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Q: please help me im really confused about my sexuality. i came out to my family a few months ago but started to feel it was to soon. i really fancy a girl i know but seriously get aroused over men . when i masturbate i think of men too. what am i????

You need to think about it for awhile ,
think about what you need ,
what you like in a girl , and what you like in a guy ,

but from what your saying ,
i'm thinking your a bisexual .
you like boys and girls ,

i hope i helped .
xoxo

Q: So yesterday, pretty much this morning, around 12:30-1:00 I had sex with my boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it. We had a little to drink and then just ended up making out...and one thing lead to another and we had sex. It wasn't to painful and didn't realize that I had bled until I took a shower this morning and noticed my clothes. So yeah, we didn't use any protection but he said not to worry he didn't cum. I'm kind of nervous but not too worried about it, I just really don't want to get pregnant. We had sex for about 5 mins only; maybe evben less. Do you think I should get the morning after pill or am i ok?

Well first of all , you should never have sex without a condum : you can get pregnant or get an STD : even both .

- when a guy says that he wont cum in you ,
i'll take it out blah blah .

bull shit-
forreal , it will be very hard for him too ,
hes gettin ready to hit a wonderful climax & then has to stop .

don't ever blieve a guy will do that .
unless you want him to .

& yeah you should get the morning after pill ,
'but they cost ALOT , and , you get real sick from it .

so yeah ,
just be careful next time ,
& makes sure you carry around condums ,
so just in case later that night you will be ready and safe for the heat of the moment .

xoxo

Q: I missed my period for this month.
Last time I had it was begginning of August.
I am a virgin.
& This has never happened before.
Any advice on what it is ?

your period is just being irregular .
this happends all the time ,
it could skip for just a few days ,
but it will come on soon ,

its normal don't worry ,

xoxo

Q: aiteeeeeee;
so,
i'm sposed tuh be on my period now.
n im getting cramps andall.
but i havnt bleed at all for almost 4 days now.
ive heard itsa sign of pregnency,
but im a virgin.
do you know what could be wrong?

ohh ,
its fine , your a virgin so you aint pregnant .

& your period is probably irregular .
its normal .

xoxo

Q: hey .
i was wondering if you had any tips on having an amzing orgasm during masterbation.
like,
i dont stick my finguhs inside because im a virgin, i rub on the outside.
do you have any tips on an amahzing orgasm?

mm you can use a stuffed animal ,
pillow , or have somebody else do it for you , using something that vibrates on your clit is what most people i know do .

try those .

xoxo

Q: If a guy cums on your clitoris and you are a virgin, What are the chances of you being pregnant?

There is a pretty big chance of getting pregnant ,
there will always be a big chance ,
be careful .

get a pregnancy test .

Q: okay i am horny all the time...i cant control it HELP

Mm , its only because your growing up ,
and if you want to do something about it ,
then the only thing i can think of is to masterbate .

xoxo

Q: this is weird-
but do boys get orgasims?
cuz i knoww like for a girl you like
shake a little and like it feels amazing
but like guys do that too rite? and if they
do, how and when do they get them?
thanks

Yes of course they do ,
thats why guys are such pervs , (haha jk_

anyways .

guys can actually get orgasms easier then girls ,

how is when they are having intercourse ,
or doin somethin pleasurable .
and when it only depends on the guy ,
some guys orgasm quick and some fast .

xoxo

Q: Is it wierd that i don't find any desire in Oral sex...i've never done it (i'm 16) but i don't want to at all...like its not appealing.

Also, when i am making out with my bf...i don't feel anything...not like i'm a lesbian (b/c that grosses me out (no offence...i have nothing against it...it's just not me). But i mean...like i get bored...and i hate doing it for a long time.

What is wrong with me?

well EVERYBODY doesn't have to have an interest in oral sex .
some people don't find i tthat appleaing .
and that is you .
theres nothing wrong w. you .

he must not be pleasuring you right .
if there is anything you like that turns you on , tell him to do that , guide him ,

so when it comes to being intimate you'll enjoy it ,

you have to tell him that ,
so he doesn't go on thinking that you love doing it .

and he does .

hope i helped .
xoxo

Q: i'm 17/f. so lately i've been have a discharge down there.. it's like white and cottage cheesy i guess, but in like a clear liquid.. it doesn't smell or itch. i had my period 2 weeks ago, and i went to the gyno a week ago. i haven't had sex since then. what could it be? it doesn't hurt or anything.. i'm just wondering what it is.

if it doesn't hurt or smell bad ,
it must not be an infection .

so its probably just normal discharge .

Q: what r all the bases. 1,2,3...

1st base would be french kissing ,
2nd base would be touching
3rd base would be like fingering and oral
and HOME RUN is sex .

xoxo

Q: okay this is probably really strange but i need to know. what exactly does a guy do when he fingers a girl. like, what is the girl suppose to do and does it hurt?

when i guy usually fingers the girl ,
he'll look at her , maybe talk dirty to her , and give her kisses , here and there .

and the girl just sits there and enjoys the plessure ,
and if it does hurt , make sure to slow down a bit , or if you don't like it then tell him to stop , its your body , and you have control over what you let people do to it .

it may hurt at first , but it loosens you up and it will start feeling better each time it happeneds .

Q: Hey what does it mean when a dude says a girl is "tight" or "lose" ... like whats the difference?

and what is it.. when i guy eats her out or whatever?

their basically talking about a girls vigina .
when a girls vigina is tight like small .
and loose is like open and droppy .

you know ?
xoxo

Q: My boyfriend and I just started to have sex about 2 days ago. I talked to him about everything.. How to to put the condom on, blah blah. We had sex about 4 times the first day and about 5 times the second one. I'm just wondering what are the pregnancy symptoms? I'm on the pill & we used a condom every time & it did not break.. But I could've SWORN that my boyfriend lost his erection while I was on top [yes, i'll talk to him about that.. he didn't tell me he came] Is there a chance I could be pregnant? The condom was still on but I'm afraid some cum slipped out or something. [is that possible?] Also, I'm curious- If the condom breaks, you'll be able to feel his cum inside you, right?

How am I supposed to know if I'm pregnant because I do get mood swings anyway. I have an iron deficiency so it's half of the pregnant symptoms that I've looked up. I'm just wondering..IS there anything else not listed on sites? Personal experiences or something?

My opionion i don't think your pregnant ,
becuzs your on a pill and he used a condom and the condom didn't rip .

Make sure that when he is done using the condom ,
he should go to the bathroom and fill it up with water and see if the water starts to slit through any of the holes .

If no water is leaking then then your fine , and if there is , then be more careful .

Q: So I hadnt seen my bf in over a week and I couldnt wait to see him!! and I was horny as hell when we wwere together, but im not always like that... im usually never that horny with him, but I wish I were more in the mood to do things... Would masterbating more often help? what could help?

16\f

You were just very sexually frusterated and couldn't wait to do stuff with him ,

but masterbation should help ,
if you do it more a week .

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Q: When a guy eats a girl out, is it supposed to be more pleasure for the girl, or the guy?

The girl gets most pleasuer from it obviously ,
but some guys get some play outta it too .

=] xoxo

Q: how do you know if a guy is having an orgasim ?

actually what is it ?

You will know if he is having an orgasm if he is ejaculating . - which means he has sperm coming outt . -

or .

you can know by his face expression .
like he is plessured so good .
or if he starts moaning louder and louder .

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Q: my boyfriend told me i was a freak. is that badd ?

haha damn ,
well if he meant freak in the sheets ,
then thats good .

but like a weirdo freek ,
then thats an insult .

don't take that shit if it is !

=p

Q: Okay i am a 16/m And me and my girlfriend have been having sex for quit a while now we have been together for a little over a year. But a few months ago she got pregnant but she had a miscarriage and at that time we was wanting her to be but then we got worried because her parents are kinda mean and would probably start a lot of trouble and her dad has a bad temper. But my question is. We have used a condom but we neather one like them. So we dont use them anymore. I pull it out before i actually "Cum" but is it possible for her to get pregnant from just pre cum?.. Please answer ASAP.

Yes ,
you can get pregnant from pre-cum it is possible ,

i don't know the percentage exactly but it's true ,
and you guys don't like using a condom , and i totally understand because its uncomfertable you should talk to her about using a girl condom or having her take birth control .

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