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Oral Sex
Is it wierd that i don't find any desire in Oral sex...i've never done it (i'm 16) but i don't want to at all...like its not appealing.
Also, when i am making out with my bf...i don't feel anything...not like i'm a lesbian (b/c that grosses me out (no offence...i have nothing against it...it's just not me). But i mean...like i get bored...and i hate doing it for a long time.
What is wrong with me?
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well EVERYBODY doesn't have to have an interest in oral sex .
some people don't find i tthat appleaing .
and that is you .
theres nothing wrong w. you .
he must not be pleasuring you right .
if there is anything you like that turns you on , tell him to do that , guide him ,
so when it comes to being intimate you'll enjoy it ,
you have to tell him that ,
so he doesn't go on thinking that you love doing it .
and he does .
hope i helped .
xoxo
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hey.(im 16 too)nothings wrong with.it just means your bf just isnt satifing you.and you just havent felt that good feeling(passanit true love).hope i helped you understand.
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You're probably just used to making out. You need something new to spark things up.
Oral sex isn't mandatory in relationships. Like you I seriously think its gross like bj's and hj's thats not my thing either. A guy will understand that and respect it too if he's that sort.
If he calls you stupid because you dont like them then obviously he wants more out of it. Just explain to him it doesnt appeal to you and that is your final choice.
It's not weird at all standing up for your beliefs about Oral. Try to think up new things with your boyfriend for awhile to spark things up between you guys then maybe you'll be crazy for making out again.
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Firstly, oral sex doesn't interest everyone.
It could be because you aren't ready, or you just flat out don't want to do it because as you've said, it's not appealing.
You may change your mind about it in the future. I know of people who always said it was disgusting, then said they actually enjoyed once the tried it with a trusting partner etc etc.
So basically, oral sex isn't for everyone.. Perhaps if you tried it, you could change your mind, or if you don't want to, that's perfectly fine. Noone can make you and whoever you're with should respect your decisions.
Secondly, you're normal here too. It does get boring after a while.
Some tips which could help you in this position would be to make out with your boyfriend less. This way, you won't get too bored and you'll probably look forward to doing it more.
Or you could spice it up a little to make it more exciting and again, less boring.
Don't mean to put a dampener on this situation, but you have to think of all the possible reasons why you may not enjoy doing some things, or why they bore you.
Is there still a spark between you and your boyfriend? Still attracted to him?
If not, it could be why you don't have the desire to do certain things.
But then again, it could just be because it has become more of a routine and you'd like to do things differently.
Either way, I hope things work out for you.
Try doing things a little differently, new kissing techniques, games etc to see if they change your mind.
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