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Hi there! My name is Alyssa, and I'm a teen adviser who would like to help answer any questions that you may have about teen life and beyond.

If you need help with anything, please feel free to ask me, or visit my friend's website at www.freewebs.com/bt4t You'll receive lots of support there. Also, feel free to join the site. Visitors are always welcome.

Please note that I am not a professional adviser but I will do my best to answer any of your questions.

Thank you

-Alyssa-

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me and my boyfriend had been together for about 8 months, i know it doesn't seem like...that long. i lost my virginity to him. he cheated on me, twice. once in march, once in june. in june he had sex with the girl. i'm not sure what he did with the other girl, he didn't have sex with her though. he realizes now that he made a huge mistake. he wasn't the one to tell me, it was some of his friends. he called me later crying, apologizing, feeling so awful. then yesterday he came over, and we ended things. things were ended good though, not bad. i forgave him for what he did. we cried on eachothers shoulders. it all sounds a little bit pathetic. whats even more pathetic is that i miss him, i realize i'll get over it. i just don't know what to do. i still have feelings for him. i'm ridiculous. (:

This is tough on both of you.
First just take deep breath and make sure you are ok, and not ready to burts. If you are then go talk to a friend about it, you may not want to but talking about it will help a lot.
Second, if you fell like you need to cry then cry, don't hold it back to feel strong, crying can really help.
Third, always remember that he is not the only guy,when you are ready go check some others out and hang with your girlfriends!

Hope this helps, and GOOD LUCK!
AlyssaBT4T

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I have bad trouble sleeping!
i really need help and i dont know what to do!
PS i put this is Realationships -> Friendhsip because i didnt know what else to put it in :)
PLEASE HELP!

You have to completly relax, take deep breaths before you lay in bed, then try drinking some warm water or milk. This might sound strange, but my brother can't sleep with the T.V. off, so try sleeping with some sounds and see if that works.
Hope this helps,
AlyssaBT4T

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if i am going to be a junior in high school this year i will graduate in 2009. so am i a junior '08 or junior '09? like how some people have it in their profiles on AIM. what do i put

I think you will be 08.

AlyssaBT4T

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F/15

okay well im a virgin and ive barley had my first kiss. and theres this guy who i really like and we havent meet. he lives in jersey. but anyway movining on. we were talking and he asked how far i would go with him. and i dont know how far i would go. mainly because ive never made out with anyone and im really idk i feel awkard talking about it but i was just wondering how far is too far for my first hook up?

thanks.

Don't do anything that you don't want to do ever!
If he like you enough then he should understand you limits. Also it depends on how far you feel comfortable with your first hook up.

Hope this helps.
AlyssaBT4T

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Hey my problem is thats my best friend is going out with this really nice guy but when we went to the fair( I show a horse) she saw this guy that got kicked out of our school for sexual harassment and now she has been walking around holding hands with him but she hasnt even broken up with her boyfriend yet what should I say to her!

thx
kj

Dear kj

Thats good that you are concerned about your friends boyfriend and how he would feel about this.
First, confront your friend and tell her that what she is doing is wrong, and she needs to pick a guy not two guys. If she doesn't listen, then you have no choice but to tell her boyfriend whats going on, it may be hard but its the best thing you can do.
Let me know how it goes.

Hope this helps and GOOD LUCK!
AlyssaBT4T

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I really like this guy in my school and I told my BFF and she promised to keep its secret but the next day she told another girl and now to make it worse that girl went up to this certain boy and told him that I like him, and before I could hang out with him and be fine but now I get really embaresed my friends keep telling me to ask him out but I know he wouldnt go out with me because I'm not very pretty:(, and I am kinda shy but I am still madly in love with him and I havent even seen him since May 26, what should I do!

First, tell your friends that what they did was so not cool.
Second, never say that your not pretty, I don't know what you look like, true, But, people are always pretty even if they think they aren't. If they say they aren't then they are the prettiest.
Third, if you love him then there should be no stopping you, take a chance thats what life is all about.

Hope this helps, and GOOD LUCK!
AlyssaBT4T

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