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Q: Well I was fingering myself the other day and i then i got an orgasm so i quit i went to the ktichen to watch tv by the time i new it i felt something burning. i went to the bathroom and checked blood was coming out but like it wasnt really red. So does that mean that i popped my cherry?It kept buring for a while!btw i am 13/f thanks for the advice in advance!

Your cherry is a piece of skin. Popping it happens when you/someone else/something else tears the skin. Its preforated, so it should tear neatly, but not always. Unless you were fisting yourself, its very unlikely that you actually popped your cherry. Its possible that you scratched yourself, or (I know its gross) popped a zit down there. That would explain the burning.
If your cherry was popped, it would have hurt immediately, and bled immediately too, not slowly begun to bleed.

Q: 14/F
Okay, in first grade, I made a really good friend. In fourth grade (four years ago), I moved to another state. Me and my friend (let's call her Kat) were stripped away from each other.
When I moved, I met a new girl (let's call her Amy). Amy and I became very very very very very close over four years.
Now I'm about to move back to Kat's state, and I regret it a lot, because I'm making Amy cry.
Amy is actually mentally dependent on me, she literally tells me everything, and if she doesn't I can tell she's not telling me something.
Though I know she'll get over it eventually. I've been trying to introduce her to new people to befriend, but she's still attached to me.

Long story short-ish, I am going to move into Kat's house so I can go to a really good school. Which makes Amy even more depressed.

What should I do to make Amy cry less and make my parting easier for her?
(I'm an unfeeling monster, I realize. I know I won't cry. I've scolded myself for that. I know I have mental issues, but I keep them to myself)
Sorry times 50 billion for typing so much!!!!!!
Please help!

You're leaving Amy in body, but that doesn't mean you won't be friends. I've moved six times in my life (15f), and it never really gets easier.
You can't disappear completely from Amy's life; and if you think that you want to, you ARE an unfeeling monster! Luckily, in today's age, we have computers, and cell phones, and planes, trains and cars for visits.
Kat and Amy are two different kinds of friends. Make sure Amy knows that its not her you're leaving, its just the place. She will eventually meet someone new, but you should be there for her until she's ready to drift apart. Call/Text/Email/IM her after school every day for the first two weeks or so, then dwindle it to every other, then every three days, then twice a week, and so on. If you really want to stay close with her, then do so, but if not, break it slowly... like a drifting thing, not a "look I'm moving, and I don't care about you really, go kill yourself" way.

Q: I know it's normal for girls to have discharge, but I don't know whats not normal about it...? Like can you feel it coming out...? I'm sooo confused. Help please???!!!

Okay... Normally, discharge is thin, slightly sticky, and clear or white. If it ever gets really thick or lumpy, or is a green or yellow color, it could be an infection.
I suppose you could feel it, but not really. Its like when you have your period. Maybe a dripping feeling, but probably not.
Its really not that stressful.
Now, the only thing you need to know just in case, is if its thicker and white, but not lumpy, it might be from sex/masturbation. In which case its not discharge, but cum. Its still perfectly normal.

Q: When you go to the doctors to get the pill, do they have to check you first? Like, inside? I had sex for the first time, and I wanna get on birthcontrol, but I don't want my mom to know I had sex before I was on the pill. Thanks :]

In the US, you can get on birth control without your parent's knowledge. I'm not sure about in the UK or elsewhere, but in the US, you can go to a clinic and get the pill without your parents... normally.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/utilities/index.htm
http://www.teenwire.com/
Good luck!!

Q: hey guys im a goth who cares my friends are all goth and i have one regular friend thats cool i just want to know what sites have free goth and rock music and what stores have cool goth jewlrie

vampirefreaks.com sometimes has good downloads and whatnot... Its not all always free though... you just have to watch and wait.
for clothes, the aforementioned; Hot Topic, Spencers; and yes, I know its REALLY preppy, but Claire's and Icing can have some pretty awesome goth jewelry... Even if they call it "Goth Glam"... ugh.
also,fuckthemainstream.com has collars/bracelets and things like that... they're heavy into bondage style though, I'm not sure if you're into that so much.
If you need more sites, surely, log onto vampirefreaks.com, they have a whole forum dedicated to fashion. :)

Q: 13/f
sorry if its a bit long.
A few moths ago i was sorta sad and anxious for some reason.At school on day i started staching any my left arem with my nails.When i got home that day i cut my arm with a blade.Every day for the next week i cut at my arm.After that week is tried to control myself and stopped even through some hard "cravings"(for lack of a better word).I got over it. Yesterday my friends mum called me inside for a chat and she told me that she saw manks on my arm and that she thinks i need professional help so that i dont do anything to myself.I had no intensions of cutting myself.tonight i felt the urge to do it again and i couldnt hold it off so i did it.
I dont want to kill myself i just like the pain.Also there is one of my other friend's mums who i trust alot but feel too ashamed to talk to about it.
Im not sure what to do.I dont know if ill get over it or i should talk to the friends mum that i trust.I dont want to tell my parents and i dont want to talk to the school counsellor or anything.
Even though i dont want to do anything to myself and im not suicidal im scared that maybe one day ill go too far.
Any input will help.But i dont want to hear "tell your parents" or anything.
Thanks

Hi...
Self Injury is a big thing actually... just way underplayed.
Cutting doesn't HAVE to have anything to do with suicide. That can happen, but they aren't really related.
There are plenty of online support groups...
on vampirefreaks.com there are several "cults" including The Bathroom Sink
Anti-Relapse
Unhealthy_Obsessions
Erase_The_Scars
On gaiaonline.com
there is a "support group" that doesn't really promote recovery, just is a place for Self-Injurers to discuss...
Anti-Relapse also has a plainfont webpage... http://anti-relapse.wetpaint.com/page/The+Methods.
that's their "methods" page... methods to keep from "SIing" or Self Injuring.
IM/Messsage me for more info...
Rose

Q: I always have chapped lips, and chap sticks (like soft lips or chapstick) don't help me. I see all these people with perfect lips, no chapping whatsoever, and I don't know what to do. Can anybody help me? I need to know ways to get rid of chapped lips for good, so they are nice and soft, kissable I guess. hahaha. Thanks in advance!

I use either Blistex(the kind in a tub, its round and blue) or Carmex(I like the squeezy tube). They work the best, because trust me, I try everything. Don't use lipgloss, that chaps lips worse, at least mine. Don't bite your lips. Don't lick them either.

Q: does anyone know a good screen name for the name amanda?
an original one.
i want my name in it though

amanduhhhh
amandadnama
amandaxrocks
amandaxoxo
xoamandaxo
omgitsamanda
amandalovesyou
amandacandykisses
hi_im_amanda
amanda_hearts
amanda101
rock_on_amanda
lolamanda
amanda_like_woah

Q: i've been dating this guy for a year. one thing that always gets to me is the way he eats, and i don't mean noisy chewing.
often he'll do things like skipping dinner only to snack on chips and stuff late at night, barely eat any fruits & veggies, buy a hamburger and fries at the school cafeteria whenever he eats there, etc. the other night, for example, he skipped dinner, then made chicken wings and leftover pork at 10:30.
i guess a lot of this stuff is normal teenage habits. i myself don't always eat well, and i know it's tempting to eat junk when you have access to it. but watching him upsets me because he'll get stomach pains and things like that, but won't change his ways. then i'll be like 'you know you shouldn't do that' or 'try bringing a sandwich instead of buying a hotdog', but i feel like i'm nagging, and i know it can make him feel like i'm putting him down.
what's a good way to deal with this? i know it's his issue and he has to be the one to motivate himself to stop bingeing on chocolate milk or whatever, but i'm someone who says what they think and doesn't like to stand by and watch people eat their body weight in doritos.

A LOT of guys eat like that...
I think if it really worries you, you should NOT say anything in public, but tell him you need to have a private conversation later, and tell him calmly that you're worried about him.
CALMLY state your worries, and make sure you make it clear that you're worried about his health, not his weight.
:)

Q: how do girls masterbate? is it supposed to feel all bumpy inside your vagina when you finger yourself? how do i watch porn without my parents finding ou??? if you can answer any that's fine please help...15f

Well.
part A-
most girls I know either just rub, or I know a lot who like to stick things in there... such as razor handles, with the blades removed.
B- yes.
It should feel kind of corrugated, like the edge of cardboard.
C- er. Unless you're 18, its pretty illegal. So... yeah. There are a lot of sites (xanga, ect.) where videos are posted, that if you sign up as older than 18 you can watch pretty safely... I wouldn't advise it though.

Q: Anyone know any AIM programs that I can skin? I'm getting sick of the lack of... skinnability of the regular program.

yeah I know. :( The latest download is the most "skin-able" with the different colors, but if you wanted to REALLY make it different, you'd probably have to change the html code it uses... and that's hackerish bordering illegal.

Q: well.
im going to be 14 january 24th.
i would like to be a doctor.
i love helping people.
anyways,
im deliberating pediatrician (kid doctor)
or anesthesiologist (people who dope you up before and after surgery)
for the heck of it.
what do you think?
thanks in advance.

Well. If you want to help people, a pediatrician would be definately doing that. However, an anesthesiologist would have a wider range of places to work(plastic surgery clinics as well as ERs, ORs, ect.) and generally would be paid more.

Q: what I'd poping cherry

"popping the cherry" is taking a girl's virginity, more particularly, breaking her hymen, a preforated piece of skin that covers the opening to the vagina.
However, even if the girl is a virgin, it may already be popped, from tampons, or sports like horseback riding.
Hope this helped!

Q: I'm seriously getting really frusterated. I'm trying to find a pair of boots for under $100. I want them to be black, and I don't like the sheepskin boots (like Uggs, Emus). I'd like something about mid to knee height, and something with a flat or very low heel.

So far, these are the only ones I really love, but they look uncomfortable and maybe too "dramatic":
http://www.amazon.com/Sam-Edelman-Womens-Margaret-Black/dp/B000TFSJSG/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=apparel&qid=1196823403&sr=8-3

Does anyone have any suggestions? Or any experience with those Margaret Boots in the link?

Thank you so much.

Okay. This sounds really retarded, but I go through this EVERY YEAR.
I find that the only place I can find what I want is Wal-Mart.
The ONLY other places I've found any are at Kohls and Sears. They're too trendy to keep the same styles though.
I'm not sure what to tell you, because those boots do look really uncomfortable.
Rule of thumb with boots: shiny like that is really high matinence. They crack like all get out and look terrible after a couple weeks.

Q: I'm doing a project for religion class, in which I need to create a church program for my wedding service. In it, I need to include bible verses that would be appropriate for themes for a wedding. Any ideas?

"Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it keeps no record of wrongs...." ect.

Q: For Christmas, I get a new digital camera. Is has to be between $100 and $150. I'd like it to have a USB cord included. Must have a way to take small short videos with sound, and preferably have color filters. Also some cameras I have seen have color enhancements which makes them more vivid, this would be nice. Please Don't just go look on circuitcity.com and what not, personal experience would be great.

I love mine... Kodak Easy Share C330.
There aren't color enhancements, but it has everything you've listed, and it in your price range. The usb was included.
It takes good pictures, good videos.
It's internal memory takes 48 pictures, or five minutes of video. :)

Q: are stride gum wrappers edible?

i heard they were if you eat the wrapper with the gum.
is this true, like are they meant to be chewed,
i would think they would advertise the wrappers being edible and stuff, but idk, is it true?

Yes.
You can eat the wrappers.
They are made of rice paper, and, although they might not taste good, they can be ingested.
They do not, however, have any purpose.
Its just a gimmick.

Q: im 110 pounnds, and 5'6

my bra size is a 34B, is that normal for my weight
or like extremely small

Look. I'm 5'6 and I weigh ninety pounds more than you. I'm a D cup, and people tell me I have big breasts.
Its all porportion.
Girls with size DD breasts that are your weight have serious issues. My best friend is like that, and she has terrible back problems, and they don't even look realistic. Be happy.
A B cup is just fine.

Q: Sometimes i see people with those huge head phones on? And like nothing's connected to it that i see. Sometimes i see goths walk around with them around their necks.

I'm wondering some things about them because they amaze me so much and i never see them in stores:

Where can you get them? anywhere specific?

Maybe I just didn't see but is it conncect to anything?

Any other info would be great, thank you!

A lot of the time on "goths" they're because of DJing. Industrial DJs are very popular, and that's the type of headphones they use.
If that's the case, they aren't connected to anything.
Sometimes, people just throw them there, so that when they see friends they're ready to use their splitter on iPods or cd players.
Another version of this is AV people. They wear them around their necks to be ready when they need them.
Hope these explain a little bit!!
Rose

Q: MY QUESTION AFTER YOU READ: Do you think Cathy is jealous of my relationship with Mark even though when I worked for him he tried to make me quit.I spoke to Cathy on the telephone.Every time I talk to her she puts Mark down and the people that Mark hired to work for him.She says that Mark is a jerk and stupid and the people that worked for him (excluding me) is stupid. When I worked for Mark he tried to make my life miserable, (I figured it out and so did my mom that it was only because he missed Stephanie ((his secretary before me)). He wanted me to quit so she could come back. (YOU see I suggested that he ask Stephanie to come back and he loved that idea) But I pushed him to get me placed somewhere else in my company. He set up interviews in departments I wanted to explore and then when I chose a particular department he made sure I was placed there. Also on my last day working for him I told him if he created a position that needs computer work only that he should hire me and he said "Definitely". (YOU see I am a wiz on the computer). And when he comes to the department I am working in he always makes sure to seek me out and say hello. Also now he got promoted to a very high position in our company. I even made a card (congratulating him on his promotion) on the computer, and mailed it to his house. Yesterday he came for a meeting and seeked me out again. MY MOM says: that if Mark really hated me and my work he would have either found a valid reason for firing me or continued to make my life miserable and if I was the type to quit I would have. But Mark really likes you but just wanted his secretary back.. Also about a month ago when I spoke to Cathy on the telephone: Cathy told me that when Tom Stevens comes to my department I should not talk to him until he approaches me because my coworkers would get upset. That is stupid. I know Tom since 1997. You see Tom is my bosses boss and Tom came to my department last week and he was happy

I just want to add what else Cathy said: (1) that she thinks I should not stay in the department I am in for the last year because I am not benefiting from it

I like my job and I like my coworkers. Cathy told me when people ask her what company she works for she is too embarrassed to tell them.
and the other thing Cathy said to me that the only reason Mark got me into another department at a position I am overqualified for is that he would hope I would quit from there.

I think she really doesn't like Mark. She seems very insecure and attention-seeking.
I think you need to talk to her, calmly, and ask her why she really doesn't like Mark. Its possible he was nasty to her or something. Either way, I wouldn't really trust Cathy.

bio

Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose