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Q: Ok well my sister is a cosmotologist and she does my hair and stuff. Well I want to dye the bottom layer of my hair dark and I'm not sure what color 2 get. I am naturally a strawberry blonde, and my mom would freak out if I got black hair. so PLEASE HELP ME! if u could include pictures that's b great. Thanx. i rate.

just dye your hair black on the bottom layer and then blond on the top layer i swa some girls with that. Just tell you mom why you want it and stuff. If not just dye your hair after you dye it what can your mom do?

Q: OK ... basically ( i know this is gonna sound so stupid) i have never kissed a boy and now i have a serious b/f for 9 months and i realli wanna kiss him but im afraid i'll mess up. all i kno is that u dont just pucker up do u liek open ur lips and kiss his top lip or sumthing i need help

Ok just tell him "I want to kiss you" then maybe him might get the drift or just look at him in a kissy way. if that does not work. tilt you head a little and then lean in and kiss him. Really easy

Q: every once in a while (but not too much) I go to some sort of fancy dinner and I always get so confused when the first course comes with my silverware. Which fork do I start with? Usually I just use what the person next to me uses, but what if they're waiting for me to use a fork first? it could become very very confusing.

Just calm down and take a deep breath and think where everything goes if you need help as the people around you.

Q: which works better to lose weight
yoga
pilates
aerobics
running

thanks!!

all of then are great but the best would be aerobics
running

Q: I have a friend who I like very much, but who has a habbit of asking me to call her because she's feeling low at really incovenient times. I want to be there for her, but it becomes problematic when I feel I can't fairly say no when she asks me to call for a few minutes because she's feeling low, even it's like 1am. If it really was a few minutes, it would be fine, but once she has me on the phone she's impossible to let go, because every time I talk about having to be up in the morning she talks about how people always seem to let her down when she needs them. I do want to be there for her, but I do need to sleep too, and I simply can't survive on talking till 2am or later every night to get up at 7am. How can I be firm about needing to get off the phone without offending her?

clamly tell her. that you will always be her friends and help her but you need some sleep also she needs sleep to maybe thats why she is so down.

Q: my mom totally does not trust me and i said sorry a billion times i cant stand it. ik i havta earn her trust bak but every time i try it doesnt work..she doesnt lemme do anything!! i am 14 and she says im too young to be haven bfs i have one and she doesnt even let me hardly so its ruining our relationship all becuz i did this thing with him that she found out so she thinks he pressurs me. he does not..it was my decision. then she tells me how i am out of control and "going down the wrong road" i cant take it!! my life is scrrwed up enough and i am suffering thru depresiion she just makes it all harder. i cant take it its my life i want to do what i want and she holds me back on anything. wheneevr i talk i seem to get in trouble so i keep my mouth shut and my whole family cant stand it. all they do is yell at me, i think im gonna run away.

just sit down with you mother and talk too her if she starts yelling ask her why are you yelling? What have i done? then get the whole family to sit down and talk

Q: Hey, my girlfriend and I are really close and i love her so much but lately she doesnt seem as interested in me as her friends, i don know maybe its just me but it feels like she doesnt like hanging out with me anymore, even though i know she loves me. please help me.

She probley just needs some time to hang with her friends. She still loves you but she just needs time to get to know herself again.

Q: I'm 'sort of' a shy person. Especially when it comes to the guy I like. : p
I don't even know if you can call it shy..I just get nervous around him and just mummble. Whaaaaaaaat can I do? I never have the confidence to tell him anything, and I never know what to talk about. Help? : ]

sometimes that happens just write him a note(s) asking and telling about things. After a while you might get to know him by the note and ask him out or the other way around

Q: My best friend (katie) has a new friend (lauren) that i hate!!! and lauren hates me so much she calls me a B* and a lot of other things. i tell katie but she doesnt believe me cuz lauren has her under this dang spell or something! my other friend (brea) hates lauren too and they hate eachother. and me and brea are trying to show katie how awful lauren is by pasting her some mean things and ... but katie is too like obsessed with lauren to even care. shes always like "lauren is jus in a bad mood or w/e" and me and brea know how she really is but katie wont believe us! what should we do!? -Erin & Brea-

sit katie down and tell her whats up and happening or make movies and recor thing and show it too her. If that does not work just let katie do what she wants she will soon see how mean lauren is. If she can't see that lauren is mean don't hang out will katie or even talk to her she will soon get the drift.

Q: heyyy every time i straigten my hair in the morning it takes like an hour and its like sooo perfectly straight every morning...but then at school its humid andd it gets all curly and looks bad. do you know why it does this? is it cuz my hair kind of has a natural wave to it or cuz my straigtener is not good enough?? if you know anything thatll help this or why this is happeninng lemme know thanks

my hairs the same way but worse. it is curly ans wavy and when it gets water on it, it puffs up. so what u do is get frizz stiff and put in on ther then straigten.i tried that with me hear it woked ok ut not really so i am useing a straingtener color thing so it should work on you too. it cost about 15-18$ at target.

Q: Hey guys! My first day of skool is Thursday (9/02) and I go to a trade skool( I just transfered into it for soph year). Im taking auto repair and I'm not really sure wat I'm supposed to wear. I know I'm wearing jeans. And im goin to wear a T-shirt. But should it be a cute one or just a normal one? I mean it is the first day of skool but its still goin to be messy shop. And wat should I do for make up and my hair? Up or down? K.. thanks guys!

well i have metal shop and on my first day of skool i am wearing a dress.So just wear what you want. but there is oil and stuf so you should wear jeans and just a normal shirt then in p.e or sometime later change in to something else.

Q: (13/f)

i windsurf a lot and i compete a lot to. so next friday i have this competition and i qualified to compete with older people. which means im going to be the youngest one windsurfing in the competition. and well im REALLY nervous..does n e one know what i should do to calm myself down for the race next friday?

thx

you should like in the mirror and say "I won before so i can do this" and just tell yourself to clam down and then take a deep breath.

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