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Q:
hey ok there's this kid that i met a lil while during the summer. he's really kool... but there's a biggg age difference. he's 18 and im 14. he's really nice and i like him a lot , but i kno that he would never like me like that cuz i'm waaaayy to young... wat do i do..... im reallly confused!

signed::
meee

that is a big age difference!But try being his friend first I know hes cute but looks arent everything!Just try being friends and see where it goes from there!
Hope I helped and be careful!
*Lacey

Q: I'm 13 ans my boyfriend is 17 is that wrong? I love him and he loves me and he is super nice to me and does not nag me about sex he said its all up to me and we have talked about all that! So is it wrong????

Well no its not wrong its just frowned upon! Seriously I know it may feel like love but your only 13!And even though he is nice to you and doesnt nag that might just be part of a plan to get you to fall for him so that he gets what he wants and some guys are really patient!But I might be wrong and maybe he really does love you!I just know that this kind of thing happens all the time and girls get hurt everyday.So be careful!
Hope I helped
*Lacey

Q: Does anyone know about record deals? Like does it cost money and like around how much? and like is it hard and do you need anything to get a record deal?

Yes,it is very hard to get a record deal.You have to live in the right city and be at the right place at the right time!Im not sure if it costs or how much but MOST likely it does cost money everything does!But all you can do is go to a recording studio,record your song,get copies and send them to all the major record labels!
Hope I helped and that everything goes good!
*Lacey

Q: i'm 13 and all i ever want is to sing and listen to music. I really want to get alot better but besides lessons idk how. i just want to be a good singer that people want to hear.
how do i do that?

Ok lessons are a good thing to do if you want to be in the music biz,becuase your instructor can get you into shows and help you get better!But also you might want to join choir at your school or go on the internet and find any talent shows around your area!
Hope i helped and you find what your looking for!
*Lacey

Q: can women fall pregnant by a man who is 20years older then them

A girl can get pregent anytime! It doesn not matter how old the male or female is and even if you are on birth control or using a condom,those help but they are both 99% effective.And yes I know that 1% isnt that much but girls get pregnet everyday when using those!So be carful!
Hope I helped
*Lacey

Q: I am learning to play the drums... is there anyway i could play All my life by KC and JOJO on the drums?

Well you have come to the right person i play drums as well!Now im not totally sure if you can play that specific song of the drums cuz its pretty slow but the way to find out is you go to your search engine and type in,Tabs for Kc and JoJo "All my life".And you should come up with some pages,if not I dont know what to tell you except maybe listin to the song and come up with a personal rendition.
Hope I helped and you find something
*Lacey

Q: Hi everyone, I'm a 14/f, and i'm unsure of what to do. For the past year or so I've been really passionate about wanting to become an actress when I grow up. I've loved acting and pretending all my life, and last year i decided i wanted to make it my career. I told all my friends and my parents, and now they're all rooting me on to become and actress. Here's the trouble. Lately, I've been losing passion in it. Not that I wouldn't like to act, but i think I've decided that I don't want to spend years and years hoping for a break in Hollywood. I've decided that I want go into modeling for two reasons 1.) i don't think i'm gorgeous, but i think i'm pretty enough where I could do it and become (hopefully) famous. 2.) Modeling sometimes leads into acting jobs. what do you think? Should I keep up my 'dream' of becoming an actress, or should I embrace the new dream of becoming a model?
thankz! ~unsure

Well i do think you should keep the dream of being an actress in the back of your mind,becuase your right modeling leads to more things.Heck,just look at Tyra Banks!And if your looking for jobs just type in "modeling jobs (in your state)" but dont forget your school work,if your dreams dont work out you always want a fallback!
hope I helped and good things happen for you
*Lacey

Q: My boyfriend really really wants to do stuff with me like really bad when ever I kiss him he tries to do all this new stuff and I want to and everything but I am afraid of going to far... what should I doo? My dad is going to New York for a month and then we are suppose to move there because his new job and I don't want too!!!
Right now my Best frined has MONO! from kissing another guy and her mom is flipping out!! Help me What should i do with everything!

Well if your boyfirend really loves you he will respect your wishes on not going to far!And all i can say about that is that you will know when you guys are going to far!Then MONO,yes it sucks!My friend was out of school for a month.Theres not much that you yourself can do about it just dont drink after her...well just stay away from her,but after the first two weeks you should be fine going around her(JUST NOT when she is running a fever)!But otherwise thats all I can say,besides im sorry that your moving but im sure once you get there you will make new friends and have fun!
Hope everything gets better
*Lacey

Q: okay...me n my friend are making these shirts with iron on thingys...but we don't know what to put on them..we can put anything we want because we just need to find a picture on the internet...any ideas of what to put on our shirts?
thanks

Well you know the whole 80's thing is comin back so I would pull a little "miami vice" or even on the front put your name and then on the back put like "Breakfast Club 2004" or without the 2004 thats kinda retarded!But anything is cool just make it your own!
hope i helped and that you have fun!
*Lacey

Q: hi im 15 years old and a guy...and i dig this chick alot, we went out before for like 8 months and then we took a "break" and a few days later shes going out with my buddy and to make a long story short, me and her were hangin out at my house and her b/f dumped her and she acted like we were goin out or somethin and then the next day her and her ex are doin the same thing...what the hell do i do?

Well it sounds like this girl is out to make everyone jelous,you and your bud!So I would just try to avoid her for a couple days and see what happens!Maybe even flaunt the fact that you hang with other girls and beat her at her own game eh!
But get back to me on this one and tell me what happens..k?
Hope everything turns out good in the end!
*Lacey

Q: I like this guy alot, and he's my friends neighbor there no problem. we both flirtall the time (anthony and me). its just that at sometimes he'll go i don like you what are you doen here but he'll say it sarcasticly. and then at other times he'llplay footsie with me. i like him alot. but idk wheter should i confront him, or just keep things the way they are. i see him alot during the summer so that wouldnt b a problem.and hes a grade aahead of me idk if that might be the problemt too. please help

Most guys show they like you by being mean and sarcastic,so im pretty sure that he likes you to!So maybe I would drop some hints that you like him,more intimite than playing footsie!And if he doesnt get it or tell you straight off that he likes you too(which he probly wont becuse most guys are chicken),then just write him a note or be couragous and take him to a secluded romantice spot and just tell him!He might suprise you and return the answer or might diss!But dont be sad he might acted that way becuse he embarrased and will apalogize in a day or two!
Hope I helped and you two end up togeather!
*Lacey

Q: what does the word Vain mean? I hear ppl say this and I have not clue

Vain means someone who is Excessively proud of their appearance or accomplishments,another words conceited.And a perfect example would be Kate from Lizzie McGuire!
Hope I helped
*Lacey

Q: Does anybody have any good ideas for cool clothes you can make yourself?

I love making my own cloths but sometimes I run out of ideas.So when im stuck I go to seventeen.com and they have a spot called D.I.Y and it will give me ideas and I just branch off from there.Or you can go to serch on your online hompage and type in like "ideas for making your own cloths" something like that!
Hope I helped and that you make some cute cloths!
*Lacey

Q: where is borders books?? sorry to keep asking this stuff but yeah

do you live in oregon and if so where?But since you obviously have a computer you can just go to BordersBooks.com and im sure if you reserch it you can find one near where you live!
Hope you find one
*Lacey

Q: does anyone know any good sad quotes about drinking and driving, death, losing someone, cutting yourself, someone cutting or hurting themselves, suicide, ect or anything else you can think of thats sad

Go to the website "mychemicalromance.com" seriously they are good for everything.Listin to their new cd and look up their lyrics.Im sure you wont be disapointed.Also you might want to look up dresdendolls.com they are also a VERY good band!They sorta have a white stipe feeling to them but their songs are so much better.
Hope you find what your looking for
*Lacey

Q: you asnwered my diet ? and i wanted to know about how much does that mtv's power yoga tape cost? and is that all i need to buy ?

OK...I do belive that MTV Power Yoga is $20.00 at Borders Books,but like I said before if you go to like Wal-mart or target im sure it will be cheaper.And if you wanna go the extra mile you can by a yoga mat,I dont know how much those cost cuz im a loner and just do mine in my room on carpet or on a blanket.And yea I think thats it!So I hope I helped and everything goes good!And could you rate me if ya could? Thanx

*Lacey

Q: Look no further, this is real.

I express the way I feel.

I am proud that I am me.

I am what I want to be.

I feel used; I feel alone.

I feel upset; I want to groan.

I feel hurt; I feel deprived.

I feel angry; I hate lies.

I feel hunger; I feel pain.

I feel like I have gone insane.

I feel happy, I’m all smiles.

At least for just a little while,

I put my true feelings away

To face another lonely day.

WHOA....
Not only is this a really great poem but exactly what im feeling in my life right now!
Way to go...and keep on writing,your doing great!

*Lacey

Q: I have been going out with this guy for 9 months(2 years unofficially) and we have had sex more than 80 times. I'm only 17 and I'm afraid that this feeling I have, like we are meant for eachother and are going to get married, is just an illusion. Other times, I can see myself marrying him. He's my bestfriend, lover, and the only man I have ever trusted. So is this feeling just "puppy love" or do you think it could be real?

Well I hun I think it could be real!If you trusted this man enough to have sex with him and have no regrets about it then thats great!And whatever it is thats making you think the thoughts of marrying this man is a disillusion,maybe you should talk it out with him and see what his thoughts are!Maybe your getting those kind of vibes from him!?!But I think everything is going to turn out ok,from your story/question,I dont think its puppy love!
Hope everything turns out ok
*Lacey

Q: when someone says go streakin what do they mean?

All I have to say to this one is watch the movie "Old School"! It will totally give you your answer!

Q: Hi, I am only 14 years old and I have been dating my boy friend for about 11 months. I know I love him and he loves me. We hang out all the time, so as you can imagine, sometimes it gets a little boring and I want to do sexual stuff really bad, but I fear I am too young. How much would be appropriate for some on my age? Please, don't give me the "What ever you feel like is right" because if I knew what was right, I wouldn't be asking. Thanks so much!

Well 14 is a very young age to be doing sexual stuff but I know what you mean by boring and 11 months is a long time to stay togeather with someone and at such a young age.So i imagine that this boy wants to take it further as well(of course becuase he is a boy)but if you dont know then you need to find out.And if he does then I suggest the usual french kissing but spice it up a bit! Maybe while your on your couch sit on his lap face to face!Then put your hands on his chest region and then slowly move to the shoulders,by doing this he might get the picture that you want him to do the same but stay in the chest region longer!Also that position is great for buttox grabbing..hehe!And dont forget mood music...check out AquaLung,H.I.M(Album-Razorbalde Romance),South,Snow Patrol...ect(im an emo kid)!Also you might wanna check out Cosmo Magazine it has some cool stuff but its also pretty racey and stuff for adults,but maybe you can get some ideas!But Just remember that your still young and even though you have been togeather for almost a year that doesnt mean you will be togeather forever and you dont wanna regret anything!
Hope I helped and that you have fun!
*Lacey

bio

My name is Morgan,im 16,I love to shop and do girly stuff but I am a tomboy when it comes right down to it!I love to camp,surf,I play drums.I like to read alot and listin to music(My chemical Romance,Sondre Lerche,The 88,Dresden Dolls,Fear of Falling Stars,Gosling,Phantom Planet,Rooney,36Crazyfists,INCUBUS,Dashboard,Scotty Ryan,*im an emo child).
Most of all I love hangin with my homies Dane,Katy,Mitch,Vernon,Todd,Dan'l,Kayla,Jamie,Summer,Mark,Kyle,And J.J!

And I am here to dish out some advice!

My sister has a colum to,MCRRocks102