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I'm Christina 25 years old I give very good advice when it becomes to being questions about being married,babys,pregnancy,abuse,career,adhd,depression,life,ect

Ive been through a lot in my life 14 years of counseling and sex therapy my life wasn't always perfect i was adopted by my grandmother as a child didn't find out til i was older my mother was living with us and she got away with things when i had my daughter at 20 I had no choice but give her to a family my mother was abusive to me yelling at me i was taking care of my grandmother but i was living at home i was engaged to be married but every thing didn't turn out right the man i loved lied to me so I had to change and not be life my family be mature move on and get away some family can be controlling that it can ruin your life that the best thing you can do get out get counseling I I graduated high school in 2003 and then i went to art school at art instruction school and dress making design i became a plus size model help from a friend I might have not had help in some ways of life but friends were the best in my life i looked at their life and that what i wanted my grandmother was just getting old when i reach a certain age my mother did drugs that one resin I left my sister were the same I wanted to to be their they wanted me to be like them well i did not want to be white trash so i toke some lady classes to be classy,graceful,independent this made me more of a women of my image and people like you when you have good manners good taste and can carry a conversation and can get along if you want to change you can god is one of the people that help me through every thing I might have had to give up on things but some times you have to make them better you might end up with nothing but along the way you get the things you need but things do not come free in life and you just cant sit their let in come to you. you have to get out and do it your self or you will not live the dream. god gave us all a talent live it do it become it never give up . my mother killed her self and overdosed on pill i was their and my grandmothers deathbed at least I seen her before it was time for her to go she was a good women she gave me good advice she and her husband owned a bar my grandmother was married twice but her first husband died then she was widowed and was poor then a man came in her life she lost her son at his age 13 my grandfather past away also but my grandmother was hard working women she would get work done if you didn't she could do any thing Im like her she didn't go to art school her dad wanted her to. but she got married instead well i did the art thing for her i got it from her her teaching me and showing me as a child as i will always love her never give up the people that showed you life and love its the main key to life I grew up having adhd still l have it to this day dosn't mean your dume it mean you got talent and you always have ideas running throw your head walt disney,the guy who mad charlie brown all had adhd woppie goldberg,mary kate and ashley,ect no ones is alone in some we we are the same but we all different image is nothing never compare you self to ant one be your self be healthy exercise eat healthy and you'll be happy thank you for reading this have a good day. my webpages myspace/ANNAIKA my email chrissibug@yahool.com

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ok so i have been dating this guy named matthew for about nine months and we have been through alot together....my family recently just fell apart and i got sent to treatment foster care to work on stress and how to relate to a family positively so his mom is going into training to get as licesence for foster care so she can have me in her home i really love his family and i have become so attached to them his neice and nephew call me auntie and everything......anyway i found out last night that he was cheating on me i really love him and it kills me inside to know i cant be there when he wants me to but i dont know what to do if i leave him i have no where to go and his mom would just be wasting her time i dont want to let her down.....i really need help im so lost female/16

well to really tell you. you should just stay you cant still break up with him and still live thier just talk to his mother.his mom is helping you and benng in foster care if you leave the state will pick were you live and thats not always right some kids get moved around alot. so you should stay were you are worry about your future in your education love can come after you still young you got a long life a head of you, and if your working on stress they should have you see a therpist this will help you to coupe with stress its not to be mean but its good for health issues and what you said what happen in your family.and if he cheated on you move on this means he not good to trust its probly just best to be friends when guys are young they dont mature like us women until they no what love really is what being honest and faitful that i what love is some guys do understand some dont but its the fact of life. when you think your word going up side down mabee you need to foces on you and do somthing for you self get a hobbie go for a walk go get your hair done this will help keep stress out and stop worring you gotta keep your self bizzy so it dosnt bother you hope this helps bye.

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I attempted (for the first time) the smokey eye makeup look and I have no clue if it is right... so help me please to understand if it looks right (or some-what right? haha)

http://img32.imageshack.us/my.php?image=rscn2108.jpg

http://img193.imageshack.us/my.php?image=rscn2106.jpg

its not too extravagant, very subtle with some glitter.

please and thank you :)

i have a book on all make up by a a famous make up artist i bought at a book store but i can help watch this clip ita a girl on y tube she a pro on smocky look http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aiK8ylf8Azs i would tell you how i do know how but its best to have some one show you likthis video clip you can find alot of tips on utube also

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I'm running into some hard times in my life. I fell in love with my wife pretty much at first sight. The problem was that I didn't have a lot of experience with relationships. I didn't do things properly and I let my family get to much of a say in our relationship. They didn't like her from the very beginning and didn't even try to be nice to her. My mistake was that I didn't stand up for her like I should have. which led to a lot of problems between us. we started fighting and have split up multiple times. we now have 2 children but we recently split up again. when we split up I was devastated but instead of just being hurt I took out that hurt on her. I called all sorts of names and refused to talk to her for a while. but we recently started talking again and when we were talking on the phone everything seemed like it would be ok. but then we met up again and she said that seeing me changed things. that she didn't feel the same for me. I love her with everything in me and can't stand to let her go. but she isn't sure if we can be together again. I need help with what I should do. I'm lost here. I can't breath I've been having panic attacks I'm losing everything with her gone

well mabee because its a turst issue and you need to tell her how you feel and tell what you just wrote for you question telling her that you loved her even though your family didnt care you tried but you might have not have sen it till now you just hav to ask her forgiveness that all you can do

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What are some foods I can eat every day to lose weight?
Also, what are some foods I should stay clear of? I know the basics, like, chips, chocolate, candy, etc.

What I mean is, what kind of main meals should I eat that would help me lose a lot of weight?

I would like a flat stomach, no need for abs.
My stomach looks something like this:
http://www.ratemyeverything.net/image/5162/0/my_belly_top.ashx

Except it is quite smaller than the one in the picture. My most trouble spot is the area right under the belly button and above the vaginal area.
Thank you so much in advanced.

well eat fish chicken turkey burgers stay way from some greasy foods and pop boy friends a chef he feeds me so I kinda know you can but stuff like chicken and tuckey in meal like taco in stead of the hambuger meat so it less fating and eating small portion help to and becareful tras fat thier still fat in the trans fat stuff ok hope this helps and try white rice to

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I have a back strain from cheer, and its been hurting for about 9 days now. It hurts to sit, and sometimes walk or sit. I cant do any exercising, because simply walking causes pain.

I have been trying to get in shape, but it's hard when i cant work out, even easy stuff! I used to go to the gym a lot or play wii fit every day after school, but I don't know what to do now! Any suggestions how to work on loosing weight when I can't even move much? It's very frustrating! Thanks!

well you gotta take it easy on your self and only work out 3 times a week always stretch before working out ok this help so you dont strain somthing and take it slow at first and take a break in between you should only work out 20 to 30 mins and try pwer walking it not so hard on your body ether be carful cheerladng i understand you have to be flexable but do you stretch before you cheer to allways stretch for that to if you do it every day it can ache for days so that why i mean take it slow then in tow weeks try doing faster but dont do it every day let your body rest some times ok.

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so i am the most anti school person you could meet. i hate schhol and togetherness. i am funny in a dirty way and awkward with adults and it takes lot of me to charm people. i am exactly what colleges DO NOT WANT. my gpa is arite nothting amazing in fact below avereage but my sat scores are ok. i have no personal connections with teachers in fact i dispize teachers. i feel i am as differetn as they come. i have views on things and i stick to them.kinda. howveer i am very diverese in a way. WHATEVER basically i am not unique enough for college and i do not knwo what i want to do with my life. i am a very good write thats porably all im good at(and fashion) i want to know how to stand out for a college.

i want a really werid summer thing to do thatwill justenhance my differendness.

please help.


any mind my typing, my keyboardis really broken thus, screwing up my spellling.

thank you,
a selfhating egotistical student

well any buddy can go to college look at this way ok every ones got a talent I didnt like school but i worked hard but try a school online were you can doit at home its cheaper i went to art instuction school and i did it at home on my spare time no math no english just art i have a degree from thier see its not hard if you dont like big class rooms i went to penn foster to dress making design no math english just learning about clothes how to make them alot of college give people. try the art instuction school ok go art instuction school.com it only cost me 100 dollers a mouth to go thier they give you what you need in the mail they can teach about fashion coco chanel went to that school but you do have to pay 300 dollers up front but thats good payment for some people a mouth some people cant pay thousand up front better to be on a plan so go to this sight some will come to your house but first youll get somthin in the mail and you have to draw somthing for them then the you put in the mail and they will call you some wil come to your house show then your drawing and then will be in the school in no time ok i tell you what its easy but you really have to never give up ok drawing not that hard they show you how if you need in any help or advice please email me chrissibug@yahoo.com I love to give advice if you need it ok.

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I'm going to ask as simple as possible, haha. Basically I have to dye my hair black to cover some missed spots. I need to use a red tint though, because there are green tones in my hair currently.

Should I dye my hair black THEN add the red, or should I add the red now, THEN do the black? (It's already black.)

I've never had such a bad hair dye job and right now it's pretty terrible. There's spots missing and it's tinted green. I'm sure you can imagine, haha. Thanks a lot for your time!

you should use a red but if you mad a mastake you should have some one help you do it and you have to be careful use color like lorel ir somthing or go to a beauty salon they can fix it it might cost you 30 dollers but if you dont want to make a mastake leave it to the pro some times if you leave the dye in your hair to long you can get the wrong color always read what on the paper thats on the box ok light tinted reds might be good for your hair but if its allready black do it black then wate a month to dye it light red the lighter the you wont have a probem with ok have a friend get the spot that you miss it hard to do it your self trust me i have did it but i can do it my self but i use a mirror hope this helps ok.

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Hey there,
I found this girl on the net and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE her hair!! WHO is this girl?! and HOW can i achieve this look?!! Please help! (It is the fourth photo down on the page) Thanks :D
http://images.google.ca/imgres?imgurl=http://www.beautyclubs.net/notice/20070207_curlwaveisback/curls_4.gif&imgrefurl=http://www.beautyclubs.net/zboard/view.php%3Fid%3Dnotice%26page%3D1%26sn1%3D%26divpage%3D1%26sn%3Doff%26ss%3Don%26sc%3Don%26select_arrange%3Dheadnum%26desc%3Dasc%26no%3D16&usg=__RK9ZlkhYas26_n-aBx7srNp4t6I=&h=176&w=242&sz=42&hl=en&start=54&tbnid=IZuCssF3MB1TQM:&tbnh=80&tbnw=110&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dhow%2Bto%2Bmake%2Bnatural%2Bcurls%2Binto%2Ba%2Bfro%26gbv%3D2%26ndsp%3D18%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26start%3D36

yes if you use smaller curlers and tited them yes they will that will work but you can even get this look for a one day thing if you use a smaller curling iron it might take and hour buts gives the same afect

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Hey there all
Okay heres the thing I had a plan for my life and now when the plan should be near completion - I had intended on passing my college course and becoming an event manager! I have just found out that the chances of this happening r pretty slim so now what I need to know is does anyone have any advice on what I can do next to figure out what I want to do?? I am for the first time in my nineteen years without a plan and I don't like it!!
All help is much appreciated!!
lxxx

well you need to look it to more things you can be a manger in any thing really and that good but if you dont like it do somthing that is a talent you can do ok you gotta work your way out try volintering or somthing this helps do somthing

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My 30 yr old sister, ‘Sara’, has a five year old daughter, ‘Emma’. Sara has never held a job for more than a few weeks, when she does work, but mostly stays unemployed even though she got her bachelor’s degree a few years ago. My mom and dad are now supporting her and her daughter 100%. They pay for her to live in a quaint little house that my Mom pays the mortgage on, pay for preschool so that Emma will be ready for kindergarten, pay for utilities, food, and clothing for Emma, etc. Sara used to do drugs. Meth, we assume. She seemed to have quit when Emma was born. We are suspecting that she may be doing drugs again, but don’t have any strong reason to suspect. Emma appears to be well cared for and spends a lot of time visiting my parent’s farm, 45 minutes away. She is happy, smart, and healthy. Mom and Dad are just about broke. Both are supposed to be retired. Mom doesn’t even have health insurance. They certainly can’t afford to be supporting Sara and Emma. They’ve talked about getting a reverse mortgage for their farm. They have threatened to force Sara to move out to their little house in the middle of the nowhere is Sara doesn’t get a job. This is a bad option for all. Mom hates the school district and there would definitely not be any jobs out there. She used to live in a cheap apartment, but Mom and Dad ended up paying for that, too. My older sister says they need to just sell the extra “city” house and let Sara figure it out on her own from there. This would mean a lot of work for Mom and Dad (to fix the house up, move Sara out, etc.) plus, they won’t let their granddaughter be thrown out on the street. If you ask Sara what she plans to do, she either yells (at Mom) or says she’s trying. For two years she’s been saying this. We have no good or solid reason to take Emma away from Sara, though I would love to. Emma says her mom just lies around and sleeps all the time, but Emma shows no signs of neglect. Sara is very manipulative and would somehow convince a therapist that Mom and Dad SHOULD keep supporting her (she’s manipulated therapists before). What should they/we/whoever do?

then its time you go to your mom and dad and say its time for her to grow up and get her own life they need to take things away and give her chores and tell her if you want to have thing it time for you to get a job or your on your own tell them you can help mentor see if people are babyed thier whole life they never learn and when mommy daddy die she cant be baby any more

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Okay, I'm in a year and a half relationship, and I have many problems.
Okay, I am completely inlove with my boyfriend, who is 18 years old, and sometimes, I get these mixed feelings, for an old boyfriend who is now 22 years old. I don't know what's wrong with me, my ex has a crotch rocket, which I am a sucker for, and I think that's why I have mixed feelings.
When I am with my current boyfriend, nothing could seperate us, I love him irrationally. He's amazing. Then, I can just hear my ex, coming on his crotch rocket, or in his truck, and I smile, ear to ear, its like I'm on cloud nine.
However, he's sort of a whore. He fools with many girls, some that I know are whore's themselves.
I don't want to have these mixed feelings, I love my boyfriend, he's amazing, however, he's leaving for college this summer, and I'll only see him on weekends.
Idk what to do, I miss him, but I wouldn't leave my boyfriend for it.
I just want any type of advice.
Thanks.
I just need someone to talk to.
Thanks in advance.

then if you do like him and you have mixed feeling just date him for a year then your love will grow learn to no him better

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so my friend kept tellin me about this guy "bob" about how he has bad uck and is looking for a good girl. I have dealt with some bs from guys lately and she kept telling me to come over they live in a frat house type kinda thing. well when I was supposed to come over "bob" would always ask if I was comming and that he was intrigued. I have met him once before but we was drunk. Well I went there this past weekend and got drunk. my friend asked "bob" to make sure I got to my car and got out ok... Well we sat in the kitchen took a few shots and he started to eat something he asked if I ate and I said no she he made me eat. there was one more chicken nugget and I still had one in my hand but he wouldnt eat it he said he was giving it to me. well he walked me to my car and i realized i was pretty drunk and couldnt back my car out so we was outside talking and he kissed me well he talked me into staying there well we slept in the same bed just kissed and cuddled, the next morning he walked me to my car. i didnt get his num or give him mine cuz i didnt kno what he thought. tonight he came in and went to his room and was looking the other way my mom got mad because i should of been like hi bob. i will be there this comming weekend for a party what should i do. i wanan get to know him more

be lady learn to have manners people that act trashy are the owns that party and they flash ect when you sleep at a guys house and that the first time you seen him it kind gives you bad rep on your self not to be mean it just some people learn the hard way real women that are classy elegant dainty real men that are nice with manners like that ok hope this helps

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I feel like I have done a significant amount of work in peripheral countries for my age. Peripheral is the correct word for third world just to keep everyone on par. I started at 17 teaching English and Health in rural Argentina and Bolivia. I am now 20 and have spent over a year in these areas. I found out today that one of the kids I worked with starved to death. I am just at a point where I'm wondering whether it's worth it. It costs me over $3000 dollars a year to be able to volunteer. I'm a triple major in Spanish/Political Economics/Latin American Studies with a Portuguese minor. Can one person really change anything? Am I wasting my time? Most of my peers have decided that spending their money on cars and parties is more worthwhile. I'm beginning to think I'm the unrealistic one. Guevara died and South America remains in poverty. Ghandi died and the India remains an impoverished country. Should the privileged just enjoy their wealth? I'm sorry if this seems like a sob story. I'm just looking for evidence that there is some progress being made, and I can't find it..

yes it worth it its just that some people dont save money write well america is gettin better its just the ways thing are going things are inceasing but mabe you should teach at a college you would get paid more college give more benifits just you gotta look in to things ok

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He very rude and hurt my feeling becouse i am deaf and different

well no one should do that to you deaf people like your self can do a lot no ones perfect when some one does to you say thank you they no it wont bother you just some people don't under stand until their in your shoes tell him if you were me you would feel hurt to some times it good to get involved let people no whats your life is talk to your teacher or principal and go in front of the school and tell people what its like to be different see thing like this works do a demonstration on this a girl at my school did this I have adhd so I do no what your going through try doing some of your talents like in your good in drawing or get a hobbies this get to you out and bout people will say mabee she is ok you just got get out thief show them whos boss if you really think about it doctors have study's this every one really has a disability in different ways some alot of people are famous that were diffrent walt disney,woppie goldberg,charles shaltz because they used thier talents what god gave them I went to the art school were charlz shaltz made peanuts i did somthing with my life Im a artist a plus size model that to my friend that use to be a model and im a webdesigner its good that you are diffrent people that are diffrent are more interesting then the boring people and you no about 5 years a good thier was a girl that became miss america and she was death see so can you use your talent be cofendent and happy wit your self go get your hair done your nails done learn to walk in heels diffrwent people can do more things then the boring people never give up ok hope this helps if you need more advice email me a chrissibug@yahoo.com

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im trying to lose about 7 pounds (have lost 5 already) been eating reallllllly good the last couple weeks and tonight im going out to eat with my family for my sisters birthday. i was wondering if its a big deal if i eat bad food? i was thinking ill probably get a hamburger and fries or something and ill try not to eat too much of it maybe half and let my family snack off mine. is this a terrible thing and is it going to set me backk very far? is it okay to do this once every few weeks? i dont want to wake up tomorrow a fat coww =\\ but ive got to have something delicious once in awhile right?

well if you what to lose pound you do need to eat but try eating a small portion try grilled foods instead of fryed foods fryed have alot of grease try veggie burgers turkey or chicken this stuff is not fating eating fish is good to you gotta watch what you eat and stop drinking pop it takes 50o calories to lose a pound in a week but if you can the 5 miles every day you lose the 500 calories calories and carbs add up but you still need some just not alot you just have to be sticked try runnig a MILE 3 TIMES A WEEK AND DOING 100 sit ups always stretch before doing exersises if you eat small portions like a potatos and a salad that all you need that a small portions stay way from desert and chocholets this is a big no more carbs and calories it take week to rub it of so keep up the good work ectaly if you run in the morning this help you start you day also if you woke up before work getting ready for work then take your shower when you do things for you self you feel cofedent in your self ok bye now.

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What are some up and comming unique designers that have websites. Thanks!

well go to myspace and look for the fashion designer under jobs youll find it you can find it on twitter facebook ect

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I am looking for a *CHEAP* recording studio near or in Fort Wayne, Indiana. I can't find any and I looked everywhere! Don't tell me google because I already looked

well if you go under myspace or somthing under jobs and look under recording studio or just type in unger goggle looking for a cheap recording studio thier are lots of people that are in the busnissess on myspace facebook twitter.com hope this helps

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this is my myspace. http://www.myspace.com/toxic_paper_flowers

how can i change that white border line on my green page? thanks

go to coolchasers.com you can make your own backgrounds if you want a white background just look under like yahoo in backgrounds uder white backgrounds copy then paste them on to you computer in you pic file or go to and a good way is get photobucket it helps save stuff like backgrounds and pic so you can do what you want hope this help it will go to you myspace background when your done it will show you when you get to coolchasers.com ok bye

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I just really need to find what the best smelling and longest lasting body wash. i also wanted to know what the best thing to use to apply the body wash.

i use this body wash it has ponagrantite it from the brand called soup its a body wash and you can use it as shaving cream it smeels good and it good for your skin hope this helps

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my best friend is very pretty(no homo)i am also considered very attractive but when we are at school and i am beside her i dont feel attractive at all.most of the boys like her but they like me too.i always feel like i am in second place which is considered to be a loser in my eyes.my friend has a cute shape and a pretty face,i have an average shape and i am also the biggest girl in my clique.i used to be so confident in myself now i don't know what happend.i act arrogant to hide my real self.how do i make myself feel more comfortable in my skin and how can i talk to her and let her know how i feel?(13/f)

well for one you need to learn to live your self and stop trying to compare your self with others you need to look in the mirror and say im a pretty person i cant let any thing get to me you just need to work on thing with your self being cofedent in your self get out thier take a walk go shoping these are ways to injoying your self you get your hair done goget a tan go to the gym see when you do things for your self you love your self so dont put your self done it makes you worry about alot of things always try somthing new try wearing heels learn to walk in then learn to become a lady these are a way to make a better you hope this helps

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