Well every girl starts the same way... So it's normal to be that way. After a while you'll be able to enjoy it the way every girl should.

Well first off, you should let them know that having a cell phone is a good thing in their case. They'll be able to make sure your safe wherever you are or wherever you go by calling you.

You should suggest starting off with a cell phone that's sold at a low plan price. This way, they won't have to worry about paying too much for it. Overtime, I'm sure they'll begin to upgrade. The reason why they probably don't want to get you a cell phone is because you'll probably run up the bill. Teenagers and young adults have the tendency of doing that nowadays.

Another thing you could resort to is exercising your responsibilities. Show them that you're respobsible in many ways such as doing more chores, being more polite, and EVEN doing your best at school. Being more like this will most likely help you gain their trust; thus, awarding you with a cell phone and possibly other things you desire--like a raise in allowance or reducing a curfew.

Good Luck(:

If your best friend really were your 'best friend' they would stick with you through thick and thin. That's what best friends get their title for. Being there anytime you need them, knowing exactly what you're going through and being able to relate to them, and being the closest out of all your friends. You should tell this best friend of yours how you feel...and if they can't accept how you feel then you can't accept them. Everyone deserves a decent best friend, as do you.

Family comes first in every person's life... so no matter how far apart she grows from you--she will always be your sister no matter what. The thing is, it's only normal for her to grow apart from you like that to meet new people and make more new friends. But out of all those people, just know that she'll always love you and the rest of your family the most.

Well you know for a fact that it's not a pregnancy issue since you haven't had sex since your last period, so you don't have to worry about that. Although a pregnancy test wouldn't hurt to testjust to make sure.

You could also consider these issues as a possible cause:
-Are you dealing with a certain amount of stress in your life?
-Certain contraceptives(if at all, you take any daily)
-Are you engaged in a healthy, well-balanced diet?
-Do you workout or play any sports?
-Do you have a chronic illness/have you been sick for an extended period of time?

These could all be issues that commonly delay your period but if none of these apply then you should schedule an appointment with your doctor for evaluation.

The real question you should ask yourself is 'why are you alive and on earth, right here right now today?'

And a good answer would be because you are simply you. You live because you are beautiful in your own way. You are loved because of who you are. You were born to be a unique person in your own way.

Each morning you should wake up, look in the mirror, and say--"good morning sunshine, you are beautiful and today will be a beautiful day."

I know that sounds weird but it will definitely boost your confidence. Then you know that life and you are beautiful and that everything is as it should be.

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Regardless of any reason that contributes to your bulimia--you could always turn to other activites other than bulimia itself to relieve your stress.

You could take your i-pod or mp3 with you and take a long walk/run. You could play sports or an instrument, go shopping, and even hang with friends.

did you really post this up at 2 in the morning? if that's the case, it seems like you must have been hurting... and if im not mistaken, I can sense a mild pain in your words... but there's no need to keep your head down. yes, love is simple and complicated in this case and in many cases. people we truly love sometimes leave us. some leave with reason and some without. you stated that she loved you as well--but the real question is, 'how much' does she love you? 3 months feels more like 3 years, doesn't it? even if it wasn't that too long ago... when you're left heartbroken, you'll feel like you've been left that way for years and that it's only natural to feel that way.
If her new bf really did steal her yet you say that she loves you--take into consideration that if she really did love you, she would come back to you? find ways to communicate if you'd like... and maybe your broken heart will turn around to mended.
It hurts a lot to see someone whom you truly love bonding with another, when really you would want to be the one bonded with.
If for some reason you have second thoughts just be strong with what you feel. Because nothing can ever break your strength--no matter how much you get hurt, your strength is your armor. Conjoined with time, slowly but surely, things will heal.

Maybe he has feelings for you/is just trying to get your attention... but if you don't have feelings in return and would prefer not to pay attention to him just ignore him. After a long while of ignoring him he'll eventually get tired of annoying you. Having a friend or two in your class will keep more of your attention to them if you're really close to them.

hello, thanks for your question :)

yes..this sounds like a familiar case.

so when you met her, did it seem like she was interested as well?

it seems like, by your descriptions, although she was probably interested maybe she was unsure or uncomfortable...

you can always try calling/asking her out another time... and if it still seems that way, it's no big deal really.. you sound like a cool person and you can always talk to another girl.

if she is as wonderful as you say she is, she would've answered your calls or make an effort to spend time with you. try again if you'd like and let me know where it gets you...if not, hey, there's always someone else you can mingle with.

keep your head up (= everythings gonna be just fine.

-elle

So you're only 16? That's certainly a young age for depression... but hey you, my name is elle, what's yours? I'd like to be friends and would like you to know that even though you don't know me, I am always here for you. No need to feel creeped out because of me... believe it or not, a lot of strangers have come to me for advice too(= But now, I'd like to focus on you.

So lets go over your story. I'm going to extract the problems from your story and I will give my best advice to solve each one. Just help me out a little if you have anything you'd like to add or say and I will take care of the rest, sound good? (:

First off, your close friend. It seems like he's your first best friend is he not? Well, just to let you know, if your friend has changed like you say he has, there is always room to make new best friends, and yes you are allowed to have more than one(= so why not go out and make more new friends?

Second, your "aunt" who has cancer. There are a lot of innocent people who have this sickness...and as devestating as it might be, the only thing you can really do is be there for her as a friend. She just really needs someone there to make her laugh and feel good about herself, these things are what all true friends can accomplish just by talking to her, telling her jokes, and just making her feel good about herself(= I'm sure you would make a nice friend for her.

Third, boyfriends, love, and relationships. As beautiful as love may be, it can be just as ugly. Don't let its inevitable trap catch you. You are a good person and you can be just as strong as any other. Don't EVER let a guy put you down or push you around. This will give them more power and it is you that should possess your own potential power. I know it may be hard to get over the guy you've dated for 2 years...but please believe me when I say you deserve better. Love is a hard and hurtful matter but you can get past it if you just stand for your self-confidence and on your own two feet. Believe in yourself and believe that you will find a guy who will love you for just you. Not for just the make-up you wear on the outside but for the make-up you wear on the inside too. Learn to love yourself for who you are before you let anyone else love you.

Fourth, drugs and such. There's nothing wrong about doing drugs or alcohol. Its the addiction thats the real problem about it. Don't ever take your depression out on drugs or alcohol because it will lead you to addiction...and we all know how that game ends... that's right, you'll lose. If you're depressed, do something useful that will take your mind off depression; such as, going out with friends, taking road trips, playing games, playing instruments, watching movies, or traveling. As you can see, there are even more options aside from drugs and alcohol. Friends are a definite main solution because if they are true friends, they will be there for you through thick and thin.

Overall, it seems like you've been falling apart a lot... but the main thing is, you've got to learn to live your life up to the fullest and you've got to learn to be strong for yourself at the most. Go out of your way and do what ever you feel you need to do to decrease your depression. This is why we're given our own lives, to live through them on our own two feet and our own self-confidence. So be strong, keep your head up and do your best to think positive. Things will be okay only if you make them that way and remember, I will always be here for you if you need to talk.

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-Elle

No, you're not nuts. This is normal, especially since you really do feel deeply for him and that you're absolutely sure that he's the one for you. Does he favor having a baby with you too? Just make sure you both would like the same thing. It may possibly be too early to be having a baby but never too early to be "thinking" about having one. If you two agree and would both like to have a baby then all you've gotta do is set future plans(= Nonetheless, education is always the #1 priority and priorities must come first! So stay together for the sake of your love life, get through school, get careers, and live happily ever after! Good Luck!

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