Hey im jenny and I'm thirteen years old. I'm your typical teenager; I deal with school and home problems everyday so I usually have personal experience to the questions I answer. I love field hockey, photography, babysitting, and obviously giving advice. But dont get me wrong, I ask a ton of questions on here too. Advicenators is my answer to everything and I'm on here everyday so I'll answer your questions right away. I answer questions in every category so feel free to ask anything. I really like when people rate me and give me feedback so i know if i've helped. Thnx for reading about me and ask away =D.
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this must be the worst problem I have. I'm extremely sensitive. Is there any ways to not cry? I try to take deep breaths and calm down but it doesn't work.
Like I haven't went shopping for a year and my dad said he'd take me today but he changed my mind. big deal. But I kinda teared up and had to make an excuse to stay upstairs for the rest of the day or else he'd think I'm mad at him or something and maybe it'll hurt his feelings.
The worst thing is that when I start I can't stop and then it gets really ugly with the hicupping and stuff.
please help.. (link)
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Being sensitive isn't a bad thing, but i can see how it might cause some dilemas. I don't think it would hurt your dad's feelings if you cried, you were disapointed and that's understandable. If you start crying at school or in public before you start crying real hard ask to go to the bathroom and then stay in there until you get yourself together. One excuse that always helps me is when you start to teer, pretend like your yawning so people think your eyes are just watering. Or you could say u poked ur eye and get a cold towl to put over your eyes so people dont see. That stuff always works for me! Hope i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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Ok im 18/f. So ive always been attracted to guys. By that im mean i think guys are really cute. Ive never really had a boyfriend. I had to small things. When i kissed them though i never felt anything. Im dont really have a desiree to date girls but for some reason i like boobs. I like to look at them. i really dont want to be gay, but could i be???? Sorry if this seems strange (link)
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Gay? I don't think so. Probably just a phase or something, but definately not something to worry about. And maybe you haven't felt anything when you kiss a guy because you haven't found a guy that gives you "sparks" when you kiss him. This is a normal situation so don't feel weird about it =] Hope i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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THere is a trend out there I guess its spelled emo. Anyways my son has been talking about it for two years but never really acted on it. Two days ago he started dressing im all black and yesterday he puts on eyeliner. I love my son very much, he has always MARCHED TO HIS OWN DRUM AND IVE ALWAYS SUPPORTED HIM. HE IS MOSTLY ANTISOCIAL AND LOVES MUSIC AND THE COMPUTER...HIS NEW FOUND LOVE IS THE CURE. I JUST WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT BEING EMO. NOT TO DOWN HIM BUT TO SUPPORT HIM.....PLEASE HELP (link)
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Okay well first of all, your son really isn't at the "emo" stage. Emo is the first 3 letters in emotional. Someone who is "emo" usually cuts their wrists because well, theyre emotionally unstable. They feel like hurting their wrists to make the hurting stop inside. Now it sounds like you care for your son a lot, so it doesn't seem like he has many reasons to go emo. To me, I think you are jumping to conclusions. The "emo" style is very popular, but kids can dress and listen to the same music without being emo. {Don't mean to offend anyone with my response}. Hope i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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Short version: me and this one boy (thats fully straight) are "talking" but his gay best friend that likes him is going to say something to end it. how do i get the one boy not to listen to his best friend and to still like me?
me and this one boy *john just started talking about like dating and stuff and his best friend is this boy whos gay named *george. and george likde john (im pretty sure he still does) but george hates me, and hes already gotten pissed at me for dating some other guy a long time ago, and he told my other friend*emily that hes gunna find a way to put an end to me and *john talking but thats dumb because hes straight, so how do i get john not to listen to his best friend and to still talk to me? (link)
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Okay here's what I would do. Find a good time to talk to *john when *george isn't around. Tell him that you know him and *george are close and best friends and your not trying to say this to make him mad. Remind him that you don't want to ruin his relationship with *george, or his relationship with you. Say something like... "I know *george is jealous because we are good friends now, but I'm worried that he might try to convince you something that's not true to wreck our friendship. And I really like being your friend and I don't want to lose you, and I don't want you to lose *george either." Hopefully he'll believe you. Hop i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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not to long a go i was raped by my best friends uncel i was craking up i diddent tarlk 2 no one my best friend keept askin wat was up i sed i carnt say it will rec our friend she after a while i told her i burst in to tears and she just huged me and said its ok bu then she started being wird with me she hates me its been 4 week since i told her and she haseent tarlked to me since i am so lonnly non of my m8 whant anythink do do with me i am afrade to tarlk my teachers and family are aetting worried as i cry alot i tyrd to od but i threw up i can not take it i wonna die do you think i should tell some 1 ? (link)
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Yes!!! You definatley need to tell someone. Right away!!! And if your friends won't support you, after you get this worked out find some real friends. This is a horrible thing. Im very sorry you had to go through this, but the only thing that will help you start to move on is telling someone. And think about it... what if your not the only friend this "friend's" uncle raped? You need to help others and mostly yourself by telling an adult immediatley.
**jenny13**
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hi im 13 and i got fingered by my boyfriend, but then i had my underwear on. After that, i notice that on my underwear, there is a small stain of blood. i tried to pee, and when the pee came out, my virgina stings alot. I wonder is my v infected? will i be able to pee after since it stings alot, and i don't dare to go to toilet, cause it stinks so much. plz reply soon, I NEED TO PEEEE:( (link)
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You probably don't want to hear this... but you should talk to your doctor about this. It might be infected and the only way it could get better is from medicine your doctor gives you. Also, your bf could have scratched your vagina and there could be a cut there. If you don't want to tell your doctor/parent you could wait for the infection or scratch to heal, but that could be a long painful wait. So your best bet is to talk to someone. Hope i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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I have a few question for curling my hair because it's probably not the same way other girls curl their hair because my hair is thick, poofy, and curly but not beautful curls, it's different sizes, everywhere, just disgusting.
Would I curl my hair when it's wet and not blow dry?
Do I need to put something in my hair before I curl?
Anything else so it looks like Mary kate and ashley when they curl their hair? Prevent's my hair from poofing or frizzing?
Tell me what I need to do and when to put it on. Thanks! (link)
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Well this is what my friend {who has extremely poofy hair} does to get bouncy curls. First she straightens her hair. Then she sprays her straight hair with hairspay {like Aussies or something}. While her hair is hardening she curls it. Its ok if your hair is hard while y0our curling it'll look fine when your done. After your done curling all your hair you can spray it with more hairspray to make sure the curls stay in. Hope i've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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is it possible to put songs from limewire onto your iPod?
if it is..how do you do it?!
thanks sooo much! (link)
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I do this all the time. first open your limewire and your itunes. After a song is 100% downloaded you just click on the song and drag it to your itunes library. Then all you have to do is import it into your ipod. It's that easy!
**jenny13**
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Well, this guy really likes me and had the nerve to ask me out today. I only see him as a friend, and he cant geth the idea. I told him no and it didnt seem so bad at the moment. I had my friend talk to him and he really likes me and now is severly depressed. He wont smile anymore and now i feel awful and guilty i dont like him but, i just feel bad for hurting him...Help plz!
thx (link)
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wow it seems like u rly feel bad for this guy. but thts good you didnt go out with just to make him feel better. now he seems pretty depressed you dont like him back, so heres my advice. you told him you only wanted to be friends, so be his friend! talk to him and class more, maybe hang out at lunch or recess. maybe even be partner on a project with him. then he'll be happy because he gets to be with you, and you'll be happy because he's not depressed anymore. hope I've helped!
**jenny13**
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I don't want to be rude and I don't mean to be rude/offend anyone but I don't know how else to word this question. I live in a neighborhood that's filled with rich, snobby people with spoiled kids. I mean, it's not like mansions or anything but we're definately in the better half the average income kind of place. Now, my friend, whom I love dearly is on the poor side. Her house can basically fit in my house like 3 times and my room is double the size of hers and she shares hers with her sister. Well, I don't care about how priviledged [sp?] people are and stuff but I do feel bad about inviting people over. Like I want to invite my friend over but I'm afraid to because I feel like a total b**** and a snobby spoiled girl. How do I get over this and invite her for the first time over my house? (link)
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Take it from the person on the other side of your story, don't bring up the size of your houses and just invite her over. My friends have huge houses compared to mine, but it really doesn't matter. If she does say something like, "Wow your house is huge compared to mine!" just say thanks. When i first went over my friends' houses I said something like that to which they replied, "Yeah but I like how cozy your house is." That really made me feel happy about living in a smaller house and neighborhood. Hope I've helped!!!
**jenny13**
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I'm having a sleepover with 3 of my close friends (all girls, 14 yrs old) and 3 of us want to pull a prank on the other girl while she's sleeping. We don't want to do anything major, but we want to do something funny. For example, putting whipped cream all over her face/hair would be a little too far, because she's obsessed with her hair and would go nuts when she wakes up with it all over her face (plus she might wake up while we're doing it!). Does anyone have any ideas?? (link)
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Personally, my favorite sleepover prank is called truck. When the first girl falls asleep you grab a flashlight. Some girls hold down the side of the sleeping bags, while one girl goes in the sleeping girls face a yells TRUCK!!! and turns on the flashlight!!! The flashlights are like headlights on a truck and your sleeping friend will be totally scared, and the rest of you guys will be extremely ammused... trust me.
**jenny13**
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I am 13 and I am old enough to babysit something i have always wanted to do for a little extra cash!! But i have no clue how to get started how do i get to babysit i have no clue can anyone give me advice? (link)
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First you should take a babysitting course so you are certified. After that I would try talking to neighbors, teachers, relatives, and even friends with little siblings. Another thing that is often done is put a flier up in your local grocery store with your name, age & phone number. Including that you've taken a babysitting course might help impress people. My last suggestion is you could print an add in the newspaper so everyone in town can see. Hope I've helped!
**jenny13**
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okay i really want a puppy but my mom says no because she doesn't believe me when i say i'll take care of it myself. how do i convince her i'm responsible enough for a puppy and that i will take care of it? i'm 13/f if that helps (link)
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I was recently in this same situation. Mom's think because you are getting older you won't be around enough to take care of them. Well heres what I did. I know this sounds silly but take a dog stuffed animal and treat it like a real one. As in, pretend to fill his food and water bowl and when you get home from school walk it. Show your mom that you can adjust your lifestyle to taking care of a puppy. Yeah it might seem a little odd, but that's how I got my baby, a three year old bassett hound!
**jenny13**
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This boy i have known forever always wants us to hang out and we do i go ove rhis house he comes over mine ( we dont do anything bad though) and all of a sudden he gets mad at me and calls me and my friends these mean words. So i ignoed him for maybe a week and a half until he come and apologizes, i said i wasnt sure becuase he was being mean, and he kept saying why cant we have things the way they used to be and it just hurt me that for no apparent reason he called me those names, i cried the whole night and i cant stop forgetting him calling me these bad things! and i dont know wut to do! HELP! my friend said u helped her so i think u can help me too! thanks a bundles! (link)
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Don't take those names personally! Your friend is suffering a case of the green-eyed jealous monster. Obviously you and this boy have been friends for quite awhile, and you seem to be pretty close to me. I think your friend is insecure that he's not your only best friend anymore. Explain to him that he's an awesome friend, but you have other friends you like to hang out with too. Remind him this doesn't take him out of the picture! Invite him to hang out with your friends, or sit with you guys at lunch. Things won't be exactly like they used to, but hopefully they'll get better as this friend becomes friends with your other friends.
**jenny13**
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There is this guy i really like, but he is in love with this other girl. He said he wanted to wait until highschool so there realtionship woukd have a meaning. But the girl is already goin out with this other gut, and the guy i like seem depressed, i really like him but i dont know him that well! My friend is really good friends with him but i dont want her to know because, well im not sure! i know i will never have a cance with him. and the dance that is coming up soon i want to go with him but i know i have no hope, and i think i should give up i dont want to ask him because i know he wants to go with the girl so i want advice please help!! (link)
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This is what I would do. First of all you should be honest and tell your friend you like him. So this friend of yours and this guy are really good friends right? I think you should get your friend to ask him if he would want to go have a date to the dance. Get her to ask that instead of asking him to go with you. If he says he would, then give your friend the OK to ask about you. But if he says he doesn't want a date, get your friend to invite him to go with the two of you as friends. Who knows... if you have fun and get to know each other, you might get at least a dance from him.
**jenny13**
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ok well me and this girl used to be really good friends!! the last year in 7th gr ( im in 8th now and 14) she spread a rumor about me and started stuff between me and alot of my friends! so i decided not to hang with her anymore!!! we've had a lot of fights after that too and we've been very close to fighting 4 real!!!! but now i kind of over it and at a party the other night she invited me to a barbque of hers next month! I donbt know if i should forgive her or what to do ??!?!?!?!!! please HELP!!!! (link)
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Wow, you and this girl really have been through some rough times this past year! You should ask yourself, am I ready to move on and forget put the fight behind us? or she really upset me and I just don't want to go through this again. You could always go to the barbeque with her, you know catch up on things and see if she has changed. Remember this is only one get together, you should go to the barbeque to see if you can be friends again. But if it feel awkward, at least you tried, rite?
**jenny13**
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i just can't take my life anymore. i have issues with my family, alot of my close friends treat me like crap and are hypocrites/manipultive jealous attention-seekers, i dont have a boyfriend or anything, nothings really going right.
im just so sick of everything.
no im not suicidal at all.
i just feel like crap.
i can't wait to go to collage and move out of this place.
any suggestions - how do i make myself feel better? (link)
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I honestly know how you feel. Life just sucks and you really just want to get away. I was recently depressed but I've managed to do things to lift my spirits. The best thing I did was I made a new friend. Someone that didn't know me at all but could just listen and help me with my problems, and I help her with hers. You said you can't wait untill you go to college, so why don't you make good memories to remember. Such as taking crazy pictures with the friends you are getting along with. Another way I really feel good is I take a long walk. Just to clear my mind and really come back down to earth, which in the end helps saddness. Hope I have helped!
**jenny13**
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