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I'm Mary. I'm a sophomore in college and I love helping people. If you ever need advice or someone to talk to I'm here for you! Never hesitate to ask or message me. Hope I can help!

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If iTunes doesn't have a song that you like is there a way you can suggest it to them to get it?

Heyya! Actually, yupp there is. When you go to the itunes store online and you type in a song, if they don't have it this will come up, it says:

Your search has no results. Use Power Search to refine your search or Browse the entire iTines Store. Request anything you can't find.

When this comes up you can click the word request and you type in the name, artist and information about the song you want and they will most likely add it to the itunes store.

Hope i helped and you get the song you're looking for!

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is weed actually bad for you? if you only do it occasionaly, like every other weekend or something.

YESSSS. Heyya, so i guess you're curious about trying pot, or maybe wondering if its bad if you keep smoking it. Yes! Weed is bad for you. You may think, well i know kids who smoke it and they're fine! The truth is marijuana is very harmful to your body and mind.

It can: cause psychological addiction, it can (if bad)cause medical problems and conditions, decrease mental abilities and burn out brain cells, cause mental confusion, lung damage, weight gain, increased tolerance (requiring more of the drug to get you high) and decreased sexual performance.

It may seem harmless but really it is NOT a good thing to get into. If you have smoked, STOP! And if you're thinking about starting, DON'T START!

I know it can be tempting but, do what right for your body, you owe it to yourself! Hope i helped you out!

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i dont know what to do... i just feel like my family doesnt car about me at the moment. my mum works night shift as a nurse so she is between working 10PM to 7AM, sleeping in the day and always watches tv in her room. when i ask her to take me somewhere she says
"i cant im working" or "ill think about it" or "im not up to it" theres always an excuse.

my sister lives in a granny flat out the back of my house and is never home and my other sister who im closer to stays at her bf's house all the time and is never home. like i dont see her all week and soon she is going away for work for 3 months and i feel like she is leaving me behind and when she used to be home more she was the only one who seemed to care and got me though when things where shit at school.
i just feel like no one is there for me and sometimes i dont feel like eating and that no one would care if i wasnt even there. lately iv been thinking about physically hurting myself so theyd notice and i dont know why.
i havent talked to friends at school cos i know they wouldnt understand.

i just feel alone and lost and i hate being left by myself at home all the time. what should i do? i need someone to talk to.
17/f

Heyy, i went through something sort of like this as well. Sometimes, when your family is busy they don't give enough attention and it can be really tough. Having a mom that you barely see and sisters that aren't around can be frustrating.

You just have to remember that they really do love you and if you were to hurt yourself or "disappear" they would be devastated.

The fact that you're thinking about hurting yourself shows that you NEED to talk to someone. It's a good thing you wrote. You should let your mom or sisters know how lonely and neglected you feel, chances are they didn't realize how you're feeling.

It is really important to communicate with your family! Believe me, I know! If for some reason, things don't change after you speak with them, try talking to a friend to help you get through these hard times.

Also, remember that hurting yourself NEVER HELPS. All it will do is leave you feeling emotional AND physical pain. So please, don't hurt yourself.

If you ever feel like you might hurt yourself, call 911 immediately.

I really hope i helped and that things work out for the besttt.

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16/f
this is gonna be a long one, but please take the time to read it...
my best friend.. well we were best friends for as long as i can remember. she was the one i always went to, the only one who really had my complete trust. for some reason, this school year weve grown apart. we barely say more than two words to eachother in a day anymore. although we only have one class together, thats not it cause last year we had no clases together. we used to do everything together, and i miss her and the rest of her family. were so different from each other but that never seemed to be a problem until this year. we have different friends now, and another girl came into the picture whos basically replaced me. weve both changed but that doesnt mean we cant be friends. i have other friends and ive grown apart from many of my old ones too, but i cant stand to let myself just throw away a friendship that lasted over 10 years.. the thing is we tried to work things out since both of us know things arent the same anymore. this was about half way through the school year, we said we'd hang out and talk more again but it never happened. we basically spilled everything out so it wasnt just a pointless talk we had, we made it clear that both of us missed the other. i dont know why it didnt work. i kind of blocked the whole thing out of my mind until last night when i read a note she wrote to me when we tried to fix things. the first line says "i dont know what i did for you to not like me as a friend anymore, but im sorry." i read that line, which the first time i read had no effect on me, but this time i broke down. cause thats the thing, she did nothing and neither did i. it just happened and i hate it, i want to fix things for real. summer is coming up and if we dont figure things out soon maybe we never will.

i would be thankful for any advice whatsoever.. i need it.

Heyy, I understand your problem completely. I have had almost the exact same issue.

Usually, there is an underlying issue that causes two people to grow apart. For example (this is dumb) you were going out with someone she liked and she told you it was okay, but she really minded it.(or the other way around) Things like this, if not communicated could do serious damage to relationships.
I used to send notes to my friend and things didn't get resolved that way.
Your best bet is to go up to her and tell her that, you miss her so much and you feel like you have to make it work.
If she values the friendship as much as you, she'll agree and you guys should talk everything over that has gone on over the past year.

Hopefully, you'll find the problem and fix it.
Also, you may not want to hear this but sometimes people do grow a part and even if they want to fix it, sometimes it just doesn't work out. Don't get me wrong, you should try very hard to get your best friend back. but just keep in the back of your mind that it may not work.

I really hope I helped, and you and you friend get back to the way things were, I get what its like to be so close with someone and even their family. Good luck!

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There's this girl, she's a jerk, I really don't like her, she flirts with my boyfriend, and like 5 of my friends boyfriends, and we're all sick of it, what do we do? We shouldn't have to compete with our own boyfriends, so don't say "flirt a lot" because trust me, WE HAVE. Please help!!!

Heyy, i know exactlyyyy what you mean. Believe it or not, you will meet a lot of people like this. In reality, this girl is probably flirting like this because she is insecure with herself and it boosts her confidence to see the guys pay attention to her. I mean, you kinda have to feel bad for it. I know it is insanely aggravating though.

If she keeps doing this to you and your friends one day you should go up to her and nicely (or she might think you're attacking) say something like, I noticed you like to flirt a lot with my bf and i would really appreciate if you would stop because it makes me uncomfortable. If she still doesn't stop just keep telling her to (maybe not as nicely the next time =])

Also, let your boyfriend now how you feel, chances are he'll understand and you won't have to feel like you have to compete with the flirter. Good luck! and Hope I helped!

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i have a problem of getting annoyed with people way too easily. its how i lose half my friends b/c once you get on my nerves its like i dont wanna hangout with you anymore. then i get called a bitch and i seem to be losing more and more friends.. and maybe i am a bitch. help?!

Heyy, don't call yourself a bitch. I've known someone like this before. Getting irritated at someone easily may just be a phase for you. You have to remember that everyone has habits and things that will get on your nerves, you just have to keep hanging out with them and try to look past the small stuff. I mean, if you didn't talk to everyone who did dumb stuff, you would never talk to anyoneee. Haha, well, it's true. So try not to be so critical of the little stuff that other people do. Also, if a friend calls you a bitch to your face or behind your back, thats the friend you may not want to keep, or you should to talk to them and let them know whats up. So try to keep hanging with people instead of ignoring them, hope I helped!

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recently, ive been sweating excessivly. But for some reason..my armpit sweat has been green.. its really starting to freak me out. I really dont know what it could be. this has never happened before. its almost like some kind of juice because its so thick and rich. i am very embaressed to admit this, so please do not make fun of me. i hope you understand my problem and help because i am so embaressed to even tell ANYONE.

heyy, i understand how this could be embarrassing for you. i think the green sweat could be a problem, you should probably go to a doctor and tell him what has been happening, i know it is embarrassing but thats what doctors are there for. and maybe its nothing even. and about the excessive sweating, if it doesn't stop, your doctor can prescribe you a over the counter deodorant to help. thats what my friends uses. Hope i helped!

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