Hey! I'm Caitlin and in a few days I'll be a freshman in high school. I love giving advice and I feel that I am good at it. I've been through a lot of stuff, divorce, moving, having my best friend move, a family member with cancer, and love (including being cheated on). So please don't hesitate to ask. I mean sitting there staring at the computer screen isn't going to do anything now is it?
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Ok - my uncle hits on me at almost every family gathering. It really bothers me! I told my mom and she said she'd try to help me, but I still feel so uncomfortable around him. He's always staring at me and winking, and saying that I'm hot!
I'm just so uncomfortable .. (link)
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Don't listen to these people! You cant just avoid him. You need to tell someone other than your mom. I would suggest your main male guardian (no not boyfriend or anything) in your life. Men are more protective of their kids, sisters, cousins, whatever it may be. This is a form of sexual harrasment because its unwanted. What if your uncle was a guy in your class and you told him to stop? IT would still be the same right.
Hope that helped feel free to ask more ?'s at my column or IM me,
Caitlin!
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My girlfriend really likes Maria Mena. I've never really heard her except in the car and it sounds very SLOWW and acoustic. She's doing a show about an hour away from us in a few weeks, and i was just wondering what im in for. What does she sound like? Anyone been to her show? (link)
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Personally she annoys me but ya know I'm not the one going. Try searching on the net and listening to some for free.
Hope that help fee free to leave 1 in my inbox or IM me,
Caitlin
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does anybody out there know any good role play sites? like for lotr or anything? thanx bunches (link)
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Specifically for LoTR, I don't know any. I'm more of a HP person since I never finished the first book and got half way thru the hobbit. Its easier to just join MSN groups, yahoo groups and etc. For MSN you don't have to be a member to join and for yahoo you must join but its completely free. Also, if you go to general sites that have boards they will probably advertise sites. I'm sure that there are lots of proboards websites, or at least there are for HP.
Hope it helped! Leave one in my inbox or IM me,
Caitlin!
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Hi, I'm a 15/F. I guess you could say I have like average self esteem. Some days I think I look SO adorable. But other days I hate everything about myself. For example: I bought a shirt and when I tried it on I loved it , then I tried it on at home and I thought it made me look horrible. Does anyone know why this happens to me & what I could do to fix it ? Thanks in advance.
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I totally understand. I think that in your mind you're thinking its too good to be true. So without trying, or even realizing it, your looking for your flaws. What you need to do is do and wear what feels good. Not that I would walk around everyday to dances in sweatpants because it feels good, there is a different type of feeling good or at least regarding to clothes. When I put something on and I look good I know it a lot of the times. I smile and say in my head that I look good. It boosts my self esteem and really truly just makes me feel good. Just do what you feel is right there is no other way to explain it!
Hope it helped! Leave one in my inbox or IM me,
Caitlin!
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I'm 21 years old, but I already have an almost constant back pain. Can anyone tell me a daily exercise I could do to make my back stronger and less likely to get strained when I pick up a piece of paper? (link)
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OKay the first thing you need to do is go to the doctor and get some X-rays. There could be something wrong, you could be putting too much stress on it or you culd have scoliosis like I do. The doctor will tell you what to do either see another doctor or do certain types of back exercises.
Hope it helped
Caitlin
PS. YOu can IM me or leave one in the inbox!
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I'm a student that needs the time to figure school work out... and take my time on stuff... but between HorseBack Ridin, School Work, My Babysitting Jobs, and an Athletic Trainer after school.. well I just don't know how to balance it.. any advice?
" Ask Lia " (link)
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You need to TAKE A BREAK (not quit) one of your activities. SChool should come first. ONce youve fingured out whether or not you have enough time or how to make enough time you can quit for good or take it back up.
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My mom actually needs help with this one, but I'll explain.
Last night my neighbors who are around my age (I'm 14) came over. My mom rented 3 movies (even though we really couldn't afford it) but being the whiners they are, they didn't want to see any of them, so we let them bring their own movie over, for my and my 11-year old bro to watch with them. They chose Scary Movie and I have no idea why their mom let me! It was really inappropriate for my brother, who's going in to sixth grade. I mean, people were giving each other bjs and hjs, a girl got stuck to the ceiling by cum, etc. It was really digusting. The worst part is that they thought it was hilarious, Nick (older one, around my age) in particular kept going, "Noelle, come here" (my mom's name) at the grossest parts. Their mom is normally a pretty good mom but I just don't understand how on earth she could think it was appropriate for my brother. Obviously her boys were too immature for it too. My mom is going to call their Mom, Denise, whom we've been friends with for many years. Denise can get offended and mad very easily, so what should my mom say? And what should she say next time the boys want to bring over a movie?
Sorry about the long question. I rate! (link)
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My moms best friend is in the same situation that your mom is in a lot. Your mom simply needs to say something like this.
Denise, a couple of nights ago your boys brought over scary movie. I don't want my kids watching movies like this. No offence or anything, you can do whatever you want with your kids but with mine, I'd appreciate if you'd tell me next time or give me the heads up. After all it was rated PG-13 too.
If your mom's friend takes offence to it, thats her problem. Your mom needs to express her feelings because the problem isn't going to go away by itself, it will only get worse.
Hope that helped, feel free to ask more question on my column or to IM me. Caitlin
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how can you tell if you have a yeast infection and what do you do to treat it with out going to the doctors.. like what are the symptomns.. ill rate!! (link)
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You're going to know trust me. I've had one before and it hurt like hell. (Sorry if this is gross). You need to talk to your mom or a woman you trust and tell her wuts been happening thats making you think you have a yeast infection. If you do you can get stuff at a drug store, no perscription needed.
Hope that helps feel free to ask more questions at my column and/or IM
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I use to hate this girl at my school, i never said anything to her hurtful its just that she acts stuck-up but the problem is that my friend is friends with her and i cant stand being around her, I dont wanna tell my friend because i am scared she will stand up for the girl and stop talking to me. (link)
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You have to tell your friend. As a friend she should understand and stuff. If she is a true friend she'll say I understand so when us two are hanging out you don't have to come. If she freaks out and doesnt talk to you its not bad either. She isn't a true friend and its better to lose her now then her leaving you when your boyfriend of 3 years for example is caught cheating on you.
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I'm 16, and my dad still treats me like I'm a "little girl". My mom and I, we get along so well, because she treats me like a young adult, but my father raises hell whenever I ask him to do ANYTHING. We see a family psycologist, and not even that helps. He's just so effing stubborn. I tell him allll the time " dad I'm not a little girl anymore", but it just doesn't get through to him. I know he's going through this "phase", but isn't over 3 years a little much? I am an only child, and a model, and I know he hates to see me take pictures and wear clothes that expose my stomach and it's just a lot to take. He tells me I have no future because I failed one year of math with exelent effort, and that I'll never make it. He puts me down and makes me feel so effing shitty. It's like he wants my respect, but he doesn't give it back. Any advice at all pllease.
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Okay, you need to talk to him and you need to do it now. When your in the car or somewhere where he can't ignore you talk to him. Say Dad, you need to listen to me and please don't inturrupt. You want me to be a sucessful person right? (Obviously its ratorical so don't let him say yes, keep him quiet) Then you need to let me be. I need your support. Not as your little girl but as your daughter who is driving, modeling and growing up. Also, in a few years I'll be in college, how do you expect me to act mature as I should be then and now, if you're treating me as if I was a 7 year old girl. I hate arguing with you dad so please please try, I know its hard for you but you need to let go of that and be a supporting dad.
Feel free to ask more questions at my site or IM me! Caitlin
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is there an age of how old ur supposed to be when u get ur belly button peirced? ill rate ya. lol thanx ~JessiKa~ (link)
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Supposed to be? No there isn't a supposed to be age. Its whenever you want, feel comfortable withe getting it, and depending on your age, if your mom/dad/guardian signs the release form.
Feel free to ask more questions at my site or IM me! Caitlin
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Ok, i really ReAlLy like this boy named Naz. This whole year, i worked hard at getting to know him, and it finally worked! So now i'm really really good friends wit him, and i tell him everything, like he tells me. My parents dont really care about me liking him, as long as i dont do anything. But then one night wen i wuz talkin to Naz, he found out that i was a virgen still, and he said, "i guess whoever u give it up to, u really luv them." Then he asked me if i wud sleep wit him. I sed i dont know. (And i know he's not usin me becuz for one thing, i'm really close wit him, and also becuz he knows i liked him this WhOlE year, so if he wanted to use me, he cud've tried to a long time ago. And i DiD kiss him before.) So anyway, i really want to, becuz i luv him. And i KnOw this is luv becuz....well i jus know. Everyone who's been in luv knows. So i want to sleep wit him, but then my brotha Miguelle cums into the picture. He says if i do that, i'm a slut and a hoe and that i shud be ashammed of myself. He made me feel really bad. But it's My lIFe, isnt it? I wanna listen to him cuz he's my brotha, but he jus has no idea how much i luv this dude. He doesnt understand, cuz he's neva been in luv before. But wat shud i do? (sorry its so long! I ReAllY need help on this, pleaz dont delete it! Thanx!) (link)
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I dunno about you but my best friends big bro was like my big brother. One day he told me that hot dogs were made of dogs. IS it true? No. Pretend you're an adult and your 30 or something. Pretend its the same situation, would you really still listen to your brother. Its your life do what you want but if you do have sex remember to use condoms etc. Oh yeah just think about how awkward it'll be with him as your best friend who you slept with.
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is wearin a thong slutty? like the purpose is so you dont have pantylines but sumtimes liek if usmones thong shows people think she's a slut. i was just wondering what evryone else htought (link)
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No their not. Their nice if you are wearing low rise jeans and all. Sluty techincally means sleeping with a lot of guys (or girls)... Thats like saying is a pushup bra slutty its just a type of 'undergarment'
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Hey ok the new school year starts this monday and im scared bout making new friends cuz last year i told people i was christian (im not afraid 2 share my faith) so they all thought i was weird and stuff...and i dont cuss so instead of saying a bad word id say like crap or freak or whatever and they'd make fun of me..i still want ppl to know im christian this year but im scared i wont have friends! i know what i did wrong last year id tell people that Jesus loves them jokingly and they got scared so yea not gonna do that but even if i tell them that im a christian they might reject me..so what do i do? (link)
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Let me put it to you plain and simple. Are you really going to be wanting to be with someone who will be mean to you because your christian? I don't think so. If you make a friend, a true friend, they like you for who you are and if they have a problem with your Christinaty then their the ones with the problem not you.
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Dear Caitlin,
most of my friends are going to a differen't high school then me. I wanna spend time with them but I'm going to be so busy with school and I won't ever see them or anything.
Please help,
Friendless Freshman (link)
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Dear Friendless Freshman,
Woah friendless? That's not true at all. Remember way back in elementry school when you're best friend was in Mrs. Smith's class and you were in Mrs. Rodgers? Did you still talk to them even though the only time you saw them was at recess? Well you don't have recess but you do have other things to do. Not going to school with your friends is almost like being on summer vacation. You're not obligated to see eachother every day. But don't you hang out anyway? You can meet somewhere and have a pop or something, study together (everyone has to learn geometry sometimes don't they) or just talk to them on the phone. You might not see them as often but that makes the time you spend together even more special.
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ok i have this guy friend who is totally sweet and i like him but he wants to go out with me and i don't think i like him like that and i mean we've already gone out but he wants to go out again and i just don't think i want to and i just feel really bad cuz he really cares about me and really wants to be with me! what should i do!?
signed
confused (link)
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Wow I feel loved. I'm a Dear Abby now aren't I? Anyhow I've been in this situation before. Let's say his name is Bob. Say something like this to him:
Bob, there's no way I can tell you this without hurting you, and I'd never want to hurt you because I'm your friend. I like you but only as a friend. I really enjoy spending time with you but I could never picture us as a couple, or at least a happy couple. That doesn't mean I don't wanna spend time with you, it just means I don't wanna date you.
Of course you don't have to exactly say that but I was repetitive, it'll pound it into his head.
PS. you'll always be confused, boys don't make sense!
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