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Q: I kissed my friend just a pop kiss in front of guys, do guys think thats hot?
Also do guys get hard off of fingering a girl?
Just wondering.

All guys are turned on by different things, there is no set answer. Guys can get hard while fingering a girl because of the girl's reactions. He doesn't get that way simply because he is fingering her. If the girl is really into it, makes sounds, etc. I'm sure he'll get pretty excited by that.

Q: I want to loose 15 lbs.

Any techniques?

i dont care what i have to do!

This is what I say to all advice seekers wanting to lose weight...

"First of all, cut out ALL sodas. Drink water for a majority of your drinks (try for 6 glasses a day). People have no idea how much of your daily calorie intake comes from beverages. Cut out ALL fast food. It's not necessary. By simply cutting out those 2 things, I lost 6 pounds in a week. Fruits & Vegetables! Obviously, eat as much of those as possible. Remember to watch your portions. 100 Calorie snack packs are great!, but if you eat 10 of those a day you're still in trouble. Excersise at least 30 minutes a day. Start off slow & build yourself up. I recommend jogging, sit ups, squats, the basics. If you have extra money to spend.. I would also recommend a personal trainer. Best of luck!"

Q: hey um i have an advice column on here, and im trying to download sum pics to my profile. but when ever i try to upload a pic, it says that the pic cant b uploaded cause the size is greater than 15k, i have tried many times to crop the pic and make it smaller but it still wont let me upload it. how do i do it?

Upload it into a picture website, like tinypic or photobucket. Then place the url in the designated box. Should work, if not get back to me & I'll try to think of something else.

Q: does fingering feel good? also my friend gave this guy a blow job and she said it was awsome. is it really that good?

Everyones defintion of "feeling good" is different, but here is my personal opinion.

Being fingered feels good, but when a guy touches outside (near the clit.) instead of inside it feels a lot better. Did your friend say that giving a blow job FELT awesome or IS awesome? Because giving one doesn't give a good feeling to the girl, but it can make her happy because she is making him happy. Make sense? It can really put people in the mood, too.

Q: i've never hooked up with anyone before, as in kissing. and i dont want to ask anyone in person because i dont want anyone to know i havent hooked up with anyone yet. its just im sooo nervous about doing it wrong. i kno there is no actual way to do it, but im just wondering for tips or just instructions on how to. and please be as specific as possible thanks soo much

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Just go for it & have fun! Don't plan it, unexpected kisses are the best kind. Good luck :)

Q: Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.

Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance? (sorry, that turned out much longer than I planned it to).

oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T

I don't really know what your question is, but if you are asking me what I think he feels about you.... the answer is YES I think he likes you. I almost know it. If he goes out of his way to talk to & compliment you, then there must be atleast the smallest attraction. The attraction might not be great, but it is deffinately there. That was really cute that you got him a card & I think it was good on your part to say "I'm busy" in regards to the game. It left him guessing, maybe he thought you were hanging out with another guy, etc. Guys like girls that play hard to get... But then again, I would also recommend you asking him to the dance. Oh sorry, I just re-read your question & now see that THAT was your question. So yeah, ask him! Go for it. Don't be too egar about it, ask casually. If he says yes, congratulations! but let him make the move for Valentines Day. You've put yourself out there.. the ball's then in his court. Please tell me how it goes! & write back if you need anymore advice. :)

Q: I am looking for a job in my area for a 15 year old teenager.

Chick-fil-a hires 14 year olds & up. Zaxbys & Mcondalds usually allow 15 yr olds to work there. Most all icecream places (brusters, baskin robins, cold stone, etc.) hire 15 year olds. Some say that grocery stores hire teenagers your age, but I tried applying to one near me & they said you have to be atleast 17. So it all depends on the specific city. Good luck & let me know how it turns out.

Q: I'm a female, size 11 shoe, and about 5 foot 8 inches tall. I need some low dress shoes in my size for the winter formal. I am going with a guy who is about 2 inches shorter than I am, and he is scared to death that i'll tower over him. I need to find shoes fast!

I'm 5'8" too. I know where you're coming from. Before dating my current boyfriend, most guys we're an inch or two shorther than me. I'm telling you, go to NINE WEST. Seriously, they have the cutest flats & dressy ones at that. Perfect for a formal. I also buy a lot my shoes @ Journeys. It will be harder to find a good dance shoe, but there are some dressy enough. Promise. Good luck.

Q: i was thinking about my pasts relationships, and they're all with boys i didn't know really well. like, we were "companions", but right now, i like this guy who is like one of my best guy friends. and it feels completely different. so i was wondering. would you rather go out with a companion or a best friend and which do you think lasts longer and is just a better relationship?

I'd go with the best friend. I had a best guy friend for a year or so, and I always liked him. It was one of those unspoken attraction things, and I could tell he felt the same way back. We were so comftorable with eachother, too. We've now been dating for 8 months & it's the best relationship I've ever been in. But you know your situation better than anyone else, that's just my personal opinion. Good luck.

Q: can you not flush a tampon?? like the cotton part?

Read the box first. Some brands say it's okay, but I wouldn't recommend it either way. Throw it in the trash, better safe than sorry.

Q: wat trends are in style now? Also, how do you pull of the belt on the waist? I dont kno how to do it...

Bigger, longer shirts almost jumper like... floral designs... big buttons... a lot of stripes. Skinny jeans are in, but it all depends on what kind of style you're into. Tights are in too, not leggings but tights. Big beaded necklaces are cute. What do you mean belts on the waist? Drop it in my inbox & I'll try to be of more assistance. Good luck : )

Q: I'm in 7th grade & I'm taking Algebra1. Do you think this is advanced?

No, I did that for a while but I did back down after a month or so. It was a little challenging for me at the time, but a couple of my friends completed the class fine. So it all depends. Good luck.

Q: Ive tried websites but I cant find the advice!! Sooo what are you supposed to do with your toungue while frenching... like what does "flicking" mean?

check out kissingbooth.com & good luck : )

Q: Hi! Well I'm 13 and i'm having dance problems. See I don't know what kind of dress to buy?
It's the Valentine's Day dance
PS- It has to be a little red

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Dresses&product%5Fid=2035439406&Page=2

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Dresses&product%5Fid=2033798526&Page=3

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Dresses&product%5Fid=2035243197&Page=4

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=Dresses&product%5Fid=2034421983&Page=4

Cutest things ever right? & Their all under 40 bucks. Does it get any better?, I think not.

Q: my friend always says the word tushay [sp?] wht does it mean?

It means, like, "Nice one" or "Well done." People say it after someone makes a good point or comeback.

Q: okayy i was looking for a one piece for gym class, even though i wear bikini's idk wearing one to gym isnt that comfortable. does anyone know where they sell cut out one pieces??

http://slimages.macys.com/is/image/MCY/products/9/optimized/204709_fpx.tif?bgc=255,255,255&wid=273&qlt=90,0&layer=comp&op_sharpen=0&resMode=bicub&op_usm=0.7,1.0,0.5,0&fmt=jpeg

that's an example. that one is from macys but they dont sell it anymore. do you think thats cute for a one piece?? or should i just stop being shy and stick with my 2??

thanks!!

If your school allows two peices, go for it! If you feel awkward after one class, switch back to one peices. No biggie & yes I think that bathing suit is adorable.

Q: so,what trends are in places outside the US? Or what are some upcomeing trends? (i guess you could say i dress skater/prep...thats a weird combo,ok,pacsun and hollister or ae,yeah. :]) and also were can i get realllyyy awesome unique flatts? thanks !

Delias, Forever 21, & Charolette Russe all the way. Trust me! And for flats check out Journeys & Hot Topic. Hot Topic has the cutest shoes, seriously. Have fun shopping. And if you want pictures or something else, leave one in my inbox and I'll try to give more info.

Q: i missed the that episode of the real world denver where brooke and davis hooked up or something like that... can anyone tell me what happened on that episode?? also this video on youtube: http://youtube.com/watch?v=tkC_jJuZdlA about the real world is that gonna show on tv? lol thanks so much!

http://www.mtv.com/ontv/schedule/#/ontv/dyn/realworld-season18/series.jhtml

Q: is it normal for your stomache to still be hurting the day after you drank alcohol?

It's somewhat normal. Usually it's a headache instead of a stomach problem. If you're still feeling sick tomorrow, I recommend making a doctor's appoinment just in case. Good luck!