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my quote-- "The past is the past and there is nothing i can change, The only thing i can do is help you with the future"


I hope my advice helps you. In the future i want to become a Psychiatrist. My answers might not always be 100% correct but i try my best. && i would help anyone i could possibly help before i would even think of helping myself.


My name is Amy and iam 14, But i am very wise for my age. Just because im 14 does not mean i can not give good advise. I am COMPLETLY honest and if i think your acting like an idiot im going to say it whether you want her hear it or not. i dont care what people think about me, i have been though to much to. I dont beleive in lying to friends or people who need help && i ALWAYS speak my mind.


I have suffered through Depression, stress, and i keep all my feeling a secret so know one will find out or know im not stong or brave. I am always willing to help someone who feels the same. I've have/had mental breakdowns, suicidal moments, family problem, friend problem, & boy friend problems. im pretty sure that i am bipolar and ADD or ADHD, but i am afriad to tell me parents because i know they will not believe me. I am also all my friends, both guys and girls- and for ages 9-50, personal Psychiatrist so i know it all. I don't like stupid Drama and i am for the most part used to it, but I that how my life is. I LOVE reading about mental illnesses, i know its kind of odd- but thats me. && i love getting to look up and learn about something NEW!


If you have any thing you would like to talk to me about you can IM me. my Aim is xxTimesxChange or you can e-mail me at bballmonkey1993@yahoo.com
I would love to help.

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k i hav 2 questions. 1 is i'm doing a drawing for my art homework its we choose a theme and just like draw it. mines somethin about dealing with teenagers. i hav it all planned out except i need som one's opinion. i hav a slogan "Don't Fight, Unite" and when im choosin colors i don't kno wat color to choose for "Unite" cuz i want it to like represent the present times since i chose gray for "Don't Fight" which is to represent the past times (u kno like when people remember their image is black and white and somtimes gray.) so yea i can't decide a color i want that bests describes the present. And my other question is how u play Uno? that thought just occurred to me...

for your United colors should be both white and black. since both white and black people have come togeather, we have so much thanks to everyone working togeather.
-- And for uno.. try this web site---
http://thehouseofcards.com/retail/uno.html

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well i think i like this guy im not really sure... thats my problem.... everytime i think of him i get exited and i smile and stuff... but im always afriad to hang out with him... this is the situation... he likes me im positive about that... but i didnt like him.. and i think im now starting too... but i think i might be afriad to like him because of what other people think... cause everyone i kno hates him.. so why do i like him? should i like him? i dont kno what to do... and im afriad hes gunna ask me out and im not gunna kno what to say...

I know how your feeling i have felt the same way.
If your friend honestly care about you they will support you know matter what you do. && It does not matter what they think anyways it is your life and you deserve to be happy. He may not be himself around other people so thats why they dont feel the same about him. He may open up to you a little more because you mean something to him and he wants you to feel the same about him. You will never know if you truly like him unless you take a chance and you will feel a lot better knowing at least you tryed. Hope i helped.

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kay, so i already have a layout for my advicenators column, but i want to change it and i cant remember how. it's been since i started my account that i added that layout [almost a year]

i know that 'dustin' or somebody creates the layouts, but where are they? [urls would be helpful.] and where do i put them in my settings?

help is really appreciated.

on the left hand side at the bottom there is a link that says "page background" click on that and pick a backgound.
then there will be a a code at the top of that layout desing, if you dont click on the layout disign.

You have to copy the code and then there is another link on the lft hand side and it is called "profile settings" click on that and towrards the bottom there will be a place to paste the code you copyed

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My mom got mad at me becasue she thought I was trying to break the television. Well I wasn't breaking it. IT has a lot of channels and the remote is missing because I lost track of it because when we moved I had to be quick. The bag the remote was at is missing. She got mad at me like I was the only one in the world doing something wrong. She got mad at me too when she found out the remote was missing. I don't get why she had to get mad at me like that.

Your mom was just probably stressed about because of the move. Give her some time to cool off and get used to everything, moving is tuff for everybody and it can take a lot out of you.
If your mom CONSENTLY puts you down and yells at you for everything including way before you moved then you may be right.

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is it possible for a 12 year old to get a cancer tumor or cancer lump or something
because my little sister keeps worrying and teliing me she has these weird bumps,around her privet area near the leg and one on her butt..
weird i know im sorry but im just wondering and she says they arent little dot bumps they like feel weird
any idea what it is
thanks
kendra

it could be sweat pimples.
Some times when your legs rub togeather your skin gets irritated and causes little bumps to form. From putting baby powder on the bumps. Hope this helps.

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I'm not quite expecting an answer but I feel so depressed all of a sudden and I think I need some kind of help.Well at school there's this girl I like and no one knows about it.Well I'm a freshman and new to my highschool.I wanted to tell her how I feel but some how I couldn't. She's my MySpace friend along with some new ones I got. But then everything changed...she was absent for like a week and I was concerned but then today I heard she is transferring and being home schooled for now on. I don't know what happened but I heard from my art teacher she wasn't happy here and also from a student people were making fun of her well cause she was bisexual.She was in only 3 of my classes and I barely got a chance to know her.And I don't care what she is just as long there is happiness.But mine is..gone. Now I'm never gonna see her anymore or even get a chance to talk to her. I don't know what's wrong with me I'm sad,heart broken and some how mad. Why would anyone want to make fun of a person like her anyways?!?(A-hole idiots..)I also can't believe something like this happened...And she's like the only one for me I do see other girls that are way hotter than her but I don't have any interest in them she is like the one for me but now it's not going to happen.I miss her already even though I don't know her. I just don't know why though. I feel a pain in my heart and my head hurts...I'm not really good with feeling emotions. I...just can't believe it...

You can just do the simplest things.
You can asker her out of lunch one day,
she would love that someone actully care because of what she is going through at the moment.
And if you care about her as much as you say you need to just keep trying. Trying to forget about her and blocking her out might hurt you even more and you might not get a chance.
You have to take a risk for what you want even if you look like an idiot, you at least have to try or you will regret it. Hope this helped.

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omg welll like there is this like cool girl at school and she is just way too cool for me. i mean shes so cool that she is not short- shes fun sized!! and i think she has too much awesomess for me... suggestions?? asap!

Well maybe if you hang out with her more some of her awsomeness will rubb off on you :D
And maybe she feels the same way about you!

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I am 14 female my boyfriend's 15. And we have been together for 7 months on tuesday. I love him so much and he loves me. And if please dont mention how im to young to be in love blah blah blah i dont wanna hear it please. But we have done everything except for have sex. that's the only thing. He bought condoms we know how to do it. We have a safe and comfortable place. I want to do it but im getting scared. We are most likely going to do it next sunday. I am getting cold feet, but i dont wanna tell him that because im afraid he'll never do it. When im with him i want to so badly but when i am alone and can think without intruptions i get frightened. Like for example im worrying about if i get pregnant, we arent even supposed to be doing it anyways. Is it normal for me to be afraid, not just of getting pregnant but just nervous?

yes it is normal to be scared and if you dont feel right doing it then you probably shouldn't. If it was right then you would know, maybe you should wait a little while, just listen to what ever you think i right. You would not be scared or frightened if there was honestly nothing bothering you. If you tell you Boyfriend that you are scared and you dont feel you can, he should understand and he should love you no matter what, and if he doesn't he is a jerk and you should not be with him. Not saying that this is your boyfriend but all some guys want is sex, so if he understands then you know he really cares about you. Hope this helped.

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i have a couple of guys that are my best friends. one of them has a girlfriend that i know he loves very much, but he tells me that he loves me too. is this normal for guy/girl friendships? i dont know if he's joking around, or if he really loves me as a good friend or if he loves me more than that.

The Best way to find out something like this is to ask. If he does love you more then a friend and you dont not feel the same you need to explain this to him and tell him you do not want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend.

You also have to take in to consideration that he might mean he loves you just as a friend, but again the best way to ever find out is to ask. If he is your best friend then you should not be to nervious asking a question like that.

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I reallly want to hook up with my CRUSH(let's call him CUTIE)! I always get jealous when other girls like talk to him. I donn know why. But then I'm starting to like my best friend's EX-BOYFRIEND(lets call him JACK). He's not all cute but then I start to talk to him a lot and I think he likes me. Rumor has it at my school that he's gonna ask me to the dance.If he does I dont wan't CUTIE to feel bad because I love him more. I also don't want Jack to get hurt if I say no to him. My friend is OK that I kinda like him and the same with him. But I just feel so wierd that i like 2 guys at the same time. It kinda makes me feel like a slut at the same time. I don't want to live my life wondering if I picked him what would have happened? Please help me.

You have to find out which guy you honetly like the most and why. Sometimes you like a guy, but then realize it was all for the wrong reasons. You should try and be less worried about the boys being hurt and focuse more on what you feel is right. You should not pick to go out with one of the boys just because he will be hurt if you don't choose him; you have to follow your heart. Also you can not have both boy and you know that. Try and think which one relates to you more and who you feel more comfertable talking to about more subjects that are life realated. If you can only talk to one of the boys about sports, then maybe that boy is not the right choice.

You also have to nicly explain to the other boy you do not choose that you dont feel it would be right and you just want to be friends. You can also state that maybe in the future something might happen but at the moment you are not sure. You never no what the future can bring.

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OMG I LOVE JOHNNY DEPP...I DONT KNOW WHY BUT I GET A TINGLY FEELING INSIDE ME WHEN I HEAR HIS NAME AND WHEN I SEE HIS FACE I MELT I NEED HELP GETTING OVER HIM AND MY STUDENTS ARE CATCHING ON....WHAT DO I DO
--THE Queen

Well first you can try and not talk about him so much in the class room so your students will not catch on as fast. Second you need to move ALL of the iteams that has to do with him out of your class room. Then you can talk to your husband and ask him to try and help with the obsession because you should be more obsessed with your husband than with jonny Depp. You need to get it though your head that you will never be able to meet him and you need to give up. Jonny depp may be your hero but he should not be on your mind 24/7

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okay well im redecorating my kitchen and i am debating on which color to use....blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink......blue or pink.... its very confusing HELP ME

well my opinion is blue because pink would look very weird in a kitch.

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okay...well im really fat and people call me fat and i can only say to them that i am curvy and i like it....but people wont stop calling me fat and it makes me feel sad and makes my self esteem go down please tell me what i should do
-------Danita

go on a diet fatty!!
Katherine you are such a nerd
and you MAKE people call you fat!
++ your the skinnyest thing in the
world and i love you, you fatty! :)

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my boyfriend is such a jerk. i saw him kissing another girl. but hes soo sweet and he makes me laugh. i just cant get over this one thing. what do i do? forgive him or do i end it??

well even tough you saw him kissing her you should talk to him about his feeling toawrd her and explain that you are upset,and why, and maybe you guys will get through it.you need to have him explain why this happend and if this is ever going to happen in the future.you need to try to do yo ur best to be understanding,and not get angry at him. if you honestly feel that you can't trust him around other girls than maybe the realtionship was not meant to be.The man thing that holds the realtionship together is trust,and if you can't trust him and you feel he will contine to do this then maybe he doesnt honestly care,and you will have to think it over about staying with him.
hope this helped
MONKEY

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okay, well my mom and her boyfriend smoke. a lot.
i only visit on saturdays, but it drives me CRAZY because whenever i come home i smell like ciggerettes. and i dispise that smell. i don't like people who smoke that much either, because i have heart issues and i can't really breathe around it.

how can i try and convince my mom and her boyfriend to stop smoking? i already tried, and i told them how bad it is for you and everything, but they didnt' care. i WANT them to care. i hate this.

can someone give me advice on how to avoid this? or something?

well no matter what you try and say at first your mom and her bf wont understand becuase they have been addicted for soo long, that their body tells them that they need that cigartte to survive. First you need to sit your mom down and tell her that you want to have a serious conversation. then you need to first bring up that u have a heath problem and that the smokeing might worsen it and cause more problems. You can try to work out a way that your mother and her bf can smoke outside or in the basement if you have one,that way the smoke will not irretate you, also you can try to tell your mom maybe that she also has problems heath wise and that her lungs may be damaged or may become damaged in the futrue and may get lung cancer. While you are saying that tell her that you will always be by her side and that you love her ,and will be their when times get tough becuase smokeing is very hard to quit becuase it is a drug and you become addicted.

You may not get your wish of your mother stoping but at least you can come up with a solution so she does not smoke around you.

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hey amanda! its hannah and man you are amazingly amazing

thanks soo much
but this is my friend AMYs advice comlum aka MONKEY we apprecate the love but if you really havbe any questions feel free to ask Amy aka MONKEY any time and Amanda aka PUP says she loves you even more thaN YOU EVEN NO

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