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Q: My boyfriend and I will be going to hang out together tomorrow. I don't know what to do for entertainment or anything though. I really hate awkward moments and silences so we need to be doing SOMETHING so our date doesn't just die off. Any ideas?
These may sound kinda weird and childish but me and my boyfriend have so much fun doing all of these things!

Mini-golf
Movies
Bowling
Adventureland
Going to a local town and shopping adn just walking around
Mall
Going out to dinner but at a hibachi place where its so loud you can barely talk like Tomo or something haha

and i cant think of any others at the moment...message me if you need more ideas. Hope i helped (: xoxo

Q: Okay so ive been talking to these two guys... M and Z. I've hung out with both of them indevidually and neither of them know that im talking to the other. its not like theyre friends or anything but they know of each other. well im going to my friends tonight where the two of them are going to be there, and both of them want to hook up with me. i kinda wanna hook up with Z over M but idk what to do! sence M is going to be right there...
Haha oh boyyy. I know how you feel and it sucks to be in that situation. I would say that you talk to M and tell him that you like someone else, and then hu with Z. I mean you dont wnat to hurt either of their feelings, but you want to get with Z right? That is how i would handle that situation haha. Hope i helped (: xoxo

Q: 14/f

So yeah I'm turning 15 soon. I like this guy. He's older than me though. He's 17. I'm friends with his sisters and everything. I think that's why I started liking him in the first place. We've gotten sorta close in being friends. I could tell him anything and could trust him. He tells me to tell him who I like. Heh, I can't exactly do that when its him. First of all, I don't want to ruin the friendship, he's going to be a senior and I don't really want to go out with him. I really like him though. Honestly, I don't want to. But I see him as a good friend. But I like him more than that.

We flirt with each other all the time. But its just little things that don't mean anything. He thinks I'm cute and everything. And that's what gets me. Is there any way I can get over him? Thanks for any help.
I have 2 experiences close to this hahah. First, i was on vacation with my family friends. There is a girl who is one year younger than me and her brother is one year older than me. Well, i ended up getting with him and she was so pissed. She got mad for like a month but then she got over it because i didnt do anything else with him. We both liked each other but decided it was better if we stopped bc he didnt want to ruin me and his sisters friendship. He told me he still lieks me a little but im over that haha

another thing is i am a freshman haha, im turning 15 in october. and im going to be a sophmore next year. I am dating a 16 year hold and he is turning 17 in september. He is going to be a senior next year. Honestly, it depends on the guy. I have been with him for almost 6 months and he hasnt tried to pressure me into anything, and he genuinely likes me for me. He is a perfect gentleman and buys me flowers and is sweet. Ive met his family and everything. So for me, i dont even remember the age difference.

So first of all, i would discourage it because you are friends with his sisters and they may be pissed that you are with him. But i wouldn't write him off completely because of his age. Talk to his sisters and tell them that you kinda like him. See what they say. If they get pissed say you wont do anything or tell him. If they dont care, id say go with it. I know you asked for a way to get over him, but i dont think you should yet. Talk to them. See how it works out.


Hope i helped =] xoxo

Q: What does the phrase, "Thats what she said" means?
Its when someone says something innocent, and someone else turns it into something dirty.

"Oh my god, thats so hard"
thats what she said

for any other questions...try urbandictionary.com

Q: 17/m. me and my girlfriend's one month anniversary is in a weeks time. Alot of websites say "dont get a one month present" or "theres no such thing as a one month anniversary", but she asked me what i wanted. And for some reason, around here, one month anniversary's are a big thing?

She told me that none of her relationships have lasted longer than three weeks (she's only had three boyfriends, me being 4th). I like her ALOT, so what can i get her? Jewelery is probabaly too much yes?

thanks a lot :D
My boyfriend got me a purple rose (my favorite color, and only one) a card, and a bracelet then took me out to dinner. But our one month was on valentines day...so that was why he got me a bracelet. I think it would be adorable if you got her a rose, a teddy bear, and took her out to dinner. Congrats on your one month =]

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months now. We get really mad because we RARELY get alone time. Every time we are together someone always interrupts. Even if were in the middle of nowhere there was always an interruption. But we've had our kisses and stuff we just don't like to do it that much in public. So, i was wondering how we can get to be alone? Also we haven't officially kissed like make-out and stuff. The relationship isn't getting boring but i want to go further if you know what i mean. How can i do that? & Some tips on making out would be helpful please.
Oh damnnn, 5 months. Congrats (:
About your question, try to go over his house when its just you two or him come over yours when you can be alone. So about the making out "tips" no one can give you those. Just a few things, make sure your breath smells and tastes good. Oral hygiene (:
another thing is close your eyes slowly as you are leaning in so you dont bump teeth or noses or anything. And CLOSE YOUR EYES WHILE KISSING or you will look like a fish...and we all know that is not sexy. Thats all the tips i can pretty much give you. Oh, and relaxxx. Enjoy it, because if you dont, chances are, he wont be either. Hope i helped (: xoxo

Q: hey im a 16 female. and my boyfriend is a 17 male. weve been together for almost 6 months. well we were laying in my room and everytime my mom left wed start almost making out. he knows i want to makeout and he knows i want a hickey. i think hes kinda scared of the hickey part because hes scared im going to get in trouble. and im not sure about the makeout part. we kinda started to then i started pulling him towards me so he can be like kind of on top of me. and he said i was pulling away i was like no im not! wtf! ha. your chickening out! and he bit me on the neck and then kissed it like a peck. idk if that was his i want to but i dont want to thing. you know? my question next time were in that situation what do i do to get things moving along.? please help thankyou
Okay...so the first part of your question confused me because i dont know what you wanted us to say about the first part. But onto the actual question, next time you are with him, try to see when when your parents WONT barge in on you, because that is definitely a turn off. Also when you are alone, then kiss him on his neck, or instead of pulling him onto you, just take control, get on top of HIM. I do not know why you would want a hickey...they are just difficult to cover up and could get in you in trouble. If you are into the whole biting thing, do it where no one can see it, like the last person said. I hope i helped? xoxo (:

Q: My best friend is a guy.
he and his girl friend like to do things together.

(sexual like)

But she's always saying, i can't get sexual unless you get me horny.


and he asked me what ways could he dot hat.
and i have no idea.

so help?!


(rubbing teqniches,etc)


thanks!
well thats an awkward thing to say to your boyfriend...lol. When a guy is kissing me, then bites my bottom lip and brings it out a little bit, i think its sooo sexy! Also, when my boyfriend kisses me down my neck to my stomach, then a little lower to tease me, then back i just melt. Then theres the cliche things, like with the titties and vajayjay haha. Some girls like when guys suck on their ear, but idk. It just doesnt do it for me.

Q: hi im john and im 13 i realy cant stop thinking about sex and i realy want to try it out but i know i shouldnt i have tried evrything please help me.
Hey john. There are a few things to consider before you jump right in and have sex. One, you have to be emotionally ready. I know that sounds gay and like screw that, but trust me, you have to be ready. Think of eveything that could go wrong. Usually 13 year old girls dont want to have sex...so you'd be trying to get with an older girl. You could get an STD and what if she gets pregnant? I am almost positive you dont want that. Try watching porn and masturbating. It may keep the urges at bay. If you still can't stop, listen to the answer before mine. Try to try some things out with a girl, such as head and such. It may help. Hope i helped (:
xoxo

Q: i'm not sure what it is, but they're like little red bumps or "pimples" around my pubic area, after i shave. they hurt when i press on them, or touch them. should i just leave it alone and let it heal itself? or should i just do something about it?
This is really common, and i used to think theres nothing i could do about it, i was wrong =]. pretty much i shave once with the grain, than once against the grain, then i put on (dont laugh, it works) powder deodorant "down there" and then i dont wear underwear, just loose shorts or pants, for liek an hour or two so that its not irritated.. After a few shaves, youll see that they start disappearing and if you apply it every time you shave, theyll most likely go away completely. GOOD LUCK =]

Q: how do i avoid razor burn/red bumps when shaving my vagina? once the bumps started i waited a week almost two weeks to shave again and they were still there for the most part. how do i get them to go completely away and prevent others from appearing?
omg i know what you mean. i used to ALWAYS get them and spent hours searching for a cure for it. and i finally did! pretty much i shave once with the grain, than once against the grain, then i put on (dont laugh, it works) powder deodorant "down there" and then i dont wear underwear, just loose shorts or pants, for liek an hour or two so that its not irritated.. After a few shaves, youll see that they start disappearing and if you apply it every time you shave, theyll most likely go away completely. GOOD LUCK =]

Q: I really want to buy a pair of those sort of cheerleading, preppy kind of knee high girly socks for my friend...I live in england so I don't really know where to buy it , or what to call it.

If you could give me some websites or ideas that would help!! So much..or some other preppy items, I know she loves that sort of stuff
Hey...i dont really know if this is what you were looking for but heres a pair of 2 for about 15$

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/onlineProductDisplay.vs?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=CL-228200&cgname=OSKEYPNKZZZ&rfnbr=3458

http://www.joyofsocks.com/Knee_Socks_s/84.htm?gclid=CKaFpqf8r5kCFQHHGgodfC-nJw

theres more you can get..just google "Knee High Socks" and a milion results come up haha. hope i helped! xoxo

Q: 15/f
I want to make out with my boyfriend but i scared evertime i think he wants to. We only pop kiss. I don't know how to make out so can someone please tell me what to do? thanks!
Hey girl. I know the first time you make out with a guy its scary, but dont worry, it comes naturally. when my boyfriend wanted to make out with me i was scared and i spent HOURS looking up how to make out...and a lot of them were just useless and made me worry more.i cant tell you how to make out, but i can give you tips like the other girl.

1-make sure your breath smells good and youve brushed your teeth. if you eat something that could be questionable use a mint, gum, or mouthwash too.
2-close your eyes as your leaning into the kiss. if you dont you may bump heads...way to ruin a moment huh?
3-start out with a pop kiss, and then run your tongue along his bottom lip and his mouth will open. then massage his tongue with yours.
4-RELAX! haha neither of you will enjoy it if your stressing about it, because then it will just be awkward and weird..

it may feel weird the first time, but its very enjoyable and fun. Hope i helped =] xoxo. good luck!

Q: I've made a big mistake. I feel my heart hurt as hell. I want to fix it but I don't know how?.

My A(sister) and her b (boyfriend)

Broke up on tuesday.

Me and B are really good friends, I always hang out at his place (he lives alone) and drink etc..

B's bestfriend Y, is also my bestfriend (he is a male).

On wednesday B called me and told me to come over (it's okay he always does) and told me that Y is coming and 3 other of our friends and they are bringing Tequila.

So I went and I was very drunk, me and B were in the room, and I was telling him he should go back to A, THEN HE KISSED ME

He kissed me and said he liked me, we made out really hard(including blowjobs and almost fucking)

I don't remember anything, but that all our friends left but Y was sleeping in the room and we were making out HARD again on the couch, then I don't remember exactly but that I woke up and I was naked (no pants or underwear) and there was a blanket on me on the couch.

So I put my underwear on and pants, and went to Bs room and found him asleep but Y wasn't at home.

On thursday Y was traveling,(he was going to travel after the party on a holiday) we're at a party and he told me when i'm extremely drunk i'm going to call because there is something i have to tell you.

When he was drunk, he told me "I know that you and B made out, _____ I love you, and I told B that yesterday and he was so surprised because he made out with you, and I was shocked you would do something like that, how could you make out with your A's ex after one day, and I couldn't sleep so when i was leaving i found you naked on the couch, then put the blanket on you" and he kept telling me stufff

I was shocked, i thought B put the blanket on me. I'm so embaressed and i don't know what to do.
I messed up BIG TIME.

I don't know how to fix it and I've hurt alot of people because of my stupidness. Please help me, i don't have anyone to ask and when i asked my bestfriend (she isnt in town, she left) , she told me

"fuck you its B (A's longest relationship... someone she loved!)
sarah that was low
really low
lower than A would ever go or even THINK about going
i cant help you
the only thing you can do now is to grow up ya ______(and im saying this because i love you and i dont what to see you get pregnant or end up being an alcoholic)
you need to start thinking seriously about shit take a look at what your becoming ya ______
i mean first with ahmad(a guy in a party) which was bad but i let it go then with sharaf(ma ex) i couldnt believe what you did but i didnt say shit because i thought maybe this would make you start watching what your doing but no after that came shady(another dude)... sure it was funny but seriously remember when we used to criticize carina(a girl used to make out with shady)? well your waaaaay worse and now B!
i swear to god _____ im starting to think you should go and live with your dad for real
sure he was an asshole but he's better than winding up on the streets with nothing
and believe me _____ this is only gonna get worse when you go to australia...
i know you want me to pat you on the back and say its gonna be alright but the way your behaving its NOT
you seriously need to stop drinking stop screwing around and ACT LIKE A 14 YEAR OLD instead of some middle aged drunken whore
i swear to god _____ if i were there i would slap and beat some sense into you
i know no one gives a rats ass that ur ruining ur life including your mom (i love that woman but enough is enough) but I DO!
you need to start sobering up and stop drinking ALL TOGETHER!
which means no drinking at all not even an ID
its not impossible ya _____ people who r worse off than you did it
thats only the tip of the iceberg
but if you cant do that then im tough luck _____ your probably gonna end up dead before your 18"

Please anyone help me to fix it.
You are right, you made a big mistake, but everyone makes them. there are a few things you could do:

1-tell B that your going to tell your sister and that it was a huge mistake and you regret it and only did it because you were drunk. You still want to be best friends and not fool around. Then tell your sister the edited version, so she knows the truth but she will already be hurt, and you dont want to hurt her more. Jut be like, "i was really drunk and i made out with B, i am so sorry. you mean the world to me and i feel horrible that i ruined your trust and hurt you. i want to help and if theres any way i can, ill do it" and you'd have to stop drinking and hanging around with B. if you didnt it would kill A.

2-tell B and Y you dont want to tell A. That would be a horrible thing to do and youd feel guilty for a long time, and she might find out from someone other than you. I really dont think you should do that.

That deals with the sister and B. now Y...

If you like him, tell him the same things in choice one. It was a huge mistake, i was really drunk, i didnt mean for it to happen. Tell him your going to stop drinking and you would never do it again and that you like him. You want to be with him if he'll still give you a chance. Say things like you are an amazing guy and itd mean the world to me to be with someone like you.

If you dont like him, then tell him it was really sweet of him, and you made a huge mistake wth B, and lalala. Then tell him you just want to stay best friends.

And im sorry, but your best friends right. she was pretty harsh about it and pretty rude, but she loves you and wants to help.

I hope i helped. xoxo

Q: i had this dream.... that me n my friend were going to this beach place and my friend was driving us in a big white work truck. well when we got there there were some guys working on like construction. They like were staring @ me and one took my picture. we got back in the truck and they were still staring @ me. then 3 guys(teens)came out of a house and a guy showed them a picture and then then the guys started walking to the truck and then all of a sudden we were oin a random house with them. i cant really remember what happened there but when we were leaving i hugged the first guy and we randomley kissed and the other guys were like "oh, so he gets a hug+kiss. weres our hug and kiss?" so i hugged another guy who didnt want to kiss and the third i hugged+kissed him 2. then i was my house and i got a text from the first guy and it said something like he missed me. had a great time today and goodnight. What does this dream mean?
thank you so much.... 13/F
hm. im just guessing here haha i could be completely wrong, but maybe you want more like contact with guys. and maybe you wanted a higher self esteem and your subconsious told you that guys want you and your a really attractive girl. haha sorry im guessing but thats what i thought of when i saw this. Hope i helped! xoxo

Q: Okay heres the situation

I like this kid-i never realized i liked him until like two days ago. He's not shy,but he's kind of quiet sometimes.He gets good grades and what not. He's in two of my classes,we sit right next to eachother but we only talk sometimes. He's a really good person,one of the VERY few guys that isn't a player or full of himself in my school. The thing is-a LOT of girls like him. he's not full about it-but it bugs me of course. I'm the kind of person when a lot of girls like the guy i like -i instantly try to not like him anymore. but its so hard! He does flirty things with me randomly and we do have funny conversations. But its akward sometimes! And its all because i get choked up with how much i like him.But i can't help it! Another problem is my friend who liked me is in the same class(biology)And we sit together everday,so if i do end up going out with him then I dont know if it'll just be even more akward ahhhhrghhh!

My question is- How can i be more flirty and fun with him rather than quiet and weird?! What are some flirting tips? We're already friends-but i want to get him to like me. I guess i gotta know how i can be more comfortable around guys in general. How do i do this? Ugh,i really wish i didn't like him ;(. Thanks
This is going to sound weird but i have some tips to get him to like you and have you not be so quiet:

1-get more sleep. when your tired then you can sometimes be quiet and seem shy. youre also more bold when you are fully rested

2-try to look your best for whenever you see him. this isnt for him, its for you. when you think you look good, you carry yourself better and feel more confident

3-ask him to hang out outside of school. go to a party or movies with a group of friends and try to make him see you like him but arent like obsessive

4-learn what kind of movies he likes and music too. talk to him about that. if a concert is in the area tell him and go together.

Hope i helped! xoxo =]

Q: im looking for a free trial of a really good photoshop. i had Corel Paint Shop Pro for awhile and loved it, but my trial's up so it wont let me redownload it, and i've done all the tricks to keep it longer. I especially want one that has the teeth whitener effect for sure. Are there any that you've PERSONALLY used and loved? especially its it similar to paint shop pro.
well if you have a facebook, theres an application that you can add called picnik. its realllly good. and it has teeth whitener, belmish hider, and you can add edits and writing, and shapes, and draw on it. its really good and i love it. also its free. hope i helped (:

Q: Hello im 17 and im a female. Normally im the type that can read people very well but i came across this HUG problem! see im a new girl at this school, the girls here are all sl*ts. i hate to say it, even some of the guys are like the girls. Anyways thats not the point its just whats making this even harder for me.

There's this cute guy, his name starts with a 'J' and i really like him. We've been friends for a month now; before we just talk here an there. But like now were talking everyday in school and we text when were out. Well one day when i was freezing in history he let me wear his hoodie (this was in school) when class was over i said "Well i guess you would like your hoodie back" and started to take it off. but then he told me to keep it on and give it to him after school, then he gave me this sweet smile as we walked out of class together. Well when school was letting out i gave back his hoodie, in return he hugged me( you would know what a friend hug was, this hug was not no friends good bye hug, it felt like more.) Then the next day he waited for me after all my classes almost, It was soo sweet that i ended up calling him a sweetie (That got a smile from him like the one in history) I know these are signs he likes me, he even said so him self on the phone one day. But im afraid that he's just playing me and im just another score. I just dont know what to do, my heart is tell me one thing and my head is telling me another.

Please....Please.. help me! I cant figure this out.

below is some signs he has been giving me in the last few weeks.

* He called me Sweetie and sexy

* Walks me to my classes (or close to them)

* Sends me cute chain letters that has some form or ther other of love.

* Sits with me at lunch and in history.

* Talks to everyday (That includes texting)

* Giving me his stuff to wear (That hoodie wasnt the only thing he gave me to wear)


Hey. You havent really said anything that would make him a player...i say give him a chance and go for it, but if he has a past of playing girls, then let him work for you. if he wants you bad enough hell try, and if hes just playing you hell give up. I hope it works out...if you need any other help, leave it in my inbox. Goodluck!

Q: does anyone have quotes on friendship or losing friendship???
if so write me back!!
thanks.
i have a few, but theyre not perfect.


The nights are getting darker &the wind is cold
The summer sun has now become so old
Her closest friends were never meant to fade
With all these dreams that didn't make the grade
Close the doors but never look inside
Time will tell if all your love has died

_______________________________________________

"I've learned that things change, people change, and it doesn't mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn't mean giving up, it means accepting that some things weren't meant to be."

Q: okayyyy so i met this guy at this party and we hit it off. hes not the cutest guy but hes really funny and nice! the next weekend he was at the same party as me again and we got closer the whole night we were flirting and all over eachother and we madeout ya ya blah blah. the next day we talked like all day on the phone and his friend was telling me how much he liked me n whatever. that week at school we would see eachother afte 2nd hour and sit at lunch together and i realized how weird he dresses. its a big turnoff.. he dresses in the same things and it looks kinda trashy. its starting to make me not like him which seems bad, but seriously its a turnnnnnn off. help with this lol? any adviceee?
okay so pretty much, ask him to go to the mall with you and pick out stuff you want him to wear, or stuff that you think looks hot. if he says its not his style, tell him he looks sexy and have him wear it and when he does tell him you like that look on him and gradually it will change. good luck! xoxo

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