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When I was 12 years old, I was raped, and became pregnant. I never told my daughter how she was conceived. She is 13 years old, and I just found out that she's pregnant. Her boyfriend's father kicked him out of his house as a result. Abortion is out of the question. We have to decide whether my daughter and her boyfriend will raise the baby themselves or allow me to adopt the child. So I have three questions.
1. How do I tell my daughter the truth about how she was conceived?
2. Should I allow her boyfriend to move in with us, and if so, is it okay to make them sleep in seperate rooms? (His only other option is to move out of the country with his mother.)
3. Do you think it would be better for my daughter to raise her child or should I adopt the baby? (I was unable to have any other children.)
Sorry so long, but any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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that's a really hard problem babe.. first of all.. sit down with ur daughter and tell her that it's ok she did what she did even tho it necesarily isn't.. tell her that everyone makes mistakes and this is just a pretty big one that she's gonna have to live with and hopfully have a normal life.. when u tell her about the rape.. tell her that it wouldn't change how much you love her if you had been in love with her father.. next sit down with her and her boyfriend.. tell them both that raising a baby is a really big responsibility and ask them if they believe they are up to it and if they can spend the rest of their lives as a family.. i think if he's a good kid you can let him move in but if he's trouble then you don't want him around ur daughter or her baby.. and about the adoption.. ask ur daughter what she wants..ask her if she want's to keep her baby or if she wants u to adopt it.. maybe it can even be worked out so the baby thinks ur it's mother and ur daughters it's sister and that could work the best.. it's really tough hun i know but i really hope i helped.. i think the best thing you can do is be there for ur daughter.. her life is over as she sees it and just let her know there is still hope and if you don't pray.. pray now.. for ur daughter her boyfriend ur grandbaby on the way.. and most of all for urself.. hope i helped hun and if you have neother questions just ask!
xoxox-kenzi
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Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think? (link)
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hun it is all up to you and how you feel.. do you care about him? you shouldn't do nething to neone you don't care for or let them do nething to you. you really just need to look in urself and decide what you think is right and what you want because no one can make that decision for you.. it's all you babe and i know in the end u'll make the right decision.. good luck
xoxox- kenzi (please rate and don't be afraid to ask me nething!)
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My 12 year old cousin is going through puberty. She has always been a tomboy and she's disgusted with the whole process. To make matters worse she is developing rapidly (she's already a C-cup), and she started her period. She is normally a very happy person, but has become very depressed. She wears layered clothes and big sweatshirts, in the summer, to hide the changes of her body. Is there anything I can say or do to make her transition any easier?
(I've already tried telling her that it's normal and all girls go through it, but that didn't help.) (link)
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i find that sometimes you can't really help someone as much as you want to.. i'd say the only thing you can do is tell her that having big boobs and having her period isn't gonna change who she is. all it will do is change her apperance and if she really looks at her new body she will most likely be ok with it. just let her know that she's still the same person with new looks that could actually be better.. otherwise i dunno what else u could possibly say.. maybe it's just something she has to go through.. maybe it's just one of life's lessons.. whatever it is.. she'll get through it! hope i helped
xoxox-kenzi (please rate and don't be shy to ask me nething!)
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does drinking lots of water actually help you lose weight? and if yes, how much should u drink? (link)
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10 ten ounce glasses of water a day will burn 360 calories.. something like that i'm not positive.. but yah it can help if ur not drinking much water at the moment.. plus remember.. sodas and juices are really fattening and water is pure nothing and give you a full feeling.. hope i helped
xoxox- Crazy_Girl15 aka kenzi
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hey
i want some advice on my bf. lateley he has been at his dads house away from me. and it seems like he doesnt care about me anymore and doesnt even make time to try and see me. he doesnt say i love u very often. and when he ended our phone convo he said "i guess ill call u cuz i wont have ne thing else to do bye."
what should i do??i really care about him but i dont know wat do you think? (link)
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the first thing you should do is talk to him.. ask him why he said that and tell him that it really hurt. then talk to him about the way he's been acting and let him know u care about him and aske him what he wants from the relationship because it doesn't seem like it's going newhere.. just be calm cool and collected and tell him what YOU want.. i think that's the best you can do and if you end up breaking up then it's probably for the best cuz if he doesn't respect you then you shouldn't be going with him newayz
hope i helped..
xoxox- kenzi
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hey kenzi wat is the best way to loose weight i dont no cause i have to loose weight for wrestling its only like 5 punds tops (link)
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well the best thing to do is not starve urself for one.. that's just plain stupid.. you can eat as much as you want and what you want of it as long as u burn the calories... like if you consume 2000 calories in a day and you burn 3000 then u'll be losing weight cuz you burn more calories then you eat... get it? but like you can cut back on calories too so it's not so hard to burn but i don't think 5 pounds will be too hard to lose.. good luck!
xoxox-kenzi
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Hey Kenzi! I need your advice! My cat was killed by a dog down the street and its really hard to deal with! Im sooooooo mad at the dog and the family! i HATE them! but thats not the problem..the problem is how do i deal with my cat not being here ne more? i mean i know she's still with me, but every time i think about her, it hurts...what should i do? (link)
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i know just what ur talking about.. my kitten just died from lukiemia and it's really hard.. everytime i turn around i think i see her.. but that makes me believe she's still with me and i know ur cat if it was loved as much as it seems is still with you and i believe that when we die we are reunited with our loved ones including our pets so u will see her again someday.. maybe a new cat will help ease the pain a little bit and don't worry.. these things happen and it's just one of lifes lessons that you learn.. it's hard but u will get through it!
xoxo-kenzi
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