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Q: I guess maybe i should control my feelings the attention I love to get just for the safe side i shouldn't expect much from him.

well if you really dont want the relationship ya both have to grow you should try seeing how much your life will change once you dont get attention from him. If you really miss it, then just keep things the way they are, but if you want to build on the relationship show him you care also.

It all depends on what you think is right, follow your heart dont let anything prevent you from what you really want inside.

-hope i helped =]

Q: 15/f

i havent been feeling all that good for about 3 weeks.

like last week especially. i could smell things, and they always smelt really really strong, especially my boyfriends colonge.
i threw up one morining. and the day after that i almost did.

my boobs hurt like crazy for the past 2 days. like barely touch them and i might scream.

and i know i just got a cold. but its only been 2 days. i dont think its related.
do u think something could be wrong with me or am i just overreacting.

-current meds. are birth conrtol and sometimes nexium.

any advice is appreciated.
thanks in advance.

you have some pregnancy symptoms.

- throwing up.
- smelling stuff different that usual.
- and sore breast.

i may be wrong but it doesnt hurt to take a pregnancy test if your sexually active.

-hope i helped =]

Q: i want to lose weight, and i need to.
i go to the gym and i try to run a mile.
and i usually do run the mile.
but i need movtivation to push myself farther and go for 2 miles or so.
and motivation to keep my from not eating so much, like if i try to eat a light lunch i go home an eat alot.
i need ideas please help.

well the only person who can motivate you is yourself. Think about the differernce you will achieve and how happy this will make you.

what i do is pst these quotes on stuff i use daily, so i read them regularly.

"If you dont do whats best for your body, you're the one who comes up on the short end."

"It's not whether you get knocked down; it's whether you get up."

"Rule your mind or it will rule you."

"The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking places."

"The time for action is now. It's never too late to do something."

"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going."

-hope i helped =]

Q: i'm currently like a 9 or 11, in jeans.
depending on the brand.
how long do you think it iwll take me to get to a 3 or 5.

and what can i do to accheive this?

thanks

Frankly You may never be a size 3 or 5. But what you can do is Just excersise daily to burn off the calories you eat everyday to avoid storing it. Inorder to know how long it will take you we would have to track everything your eating and stuff. I recommend dont think about a size you want to be, just see how much you can actually achieve. who knows you may achieve more that what you expected, all you have to do is commit, and be willing to do it for yourself not anyone else.

hope i helped =]

Q: really or maybe I just like the attention?
Is it normal to fall for a guy like him?
SO how would i act if I haven't fallen for him.
Would I bother to check my emails?
I always think you would get addicted to that
and so does that mean i am actually jealous when he gave my attention to other girls?

yeah thats true since your used to it you expect it to be there for you always, thats not something good though since if he moves on you'll be dissapointed. Think to yourself do you really like him because when you realize it, it may be too late. I noticed you really enjoy the attention he gives you, and it sounds your really into him i guess theirs something holding you back, may be hes not all that attrative or you dont know how others would react. All i know is that if you really didnt care for him you would be pissed off to see soo much attention your way from him you'd feel like he's a stalker. its hard to explain but its really normal to fall for a guy like him since he's so nice im guessing you have never been treated like this and you really enjoy it.

Q: - Sorry its so long

Ok so i have a friend who is like OBSESSED with this guy named ralphy and they used to go out and stuff but they broke up. She says he loves him. Ok so the have sex and i guess this is what she does to try to get him back. I have a feeling they wont EVER get back together because he likes this other girl but isnt dating her because her mom wont let her. Ok so he practically uses her. She doesnt realize it. The gurl he actually likes still hangsout with him and stuff but whithout her mom knowing. My friend constantly tells me she wants to kill herself when she either see's them together or finds out the were together. Im really scared for because he doesnt want her anymore and shes going to end up hurt in the end. Wat should i do to help her out?

comfort her and show her you care =].

Q: I have a guy friend and he wanted to have me as his gf but i just dont have that chemistry for him. So, we are settle for only a friendship not relationship but i know and everyone says he still has feelings for me, but he doesnt mention them because he knows I don't have them for him and he truly loves me as a sister but maybe a little more and everyone tells me it's just going to take some time to get all of the "more than a sister feelings gone. I accepted him to be my brother cuz my real brother never cares for me but i have said before for being just brother and sisters is not a forever thing sooner or later we would have our own separate paths to go.

Anyway, the other day he wrote me a poem saying Life is short:

It takes a min to find a special person
I hr. appreciate them
A day to love them
Entire life to forget them
Send this poem to the people you 'll never forget. It's a short message let them know you'll never forget them. If you dont send it to anyone in a hurry that means you've forgotten your freinds.

I have egnored the poem and the next day he asked me why you stopped emailing me are you upset? He said something wrong? pls tell me I would change and if so im sorry.

I replied him back and said why would i be upset?
I was just busy.
I started to open up and share stories and talked about my day.

The next day he sent me another poem saying:
Friends are like stars
You can't always see them , but you know that they're there and they shine brightness when all seems dark.
Thank you for being my friend.

He also sent a teddybear pic and saying if I would like a teddybear for x-mas.

So, is he saying he'll never forget me and we should really enjoy the friendship while it last?

I dont know why it seem to be a big thing to him. Have he given up on me and settle to be a brother? or maybe he is still trying?

I know I dont like the way he looks. He isnt' handsome but everytime when I recevied his calls, emails, or poems. I'm thrilled and i feel special. DO I actually have feelings for him?
or maybe I just like the attention?

I know if I dont hear from him for 3 days I would wonder what happened? I would start miss hearing from him cuz we been talking for 6 months everyday and it seem I'm addicted to checking my emails daily and knowing he would call me everyday.

I'm not sure if its the addiction but when he added a new girl just on fb before and msg her i would get curious who she was and would get mad at him. ( well now he doesn't do that anymore) but
maybe is nature that women likes the attention and i just feel he had given part of my attention to the other person and that's why
i didnt liked it but that doesnt mean i was jealous and like him right?

p.s
I'm not sure if i want to get into a relationship but is it possible that ill fall for him one day?

well to me it seems you have fallen for him, just dont want to admit it since hes not that good looking. idk but he is defenitly sending you those poems to show you he cares about you and eventhought he sends you things about friendships he would love to say much more. Its just since you showed him you dont have thoses feelings for him it would be like for nothing.

-hope i helped =]

Q: I have an amazing boyfriend who loves me and cares about me and wants to be with me. The problem is that i still think about my ex sometimes because he was my first real boyfriend. Should I hold off on going into another relationship because of my ex or should I go for it and take a chance on this new relationship?

well it depends on if you still like him and if you two have a possibility of being together again. If not just stick to your boyfriend youll eventually get over your ex.

-hope i helped =]

Q: I really like this new guy at school. Sometimes I feel like he likes me back. But my friend likes him too! We have some much chemistry and everything. Then I ask my friend if she would be mad at me if I dated him. She said no but then she said she wouldnt be a great friend to me! But then I think ok then what if you date him? Will I be great friend to you? She always thinks of herself! What should I do?

well your right she is only thinking of herself. you should go for it, what if he does like you and doesnt like her, its just a matter of moving on. if it doesnt work out then she should give it a shot.

-hope i helped =]

Q: Okay, a little info on my bff: She's 16 and has major depression. She is on anti-depressants but I don't think they are working.

So, there's this girl that my bff was good friends with. But on Saturday (11/17), the girl died in a car accident. My bff has been really down lately and her family doesn't understand why she's sad (I mean, they know about the death but I don't know...they're not supportive, I guess). I don't know what I can say or do for her because I'm really just clueless as to what to do.

Can anyone give me suggestions? I don't want her hurting herself or thinking about suicide or just depressed overall.

And to put a spin on this: I'm not allowed to see her (so says my mother O.x) but I see her at school and I can e-mail her (although she never checks them) and I can definitely meet her in the morning (6AM ish) at the playground...so that's about all the contact I can have with her.

15/f

try to comfort. Tell her things she wants to hear. Maybe speak to her parents and let them know whats really going on, my friend was going through the same thing and lately she had been better than ever its as if she was never depressed. Just show her your there for her and she can count on you she will appreciate it.

Q: I currently Photoscape, which is okay for the most part, but i really wish i could use photoshop.
I've had the free trial of photoshop on my computer and it was great! Until my trial ran out, though.
Is there any way possible that i can get it, and keep it, for free?
I don't care what version it is.
Thanks so much in advance. =]

yes. you can get it at download.com and inorder for the triel to stay their for free leave it open for like 24 hrs. worked for me and all my friends.

-hope i helped =]

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