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Q: 19/f
I had sex with my best friend (a guy) a little while ago. We both admited feelings for each other & have been a couple before, but things still aren't going anywhere even though it's what we both want. Help!
hey
talk to him and just tell him that you want to take things into a relationship. Maybe he is just being shy about it or waiting for you to make the first move


Q: hey
I was wondering, how come everyone all of a sudden hates preps?
Like my friends and I were at the movies tonight. And i hate labeling myself but im deffinetely in the prep catogory. And all these punk emo girls were mocking us and and following us saying " like omg im like such a prep like omg" And all this other stuff. MY friends thought they were jelous but i dont know. Does anyone know why everyone doesnt like preps? Like on myspace people are posting bulletins saying " Wow i hate preps" and all this other stuff. Im just being myself,and who i am.
Does anyone know? thanks
Now a day if you have on somthing from like aero or somthing your instantly considerd a snob/ bitch. im not in the the prep thing but i go through the same thing as you. im always get go cry in a corner and cut your self and im nothing like that so im assuming thats probley why theas other girls were doing this. The girls that were doing this were just being a pain in the ass.The next time it happens just stand up for your self

Q: Okay I have like line marks on my breats. And like, they are like dark pinkish and stuff and I don't know what they are. I mean I am in shape so i don't knw why they would be stretch marks and I only have a Size A borderline B cup. So i dunno what it is. And I really want it to go AWAY. Please please help me I really want it gone
Dont worry they are just stretch marks.Your boobs could have grown and thats why you have them most girls do

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Q: Okay well my brother was talking about guys cumming & busting a nut or what not okay. Well i thought busting a nut & cumming was the same thing but my guy friend said no its not cumming usually is clear and busting a nut is white & feels much better.Now i know i`m not stupid but is what my guyfriend TRUE??.. I know also this is a weird question and probably a weird conversation to have with somebody DUH! especially my brother i just over heard his conversation with friends. Thanks alot in advance
im sure its the same thing.I have never herd of the terms used differnt
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Q: Okay so I masturbate like 3-4 times a week and I like to alot. The problem is, I feel so perverted and gross. How can I sto pfeeling so disgusting? 14-f
Dont worry its compleatley normal.I guess theres nothing you can do about feeling perverted.If people say that its a sin to do all this dont lision to them.Its compleatley natural.

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Q: I wasn't sure what category to put this under, but how can a fourteen year old girl earn money, besides babysitting? I mean, job-wise.

Thank you.
hey
Look around your community for people that will hire you at your age.Not many will.You might have to just wate till your 15 or so to try to find an acutal job.You could also try odd jobs like taking care of some ones lawn or somthing like that.Good luck

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Q: Ok Im 15 nd having a baby nd will the baby take the fathers last name or mine or is it our choice?
Hey,
its really all your choice.Most of the time it depends on if the parents are still together. Im assuming you guys are.Good luck with the baby if you need any thing add somthing to my inbox.
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Q: Every time I get my boyfriend to have a boner he covers it up, what does that mean? It doesn't bother me that he has one but what is he trying to like hide?
wow i have never herd of that before .Maybe he is self consious of it. the next time he goes to cover him self up just give him a look like why did you do that and maybe he will tell you.If he dosnt then just ask him.And if he is tell him you love him no matter what and its the perfect size for you.After all the averige size is 5 in

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Q: 15/f
what kinds of things should i put in the card to my bf?

-quotes
-lyrics
-something to actually SAY to him.. i really have no clue..
anything is appreciated.
hi,
dont put in stupid quots that every one has told before just put random thins in like inside jokes and stuff that you guys thought was funny but every one else would look at you like you were stupid for saying in public. good luck
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Q: i am 15 nd going 2 be having a baby.i havent told my rents yet,and i want 2 keep the baby,but i was wondering if there was ne way my rents or the state could take my baby away without my consent
hey
Your parents cant take the baby or the state unless you are proven to be an unfit mother.I hate to sound like im telling you its a bad idea to keep the baby but are you sure you can handle this. im not saying abort it but.Babys arnt all fun and games and they cost lots of money.Talk to your parents as soon as you can about this and see how they will handle it and if they will help out. Im sure they will and wont let you be in this by your self.Take care and let me know if you need any thing

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Q: im 13 and i got my period a week before my 12th birthday. my boobs didnt grow at all before that and they are supposed to grow dramatically and then still havent grown much at all im like a 32A and its been a year and 2 months since ive gotten my period..is somethign wrong or are my boobs just enver going to grow?
Dont worry its normal your boobs dont just grow over night it dose take some time.So adventually they will grow. the usualy dont stop till your around 19 or so.You have plenty of time

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Q: I weigh 146 lbs. and would like to get down to 110 lbs. in about 3 months time. I am interested in trying the South Beach Diet and would like to know if anyone has any information regarding if it really works or not. Has anyone actually tried it before?? I was thinking about joining online at www.southbeachdiet.com but I do not want to waste my time and money if it does not truly work. Thank you very much.
Hey,
congrats about wanting to lose weight. my ex's mom whent on that and it worked wonders for her.But you have to be really in to it and follow every thing its says to do.
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Q: I am 146 lbs. and am only five feet tall. I recently started a new diet and joined a gym. My boyfriend has been VERY supportive of me through this. I recently said something(dont remember though) that brought up a conversation and he said "I dont think you're fat..you're just big boned" ..and i got soooo mad...then he said he was just kidding. Should i be hurt by this??
well you have every right to be hurt after all those are your feelings. After all im sure he didnt meen it like that.The next time he dose it just tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel considering your trying to lose the weight and im sure if hes supporting you now he will back off with the jokes.

P.s Good luck with losing wight im sure you will look great and feel better when you get to your targe weight

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Q: I need some really cute quotes.. like :: love, friendship, heart-break, stuff like that.

I need some good sites (specific sites) with some of these quotes.. if anyone could help me.. id greatly appreciate it
hi,
try www.firehotquotes.com
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Q: hi people

well you know parents they should help u grow up and stuff but i am 13 yƩars old and i dont need stupid parents like mine! they wont leave me alone they say: brush your teeth ever morning dont forget to wash your hair and then when we eat my dad always goes like: your holding your spoon uncorrect blablabla and i am not aloude to say anything than! well i dont know if every parents are like these and by the way once my mom said: dont listen to your music to loud and why dont you listen to jazz and not hip hop I LOVE HIP HOP! well what should i do now? please help!
I think the only reason that your parents say theas things because they are trying to look out for you.Try not to mind the usual stuff about the hair and the teeth they just want you to have good hygean thats understandable.When it comes to the music you lision to just tell them that your not comfortable with jazz.The same way there not comfortable with hip hop but you will respect their wishes and not play it so loud when your in the house to disturb them.
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Q: aight look this dude was rubbin the head of his di*k on my pu**y because i told him he couldn't stick it in and PLUS he aint even have a condom and then he stuck it in and i pushed him back and moved so my 2 questions are....

1) is that called havin sex with him ?

2) could i be pregnant if thats all he did

now i really need to know this because it went farther then i wanted it to so if u could plz lemme kno wat chu think i would appreciate it!!!
hi,
yes you very well could get pregnet from that have you ever herd of pre ejaculation?? a guy dosnt know its happing and it can happen at any point when a guy is aroused.Its a clear fluid that contanes spirm and any stds if the guy isnt clean.I would consider it having sex his penis did enter you.The next time you want to fool around with any one use a condom.
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Q: I was just on a website, www.rotten.com, and i pretty much clicked on every picture on it. I'm not a murderer or anything, im a 15 year old girl. Basically i'm trying to say that i dont know what to do becuase I feel so dizzy and sick, and I think those pictures are going to be stuck in my head for the rest of my life? I dont know what made me look at them all, but i did and theres no turning back. How do i stop feeling so..i cant even find the word for it, and stop thinking about them, and function normally? Thanks, i'd really like to sleep, hah.
Yeah that website is very grose i really dont think theres any thing you can do about it but try medatating(sorry for the spelling)i have only been to that website once and its only for people with no heart or a strong gag reflux
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Q: i am a 14/f. sry this is so long.
my b/f and i have been going out for almost 4 months. his birthday is next month and we have talked about "experimenting". we want to see what it would be like if he were to stick his penis in my vagina. we wouldn't actually have sex so i would still be a virgin. but i know that guys pre-ejaculate and i was wondering if we should get a condom just incase he does pre-ejaculate. but we don't know 'who' to get it from. we have friends who have condoms but we don't want to ask them for one cuz rumors will spread. and we don't want to go buy a whole box 1.) b/c i'd get caught and in trouble 2.) b/c he would get in trouble. What should i do? should we still experiment if we can't get a condom? please help me.
thx
In most cases as soon as his penis goes in you your not a vergin any more actualy in all cases as for the whole condom thing just go out and buy them if you really want to so this.Or go to a free clinic and ask for only one if you have any around where you live.If you never get a condom then dont do this. a guy dosnt know when he is pre ejaculating and it is possible for you to get pregent.

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Q: About a month or so ago, i saw this show degrassi. There was a girl named elli and she cut herself. Ever since i saw that one episode my life has been gettin worse and worse. My bf dumped me for another girl. My best friends dont ever want to do anything with me, and the guy that has liked me for 3 years hates me now. and well...i started to cut. It really relieve my pain and helps me get things out. But recently my friend say my arms and legs in gym and shes going to tell a counciler. i mean, i dont want her to!! i know its gotten really far..and its really hard to stop i've tried everythign! i've tried hiding my scissors and puttin a rubber band on my wrist NOTHING works!! I NEED HELP! what should i do? if my parents find out they might send me to a mental hospital!!

-hurt and scared
i have seen that eppisode degrassies my favert t.v show but that was ment to show you how much it sucks to go through all that i have been through it and i wish i never started because it is a addiction it is really hard to stop so you need help from a consular its the only way out i learnd that the hard way 59 scars later
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Q: okay here is my question-i love this guy sooo much! he is everything to me! i broke up with my boyfriend at the time because i realized that i need to be with him. the only problem is he has a girlfriend and he lives 2 states away. he tells me he loves me and i know he does, its just he is afraid to let go of his girlfriend because of the distance and just how he is. i need help please..i'm crying and begging for him..someone please help me out over here!
if he hasnt broke up with his girlfriend then he probley wont thats what usualy happes but he might be differnt but just in time all you can do is wate
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