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Hi, everyone! My name's Rae. I love painting, reading, sleeping, museums, and I work at Aerie. I'll be attending college very soon, and I'm engaged to the most amazing person I have ever met in my entire life. Life is going so well and hopefully my advice will make your life just as good, :).

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im 15/f and i like this 17/m.
we both go to the same school. he is a senior and i am a sophmore. yeah i know it seems pointless, and your probably saying to yourself that im dumb because he will graduate with in a few months. I really really like him though and he really really likes me. He has asked me to be his "girlfriend" ..so ill put it, and i said no because i feel i will just be heartbroken in the end because he is graduating. The thing is though I really want to go out with him and be his girlfriend but I have horrible realtionship issues, and I feel i will become attached and it will all just go down hill from there. I really need some advice please help me if you can. Thank you so much.

Hey, if you truly like/love someone and you have strong feelings for them, you can find ways to work it out. Certain things are just meant to be! I know what you're feeling. My boyfriend's in the Navy's basic training right now, I won't see him for about 2 months and then he graduates, goes to California for his 1 year of advanced training. So, I won't get to see him at all. But we love eachother and plan on being married. If you feel like this guy is worth all the trouble, go for it. Just think about how strong your feelings are for him and the answer should be easy. :)

I've been dancing for over 5 years. and i love it. but recently i've been getting way too much work and i've been skipping dance (to get it all done) my mom told me its time for me to quit dance...and maybe start something new..idk what i want to doo.
please helpp mee.

Honestly, no one can really answer this except you. I know what it feels like to be just swamped with all this work to do! I have to balance school, hours at work, a social life, a family life, and a love life, and on top of that I have a driver's ed class that I have to do, but I keep my passion for art with me, always. If you truly feel like this work is just getting too big to handle, then you need to realize if dancing is something that you're truly passionate about or if it's just another phase that you're going through. Think about it and you'll come up with a solution that's right for you.

So my boyfriend and I like to hang out at school in the morning during the zero hour. And seriously, we just talk. Occasionally I'll hug him, but there's honestly minimal kissing. It's just kinda how it is.

Anyway, most of the time around friends we just hug each other, and before class it's like, 'goodbye, *kiss*' and then we're done. It's not like it's anything all that bad that you don't see around schools anyway.

So the issue is, one of my friend's been giving me a hard time about it. Like, this girl was talking about how she hates when couples get all into it in public, and my friend was all, 'kinda like you guys!' And I told her that it wasn't how it is, and she said 'oh please, you guys are always all over each other.'

We're really not. Honestly, I'm not into the whole PDA thing, hugs are mostly all I'm comfortable with at school.

So...how can I talk to my friend about this? Obviously she thinks it's something bad, because she told me, 'people always say, oh, I saw her with her boyfriend'. Well, yeah, we talk. That's mostly it.

And should I talk to him too? Maybe say something about nothing other than hugging at school?
I dunno, this is bothering me. I always said I'd never get into the whole PDA thing and it looks like I have, even though I'm serious, it's not as bad as she makes it sound.

Help?

i believe that some pda is okay but the whole making out in public thing is so gross! you guys seem to be doing a lot less than what most people do nowadays. i swear, i see couples in my school having sex in the hallways, haha. honestly, you guys are good with the pda and your friend's just freaking out for no apparent reason. maybe she thinks that way because the only times she glances up at you guys are whenever you guys are hugging or pecking eachother. just tell her that you have really nothing to explain. tell her you don't slobber all over your boyfriend and that you guys KNOW you don't show that much pda at all. if she doesn't come through, i don't know what her problem is. if it bothers you that much, just ask around and see if everyone thinks that and not just her. but honestly, i'd say don't let anyone stop you from showing affection to someone you care about. if they think you're all over him, oh well, they're just jealous. :)

Okie, so heres the deal im 94lbs right now, a week ago i was 99lbs and my mom got really piss off at me for being 99lbs i WAS!! 90lbs and im not suppose to get ovr weigh past 90lbs, and im trying really hard to loose weight and im not sure how to do so,...and PLEASE do not write to me and say im under weight, cause i know, but i feel fat and stuff and all i need to know is how to loose weight, i excerise every day, run 4miles everyday i do pull ups push up abs workout everytime, it's jus im not loosing fast enough i wanna loose faster, i know there is a way because when i gain 3lbs i loose 5lbs, and i need to loose more to be 88-90lbs quick! sooo pleaseee help me. please and thank you

honey, you're probably going to give me a 1 rating on this but honestly, i know you don't want to hear it, but you need to gain weight! i weigh 130 pounds and i'm 5'6" and i'm a normal weight. the thing is, i had a friend who had bulimia and she thought she'd look better if she became like, 80 pounds. it sucked because she never got prettier, she ended up being so skinny that guys didn't even want to look at her. her self confidence just got worse when she thought she could make it better. trust me, you're fine and you could really damage your body by exercising so much! you're young, relax, enjoy eating and being healthy, not overly skinny. life's too short to obsess over something like a weight issue that you'll never have.

PS if your family's pissed off about how much you weigh, that's so ridiculous! i don't know your family but it's so wrong that they say that. you should realize how beautiful your body is the way it is. don't even let your family tell you that. they must be crazy to think badly of you for being so thin! just think about what i said, you're perfect the way you are no matter who, not even your family, says. maybe they're the ones that are insecure about themselves.

Why do girls use the word Love so much?
Im friends with a bunch of girls and they always use it. Im good friends with them but do they like me or sumthin? Its also really akward becuase i dont use it unless its actuall love,

girls say love a lot not necessarily meaning that they want to marry you and be with you forever, haha. it's not that. girl's usually just throw it around to express how they feel about something or someone. actually, everyone does it. "omg, i LOVE this movie" or "haha, i LOVE you so much, girl!" i mean i'm sure they love you, but they're not in love, those are two very different things. i hope i helped!

ok well me and my boyfriend of 6months are gonna be hanging out at my house this sunday and my mom thinks that if we go up to my room like we used to before that we will do something even tho we havent really done anything she just worries alot so all we can do is really is watch tv but i dont want to do that for 7 hours and well she's always there along w/my 2 brothers and my sister.
im trying to think of something so its not as boring as last time.
its gonna feel like -30 outside and theres tons of snow so i dont think going outside is an option so ya

-i dont have many games sept maybe the boring ones like life, monopoly, and clue
ya not so much fun

PLEASE HELP!!!
im desperate i dont want my baby to be bored :(

although we're not watched by our parents, my boyfriend and i usually see who can make the bigger snowman or sometimes we cook or bake together, haha. it's lame but it's something cute to do in the freezing cold!

Im 14 years old and a female. theres this boy and he likes me a lot and wants to date me. i kind of have been leading him on and i likED him a lot. so basically i dont like him as any more than a friend any more, how should i tell him? is texting him okay?

texting is bad! the best way to deal with things is in person. texting should only be a last resort if you can't see him or can't call him on the phone or if he's violent (i hope not!). just be honest, but calm. just say that you understand his feelings for you and you appreciate it but you just don't feel the same way. say that you don't want this to ruin your friendship because it's really good right now. that should make him understand, just be honest and gentle.

I know tanning at a salon is bad for your skin, but I was thinking about doing it just for formal. I don't tan easily and I mainly freckle in the sun, does that mean I'll have the same results in a tanning bed? Am I going to get more freckles?

if you get freckles in the sun, then you'll get them in the tanning bed because tanning beds have the same uv rays as the sun. you should go with spray tanning, there's professional spray tanning if you don't want to do it by yourself. it won't give you freckles and you'll look nice for formal!

ok well my oven is broke but the stove top isnt so thats all ive got to work with and im having my bf come over this weekend any ideas on what we can have for lunch cuz i have no idea :-/

chicken tortillas! i make them all the time for my boyfriend. you just get sour cream, salsa, lettuce, tomato, onion, whatever and hold that off for a while. cook some chicken (you can grill or fry it, doesn't matter). put that on the tortilla and add your favorite toppings. it only takes like, 15 minutes to make if you use those pre cooked chicken stuff or you could even just use lunchmeat chicken, that works too! i hope i helped or at least i hope you like tortillas, haha.

ok so first of all im a tomboy and i do have some friends that are girls and recently they have been talking about the boys they like i never really payed attention i havent ever liked a boy that way before but a couple days ago they were asking me who i liked and i told them i didnt like anyone and they asked why i didnt like anyone and i didnt have an answer i just want to why i dont like anyone they think its weird could yall tell me why i cant firgure it out thanks in advance

it's not weird at all! i used to be a tomboy too, actually, i still have more guy friends than girl friends. having those kinds of feelings come differently to everyone. some people can get feeling for the opposite sex even in the 3rd grade! but for others, it could come later, like, in the 10th grade. there's nothing wrong with you, you're probably just a late bloomer! i mean, i started liking boys when i was really young but my 14 year old brother just started getting into girls like, last month, haha. don't worry, you'll start getting those feelings soon. c:

would i need liquid eyeliner for this: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v342/MostOpenHeartBrk/010.jpg

Yeah, because I do my eyes like that, haha. I usually get Maybelline Black Liquid Liner. Either that, you could splurge on Smashbox's Gel Liner. Have fun experimenting!

16/F

So i have NEVER had a boy ask me out before.
All my friends have gone on dates etc. I am very socical, and not weird or anything. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
I havent even had a homecoming date.
and im a sophomore!
how can i become more pleasing to guys?

Honestly, you're probably intimidating every guy! They're probably too scared to even approach you. I'm sure a lot of guys want to say something to you but don't have the guts to do it. I think you should just go up to guys instead because then they can realize that you're not this unreachable goddess, haha. Show them that you're not like that, show them you're down to earth. :)

So theres this guy that treats me like shit. i seriously try to be sooooo nice to him and i usually am. but he never reconizes it. I always have to text him first and call him first. and when i dont he doesnt do anything i tried not being the first to text,call etc. And he didnt seem to care. Im trying to get away from him, but its so hard. I know it sounds stupid like if i was an outsider looking in on the situation id be like leave him now. but i cant its so hard. any tips on how to leave someone and walk away before i get really hurt? thanks!

Honestly, the best you can do is this: first, think of all the crappy things he's ever done to you and all the things he's said, etc. after that, you have to realize that even though it's difficult, you just need to realize what will be best for YOU in the future. if you stay with someone so negative towards you, you could ruin your chances of finding someone who appreciates you. just think that way and i'm sure you'll make the best decision.

hey i need to bring up one convo from aim...but...i signed off already and need it back to see something can anyone tell me how t obring it back up???

i honestly believe you can't because aim doesn't save any conversations because it doesn't have it's own memory or anything. sorry. :/

i have dark brown eyes.. almost black and i would like them to lighten up so they dont look so dark.. what are some eye makeup tips? i already put mascara and eyeliner on the top and bottom

i really should do this because i also have dark brown eyes but i don't :P

the mascara is a goo choice but also, put some pearly or white eye shadow on the top and the corners of your eyes, it will make your eyes lighter, promise!

I live in lansdowne my boyfriend live's like 15min away we barely see eachother its not effecting the relationship i just miss him and I REALLY REALLY like him please help we want to be with eachother badly HELP

i wish i could tell you what to do but honestly, there's nothing you can do. but if it makes you feel better, i wish my fiance lived only 15 mins away! he lives an hour and a half away from me and we only see eachother every friday and saturday, and that's when i take the trolley and bus there! trust me, you have it really good so be thankful you have someone that cares for you so close. c:

Ok , my bf and I have been going out for a few months. Is it ok if I don't like him as much as he likes me? lately, he's just been more of a friend. I know that if we broke up, i'd start cruching on him again. This happens with almost all of the guys I go out with. It's like, you love him, but once you're going out, it's just different. Please help!

i used to have this same problem until i met my fiance. it sounds cheesy but you should really go with your heart. you have to figure out what you want first before you go for it. do you want a boyfriend? or do you want him as just a friend? are your feelings for him more brotherly or romantic? you're the only person that can decide and i know you'll make a good decision.

I really really like this guy. I thought he liked me too, but just recently he got a new gf... How do you go after someone who has a gf? do you just wait to see how their relationship goes, move on... what? please help

move on, sweetheart. you deserve a guy who wants YOU!

Ok at Wal-Mart, I bought 'Sally Hansen- Hair Remover Wax Strip Kit'

is it ok if i wax my arms?

honestly, it's not really a good idea. i mean, the wax will strip the hair right but you'll get stubble on your arms and that's worse than hair itself! i think you should try bleaching it. it makes the hair less noticeable and you won't have stubs. c:

I want to be a fashion model. I'm like 15, not anorexic or bulimic, not size 0, and have kinda weird shaped body. Like small boobs, narrow hips, small framed, kind of short torso, long legs, very pale, robin's egg blue eyes, light hair, large feet, long delicate hands and arms, and like a little indent right above my lady parts. Like size 4. My ears stick out a little bit, I have a sharp nose that people call "perfect", oval face, thin lips, huge eyes, medium length neck. Long hair, kind of physically weak. Are those good qualifications do you think? I was thinking like one of those British designers who hire those unique-looking models since I'm not the model stereotype, more like 1700s French lady stereotype, y'know? So what do you guys think?

i modeled for a friend of mine and i have the biggest hips you've ever seen. different modeling agencies want different things. to me, you sound really cute! since you have the blue eyes and you're pretty thin (i'm a size 5), i think you'll be a pretty model. just have good character and you'll make it c:

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