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My name is Kendall. I've had different advice columns before, and this is my new one. I'm good at giving advice, I'm always who my friends come to for help. I'm not here for ratings, I'm here to give people help with their problems. Just because I don't say what you want to hear doesn't mean you should rate me low, or leave rude feedback. The truth can't always be sugarcoated, because thats how life is. I specalize in friends, relationships, and style. I like when people ask questions to my Inbox. Thanks :)

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Ok this girl I know I've started to talk to her a lot, and i can tell she likes me and i like her too, even my friends think she likes me. But like I asked her to a dance like 3 months ago and she said no, but it was totally random kind of because I hadn't even talked to her in like a year or two. But now i talked to her for like 2 hours a day on aim/phone, i would at scool, but she doesnt go to my scool nemore. So like i donno wat i should do, like ask her out again, or i was thinking to jus go 2 a movie and do stuff wit her and hang then ask... if u hav ne ideas tell me, or jus othr advice on how to help me ask her out and get her to like me more.

Go out with her first. If she seems like she really likes you, then ask her if she'd like to be your girlfriend. Her saying no to the dance was probably just something that had to do with the dance. Maybe she didn't want to go, maybe she had to be somewhere else. It seems like she likes you and you like her, so I hope everything works out :)

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This is basically a disaster waiting to happen...but it could be fun. I'm going on a snowboarding trip in a few days, and theres about 4 guys going and i'm the only girl besides the girl leader. and well, one of the guys likes me. soooo awkward. i definitely don't like him, but i've started liking his best friend, who is also going. i haven't told anyone about it b/c i want to avoid drama. but everyone says the second guy likes me too, so my question is: if he does like me and tries to make a move, what should i do? or should i maybe act on it? i'm definitely not going to tell him i like him, but should i flirt more? he and i already flirt like mad crazy...

The guy that likes you that you don't like is going to have to get over the fact that you have no feelings for him. As for the other guy, you have to tell him you like him if you want things to progress with you two, right? If you already flirt like mad crazy then boyfriend & girlfriend is the next step. He likes you, you like him. There's no problem there :)

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Ok. My boyfriend had his first visit to my house today. It wasn't long, but in the little time we did spend together we had our first real "big kiss." [He knows kissing me on my neck makes me "excited"] So, of coarse he did and then started making out with me, and we started to lay down. [Him kinda on top of me, but not laying down all the way.] If my mom hadn't walked in the room we probably would've done alot more. I was just wondering, is this how things get out of hand and sex starts? I'm not using this as a question to start sex. I am not ready, and I don't want to give him impressions that I am.

My boyfriend & I have layed down on my bed and made out before, actually done more then that, but no way am I ready to have sex, and neither is he. If this ever happens again and things start to get out of hand (yes, this is how sex starts) then you need to explain to him that you're not ready. If he can't accept that you're not ready, then things won't work it. I'm sure he'll be able to see you're not ready, but don't let him convince you to do it. Good Luck!!

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15/f

Alright, so in the middle of summer, I started going out with my brother's best friend Dean. I've known him and his twin brother Ross since I was a very little girl.

We went out for over a month a a half and during that month and a half, it was the first time I've been happy(I come from abuse, rape, etc.) But for two weeks, he didn't talk to me, or visit me, or anything. He had football practice everyday for three hours during the afternoon, and he just blew me off, but since I was so happy with him, I didn't ask about it.

The day after we started talking again, we hung out and ended up sleeping together. Then that Saturday, five days later, he broke up with me, claiming he needed to focus on school. But I found out, that he used me. He said this "den we got the dark haired freshman i did shit wit her den after that every thing got all weird and i ended it and she knew about the last 2 relationships and idk if i really loved her now that i look back on it. she could have been a rebound girl and i didnt even relize it which makes me feel bad cuz i dont want to have rebound girls anddat means i used which is REALLY bad." Then he went out with my best friend Marcy and planned on using her for sex as well, but she found out and dumped him. And he lead me on for over a month.

I talk to him on and off. It's hard for me not to. I hate him for the crap he's put me through. And we get into a lot of fights. His twin brother told me not to talk to him because he'll just hurt me again. We got into an argument last night and aren't talking because he took my mp3 player and refused to give it back. I got it back today and there were voice recordings on it the first one was "Kaylee is a whoreeee" and the second one I couldn't understand and the third one he was just rambling on.

Now before I ask this, even though he put me through hell, he's helped me a lot too. There's a lot of crap going on and he always helps me and gives me the perfect advice. What I'm saying is, he's a good friend to a certain extent, just horrible at love and crap. He helped me through a lot of crap that he did keep to himself. But at the same time, he took my virginity and used me for sex. Should I continue being friends with him or is he even worth it?

He doesn't seem like an OK guy. If you really really want to be friends with him, then I guess you should be. But don't get romantically involved with him again. He hurts girls for wrong reasons and uses them for sex? That's not OK. I personally don't think he's worth it. Fighting is apart of any relationship, but if you do it a lot, then there is a problem. I'm really sorry this happened to you.

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okay recently my best freinds boyufriend broke up with her and she was like really upset.....welll she said that she thought that he really like me and was just using her to get to me..and i think that is true becasuie of how he is acting round me and nmber one i DON"T want him an de ven if i did i woud never go out with him but what do i do i don't want to get mad at me isf she catches hiimflirtin with me but he won't tkae the hint and go away? I DON"T flirt with him back just to let you know.

Tell your friend when he flirts with you. When he flirts with you, just say, I don't like you. You broke up with my bestfriend!! Stop flirting with me. Tell her you don't like him and nothing would ever happen between them. He's probably just another jerk who uses girls to get to their friends.

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I really need help! I am 13 and next monday me and my boyfriend will be going out for one month. which is a big deal for me. But I have no idea what to get him for valentines day I want to get him something sweet but I have no idea what! Please help me. Also I want to kiss him on valentines day. But I am nervous. We haven't kissed yet! What do I do? what do I get him?

On valentines day, ask him over or see if you can go over to his house. Then you two can be alone and exchange gifts. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a month and a couple days, and I'm getting him Abercrombie & Fitch "Fierce" colonge, because I love the way it smells on guys. I also bought him a box of chocolates. Something simple like that will satisfy him. If you guys have ever mentioned kissing, then it should be easy to do it. Wait until you guys have a silent moment, and then kind of scoot closer to him. If he doesn't lean in and looks confused, you have to lean in. It's really easy once you get started, and you'll feel much better if you do it. Good Luck!!

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why is there so much hate in the world? Every one is labeling everyone. Today I got so mad cuase my friend who is emotional and likes black, some kid walked up to here and asked her if he could teach him how to be emo. It really hurt my feelings even though it wasn't towards me. But Even if you are emo. punk. goth, hard core, why does it matter? as long as everyones being thereselves then it should? why does everyone catorgorize everyone? it's rude.What is the difference between punk, goth, emo anyway? help please

Hate is apart of the world. Most people make rude comments about other people because they feel bad about themselves. If they contridict the way somebody else looks, it makes them feel bigger, better. I try to catch myself everytime I make fun of someone, and think of what it would be like if that person had called me "fat, stupid, or ugly" People shouldn't be put into groups or be labeled. Next time somebody does something like that ask them, "Do you feel better now? Putting someone else down just so you can make yourself seem better then they are?" See how they respond.

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please only girls answer.
what types of clothes/outfits do girls like on guys?? Im not interested in things like emo style or goth, no offense to those that are, i just dont like the style. any help would be appriciated. ..thanx..

Every girls opinion is different, but I'm pretty sure most girls find skater boys hot. That means brand name clothes like Volcom, Quiksilver, and things like that. I don't like really baggy jeans, but I hate tight pants. Don't wear shirts with weird sayings on them like..."It looks like you fell out of the apple tree and hit every branch on the way down" My brother has that shirt :X. Girls find guys attractive when it looks like they try to dress nicely. Don't grunge down, but don't be too fancy either. Casual is the key.

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Is it bad to have confidence and think you are pretty?

This is coming from someone who had low confidence for a large number of years. I would never call myself pretty.

but this is a new year and the past is left behind.

and I'm a lot happier now. It's scaring me I guess. I'm happy when I go out and I smile ...and feel pretty?

Is that bad?

I mean.. confidence in everything.. that you think you are good?

It feels.. really weird/wrong.

Having confidence in yourself and the way you look is one of the best things you can think about yourself. Especially if you weren't happy with your looks before, and now you are. Don't feel weird or wrong about thinking you look good. If you have confidence in yourself, other people will have confidence in you too.

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