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Q: my bestfriends mom is kinda phyco and when i went to my friends house her mom lik yelled at me and i told ma parents and now i cant go to her house n e more....what do i do????

tell yur mom that u were jus overreacting. Tell her u HaVe to see yur best friend again cuz she's......well, yur best friend! Or instead, invite her over to YuR house, so that u wont have to deal wit her motha again.

Q: i want a relationship .. but i dont know i wanna meet someone from a different place not from my home town unless their new .. they are all fake and i want someone who likes me for me .. not because i have a "fat ass" or because im skinny or what not .. but for my personality .. is that highly impossible or am i looking in the wrong places? ive stopped looking and ive heard it appears when you least expect it .. but guess what IT DOESNT WORK .. PLEASE HELP!

u can ask yur friends do they know sumone frum outta town that they think you'd be interested in. And before u meet them, write to them or sumthing so that they'll like u for YoU, not for wat u look like. Hope i helped ya!

Q: im 13 and in 8th grade and im 5'3...but i like someone thats 12 in 7th grade and is 4'7. i think he's gonna ask me out, but idk what to say cuz hes so short and younger than me....help! (i like him too but...)

ok, well if dont CaRe wat other people think of u, go out wit him! U like him dont u? And he likes u too, rite? So wats the problem? It doesnt matter how it looks, its all about wat u feel. Sumone like him may never cum around again, so u dont wanna miss yur chance!

Q: there is this kid that is always following me around. i dont know how to say stop with out hurting his feelings. like if i go to the library, he follows me. if i go to the sotre, he follows me, what should i say?

ask him, in the KiNdEsT way possible, why does he keep following u. Tell him its nuthin personal, u jus dont like people going everywhere u go, and that he shud cool it for a while.

Q: I really like this boy, and i think he likes me cuz he flirts alot with me. I kissed him a few times b4. And i have this friend. she's my best friend, but sumtimes it seems liek she's tryin to mess it up 4 me & the boy. All my friends that knew her longer then i did say not to trust her, but i dont know. But jus the otha day, she tol me that everything the boy sed to me wuz a lie! i thought that wuz impossible, but then again, she's my best friend! Why wud she do that to me? There has to B sum logical explanation for this. Who betrayed me?? PLEASE DONT DELETE THIS!!!!! I really need help, this has been bugging me for WEEKS!!!!! thanx

he probably does like u, and i'm not sure who's the one that betrayed u. But it seems like u shud really be more careful about yur frined. Other people have warned u about her, but u chose to judge her on yur own. Yur rite, everything CoUlDnT have been a lie. I think u shud talk to the boy about all this. Put him on the spot, and see wat he has to say

Q: ok another question...i really like this guy, but hes 2 years older than me, and he likes another girl...but at first i thought he liked me, cuz he would kinda flirt with me, but i dont think he does anymore, and my friend told him i like him but he doesnt believe her...what should i do?

i think u shud definately tell him u like him, straight up. It cud be hard, but it's the only way of knowing for sure wat he thinks. But dont get sumone else to do it, it has to be u! A 2 year age difference is nuthin. Flirting is a good sign. so dont hold bak. He mite like u, but mite be afraid to ask u out cuz he doesnt know u that good. If he does, then he cud jus be shy. Or, since he likes that other girl, he probably doesnt wanna get distracted by sumone else rite now. Give him time......and keep flirting! :)

Q: I'm going into 9th grade, and I have red hair, freckles, and light skinned. What would you suggest I should wear? My school really doesn't have much of a dres code either. THANKS :) [I rate good =)]

u can wear a tan colored plaide mini skirt with a black shirt and boots. Or, u can wear jeans with a black shirt, and then a blue sleeveless shirt over it.

Q: theres this girl whose gonna be on my bus this year and she wants to beat me up for no reason. shes 2 years older than me and shes really mean. shes the kind of girl who will scream mean things at you in front of everyone! i dont know how to handle that... its so embarrassing, but i dont want to act tough because then she'll really want to beat me up. im so scared help!

dont worry. Show her that yur not afraid. Jus pretend u dont hear her, and try not to listen. If she sees that u really dont care, she'll stop.

Q: y do i get mean questions in my inbox from people on this site...why are people so mean?

They cud be mad that yur a better columnist then they are

Q: I go out wit dis guy. And my mom doesnt agree and my dad does! I love him wit all my heart and i dont know what to do.. PLease help me

PEACE

ok, i think yur mom shud stop judging yur boyfriend and actually get to lknow him first.If yur dad'cool wit it, there's no reason why she shudn't be. Explain to yur mom how much u really luv this guy and that she shud give him a chance, like yur dad did.

Q: what are you guys opion of christians and other sprital stuff???>??

Spiritual stuff is great. It helps u feel....pure. If yur intouch with yur spiritual side, not only will u feel great, but the heavens will be on yur side.

Q: okay so my best friend she has this problem where she flirts with EVERYONE! she like cheats on all her bf and flirts with every guy she sees and does stuff with them too. well there is this guy mike and i realy like him and i have for awhile but she just told me that shes gonna go hang out with thim tonight...and i dont knoe wut to do i mean i can't really tell her that i still like him cuz we just got into a fight and like i don't want her makein-out wit him tonight cuz i have him right at my fingertips we're almost even goin out.. and im afraid that if she flirts with him tonight he will prolly do sumthing wit her and then i'll lose him all over again!

so please help asap!
sorry if this is soo long

(u wont believe this, but the same thing happened to me!) Anyway, i think u shud jus let it happen. Eventually, he'll see wat a playa she is, and he'll forget about her. What YoU need to do is be persistent. Make sure that he DoEs NoT forget about u. Flirt with him and let him know how special he is to u. Then he'll understand who's really the rite person for him.

Q: Ok, im a columnist, but what the heck, GUY PROBLEMS!
Ok, I like this guy. I knew him for a day, and we, by means of a friend, exchanged sn. He even gave me his phone #! But its so hard to talk to him! Its like a brick wall. When i say, though, hes like, no dont go. I've been totally confused, and i know that it wont be long be4 he gets under my skin. What do I do be4 i punch him the next day i see him at school?

from: confused and put out

tell him he needs to loosen up.Tell him its no fun talking to a brick wall, and u wud like to actually have a conversation with him. He'll get the message

Q: Omg ok my friend Christing is saying stuff about my friend Chantal being mad at her for no reason which is a lie because she talks about Chantal behind her back and then again I don't understand why what should I tell my friend cuz it's pissing me off the fact she talks about Chantal that way??

Tell her that she needs to stop hating on chantel. Tell her wat goes around cums around, so as much as she talks about chantel behind her bak, sumone is talkin about her the same way. Tell her chantel is yur friend, and u dont like hearing people talk about her. Say she needs to stop, and say that if she were a true friend then she wud respect wat u say.

Q: My girlfriend is moving three states over for 6 months because of family problems but will for sure be back by then. She says she wants to continue dating while shes gone but i dont know if i can do that. We would only beable to talk on the phone and maybe i could drive over a few times. Anyone else had a long distance relationship? Whats it like, what do you have to do to make it work?

well, u shud definatly keep dating her cuz she's needs yur support. just call her once in a while, maybe every other day, and write to her, so she alwasy has sumthin to look forward to in the mail. Send her stuff to let her know that yur thinking about her.

Q: My friend has been going out with this immature guy for like 7 months now. He is soo rude to her like not returning phone calls, making fun of her friends (like me for instance), blowing her off for his friends. I was open with her telling her how i felt about him, but she didn't care at first. Now she's thinking about dumping him, but she just doesn't have the heart to.
Any advice on what she should do? I rate high! thanks in advanced.

U shud tell her "as a friend, i'm telling u that shud break up wit him. PLease listen to me." This way, it wont seem like yur attacking her with it, but that yur just looking out for her. Tell her that she deserves much better, and that she shudnt waist her time on sumone as rude as him. But then again, they HAVE been dating for 7 months. They cud be meant for eachother, and u dont wanna ruin it. So u mite wanna let her decide. Sure, u can give her yur advice, but frum then on its all her. If she really luvs him, then u u shud let her be happy, even if it means hurting u. Thats wat friends are for.

Q: I am a 14 year old guy and I like a 10 year old girl, is this ok??

Of course its okay! Theres even people out there who like sumone with a ten year age difference! Its ok, but there's one thing. Right now she may be a little young, so u shud wait till she gets older before u guys really get serious.

Q: I'm looking for a guy that woud fit me well but each time i go out with the guys i fing something i hate about them right away...what should i do?

i think u shud get to know them a little better first. It seems to me that if u find sumone suitable for u, u jump rite into dating them, before u REALLY get a chance to know them. But i have good news. The best relationships start of wit being friends. So maybe u shud start considering if u like sumone more then a friend. If not, wen u meet sumone, make sure u becum friends wit them first. Nothings closer then friendship.

Q: So, My really good friend just commited suicide and I really wanna read up on reancarnation. Does anyone know any really good books about that?

I dont know wat books to read, but i can tell u sumthin about reincarnation. I once heard that if they were a good person. they'll cum bak as an animal. If they were bad, they'll cum bak as a bug, or they mite not even cum bak at all.

Q: I this freind and we have been friends 4 years and just this past summer she has been always hanging with her other friend and just leaving me behind.

I know wat u mean. She's obviously not worthy of yur friendship if she keeps ditching you. Be straight up. Ask her does she wanna be friends or not, becuz she always leaves u behind. If not, u dont really need her. Keep in mind that people change. She could be moving on to new people. It doesnt mean that she forgot about u, it jus means that she wants to experiment with sumone else for a change.

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