your inner self. Maybe you need to dress differently. Maybe you should concentrate more on things that are important to you -- do you go to Church? Are you interested in music? Do you like school? Do you like joining school clubs, or sports? Immerse yourself in things that you enjoy doing and you'll probably attract more boys that are interested in the same things you are.
I hope that helped, if only just a little.
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this afternoon i was out with my boyfriend and we were sitting in his car, making out. well, things were getting kinda heavy and i thought, "i dont want to do this," but instead of saying that i proceeded to have sex with him. i'm really scared that i might get pregnant. i'm really scared. what should i do?
First of all, you should never have sex if you're not totally comfortable. If he made you feel uncomfortable, or if you felt as if you were being pressured to do something you didn't want to do, there's a huge problem somewhere.
But this is in the past and you can't change it. Now for current problems.
If you're scared that you're pregnant, that most likely means that you had unprotected sex. Which, of course, is not cool in the least. If you did have unprotected sex, I hope that your guy "pulled out" -- that is, removed his penis from you before he had an orgasm. That gives you even less to worry about.
If you used a condom or were on birth control, or he pulled out, you don't have a lot to worry about, but there's still definitely a chance. I'd suggest seeing a doctor as soon as possible -- especially if you begin to show symptoms of pregnancy (the first sign is usually missing a period).
Another important thing to do is have a talk with your boyfriend. Talk about what the two of you would do if you are pregnant -- are you financially and emotionally stable enough to raise a baby? Would he take a part in the child's life? Would you rather have an abortion or place your child up for adoption? It's very important to talk to your boyfriend about these things.
If you begin to suspect that you're pregnant, or have an STD, you should talk with your parents, and a doctor. They can help you figure out what needs to be done in order to keep you healthy and happy.
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Ok there is a guy a like aand he thinks I'm cute and he and his friend asked if my friend and I wanted to go swimming and we said yes. But should I change my mind? I'm scared because what I fall or trip or something.
Sincerely,
CameronLover1
Well, it's a double-date situation, which is always good. This means that you won't feel pressure to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.
Keep in mind that these boys (and your friend) are probably all just as nervous as you are!
All you need to do is calm down. Remember that this guy likes you because you're you (and he's probably got awesome taste). Be yourself, and don't sweat the small stuff. If you worry too much about it, you're not going to have fun!
If you honestly don't feel comfortable going swimming with this guy, tell him you've changed your mind. If he truly likes you, he'll understand.
I hope things go well!
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