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i'm only 14 and i'm not going to give a blow job any time soon and i don't even have a boyfriend but i was just wondering, how do you give a blow job? do you just... suck it? or lick it? and where on the penis? like all over or on the top??? thanks for the answers :) (link)
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why would you want to know?
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i cant find anybody that would date me, how can i find somebody? (link)
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be yourself. Trust me. If you dont want to do that, try creating an alias. An alias that has an awesome personality. Like, a little bit of everything. Then, convince yourself that that is who you really are. Once you feel good about yourself, you'll be more comfortable to maybe ask someone out.
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Okay. See here's the thing. I used to be such a stubborn independ, strong willed girl. You couldn't tell me to do anything, I was crazy. But when I started dating this boy. I think I let him change me... And I think I know the night it happened. I was hanging out with him one night and we were kissing, normal stuff. But then it started getting kind of hot, like I started to press into him more (we were laying down on the couch, I was on top) then he pulled me down so he was on top and started to press into me even harder, it almost hurt. He stopped for a second because I was hesitating now. I apologized and reminded him this was the first time I've ever been this physical with a guy, cuz he was my first boyfriend. He said it's okay and kept going. He started putting his hand down my pants and I pulled it out. A few minutes later he put it down again and I pulled it out. He put it in a third time and I knew, I knew it was wrong for him to keep doing this but somehow I also thought it was okay... I can't even explain it. It's like I shut down and just let him. I let him finger me. Then he stopped and I didn't even notice it but I had started crying. I don't know why I couldn't tell him to stop... I wasn't scared I was just like lost... completely zoned out. I don't know. He didn't notice I was crying and we kept going. He then proceeded to put my hand in his pants and I pulled it away. He asked me for a handjob and I said no. He told me it was okay. The next time we hung out he pulled down his pants and put my hand... well you know where. I started giving him a hj. I don't know why I couldnt' say no!! I started to cry though and we stopped and he hugged me, I just told him I didn't want to go so fast and he said okay. Except everytime we hung out he continued to finger me. When we hit six months I knew something was wrong. It was like this kid had sucked all of my strength out of me. I wasn't myself anymore. And when he asked for a bj I said no but like usual the things he said to convice me stopped seeming ilke convincing and started making so much sense even though I knew it was wrong. He told me things like "it's been six months, I finger you and it seems like that aspect of our relationship is completely one-sided. you should be comfortable enough to do this for me." and I did it... I was shocked with myself. I couldn't believe I was fourteen and doing this. I started crying after but he held me and told me it was okay and that he loved me and I believed him. He could tell me anything and I'd believe him. I don't know how our relationship got like this. Anyway, he dumped four days later. Its been two months since the break up and I know I'm stronger now. But I'm scared to trust myself with liking a guy again. I HATED how pathetic and used my ex made me feel. I HATED being his little slave. I don't ever want that again... I don't know if I can't trust boys or if I can't trust myself... I don't know what to do. How can I get back who I was?? (link)
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wow, That is quite a story! I dont understand why he wouldnt just listen to you. Maybe try doing something you used to do as a kid. Even if its something childish, it will make you feel happy, and maybe that will work. If that wont, I dont know what will.
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I'm a thirteen-year-old rising female freshman.
Back in September, I got my first boyfriend. Let's say his name was Tyler. Tyler verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me for almost six months before I finally broke it off. The thing is - I know I was wrong to give in to this - I lost my virginity to Tyler. I thought I loved him, and adults around me believed we were in love too, so I don't know, I just felt like I could trust him. I know I was stupid, losing my virginity at thirteen to someone I no longer care about, but I've learned from my mistakes and won't do this for many years.
Now I've got a new boyfriend. Let's say his name is Aaron. I've known Aaron for almost two years now; we've always been close. I'm Aaron's first girlfriend. I love him a lot, and he's the person I trust most in this world. Recently, I accidentally let loose the fact that I have a deep dark secret (that I'm no longer a virgin). He got curious and asked what exactly my secret was, so I told him I trusted him enough that I would tell him by the end of the summer.
I have no regrets about saying I'd reveal my secret to him. I know he'd never tell anyone. What I am scared of, however, is what he'll think of me afterwards. What if he calls me a whore or something? I know that means he doesn't deserve me, that he isn't worth it. But unlike a lot of other people, his opinion means so much to me. I guess I kind of need some reassurance in my decision to tell him. D: (link)
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First off, calm down. If he really loves you, then he wont call you a whore. He'll probably be shocked, but he'll get used to the idea. Hang in there!
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Female/ 15
What are ways to find out about a guy friend starting to become attracted to you? (link)
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1.) Ask some of your "mutual" friends.
2.) Look at the signs he gives you. If he smiles more often when you're around then he usually does/did. He may like you.
3.) Just ask him. If you tell him that it wouldnt ruin the friendship, maybe he'll be more willing to talk to you about it.
Hope this helps!
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My boyfriend and I just started having sex, and we always use a condom. But I really want to start on birth control, except my mother doesn't approve. She doesn't even know we're sexually active. I'm 17 years old, and I'd like to know if there is a way I can get birth control without her permission or her finding out?
Thanks! (link)
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I know this may not be a "brilliant answer" but I saw this same situation on Desperate Housewives. I'm not sure if it will apply in your situation, but maybe you could ask your aunt, older cousin, or some older female that wouldnt mind posing as your mom. Again, not sure if that would help at all. Good luck!
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