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SO UM my best friend (guy) whom I like is confusing. In math we sit next to each other. And he held my hand and said "is this friends?" But then my friend Julia was like aww and I responded to him and said SURE (I felt really stupid after that)he held his hand there for a good ten seconds before moving it. He's also very "touchy. There's moments when he could make "moves" but he never does. My question is, does he like me? And if you believe so, me , being a girl, how to approach him? (link)
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I would say it's definitely flirting... so I'm just gonna go out on a limb here and say that he likes you! But... I don't think you should "approach" him. I think you should continue to be the friend that you are to him. Don't try and make something happen. That usually KILLS relationships. I know it can be awkward when he comes off as a little forward but, remember he's your friend. So you don't have to feel so awkward. Hoped that I could help. Thanks!
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to make and maintain friendships? (link)
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While it's in our nature to socialize with other humans around us, that doesn't mean that we are always the most extroverted and out going person ever! I'm also shy/introverted and while it's okay to not be the most outgoing person... we must still socialize and interact with people on a daily basis. Just being yourself and being kind to people will help you to build and maintain good and genuine friendships! Hoped that I could help. Don't be afraid to embrace who you are!
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If he has a baby and I'm 10 years old, and he's 18 do you think it'll work? (link)
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To begin he's a celebrity, so the likelihood of you meeting him is slim to none unfortunately :( I know we all have that celebrity that we've had a crush on forever, but even if you were to meet him... he has a baby and it would be illegal for him to date or marry you (whatever your intentions are). But HEY! there's nothing wrong with having a celeb crush! Hoped that I could help. Thanks.
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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I think that you shouldn't have lied because, it just blew the situation out of proportion. It wasn't that BIG of a deal to begin with. And even though you lied the situation still isn't something that can't be fixed or worked out. Since you lied to him face to face, you should apologize to him sincerely face to face and reassure him that you won't do it again. If he doesn't forgive you after that, then there isn't much you can do about it and that's just that. Sorry to say. Hoped that I could help. Thanks.
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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This is definitely a difficult thing to decide. Depending on what time your friends wedding is, would it be possible for you to go to her wedding and then be back to celebrate with your husband.Or celebrate with your husband first and then go to your friends wedding.Hey one of them had to understand that you can't be in 2 places at one time, and there's only 24 hours in a day. I hope that my plan will work out for you, and if not one of them will compromise. Hoped that I could help. Thanks.
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I feel very sad the holidays are over. All the decorations are being taken down and my family who were visiting are leaving. Any ways I can make myself feel happier? (link)
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Remember that there are MANY holidays throughout the year! Prepare for any upcoming holidays! Try finding ideas and recipes online to make each holiday enjoyable! No need to be sad! They'll be back around before you know it! HEY! You can even start a countdown til Thanksgiving and Christmas this year! This may help time go by faster! Also do something everyday that makes you feel in the Holiday spirit. Who says you have to wait til December 25th to listen to Christmas music or bake cookies?
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I'm 16/f. I have a boyfriend and I really do love him but I wouldn't go as far as sex for a long time because I want to be super mature about it and make sure he's the one I wanna lose my virginity to. Although, I want to go as far as third base with him. But I'm just wondering if it'll be awkward? What does it feel like? Will I reach an orgasm? I just want to be very educated! (link)
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If you're scared, then you have already answered your own question. Sex is for one man and one woman after marriage. Don't let this guy try and force you into losing your virginity to him at this point in your life. Sex isn't just something to joke around about and be so carefree about. If he doesn't understand that, then he doesn't need to be in any relationship with any girl. Trust me... doing this at this age for one isn't healthy and two unnecessary. You have your ENTIRE life ahead of you. Even though you may not think you can... trust me... you can definitely wait. Hoped that I could help.
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Hi, I'm 26.. getting married in May. We're having a small wedding (40 people) in a church, followed by a very formal reception in a historical house.
We made the decision a while ago to have it an adults-only affair, as it's going to be a very late night (finishes at 12) and there's going to be a band and alcohol. We didn't want to put it on the invites (as weddings we've been to have) so we're just telling people. Everyone has expected so far not to bring their children, except my fiance's sister.
She hit the roof, saying that if her 7 month old baby can't be there neither will she. We said we can't make exceptions, it's not fair and she's far too little for the wedding. She said that she can't possibly leave her, even though she has left her several times with her grandparents to go to BBQ's and parties, etc.
I love kids, I'm an elementary school teacher but she is being very unfair. Now my fiance's parents are threatening not to come unless we make the niece a 'focal point' of our wedding. It's OUR wedding! They are saying everyone will love her and if she cries they'll just take her out and put her in a 'different room' at the reception.
I'm so upset, she was also meant to be my bridesmaid so now she's left me in the lurch. I tried to compromise by saying I'll organise child care, and you can always see her after the ceremony before the reception but it's not enough for her. She's also getting very abusive now in text messages.
What should I do advicenators? This is really wearing me down in a supposed exciting time :( (link)
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First off, don't let this little stump in the rode get to you. It's your special day and you definitely don't need drama added to it. You have explained your sister-in-law to be, that there are no children permitted !NO EXCEPTIONS! If she can't be reasonable then that's on her and maybe she doesn't need to come. Explain to her that even though she may be concerned for her 7 month old baby she's being very difficult and taking the focus off of you and your hubby to be special day! Remind her of the times that she has left her child with it's grandparents and present that as an option.
If she doesn't understand after that, then let it be. I know you may be stressed trying to find a new bridesmaid, but hey! It's always good to have a backup plan anyway. If it may help... try having your fiance talk to her instead. I hope that you have a special day and that everything works out, hoped I could be a help. Bye!
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I love my bf a lot and he loves me to but I want to take our relationship further and make out with me....... Problum is he is shy and not that romantic me have only ever hugged before.
BTW I am 11 (bf is 2) And I'm a girl
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For one you are 11 years old. So whether or not you have permission from your parents or guardian to be dating, it's obvious that you're not mature enough to be in a relationship. You have a LONG way to go in life and plenty of time to be in a relationship. Since you clearly don't need a boyfriend, it's needless to say that you don't need to be making out with anyone. You should be happy that this boy for one is "shy" and "not romantic". Let time pass a few more years, and you'll be wishing you still went to school with gentlemen. Kid... you need to focus on being a kid... and that's it. Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationships are for later on in life. Hoped that I could help.
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I feel like my life is one for the scales, with one great outcome comes a terrible situation, and vice versa. Lately, things have been pretty low with my boyfriend- I've noticed that every thing I accomplish, he either shrugs it off (like it's a feeble feat.) or pulls out this talk that ultimately reiterates his insecurity that "I'm going to leave him and find something better." I recently landed a great job that I'm extremely proud of, and when I told him, he mocked it and complained about all of the "new guys I'm going to meet." When I made the dean's list this semester, he told me that when I go off to a better college (I'm in community college,now) that I'm "going to meet someone better than him." This has been the biggest problem of ours since our relationship started.
We've been dating for 4 1/2 years and for most of the time, I feel like I've been molded and conditioned to believe in what he's said. He thinks that if I have guy friends, and if he has girl friends, then we are obviously being devious. I keep trying to tell him that I want to move on from this negative and debilitating aspect of what our relationship has come to be , that I want us to have healthy social relationships and meet people together, with no stress put upon me to feel like I can't meet new people, but nothing works.
He tells me that if he doesn't worry about things like that, then that also means he wouldn't care about me.
I don't want to hurt his feelings, but this insecurity he has of me meeting new people is making my outlook on meeting new people - sour. I really don't have much friends, due to burnt bridges (from this exact reason in our relationship) - and now that I'm finally trying to have a productive social life- he steps in once again, hammering these words into me, it makes me feel guilty just talking to my new co-workers at all. Especially the men. I know I'm doing nothing wrong, but this lack of social activity because of my care for my boyfriends feelings is making me feel- alienated.
I have a clean slate in our relationship, I'm very loyal and have never intended to make my boyfriend jealous with the friendships I have had. Actually, he has been the one in the past to cheat (mentally, not physically. )
Even just writing this, I feel like I am writing in defense, because I am just so used to assuring my boyfriend that nothing would ever happen in regards to me and my guy friends, or going out with my friends alone. But he continues to stifle me, to the point where I in turn end up doing exactly what he doesn't want me to do- Which is, hanging out with my friends alone.. The thing is, everything would be fine if he was open minded. But since he doesn't want me to make friends in the first place- when I do make friends, I feel like I can't tell him, or I can't tell him that I made plans to hangout with them. This set's the cycle going, because he is creating a wedge between my social life and him- and I feel terrible, but I also feel like this is all very unfair to me.
On top of this, every time we go somewhere and I do know someone, I will never hear the end of it.
For example, the other night we had gone to his friends house to hangout.When we got there, a guy friend I had known from middle school was there. I had happily reunited with this friend, because we hadn't seen each other in ages. A couple of days later - my boyfriend starts asking me all of these nonsense questions; along the lines of "Did you ever date him?" or accusations like "I bet you had a "thing" with him and just aren't telling me"
Another example is when I want to hang out with my guy friends that are gay. One would think, as narrow-minded as I have to put it for my boyfriend, that at the very least, he wouldn't mind me hanging out with a guy that also happens to be gay. But it's the complete opposite. He hates all of my gay guy friends(the ones I used to have, and the ones I have recently made) , because he thinks that I'm "going to undress in front of them and let them touch me" --
Yes- these conversations are THAT ridiculous.
It's just so acidic and hurt my feelings when he talks like this.It also makes me feel very uncomfortable- like he's perverting all of my friendships and interactions. It gets me very angry because I know that it's not like that, but they way he sees it is just so screwed up, that I feel bewildered and like I had done something wrong to make him think that way. If it wasn't so often, I would understand. But it is literally, almost every day. It's like he views the freedom of having friends (mainly of the opposite sex) as basically "seeing other people." --Which in turn, makes me question what values he holds in the relationships he has with women (and if I, in retrospect, should be the worried one because of this)
At the end of it all-
Somehow, his "caring" message doesn't translate to me, he is hurting rather than caring, and I can't fathom his logic in any sense. Should I be the one worried, is he possibly making me feel guilty for something he can't fess up to? I really need help trying to get my point across, trying to figure out what his deal is, and basically just any tips/tactics/ pointers you guys can throw at me for dealing with this.
I want to have my social life and friendship blanket again, and I'm trying to rebuild the confidence that I had lost (I mostly feel really alienated and awkward around new people as a result of this relationship, which I have been working hard at to change. --I'm usually pretty outgoing, but when I'm around him it's like I shy right back up because I feel slightly threatened by his outlook of me ) I feel like I cannot move forward in this aspect of my life, while my relationship is like this.
Thanks for your time, sorry for the length (link)
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You have to realize that even though you are in a relationship, you can't let that drain you and be the only thing your time and effort is vested in. While you should put time and effort into the relationship, it shouldn't be a burden. Your boyfriend needs to realize that just because he may not have the exact "perfect" life that he may want, that doesn't make it okay for him to spit on your accomplishments and aspirations. As you can see, a relationship like this has negative affects. Loss of friends, feeling guilty for things you shouldn't, and second questioning whether or not you should be proud of your accomplishments. I think it's best that you sit down and have a real talk with your boyfriend about how his negativity and insecurity is making you feel. Behind insecurity is simply fear. Try reassuring him that for one you're not gonna leave him, and two it's okay for you guys to interact with all types of people. After you talk this out with him, and if he still doesn't understand you should definitely consider the value of your relationship. I know it's difficult because, you've been dating him for 4 1/2 years, but you have to realize that it is unhealthy for you to feel like you can't live your life to the fullest because this person is weighing you down. I hope you make the right choice and that your boyfriend understands. Hoped that I could help.
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theres a guy that i really really like and ive know him for 3 years but im not sure if i dhould ask if he likes me, or how to say it. we do kind of flirt but i font know if ne really likes someone like me. (link)
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It's the guys job to pursue the girl... not the other way around. I definitely think you shouldn't ask him if he likes you. Don't worry so much about trying to chase after people. People will come to you, when it's the right time. Don't try and make something happen, that shouldn't. Just focus on enjoying life and not getting caught up in trying to figure out who's interested in you and who isn't! If he likes you, then great! I'm sure he will make an effort to let you know! Hoped that I could help.
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Well, me and my friends babysit, and the kis is the wrost you could possibly ask for. If he is not in the room and you cjange the channel he comes in and thorws the biggest fit, and if you don't give him wah the wants he has a temper tantrum. How do we stop him from being so untamed??? (link)
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Talk to the parents. Ask how they discipline and if you can do the same. If they don't do anything about his behavior you should look into a different client. Hoped that i could help thanks bye!
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i'm 13 and i took the classes for being a babysitter and i still don't have a job beacuse i don't avertise but i want to be safe...well how do i please help thank you
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Start with people that you know family and friends parents and ask them to spread the word to their friends that are trustworthy. Hoped that i could help thanks bye!
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I have been babysitting for my step mom's home daycaring service for 2 summers now. A couple of weeks ago I told her that I would work for her. Last week an offer came to my doorstep, someone my sister works for neeeded a baysitter. My step mom gives me $12 and day while the other #30 - $40 a day. I am going to high school next year and I am planning to save my money for college. I told my step mom that I can work for her the days that I am off and she got upset. My dad said that I should have stuck with my step mom... but this isn't all for me... this is for my furture of dreaming to go to vet college and become a vet... Now my dad wants to talk to me... what should I do??? (link)
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At least your trying to compromise. And if they want to talk then talk with them. Your not completely kicking your step mom to the curb your still gonna be working for her. And if your saving up for college then you really do need the best pay as possible. So once again compromise either she matches the $30.00 pay or you cut down your hours to work for the better pay. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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I am 19/f. 5'7" tall and currently about 140-145 lbs.
I think have developed a negative relationship with food. I feel like food is taking control of my lifestyle because I overeat a lot. I pretty much always have access to junk food, and when I don't, I seek it out.
And I am ashamed to binge in front of people, with some exceptions: like I've talked to my boyfriend about this problem with food, and he's one of the people that I will eat moderate amounts of junk food in the presence of.
I'm very conscious of what I am eating though, and I've never finished an entire bag or box of anything before. I do deprive myself of certain things because I'm terrified of becoming bigger than I am.
I mostly overeat when I'm sad about something, or stressed about relationships, my job or school, and especially when I'm alone.
I try to counteract the food I consume with exercise, but I'm afraid to give up my habit of eating. It comforts me and makes me feel happy...but I always feel bad afterwards, so that's the only reason I feel like it's taking control of my life.
I think my problem stems from a desire of wanting to be skinny and fit, but I'm not in shape, and it's because I keep eating for comfort.
I've always liked junk food, but I recently was thinking that the bingeing became worse when I fractured my jaw this past winter and I had to go on a liquid diet for a month. So I couldn't chew ANYTHING that whole time, and I had to resort to things like milkshakes to satisfy my cravings for junk food. But ever since the liquid diet ended and my jaw healed, I've been overeating more and more, and I feel like it's because I was deprived from coping by physically chewing and eating for so many days.
I have researched binge eating disorder and I got really upset reading about it because I feel like I have many of the symptoms.
My boyfriend thinks I should talk to my doctor and possibly look into therapy. He also thinks I am depressed and use food to cope with whatever problems or depression I am experiencing.
I've also talked to my mom about my issues with food, and she thinks there's nothing wrong with me and that it's all in my head. She thinks that I have normal eating habits and says that everybody overeats once in a while, and that therapy would be unnecessary.
I don't know whose side I'm on about this. I've never looked into therapy for this because I do agree with my mom when she says that it's all in my head, and I don't really have or want to have a problem. She disagrees with my boyfriend's thought that I'm depressed. She thinks I'm perfectly fine.
What do you think? Should I seek therapy or is this not really a problem? (link)
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Well you said you eat when you're sad, alone, or stressed maybe you should substitute that time of eating with cheering yourself up. When your sad talk about it to a close friend and get it out and do something that will take your mind off of it like going shopping a little bit. When you're stressed sit down and make a list of reasons why you're stressed then try to fix those problems rather than eating during that time. No one knows you the way you know you so if you feel that you really do need therapy go get therapy or just go to your doctor. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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Okay I have a job with my older sister and we babysit 2 kids. The job is $2.50 an hour when we work together and $5 an hour when we work alone. We babysit an 11 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. They live right by the school and we can walk to go to the playground and stuff. They have a pool and a pretty big yard. No big deal right? Well we babysit from 7:30 AM- 2 PM. and me and my sister get really bored. I know its kinda selfish but it gets really boring. I need some advice on how to keep the kids and my sister and I entertained. Board games weren;t so hot last time and TV... well if you like Pokemon I guess its okay. And my sister and I arent aloud to use the phone unless theres an emergency or we need to talk to our parents. And our mom said we shouldn't be texting. They're a little old for nap time.. but I really need something, and anything will help.
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Ask you can use their oven/ stove to bake cookies or a fun little treat
http://www.babysitters4hire.com/tips/1647-babysitting-activities/
Visit the link above
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So I took a course on babysitting/kidsitting. I talked to multiple people in my neighborhood about it. Most of them said that if I took it they would hire me. So I took the course but now that I have the certificate nobody will hire me. I am afraid to put up flyers because I heard about how some people call the numbers and pretend they have kids to babysit but then they are like perverts and end up like kidnapping they babysitters. I want a job but noone will hire me. What is a good but safe way to get the word out that I'm certified and avalible to work? (link)
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Surely you have aunts and uncles that have kids (cousins) that can never go out on Fridays because there kids. So ask them if they would like to hire you every 2 weeks or something. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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There's this comedy group at our school, and auditions are coming up. We have to write a two minute monologue.
What are some topics I can write a hilarious two minute monologue on? I can't think of anything currently.
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Write about an old senile person talking about how there Doctor put them on some wack job medication and next thing they know there in this weird clothing(straight jacket)
Write about a hobo planning to dig his way to China with his new invention that will make him rich and famous in China.
Write about how a little girl thinks she is lost in a grocery store but turns out she was standing by her family the whole time and weird things come up like she sees people riding in the buggy, a kid is wearing a mop on his head... something like that.
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could people send me any info on the upcoming series of doctor who!!!!! ANYTHING AND EVERTHING or the to specials. hen is it airing, the series, not the specials.
THANK YOU, and yes, i no im a nerd (link)
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My sister looooooooooves that show and simply go to GOOGLE.COM and search Dr. Who Episode List sometimes they have upcoming episodes, it depends. Hoped that i could help thanks bye!
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for my birthday my mom is taking me and my friend to see something on broadway my mom wants to see mama mia but i dont know if i wanna see that can you give me ideas on better broadway shows (link)
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I saw Mary Poppins which was phenominal but people say Lion King is gajillion times better!Hoped that i could help thanks bye!
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