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Q: So today in school this girl that likes to run her mouth about people, decided well im gonna run my mouth about you. She thinks i was not gonna do anything just because im quiet. So i ran up to her and confronted her and asked her are you talkin bout me. Shes like yea i am and wut r you gonna do about it. I take off my glasses and my necklace an im like what lets go right now. So she backed up then said wait and took off her necklace.. Then one of my teacher's told me to take a walk and jus walk away so i did, instead of punching her and gettin suspended i punched the door. Then me and my two friends walked with my around the corner to cool off. Then that bitch comes back for some more and my friends tell me to just get up and walk away. She still kept running her mouth so i was like thats it. I was running up to her cussin at her and i was ready to knock the shit out of her, until the principal came out and stopped me. We both had to sit in the office and he asked me wuts this all about so i told him. Then he asked me wut my next step is gonna be when i see her, i told the principal the next time i see her in the hall im gonna hit her in the face. Then i got sent home because they said i needed to cool off and that i will end up hurting someone because of my temper. The thing that pisses me off is that she started talkin shit in front of the office because she knew that they would run out and stop me from hitting her. She only did that because shes scared of me..Basically the principal told me that i have 2 more strikes left, the next one is suspension, and the last is most likely to be expelled. I dont want that to happen. So heres the thing i know that shes gonna do something to me on monday to try to get me mad and i cant control my temper and i know that im gonna beat her ass.. wut should i do?? im soo mixed up right now like shes the type of person who does not shut her mouth and it pisses me off i dont want to get suspended or expelled.. but can you all help me because i dont know what to do because i know coming monday i might fight her..

Uh, you do realize that if you beat her ass then shes just gonna start talking to her friends about how your a psycho person and talking about what you did to her? Yeah maybe she deserves it but beating her up is NOT going to solve your problems. So don't do it.

Oh, and I also wanted to add on that if you beat someone up out of school its still possible to get suspended. It is. So if you really don't want to get suspended, I really don't think you should want to do this.

Q: So this is a survey that im doing..

If you would like to, please answer!

Thanks!

Do you believe in sex before marriage?

I think its alright, so yes.

Q: Okay this question may be kind of long and confusing but i thank you in advance if you can read it and help me. I've liked this kid well say bob for 2 years.although hes 2 years older than me and i dont really know him , know him. Okay so i really like this kid and i cant figure out why and everything. Anyways somehow we got a hold of his number (me and my bestfriend) and called him , adn than my bestfriend started texting him. She said she likes him. I dont know if this has happened to anyone but it breaks my heart.we already went through this when she liked him the first time and she lied to me about it.Than she said it hurt too much that it hurt me , so she didnt like him anymore.Than she likes him again. She said she could see them going out and everything , and that makes me want to puke because i've never liked a guy this long. Trust me, I've tried talking to her. I was balling my eyes out and she still likes him and everything. What else can i do besides tell her that it kills me inside. All she says is " im sorry, and you cant help who you like." i really need help. thanks

I know you dont wanna hear this but she can't help who she likes. Shes right. Its not something you can help, all you can do is be happy for your friend.

Q: 18/f.

University student.

Am working on a project that's due tomorrow (in 8.5 hours, actually). Right now, it's 1:30am. This project was assigned over a week ago and I just .. agh, got distracted, etc.

Does anyone have any tips for me so I won't procrastinate? I already don't get enough sleep during the week (5 hours max), and it looks like tonight's another all nighter. So what should I do?

Please don't dare say the words "time management"... Because obviously, I need help managing my time and I don't know how to. That's why I'm asking this question.

And share personal experiences and improvements afterwards please...I'll be working on the project and checking here once in the while...

Vei.

Okay. The answer below I think was rather rude, because you clearly are having trouble not procrastinating. Yes its true I'm a pretty good procrastinator! But I do know how not to procrastinate. I only procrastinate when I'm just lazy. I know you say don't say time management. But thats really what you are supposed to do, manage your time. I'll show you how:

Usually when I get home from school I go to my computer. but in the morning, I stick post-it notes all over my screen and write "homework" on it. If the homework isn't due the next day, I spend an hour tops on it. Maybe 20 minutes tops on each assignment. For projects an hour tops each day. The post-its just help me remember not to get on the computer quite yet and do my homework. Since I've been doing this I've been getting better grades for more effort in my schoolwork! Think, when you are able to balance out how much work you do on something a day, don't you think it'd get a far better grade then one when you pull an all nighter? Of course you have no choice but to do so now, but this is for future reference. Sorry, I'm really in a rush right now so its not much a specific answer. I'd be more than happy to go into detail if you'd like, just ask me or send it to my inbox. Hope it helped at least a little.

PS. When you get things done before hand you feel so much better, like a big weight is lifted off your shoulder :)

Q: This is embarrasing for me, but I have to get help. recently I got a haircut and it looks great, except only if i straighten it every day, i dont have time for this and i know it could ruin my hair...so I need advice on hair fixes for short, blonde hair (about chinlength) i need as many replies as possible!!thank you anyone who answers this.

Well there are 2 options I could think of.

1. Get a better hair straighter, like a CHI. Those are rather expensive but they work so unbelievably well and are best because the plates are ceramic. They heat up in 20 seconds so its faster, and they barely damage your hair at all.

2. Theres this shampoo & conditioner called Herbal Essences Dangerously Straight. It worked okay for me, not the best though. I still straightened my hair afterward but I didn't need to straighten it as much.

Q: i love my boyfriend a lot and he loves me were doing really good. but i can tell my bf wants more he wants sex he has never forced me or anything. but he gets horny I can tell. I kinda want to do it too. But this would be my first time. Im just scarde because i think about the concequences. Like a baby.We always start kissing and when i know its too much i tell him to stop he doesnt get mad or anything he tells me he will wait until am ready.Im really happy he respects me. I love him and i want to make him happy what should i do.

Hey, everything is in great condition with your relationship. He isn't getting mad at you for not having sex yet. He understands you and that it would be your first time and he is okay with that. He obviously loves you, and he isn't using you for sex. That is a great great thing. Just wait until your ready is all you can do. If you kind of want to, maybe you could try but you NEED protaction and stuff.

Q: heyyyy. its spring break and i wanna come back with a complete makeover.
im thinking about:
1. going to get my eyebrows waxed
2. uses facail and scrubs
3. doing my nails and stuff.
4. working out
5. shopping for clothes

any more ideas. i cant dye my hair but i can do diffrent styles with it.

thanksss

Well, its spring, the sun is shining, the snow is gone, so over spring break why don't you go spend a lot of time outside and get yourself a nice tan?

Q: ok i just turned 13, and i have not gotten my period yet. i have some pads and today i was curious so i tried one on. well it didn't fit right it seemed a little too big. but i got the smallest size. well i tried putting on using the directions (i'm using always). well i'm still using hanes girls and i put it on it feels uncomfortable. but then again, its my first time wearing a pad. so please tell me if its supposed to feel that weird, and also tell me anything i need to know about my period kuz i live with my dad, AND I CANT TELL ANYONE ELSE!
thank you

Well it takes a while to get used to and I have to say I am never comfortable in pads but I rather those then tampons. Its okay, don't worry. Anything you need to know about your period? Count 28 days from the first day of the one you last had and remember the date. Then a few days earlier before you might get it again, start wearing pads in case you get it early so it doesn't leak or anything. :)

Q: what's a perm? i know you guys think i'm crazy cause i dont know... but i know it has to do with like, curliness.

I just wanted to add on from the person below that it doesn't only keep your hair curly for a few months, it stays curly permanently. However, when your hair is growing out it will not grow out curly. What I'm saying is that the curls stay until you cut them or trim them.

Q: hey everyone! please recomend your favorite song. i need a new myspace song seeing as the old got deleted. umm songs with lyrics dealing with heartbreak would be best. rock or pop would also be good. thanx

okay, I've got a perfect song its called Over it by Katharine McPhee and its pop and its about heartbreak kind of, and that she's over a guy.

Q: im 13 my girl broke up wit me 20 mn ago this
other girl i thank likes me
and ive been acting silent and hangin out wit
tha gang cant be any thang i wear because i wear usually is my hoodie and baggy pants
wut do you thank she like s me 4
o yea
also usu ally haVE MY element skateboard back pack and my skate shoes always
and the principel went through me locker the other and found my skateboard and the rest of the gangs skate boards b/c we kinda messed up the sholl on our boards so u thank she likes me 4 the bad boy skate r or the gang or the silant
becausae ive been in in school suspechin 4 7 days now
and i dont know wut up give advise

ok honestly I have no idea what you just said and we can't say what the girl likes you for because we don't know you and it could be for any of those reasons. do you like her? if you do, and you think she might like you, try getting to know her and see how it goes from there, or get her screen name on aim and start talking to her from there but make sure to talk to her in person, don't ever let aim control a relationship :) hope I helped

Q: well on may 31, 2006 i got my first period that lasted for 2 days, then i never got it again, and it's been like what-- almost 11 months? is this normal?

I did'nt get mine until 4 months after the first one but 11 months definatly seems long so I think that it might have just been a false alarm. 2 days is pretty short also. Although it could have been the real thing. I dont' want to say go to the docter because its probably no big deal, just keep waiting. :)

Q: im not doing to good in school
and one of my teachers told me about staying back
and im really worried im going too
is there anyways to prevent it?

I agree with the other people there isn't a way you can prevent it unless you start acing stuff. Study and pay attention, do not slack off, and talk to the teachers about anything you can do for extra credit or something to raise up your grade.

Q: are fairies real? i have a obsession about them, i mean they r all over my room. and i just wanted to see if they are real.

Q: is it true that you can chew some gum with the wrapper on?

Yeah they have some gum like that. my friend is korean and I believe she had gotten some from some japanese store I think, and it was actually really good gum :) I can't remember the name of it. it was years ago. Sorry.

Q: basically, i like this guy. & i THINK he might like me back. either way every week he finds a way to come up to me and say hi, then he just stands there. but that's it, he doesn't talk to me much besides that and whatever i decide to say. & it gets so awkward when that happens.

the question is, why does he say hi then just stand there?
& should i start the conversations, or let it just be awkward and stuff?

Yeah, like the person below me said he was shy, I just wanted to add on: he probably likes you if he tries to talk you. I wanted to add that if you keep starting the convo's and talk with him more, he'll become more comfortable around you. So then the awkward silences should go away. :)

Q: haha i didnt know where to put this topic.
http://i21.photobucket.com/albums/b268/Durene/me.jpg

Yes you are you have beautiful hair! And a great smile. Don't listen to anyone who says you aren't pretty. They are just trying to feel better about themselves.

Q: is blowdrying your hair better or worse than straightning it? i take showers every other day and i blowdry it, so it keeps it nice and straight which works. i don't know if i'm damaging my hair though. am i? is blowdrying your hair bad for it? thankss.!

Blow drying your hair can be bad because of the heat as well as a straightner. You can get split ends faster from both. So its best to let your hair air dry, and if you want it straight buy a heat protecting spray and then straighten your hair. Hope I helped!

Q: Well my school play is tonight and we are going to be backstage a lot of the time, and not allowed to talk or make noise (so we don't disrupt the play) They said we can bring something to do backstage to keep us busy. We can't have anything like iPods or MP3's or handheld games that make noise...but we can have small things like a deck of cards and stuff. Is there any other things I could bring to do instead, since I'm not into cards much?

Q: I don't understand why girls don't like the "sweet" or "nice" guys anymore..All my friends that are girls, like the "Bad boys" or the "Jocks". I like one of my friends, but she likes one of the "bad boy" guys...How can I get her to realize that I could probably be a better boyfriend than him...(14/M)

I just wanted to say the person below me is right. If her heart was to get broken by one of these guys, she'll be sad, but when she realizes that you are there for her and always will be, she may realize that you really are a better person for her.

bio

my name is Jay and I'm only 13 years old but I've been through a lot. I might not give the best advice but I still try. I don't sugarcoat my answers but I'm not mean. you can drop a question in my inbox any time you'd like, and I'd be more than happy to answer because I love to give advice and I try my best to help people.