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Q: alright i'm 15 - and i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. i'm still a virgin, and plan on keeping it that way until i am ATLEAST out of highschool. anyways, we haven't had sex, but he HAS fingered me. and i've bled before -- maybe because he was being aggressive, but maybe because he popped my cherry. i was just wondering if i were to go to the gyno, whenever i decide to go, if it would look like i wasn't a virgin anymore because my hymen could in fact be broken. like, would he/she be able to tell that i haven't had sex? or would it look like i have?

I think that they know whether you had sex or not. And if not who care's if the doctor thinks you had sex with a guy. I mean if it comes to a point where the doctor tells your mom or dad that he thinks you may have had sex, and you say you haven't. Tell him/her that a tampon must of did it if you don't feel comfortable saying that your bf fingered you.

Q: this is a long story but i got 2 give background info!
so a week from saturday i was at shool (its like jewish church) and i saw this boy and had my ffriend entroduce us because she knows him from baseball. usually i have nno problem talking to boys but around him i got so nervous. i couldent say three words so i walked away. then this saturday i saw him at the park so i went up to him and asked him if he wanted to go to a party that night. he said sure and so i asked for his # and said id call him with the details. he gave me his cell # and i texted him that night and gave him all the details. he actually came and i came about a half hour after. when i got there i asked him if he wanted to dance and he said sure. we danced for a while until he had to go. he was talking to one of my guy friends and said he wanted to kiss me. but i wasnt ready for that because i didnt know him. so before he left he leaned in to kiss me so i gave him a kiss on the cheek. and while we were dancing i told him i had a huge crush on him. but some people were talking that i wanted to make my ex jelous. but i couldent care less about my ex. the boy i was dancing with, he has the most amazing eyes and hes so nice i just want to be with him. but i think im scaring him off. i dont want to play games and wait until he texts me or whatever. he knows i like him. and yesterday i texted him twice but he never answered. and today he texted me back and i was like im nvr gnna c u again and hes like i gtg do hw now bye. so now i dont know i dont really want to lose him but im pretty sure he just wanted to hang out for a night. i could handle that though. i just want to know your opinion about the situation thanx!

It seems to me like you are rushing into this way too fast. I mean you just met him a week ago-ish and you already feel like he's your soul mate. Men and men and some men just want what is convenient for them at any given time. And what was convenient for him at that time was you. I seriously do not want to seem harsh but it's the truth. To me it just seems like it was a little fling i guess you can say. And i personally think you sound like you deserve better than him. Anyway I hope thing's work out for the best :)

Q: 13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what?

i totally agree with you. Diary's are something personal and for your mom to be so judgmental on everything you do like call you a lesbian and Gothic and such I think is so wrong. You need your space and if the only way you can express yourself is in your diary she needs to respect that. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk to her and MAKE her understand. Tell her how you feel and if that doesn't work then just lock your door after you leave your room or hide it somewhere. :) Hope i helped ^_^

Q: my brother is 15 yrs old and still likes Spongebob! is there any possible reason for this and how can i get him to stop watching this show? i know that sounds mean, but seriously..

I really don't think YOU need to stop him from watching spongebob. I mean it's his interest. I used to like spongebob a couple years back(and when i say a couple years, i mean like 1 year). Which was when i was 15... But yeah, I am 16 now and I totally grew out of it. I am sure if you don't pressure him he'll just grow out of it. And if he doesn't then what the hay! I say if it doesn't impact his social life then let the boy watch some spongy goodness! :)