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Me and my gf got along for one year. we been going out for.. but lately it`s gotta very grry. we broke up cause of this. But got together saying we wouldnt fight and all. well agrue. I love her alot. But i dunno how to talk to her bout it. She`s a lovely girl. And she loves me also. Can we still make this happen? Or is fate telling us this is all we have?
16 f Canada

All couples have their little arguments. However, you shouldn't always be warring with each other and if it's getting physical or extreme, it's time to take a meaningful step back.
The best way to start is by thinking of why you get angry/defensive. Even if you didn't start it or are being wrongly accused, fire just feeds fire. If you know something is going to set you off, you need to figure out how to recognize it's about to happen and finds peaceful ways of dealing with it.
Then, with your gf, you need to have a discussion of how you can make things improve. This discussion has at least three rules: 1. No accusing or hear-says 2. No general statements (saying "let's not fight" is nice, but unreasonable as a total statement) 3. The discussion never ends. If you feel you've covered the big stuff, then agree on ending that session of discussion but remember to leave the option for further discussions open. Nothing is set in stone and sometimes the unexpected happens.

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I have a friend, well he's actually a sisters friend, but I would also consider him my friend and I'm sure he would do the same. He's in 9th grade and I'm in 10th. One day while we were out we were on the topic of God and he said he didnt believe in God. He says he thinks Jesus existed but that he was just a normal guy. He said if God existed then he wouldn't have diabetes.

Now I want to educate him about God and help him accept him into his life. I feel it is my duty as a Christian to guide him to a better life with God, because you are supposed to help the people who don't believe. He is a really sweet boy, and I told him that I was going to teach him and he said "you can try but it won't happen" so if he said I could try I'm going to make every effort too!

My problem is I don't know how to approach it. How should I start off with this teaching and showing? I've considered asking my pastor but I decided to come here first. Thanks for any help!

While your concern is rooted in honest caring, what you're asking for is selfish. Yes, his reason for not being Christain might be unreasonable for the teachings of the bible, but it is his reason. As stated by some others, preaching to him will only him turn away from you.
Besides, last I checked, Christianity preached forgiveness, love for one another, and lack of judgement upon each other. If he is an honest person, I am sure he has a better chance at a wonderful afterlife than many "sinners" that hide in religious cloaks.
The best thing you can do is continue being his friend and please, for the sake of others, be a action Christian, not a thumpin Christian. Repeating passages from the bible means nothing if you don't follow them.
This is from a christian to eclectic my-own-religious-beliefs person, who is quite happy and comfortable.

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Ohkay, please no stupid answers. But one of my guy friends said that "there is nothing better than to hear a girl moan when ya finger her". does it come natural to moan or do you jus do it to make the guy happy?

There's two questions here...
Yes, moaning can greatly enhance the pleasure of both parties.
No, moaning isn't necessarily what you're going to get.
Many girls do moan to show they're enjoying what is happening. Sometimes they moan to encourage you and/or themselves. Sometimes the moans are fakes. And finally, some girls will make other or no noises.
The only way to know if you're "making progress" is to talk to the girl. Ask her if what you're doing feels good and not be offended if the answer is no.

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Sorry this is kinda long but I need the help!

Last night me and a couple of my friends were hanging out with some guy friends from school at a football game. And during the game I realized that I liked the one guy as a little more than a friend. And now I want to go out with him. But the problem is I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me. (and im not the kinda girl that just likes asking him if he does). Him and one of his other friends were seeing who could get more hugs (kinda childish i know) but I kept giving the hug I like hugs and everything along with one other friend. One of his friends said that he should go out with one of us and alls he said was 'they all like me too much.' So my question is what should I do I really want to go out with him? Or what can I do to get him to like me as more than a friend? Or whatever else suggestions you got I'd like the help!
Thanx

I know it's been said a million times, but foremost you need to just be you. Doing things just to get attention is lying to yourself and him.
Above stated, be nice to him and don't be afraid to be a dork and find extra ways to cross paths (without denying who you are). You already have an advantage by being his friend, but that also can go against you. You may be one of his buddies rather than a friend. While this would mean he already has moved closer with you, it's pretty well impossible to be one of the guys AND a girlfriend (they require different levels of commitment and behavior that generally are not compatible).
Don't forget though, being one of the guys or just a friend that's a girl is a pretty nice place to be anyways. If he's not interested in a little more, you're going to need to accept that, no matter how hard.

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I'm a twenty-one year old girl in love with a forty-seven year old man. We met at church, went back to my house on only the second time of meeting and had sex. After that he has been distant but kind. He says he feels afraid of his own disconnection. I don't know why, but I feel more for him than I have felt for anyone in a long time. I miss him when we're apart, even though we're not dating and I play it cool, determined not to crowd him or drive him off. But do bachelors that age remain bachelors?

Sometimes, sometimes not. I don't think his bachelor status is the main issue (even if possibly an issue).
A person that really cares about you is not distant. I'm generally antisocial in person, but with my fiance I am about the most affectionate thing in the world.
Of course you feel a strong connection to him, a "mature" man has given you personal and private attention. You are not alone and this is perfectly natural.
While the age gap isn't complimentary, I'm concerned more about the fact he had sex with you on the second meeting. Regardless of how kind he is, that was just irresponsible and likely the reason he's cool towards you. I bet it'll be hard, but the best thing you can do is accept what happened as a mistake to learn by. Next time an older guy, or any guy, is interested in you, take it slow. If they can't wait for you, they're not worth it, no matter how kind or lovable otherwise.

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first time you have sex is it better to have it with a virgin or a already experienced guy?

It doesn't matter. First, it's unlikely you'll know the difference (even "experienced" people can be inexperienced). Second, if you're ready to have sex with someone, you're not going to care if they've done it before, they just need to be willing to share the pleasure.

btw, virgins still can have STDs. How people define virginity differs among individuals and many people think you only lose it with penetration. While this isn't exactly a wrong answer to be had, many people don't realize oral and humping (no penetration but contact) still counts as sexual activity and still counts for possibility of extra stuff being transferred.

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okay well this guy and me have been "together" fo about 4 months... hes never really offically asked me out, but i guess you could say were dating. im a really jealous person and i was looking at his myspace, and he added 12 new people (all girls, and all very pretty) he said he doesnt talk to them, and that i look better than them, but im still very jealous... should i be mad/jealous about this?? and also... since he hasnt asked me out (officially), do you think theres a chance he might ask me to homecoming? hes not talked/been with any other girl except for me, since june, so is there a chance he might ask me? also, what are soem hints i could give him to let him know that i want to go with him? thanks a buncH!!

I'm going to start with the bottom, as in the simplest.
A really good hint is asking him. We no longer live in a age were woman are considered wenches for being bold. So there's no reason except your own fear to stop you from asking him.
Yes, there's a chance he might ask you, especially if you are at least a friend to him and especially if you're together. But why not ask him yourself?
STOP looking at the myspace, now. It's just making an already existing problem worse. So what if he has girls listed and they're pretty? My blog has buddies that are men, doesn't mean I'm suddenly going to get the itch to run off to them. Besides, if it's making you feel insecure, you really need to have a mature discussion with him. That means no accusing, no hear-say, no raising voices.
It all comes down to one thing though and to put it bluntly (again), you're an insecure person. I suggest talking with either your school counsellor or just get an outside one. I know it's not exactly cool, but depression and suicide aren't that far from daily insecurity.

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hey i have a problem. wel yesterday was our school dance, and i hated it so much, because of some stuff that happened. what happend was that there's 2 guys that i like. 1 of them i like A LOT all the time, but the other guy i just think he's really hot and i just really really really wanted to dance with him. this other guy that i like all the time, almost every girl in the class likes him, and i know he likes someone that likes him too, but i know that it's not me. 1 of my friends realy liked him too, and yesterday he asked her to dance. and then after that i was gona ask him to dance but then right wen i was about to my friend asked him to dance, and i was really sad. and then i thought "this dance is the worst dance ever!" but then i thought "well there's i stil have a chance with that other really hot guy tht i've been wanting to dance with." and i know that this guy really likes me and everything, because we went out twice before, and he stil likes me and everything, and i stil like him, but everytime we go out we dont feel comfortable around each other, so we keep braking up. so then we talked a lil, and he we both wanted to dance together and everything, and he kept on coming up to me and tryed to ask me to dance and everything, and i was waiting for him to ask me, but he kept geting too nervous and just walked away without asking me, cuz he didn't know that i wanted to dance with him, and that i still like him too. it was the worst dance ever. i didn't get to dance with any of the two people that i liked. so for the next dance, what should i do to get them to dance with me? especialy the 2nd guy? and is ther anything i can do to get over them? please help! i rate high!

First, consider why you like each. You seem to be drawn to the fact that they're "popular", which is natural but horrible as a reason for having a relationship. Tell this to yourself everytime you want to get friendly and force yourself to take it slow.
When the next dance comes and you've got your eyes set on somebody, wait for a break in the dancing (as in the end of a song) and walk to to the person and tell them you would enjoy a dance with them. If they don't want to dance with you, it's their loss and let it go. I'm sure there'll always be someone nice and willing to dance with you, you just have to be open.
As to the second guy, if he's interested in dancing but afraid to make the approach, quit waiting and offer to dance with him. But if you always are uncomfortable with each other, you either need to have a long and open discussion about why or just skip on having a more-than-friends relationship with him.

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