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I'm a 15-year-old aspiring journalist. I'm also really into singing, acting, debating, musical theatre and playing the piano. I was raised an Orthodox Jew, but I consider myself somewhat of a Deist (belief in God as a distant figure who isn't involved in personal life). I learn from my mistakes and give advice based on what life has taught me and general knowledge.
E-mail: berniegh@aim.com
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myspace needs to die. it randomly deleted me and 9 other kids!! i dont get it, we didnt violate the rules or anything.

it has happened before and then a day later it let me sign back on. but its been a day and i still cant get on it. i checked my link and it says "this user has either deleted their account or it has been deleted" yeah well im really pissed i dont feel like making a new one.

did this happen to anyone else and what can i do about it? (link)
MySpace sucks. Get a facebook.


hi im 16/f & i need some tips on wht should i do for my 16th b-day party? thnx byee!
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If it's a sweet sixteen, you can do a masquerade party. That's always fun. Or black and white, with you wearing a really bright color. Those are just a few. I can give you more if you want.


has anyone got there acne cleared by using nutrogena products? (link)
I use Proactiv. It works amazingly.


Heyy everyone! :D
im Hailey (link)
I actually spoke to a guy about it today. Guys usually like it. They like to protect girls and if they like a girl and the girl tells them that they like them, they're over the moon. I also know a guy who, when an ugly girl walked up to him and handed him her phone number, decided that she was really hot.


I am not a very bright person! Whenever I try to bring up a conversation, people always tell me that what I say either isn't right, or very "professional" but I try hard to make it sound that way. I am usually trying to sound that way at my job when I want to join in on a conversation my co-workers are having. And every time I do, they look at me really retarded and I am thinking to myself they must not think I am very smart. I don't think they have ever seen the "smart" side of me since I am always doing clutzy things at work, and trying to relate to what they are talking about. I hope that makes sense, so I am asking if anyone has any tips on how I can sound more professional without looking like a total idiot? Thanks.

[And if it helps] I am a very talkative person and the only way they talk to ME is if I start to mingle with them first. (link)
Big words are good, but don't use too many of them. Also, compound sentences are good, but don't make them run-ons. Don't repeat yourself and feel free to use contractions! You sound like an immigrant when you don't. Just express your thoughts clearly and concisely and you should sounds smarter.


15/f - Canada.

Alright I just eat a big bag of Sour Skittles..(the 151 g bag) and I was fine and then I was eating the sour powder. A few minutes after I coughed and pink stuff came up. It has a bit of an odour to it and I don't know what it could be. Also I've been suffering a sore throat could that have something to do with it? (link)
I don't think it's anything. You probably just ate too much, and since it's sour that makes sense. Have you eaten anything else today? You might want some protein.


I'm not big, but I'm not small. I weigh 118llbs and I'm 5'3. I don't have a HUGE Gut, but its big enough. I do run track, but I need to loose my gut fast, at least by the end of February. Please help! Thanks (link)
You sound thin. Just do 100 crunches every night and your stomach will get flatter.


[so its the same story as the last one]
I like this guy named ryan,but i think he only likes me as a friend(i think).is there any techniques i can do to flirt with him so he will LIKE me LIKE me? (link)
If you have boobs, wear a low cut shirt. That ALWAYS works. Start to dress...not really slutty, but a little nicer. Make yourself look pretty with makeup (not too much though. Natural looking should suffice). When flirting with him, laugh a lot and don't be afraid to touch his arm. Look him in the eyes and make sure you always look like you really enjoy being in his company. That should work. Come back to me if it doesn't.


this did not happen to me but im just curious. if someone like fingers you or something against your will [say if youre drunk or even if youre not] is it still considered rape? (link)
That's molestation.


ok, so here's my problem.... My name's Nikki and I'm in a relationship with a guy, lets call him john. Me and "john" have been dating for the last couple of months, and i really like him, but the other day, i was at my cousins birthday and he had invited some of his other friends over and there was this one guy there that i started to like, lets call him kyle. but anyway, i dont wanna break up with "john" bcuz he gave me some stuff for christmas and it's really special to me and if we break up, then he'll want it back and he broke up with his old girlfriend to get with me and i dont want to leave him alone, but "john" lives in connecticut and i live in texas, while "kyle" lives in the same zip code as me. and i really like "kyle" and i want to get w/ him, but i'm not sure if i should. and i just kno that john will be really upset and hate me for the rest of my life and we'll probably never talk again, and I might move over the summer and i dont want to miss my chance to get with "kyle". before you send your advice, keep in mind that I DONT WANT TO CHEAT ON ANYONE! please help me.....
~Nikki~ (link)
Long distance relationships usually don't work. They're really hard to work out. If you don't love John, break up with him. Since you live so far away, you have permission to do it over the phone. Then get with Kyle.


I wear the O2 optix contact lenses- and I always get crap stuck in my eyes and I don't know how to get it out. No one else has this problem and it drives me INSANE!

So does anyone know how to get stuff out of your eyes without removing contacts or using eyedrops or anything? (link)
I have those contacts too...never happens to me. I guess all I can say is make sure you empty out your case and make sure your solution's clean evrey time you take out your contacts. Also, don't apply makeup (wait...are you a girl?) after you put on your contacts. Hope that helps!


okay this might get long.
i wear glasses and everyday i wear my curly hair into a ponytail.
i have two friends i'd always hang out with: luisa and jen
so here's how it goes
the boys in my english class (it's after lunch) always talk to luisa and jen. friday a boy named chad tried to 'kidnap' luisa, and earlier that week he was totally hitting on jen. he never like bothers with me - nobody does. i don't wear makeup and i hate fitting in.. should i start being different to be noticed? i've never had a boyfriend in reallife because guys never noticed me - what should i do? (link)
If you want attention from guys, you should try to look pretty. Get contacts, do your hair, wear some makeup. Trust me. It works. I know because I used to be like you. In 8th grade, my principal (and I go to a Jewish school) said "You're very pretty, but you don't show it. You should wear nicer clothes and maybe try some makeup." From then on, my life changed.


My boyfriend of almost two years dumped me a week ago. We haven’t spoken since. I was sort of expecting it so all he said was “I can’t do this anymore. I’ve had one foot out the door for months.” I didn’t want to cry in front of him or get angry, so I just told him he could leave, and he pretty much ran out.

Now, I know I want him back. I know I miss him. I feel like most of our problems existed entirely in his head, but I do accept that it is over and there is no way we are getting back together. I’m a little confused though. I wish I’d listened to more of his explanation so I knew just what he was thinking (and that he doesn’t hate me, have no respect for me or think I’m a total idiot... all those nice things you are supposed to reassure someone of when you dump them.)

Should I e-mail him and ask for his reasons? Just to put my mind at ease. I’m not sure he could actually say anything that would make it easier... Or should I just let it go and keep on not speaking to him at all? (link)
Let it go. Don't speak to him and ignore him. It'll make everything a lot easier. Maybe even try looking at other guys. Not dating, but just looking. Being single is a lot of fun. Just have a good time with it.




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