I am a Christian, and I love giving advice, so you can be anonymous or not, I would just love to hear from you! My friends tell me that I am a great person to come to for advice. I seem to know just what to say. I don't know. =) I love listening to people and problems. I just don't like being in the middle of them; I do choose sides if I absolutely have to. I want to be a Social worker or a counseling Psychologist someday. I am a senior in high school, and I start college in August of '06. I'm in band, and choir. I play French horn and sing alto. I have been through a lot with friends/family and even though I haven't, I feel like I've seen it all, so I hope I can help!
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Location: Sherman, TX
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Age: 17
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what do guys 16-20 really look for in a girl? (please try to be specific as possible not just like good looks.. good personality)
please only answer this if you fall into that catogory! (link)
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I'm 17/f/TX...I may not be a guy...but I know guys...and most of my friends are good guys. They look for genuine people. Not afraid to be themselves, not fake. Confidence, listening, good sense of humor, of course looks are great but not everything. Good guys tend to go for people that don't go from guy to guy easily...no cheaters...mostly, I've seen amazing guys like confident girls who don't care what anyone else thinks about what they wear, comfy casual, not trying to impress anyone. Girls with a good heart win too. Good luck, and I hope I helped!
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I have a friend, and whenever I go online, she almost always Instant Messages me. I was cool with it for a while, but no it's just irritating. I've put an away message up, but I always eventually come back. What can I do (It has to be nice)? (link)
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I say be completely honest w/ her. That's what I would want. I am generally the one to start convos w/ ppl and I don't know if I get annoying. So, if it were me, I'd say tell her cause she may not know it bothers you. I'd want to know the truth anyway. Just don't lie to her about it. That wouldn't be pretty, especially if she is your friend. Then once she starts backing down, show her that you still want to talk and don't completely avoid her by actually starting a conversation eventually and not just saying that you will and never do. And I don't mean in a few months eventually. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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hey everyone my girlfriend and i are coming up on two years i thought that maybe i would make her a CD with songs that make me think of her is this a good idea and if you think it is can u tell me some up to date good love songs and any other ideas we are only 16 too thanks ill rate (link)
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I don't know if you like country music, but one country love song that I liked to think about is Bless the Broken Road by Rascal Flatts. I like Lucky by Hoobastank. And yes that is A GREAT idea!!! Email me and i'll think of more. Good luck!
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christmas is 6 days away.. im sher everyone knows that and i am makin a scrapbook for my bf of 22 months this year.. i hve pictures together and stuff but i want like each page to be like something diff u know? like im havin a couple pages just be of pictures.. and i hve a special page for a note that im goin to write him in it. and i also have a page of all the reasons i love him.. does anyone hve any ideas for other pages that kind of go with this.. please please hurry though bc im plannin on puttin it all together tomorrow!!!!
tosha (link)
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Maybe you can find lyrics of some of your favorite songs that describe your relationship w/ him. Relive some stories of some of your favorite times together! :-D I love scrapbooks! Good luck and I hope that helped!
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I'm sixteen years old, I finally have a boyfriend. lol. We've been together for two & a half weeks. My mom doesn't know about him yet. He & two best friends keep telling me to tell my mom, but I don't know how to come out and just say it. She used to not want me to have a boyfriend a few years ago. I think she might have changed her mind about that but I'm not sure. I want to tell her soon though so I don't have people telling me to do it. So, does anyone have ideas about what I could say or do? I was thinking about writing her an email. Thanks. :) (link)
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I don't know if you asked him or if he asked you out...but you could just start out by saying "So mom guess what? I'm interested in someone now...and he's interested in me too, and he became my boyfriend. I really want you to meet him because he's great and you would like him" I don't know if you really do want her to meet him, but if she knows you want her to be involved...it may take some getting used to the idea but it shows maturity. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Okay, I have a bf...but I like this other guy who I know doesn't like me...but latley, he's all I can think about...I'm thinking about breaking up with my bf so I can be single again, but I don't want to break up with him now becuase he already got me my christmas present, and all my friends tell me not to break up with him becuase the christmas present costs a lot of money...I don't know what I should do....any help plz!! (link)
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I'd give it some time before you break up with him. That would hurt him a lot, and you probably don't want to do that. It's good that you are gonna be faithful to the fact that you do like another guy and you don't want to put your b/f through that mess...even though you say you don't have a chance w/ him. I still say put it off for a while after you get the present, at least a couple of weeks so he's not like...man and I spent that much money on her. Don't do it like the next day or anything. I hope I helped, cause this is a toughy. Good luck!
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I'm only in high school, and I'm still pretty young, but I truly think I am in love!! There is this kid and I REALLY like him, I'm not sure, but I'm almost positive it's love. Any tips to determine whether or not I do love him?
and also...another question...
How do I get him to pay attention to me? (I never see him in the halls or anything, I only have gym class with him) I am really too self-conscious to go up to him, but how do I get him to notice me (in a good way)? Any useful tips are 5's!
Thanks in advance for advice.
xoxo -abercrombiebabiex3- (link)
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If you are in love with someone, it is a mutual feeling. I don't know how long you've known this boy...so let's just say that if you have known him for a while, and he hasn't noticed you by now, this could be difficult. Be confident in yourself, I don't mean big headed, or full of it or anything. I just mean think positively about yourself, don't put yourself down. Believe me, he'll notice. It may not be right when you want him to, but this is a big thing. Try not to stare, that is not a good thing. It's a turn off for most guys, but what IS cool though is if you catch their eye. Smile =) Good luck and I hope I helped.
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How can you tell if a guy is interested in you or interested in using you? (link)
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If a guy is truly interested, he'll respect you and your morals, and genuinely cares, and doesn't go out w/ you just to get some, if you know what I mean. There's a lot more if you want to know, but I could go on forever. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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Hi :) you said to write you for extra ideas?
Well she isnt very girly.. so I guess the nailpolish and girly goodies wouldnt be her thing. We've done pictures and picture frames before.
Problem is gifts are a big deal to her so I want to do something really special. :( But I have no idea what. (link)
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Well, if she is one of your best friends, maybe you can make her a frame or something with inside jokes, or quotes that explain your friendship. Maybe you can plan a special day for her if you can't come up with anything tangible. I hope I helped...:-D
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Is finding the right gift! What can I get/make for my friend for Christmas? I have no cash but I want to make something really nice. She's getting me something great for christmas so I want to get her something equally great. No scrapbooking.. she's already done that.. What can I make that's personal? Please help! I rate! (link)
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Something cheap and cute...depends on the kind of girl she is...umm...cute socks from target are pretty cheap...$3ish...You can get her a cute little book from a bookstore explaining friendship, or hugs or something, a picture frame w/ a pic of the two of you in it, or cheaper a plastic one that you can decorate w/ metallic markers. Spray stuff, nail polish, lipgloss stuff...if this doesn't describe her personality, write me a personal message, and maybe I can come up w/ better ideas! Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Okay.. I really like this guy, but he is the most popular guy in our grade! I know I have not much of a chance with him. A school dance is coming up this Friday Night, and I want to dance with him so bad, but I am too afraid to ask. My friends say they'll help me, but I know I'll just chicken out!! What should I do? (link)
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I have been in your situation before on both sides of the fence, being the one to be asked, and doing the asking. Neither experience was great for me 'cause I wanted to dance w/ the guy I went with, and the guy I wanted to dance w/ at another dance didn't want to dance w/ me...But it's always great when friends can help...that would probably be the best way...don't have a bunch of friends at once. Just have a couple girls or guys even go up to him and say "hey, you should dance w/..." and then see what he says. He may not agree to it, but I'd rather ask then never know...(when I was a sophomore, I wanted to go to the dance w/ this guy who was a couple years older than me at another school, but I was afraid to ask him, then later I found out he would have gone w/ me...)Good luck and I hope I helped!
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First off, if it helps, I am a 14 yr. old girl.. But Ok, so as usual, there is this guy that I REALLY like.. I mean, I have already gotten over the hard part! Thank God! lol.. I mean, I told him & everything, about how I like him. & hes fine with that, it just isnt mutual. Unfortunately.. but anyways, now I just want to hang out with him no strings attached, just chill sometime.. & have fun..become better friends. just friends. & a lot of the time he is with his older friends.. like my BROTHER, who is 18. & it doesnt seem like he really has time. I mean, we talk a lot online & its really nice, i mean he just makes me smile from that, But I dont know. It may not seem hard to you, but how could I ask him to just hang out sometime? :/ (link)
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An easy way to just get things rolling is just get a group of friends together and make sure him and other guys are included and that there are no strings attached. I've gone out w/ one of my guy friends that I used to have a crush on and neither of us were seeing anyone and I no longer had feelings for him, but it was his birthday so I just said something like "We should hang out sometime, plus I want to give you your gift!" It may not be his birthday, but ya know if you are pretty good friends w/ him already, just casually bring up that you'd like to hang out sometime since he's one of your good friends and that it would be fun...it's a lot easier to do though if he's single so that he doesn't get a jealous g/f. I hope this might spring some ideas. Good luck and I hope I helped!
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So, I'm 14 (female) and I've never had even the slightest crush on anyone. I've never done anything with a guy (not even a hug) before either (hense the "ms.innocent" part). Is there something wrong with me? I think I might like someone now, but I'm not sure. You see, I'm extremely shy around people so those butterflies could just be anxiety for me. I was also wondering if there's a way that I could tell if i truely like someone??? (link)
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Well, when you like someone, you think about that person more than you would "just a friend". Sometimes you get butterflies if you REALLY like them. :-D You might catch yourself wondering what it would be like to date them, or looking at them. (you may even do it w/ out realizing that you keep looking lol) They make you smile a lot. I hope this gives you more of an idea of what feels like to REALLY like someone. Good luck and I hope it helped!
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I have a boyfriend and hes 2 years older than me and i know he kissed people. The problem is i never kissed anyone and i dont wanna mess up and like make a fool of myself and i dont want to tell him i never kissed before so i need help !How do you kiss?.. =/
i rate 5's
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Your first kiss is SOO much fun...don't stress about it...I know ppl have bad experiences or have horror stories about it...just don't worry. Basically, make sure you don't just go in for it, and that the timing is right, and that you are looking at him before it (in the eyes I mean), and that you know it's mutual and that you both want to. It doesn't HAVE to be a huge kiss either...a peck on the lips for the first time is sweet. Don't rush into it is the key thing. Let it come naturally, believe me it will =) good luck and I hope this helped!
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alright, every one knows that christmas is coming up, and i am known for getting my friends awesome gifts, because my parents always pay for all of it.
but this year they said they will pay 5 dollars for every one, and i have to pay the rest. i have saved up 200 dollars so far, and i will be getting more from babysitting.
i have 15 people, as of now, that i need to give gifts to.
does anyone have suggestions.
i was thinking i could get them all a different piece of jewlrey from like Clairs or something.
i need ideas, please. and quick. becaues i like to start shopping soon before i spend it all.
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Hmm, what I love to get my girlfriends, they love p.j. pants, the AWESOME socks from target or walmart or where ever, maybe some cheap plastic frames from walmart and you can decorate them for them w/ stuff like metallic sharpies and find a picture of you w/ them or have one taken later...umm...candy! And of course, claire's is awesome too! Good luck and I hope this helped! (oh yeah, and lip gloss, nail polish, body spray...stuff like that is awesome too) I didn't think about guys, so if there are guys in the mix, lemme know!
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is it weird when the girl is taller than the guy in a relationship? (link)
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No, it really isn't...or it shouldn't be. My best friend is a little bit taller than her b/f but it isn't too bad...if you really like the person, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks...:-D That's awesome! Good luck and I hope I helped!
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ok there is 6 of us(13 13 13 11 12 11) we cant drive there is no one to drive us. can anyone give us ideas on what to do? WE ARE SO BORED!!!
PLEASE HELP! (link)
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I don't know if this is like a party, or get together or not, but have you ever heard of a game called hot-seat? It's a lot of fun! I don't know how well you really know each other, or if you are all best friends or what...but it's fun anyway...Someone is in the "hot-seat" for 2, 3, 5 minutes...(however long you want to) and you can ask that person ANYTHING and they HAVE to answer honestly, and it's a good way to get to know your friend better. Then there's like a "lightening round" where you have however many minutes you want to ask a question that you thought of that you didn't get a chance to ask before. I hope this is the type of idea you were looking for! Have fun!
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My ex-boyfriend and i have officially been a 'couple' for four months, although people considered us 'together' for about eight months. Two weeks ago, I had called him to say good morning and he told me he thought we should "take a break". I knew we were having problems, but I thought that we were stronger than that, and it was just so sudden. I was extremely hurt, it was completely unexpected.. only a week before his exact words to me were "if somehow this doesnt work out..im never leaving, ill wait for you to come back. i cant see myself without you. i know that sounds very pathetic and stuff, but i know im never going to be happy without you." How could someone who shared something so special change their mind so fast? My friends told me he'd regret it and come back, that he was just confused since his parents had been having problems. One week after the break up, and after not hearing from him... he called. Told me he had been in rehab (I later learned it was for drug related issues.) I found out that he had been doing serious drugs for a while and had not told me about any of it (he knows I am fully against anything of the sort). He said he was sorry, and that I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, and that it was just a bad decision. He said he wanted to talk to me, and I wanted to see him too. Since that day he called me, we've talked online but only very short conversations. I know he's been drinking with friends (hes 17), and making everything a lot worse for himself. I was/am truly the only friend he has that really genuinly cares about his well-being. I am the only one he can talk to that will listen, and he knows this, and has even told me this himself. But the past few days, he's been acting ... completely different. Saying insulting things, and being completely rude. I know he still has feelings for me, and I know he knows he needs me again... and I still want him too. I have never felt so hurt in my entire life, and I've been through a lot. He won't talk or see me, and i think its because hes scared... I dont know what to say or do anymore. I know i should probably get over everything, and try to move on... but I just do not know what to do. Sorry this is so long, but Im desperate for help.. I've lost a lot in the past couple months, and I need him.
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I know exactly what you mean. I wasn't in a relationship w/ him, but one of my best friends used to deal with stuff like this. Drugs, drinking, and he felt he had to hide it from the world to protect me and the ppl that cared most about him, when it was him who needed the protection and help. Time heals. He is in the Army now and is one of the strongest people I know. Your friend/ b/f just constantly needs to be reminded that through good times and bad, you will always be there for him. Whether you are in a relationship w/ him or not, you need to keep encouraging him and believing in him, even if he doesn't believe in himself. Expect him to push you away, but don't let that keep you from encouraging him. He may not act like he needs you, but it seems that he REALLY does. I don't know if you believe in God, but He works miracles. I know what you are going through...don't give up. Keep your head up, and be strong for him, it will NOT be easy at times, but do it. I bet things will look up eventually, it took my friend a few years, but he's amazing now. Good luck and I hope I helped.
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does any one know the price to put a house on realtors . com for a month . I RATE 5 (link)
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My guess is the house payment you make per month??? But I dunno...Good luck!
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before this all happened my friend was going out with this girl but after a few days they broke up (i think, my friend might be confused). So then i went out with her(the girl) and we've been together ever since but my friend is still like hanging out with the girl (my gf), like me and my gf are walking to a class we have together and my friend just like comes in and talks to us.When i'm not there he talks and flirts with her BUT when i asked my gf if she was hiding anything she said no,she wasn't. I don't know what to do about it? what can i do about it? (link)
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There are many possibilities here. Your friend and your g/f may have maintained a friendship which is what girls want after they break up and they still may be close, only she's w/ you so they are nothing more. It's good that your friend feels comfortable talking to y'all together, even though it may be awkward b/c your his friend. Talk to him about the flirting thing. Say something like "You're my friend, and I'm glad you still have a friendship w/ my g/f, but she's my girlfriend, and you may not mean to but it's coming off as flirting when I'm not around." See what he says about it, if there is something more between them or if it's just how he is...look to see if your girlfriend is flirting back, or if she's just friendly, or not taking the hint. I dunno...good luck w/ this one and I hope everything turns out well for the 3 of you.
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