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Q: ok i really really need some songs like this!!!
i need some songs that can make you cry. really sad songs, but no country please.

also i need some songs that you can really think about and have nice lyrics. kinda like iris by the goo goo dolls. maybe a little bit sad some of them. but ones really like iris that are so nice they make you want to cry.

thanks soo much! i will rate i really need this!
xxx

my all time favorite bittersweet song that is just sooo nice and thoughtful and sweet is

i will follow you into the dark by death cab for cutie

-Mari :D

Q: will someone please recommend to me nauseatingly cute songs such as i want to know your plans by say anything or a brand new colony by the postal service or take my breath away?

not songs like, i love my chick, or gettin some head. songs that like, are nauseatingly adorable and that you wish someone would sing to you and mean wholeheartedly.

thx in advance

here's some i like
some of them are like sad but SO cut also

i will follow you into the dark by death cab for cutie
^thats my favorite
collide by howie day
walk away by ben harper
Love you til the end by the pogues
honey and the moon by josef arthur
maybe im amazed by jem
halleluja by jeff buckley

hope some of those work :D

Q: my boyfriend is jealous, about everything..even if i talk to another guy. he flips out. what should i do? should i break up with him?

i definately dont think you should break up with him over this. but you should at least tell him that you like him and the other guys are just friends etc. let him know that he's your only guy and the others dont mean anything

mari

Q: i've always been self concious of myself, but lately it's been really bad. i just can't find anything good about myself! here's some pictures...can you tell me honestly what you think? and what my best qualities that i should focus on are? thanks so much.
pics //
http://s37.photobucket.com/albums/e95/muhegz235/muahh/?action=view¤t=MEE.jpg
http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e95/muhegz235/muahh/28FC2F14.jpg
http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e95/muhegz235/muahh/fhjkhgdjkshja.jpg
http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e95/muhegz235/muahh/122918068_397643752_0.jpg
http://i69.photobucket.com/albums/i55/STRiiKExAxPOSE/skipper/1315613819_l.jpg

are you serious?!?!
your REALLYY pretty.
and believe me..i dont make stuff up i say it like it is..and ur pprettyy
i like you hair longg and curly or straight are BOTH cute =]

marii

Q: i just got a new ipod video and i want to download the songs on it that i had on my old ipod but whenever i plug the USB cord in, it says it's unknown. and i took out the USB cord when it said "do not disconnect" and now its like frozen or something?? major help needed.

for being frozen...toggle the hold/on button on the top then hold the menu and center buttonfot 6-10 seconds.
the usbshouldnt be a problem..if in your itunes it shows an ipod icon, then it should work.

mariii

Q: I have a friend that says why dwell on the past (such as negative comments that were made, anything that upsets you) when the present and the future will bring so much joy. Do you agree with what my friend says and what is your reason for agreeing or disagreeing?

i agree 100%.
you only have this ONE life. so you need to make the best of it. and it can be GREAT if you want it to. dont forget what happened in the past...but move on..and have fun.

marii

Q: (my chest)

im super flat,its not even funny. how do you get bigger boobs, without getting plastic surgery and such. is there anything natural you can do?

and please don't say i should just accept myself, and live with it.

theres no way except stuffing =]
excersizes will make you look masculine and icky =/
sooo good luck

mariii

Q: how can i convert my music from limewire to AAC files on itunes?? all i can find is "Convert ID3 Tags..." whatever that means!?

hmm...for me after downloading from limewire it automatically goes to itunes..then you can put it in your aac files?? are you sure its not doing that...

mariii

Q: how do i save pictures on a mac? like from google or something...... like an image??? thanku =)

just click it and drag to your desktop or any folder you want it in =]

mariiii

Q: Hiya...i need help with a small problem i have. I have no trouble getting a boyfriend at all its just when i have one..after a few weeks i feel as though i dont want to be with them anymore..as if i get bored. Im only young but i need to know what this could meen? Can i not be in a long relationship ?? Please help

maybe not long relationships right now?
if you get bored with them...
then they arent for you..
your young just experiment..no need for long term relation ships now anyway =]
just have fun! and live your life while you still can.

mariii

Q: 16/f

okay so theres this girl kayla and me and her are best friends right? well weve always been close with this other girl tiff, but now we've been getting closer with her and i dont know..it doesnt feel like me and kayla are as close anymore... it feels like they dont want to hang out with me as much.. (but maybe thats in my head? and maybe im the one with the problem idk...) but what are some things to .."put a spark back into the friendship?"

anything helps.
thanks.

omg..this is EXACTLY what happened to me and my best friend...
i dont mean to sound mean but all i wanted was the "tiffany" in my group to be gone.
idk if its like that for you.
im guessing if you give it time and really pay a lot of attention to kayla you guys will be close again

mariii

Q: I need some new music, I like rock, alternative, indie. I like anything like that.
Please tell me some of your favortie songs or bands.
thanks

--cute is what we aim for
--plain white tee's
--rooney
--something corporate
--the semester
--mae
--motion city
--imogen heap
--the pogues
--oasis
--modest mousee
--head automatica
--jacks mannequin
--the academy is-
--lily allen
--mewithoutyou
--hellogoodbye

i know TONS more..thats just like top of the head...

mariii

Q: When i open my iTunes it asks me if i want to upgrade to iTunes 7.0...should i do that? And if i do then will i loose all my music from it?

no you WONT lose your music...its just an easier version...personally i like it...but its not extremely necessary..but its nice..and againn you wont lose your music.
hope i helped.
mariii

Q: okay, my mom has been ragging on me alot lately. everything i do sets her off. i mean, i miss one paper in school and it's like the sky is falling. supposedly i have a smart mouth and i admit sometimes i do but not all the time, like she thinks i do. i'm seriously thinking about running away. what should i do?

omg that sounds EXACTLY like my mom!! ahh where she thinks you ALWAYS have an atitude but really you dont! ahhh ... and my mom is SO obsessed with school..just like yours ahh that s sooo wierd!..dont run away..your better than that..you can deal with it. and if nthing stops her just be the bigger person take a deep breath and stay in control =]]

Q: Hello I am 13 years old and is going out with this really, really sweet guy. But now hes getting too attached and between us is getting a bit awkward now. I want to be just friends with him because whenever I hang around him we talk to each others like we were just mates. I mean now I love him but only in a friend way. And I tried breaking up with him and asked if we could just be friends but he didn't want it that way because he loves me a lot (which makes me feel HEAPS guilty). Besides I'm in love with this other guy. I don't want to break his heart but I just want to be friends. But he doesn't want to be friends. What should I do?

break up with him. if he really still loves you.he wont want to lose you forever..youll eend up being friends...go with your heart and dont stick with some guy because you feel bad..you only live one life..and you dont want to waste it =]]
marii

Q: so. my friend just got this new bf. and hes amazing, we were chillin one day and i met his friend,at that moment i knew i had to have him.not only is he amazingly gorgeous but hes sweet anf funny and i just cant describe it. he comes from a rough-ish homelife and hes still amazing i see through his "tough guy" act i see him for what he is for who he is. BUT of course he doesnt even think of me in that way, not even close, hes like in love with this other girl and it tears me apart, i reeeeeeeeeeeeeally like him but im cluless as to what im supposed to do, how do i win his heart???????

well the only thing you can really do is just keep beign yourself..and keep the connection between you to..if you cant have him..become really close friends..and maybe in the long run it could happen sometime =]]

Q: I'm really popular at my school, probally the most popular girl in my school; but I don't like any of the jocks or popular guys at my school who like me. I like this one guy who is in a totally different group than the one I hang out with. He's not someone a bunch of girls like, and he's not really popular. He hangs out with the punks and rockers and people lke that, and I do dress punk, but I don't no how to talk to him. I don't have him in any of my classes and he doesn't know who I am. A couple of my friends know him, but my other friends would kill me if I became friends with him or went out with him. Which I can't because he has a girlfriend at the moment , but for now I just wanna get to know him. What shoild I do?

talk to your friends about it...i know that people say that you shouldnt care what they think..but everyone cares what other people think..so just tell them and maybe one of them who knows this kid can introduce you to.....just get to know him before you make a move..idk just go with the flow =]]

Q: okay so if you get an ipod from the apple store would it work on a windows computer? like if you wanted to order it from apple.com. thanks in advace.

yess it works...like below you jsut have to install itunes and you are set =]]

Q: ok, well tomorrow i think i'm going to the doctors cause i have problems with my knees.
my dad said that we just go there and she tells us where to go next to see whats wrong with them. will i get my height and weight checked?

yeah they will. idk why i think its just for like records and stuff...but im pretty sure they wont sya anything about it..just like write it down.. no big deal =]

Q: well im almost 14 and i just started masterbating a little. it feels good but i feel like i shouldn't be doing it.

i was with my friends and they were talking about it and saying how gross it was. i was just like playing along and agreeing even though i do it.

am i too young?.. is there anyone my age that does it too?

thanks in advanced

noooo its not young at all!!
its actually a good thing
you should have fun with it!!
--marii

bio

hey. im mari. Im 14 and completely and 100 percent me. just mari, nothing else. I try to be myself always not let others influence me. I act on a whim, my first instincts and always have fun no matter what im doing. Right now im just focusing on being a teenager and savoring every last second of it. I love to play soccer, play tennis, ice skate, listen to music, dance, singg, be silly, hang out with friends, basically everything a normal teenager likes. but i also love to help people and give advice. I think im pretty good at it...most of the time :D so drop one in my inbox and you can see for yourselves!