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i really want a car!! wut sa good kind? do u have a car?? it needs to be cheap and safe!
You should get a Volkswagen Cabrio Convertable! They rock so much!! Its not too too badly priced... Good luck finding one ;)
LoVe,
HeAtHeRrRrRr!
Come on Come on
You know its time to go
it times to let go
there nothing to hold on to
gotta let go to get over it
we cant live in the past. there nothing we cand do change that.. oh come on come get ready let go its times to let go.. nothing nothing we can do and hold on to. I dont want to know I want to let go.. so can we go now..
I think it sounds like a song more than a poem! Its pretty good! I think it sounds like Ashlee Simpson, if you know who she is! Keep it up!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
do you think girls like me need to get sexy underwear like thongs to impress her boyfriend, or do u think there are more important things to worry about in a relationship, like having fun together or their personalities? should i get some to make him the slightest bit happier, or should i just not get anymore? does it turn guys on to see girls in their sexy underwear or anything? where is the best place to get cute, but inexpensive thongs?
I agree with anonymous_lil_me. If you dont enjoy wearing them, then dont! Especially if youre boyfriend doesnt mention you wearing them. Charlotte Russe and places like that have cheap cute thongs and sales like 5 for 10 bucks! Good luck!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
well it all started when i was helping out @ a summercamp, and every1 came over 2 my house 2 swim. and this 1 hottt guy was upstairs with me signing on as his sn. and so when he left his buddy list was on so i looked @ it (i know i shouldnt have) and so i noticed my sn on there but i am blocked, and i thought we were friends. should i ask him y he blockd me? what do i do?
madison
If you hang out and he comes over, that kind of shows you are friends, right? I think you should ask him why you cant talk to him online and if you are blocked or something.. dont mention looking at his buddy list!! Good luck sweetie!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!! *Rate me please!*
before my ex-bf asked me out my class was on a felid trip. we went ot a resturant and my n' my ex-bf sat next to each other. by the end of our lunch we were holdin hands n' sittin really close. but that was even before he asked me out. then after he dumped me it was like none of that ever happened and he never liked me. it makes me sad bcuz now that we are broken up we dont talk at all...we talked so much before...so what do i do?
This guy you dated sounds like a complete jerk! You need to move on and meet new guys! Meet guys that are actually worth your time! Dont cry because it's over, smile because it happened. *Thats a quote my friend told me when my bf and me broke up for a little while*
He sounds even more lame because he pretends he never liked you, I bet someone told him that he was too cool for you and he wanted to try and be the "cool guy" Ya know how guys can get! Good luck moving on!
LoVe,
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im going to my friends house 2morro and well the girl that owns the house i havent seen her ever since school ended!! shez my best friend!! but sumtimes my friendz think i act like a looser... i dont wunna look bad n act like a looser 2 so wut should i wear? my other best friend is coming and she alwayz thinks ima looser!! but she thinks that with alot of her best friendz were all so crazy!! lol. help!! =)
If you are going out tomorrow, then you should wear a cute, short, flowy skirt and a tank top, halter, or any shirt! If you dont have any cute skirts, wear a pair of shorts and a halter or even some jeans and a shirt! Theres so much you can wear, mix and match outfits you've never worn before! If you are just staying at home, then wear a pair of sofees and a t-shirt! Real friends wouldnt judge you on your clothes or ever call you a loser *unless they are joking around!* Just be yourself and wear what you like, who cares what they like! As long as you are comfortable! Good luck sweetie!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR! *Rate me please!!*
can u please help me get guys to talk to me? i don't want to have to start a conversation with them i want them to come up and talk to me. Please help!! i rate really good! just help me asap!
There isnt a "specific" way to get guys to come up to you. Ususally if they are interested in you, then they will. Just look like youre having a good time whether it be at school or the mall and if you seem some cute guys, then look at them and smile. That always gets there attention!
If I want a guy to come up and talk to me, I say hey! And then start to walk away and if they want to talk, then they'll stop me. Some guys are just as shy as you and wont approach you, sometimes you need to be the one that goes up to them. Good luck sweetie!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
[iF yOu NeEd AnYtHiNg ElSe, jUsT aSk]
ok well here's the thing i think my best friend likes my ex... and honestly i have to be straight up but i obvioulsy still have feelings for him and still really care about him but i kno my bestfriend likes him because she keeps talking about him and keeps saying how sweet he is and i kno the both of them flirt... and also if the both of them went out i would b really shocked and i guess upset.... but haha here's the other thing my ex's gf is kinda not into him that much and well i mean i dunno wut to do... sumbody help!!!!
I think the BeSt thing for you to do is talk to your friend and ex-boyfriend seperatly. Tell your friend you know she likes him and you still have feelings for him and it hurts you soo much to see her like your ex! Its like an unwritten law that your best friend should never date your ex-boyfriends!!
Anyways, tell your ex that you still like him and you hate how he likes other girls. Maybe if you still like him, then you can hook back up. I'm not sure if thats what you want, but if you like someone usually you want to get together with them! Just dont hurt your friend... Be careful! He is your ex-boyfriend and you do have the right to him before she does. Good luck sweetie!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR! *Rate me please!!*
Okay...for the past two years about...on and off I've been having these bad thoughts. I don't even know why...but during the day I tend to just think really bad things and I can't even help it...
Does this make me a bad person??
I just feel like I have a lot of anger...and I don't even know why. Some days I feel fine...and happy and normal...and then at night I have these bad thoughts and I can't even help it.
They go on and off and if they go away they only stay away for about a month. After about a month or so they come back and I don't even know why. It's like something triggers it or something...
It's not like I even havv bad dreams...just bad thoughts and I can't stand them. I hate them so much I just want them to go away.
I mean, I know everyone in the world has at least SOME bad thoughts sometime in their life but I tend to dwell on mine...and I can't even help it.
I used to actually wake up my parents sobbing and I didn't know how to tell them I have bad thoughts...because I didn't want them to think I was going crazy or something...I seriously am afraid I'm gonna go crazy one day. I feel like such a bad person and I don't know what to do because I can't even help it...
---> and I know I sound really stupid asking a question like this but I just want to know...am I a bad person?? Please help...
I usually always cry about these thoughts but lately I havent been. I've just been trying to put them aside and it doesn't always work that way. I hate it so much you don't understand. These thoughts feel like they are wearing me out into nothing...I feel like I'm destined to be a bad and angry person...
Just please help me...I gotta go I was gonna type more...but I just gave you the gist...
Please help me asap. I have no clue why I have these thoughts and I hate them...please tell me...is this normal? Do any of YOU have bad thoughts...am I gonna go crazy and is there a choice between good and bad...
I mean, I wanna be good obviously...but I hate these thoughts and I can't even help it...ERRR please help...I hate it so much...I'm begging you...any advice ... just take your best shot please.
(and please don't think I'm weird...I couldnt bear that)_\
Everyone has choices, right?
Everyone tends to have bad thoughts and if you think yours are abnormal or too often maybe you should try talking to someone (parent, councelor, or friend) Sometimes I get these bad thoughts where I completely hate someone and want them to die. I mean thats just how I feel about some girls and guys but that doesnt make me a bad person at all!
I think the best thing for you to do is tell your parents that you are having bad thoughts/dreams and if you could see a school councelor or phycatrist! It may seem scary talking to your parents about it but hey, you dont want to always have these bad thoughts. If they are THAT serious, you need to get help before they take over your mind! Just think happy thoughts... Good luck sweetie! I tried my best, I hope I helped some...
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
[iF yOu NeEd AnYtHiNg, jUsT aSk!!]
Okay this isnt exactly... a reading thing. I really want to connect with a spirit.. but NOT a dark one... i want something okay.. it doesnt have to be godly... just not from below. If anyone knows how to help me get in touch with any "good spirits" please let me know!!!!
THankss
The BEST spirit to love is the Holy Spirit! He truly is amazing! He's the spirt of Jesus on earth... He could definitly be your best, everlasting friend!! You can talk to him and hes always there for you! Honestly, I'm not the most religious girl and I dont always go to church but I believe in the Holy Spirit with all my heart! Good luck with those "spirits"!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
why is it that i always seem to fall in love then screw it up? i mean i always get hurt is there ne guys out there that i can talk to that are readin this if so plz answer this!
I'm not a guy but maybe I can try and help you out... It's so easy to fall for guys especially when they are sweet and treat you like a princess! I used to be like that, any guy who was nice to me, I would start liking alot!! The best thing to do is not date too much until you know its with a guy you will stay with and wont hurt you... In your question, you made it sound like you were screwing it up and if thats the case, then you need to be extra careful.
When you say you always fall in love, thats most likely NOT true. If you love alot of people, its not love. Usually you give your heart to one guy... thats love. Not bunches of guys, those are just puppy love crushes. I hope you find a guy you really fall for and not hurt... Good luck sweetie!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
[iF yOu NeEd AnYtHiNg, JuSt AsK!!]
my one friend got a boyfriend (my best friend of a long time)a couple of months back. at first i was esctatic! what more could i ask for?!? my two GREAT friends dating. right? wrong. my girl friend quickly became one of my best friends. and my guy friend slowly became almost like an acquaintance. im sad to be losing such a close friend of mine. he always ignores me and never has any time for me anymore. my girl friend is almost the same way. i'm feeling left out and confused. then there was a tragedy in my family.and i was terribly sad.(still am) all my friends became closer to help me through this rough time. i dont want this to be the reason that they want to be with me. i talked to my friends but nothing changed. how do i ask them to change? or is there anything i can do?
I'm sorry to hear that you are losing your friends and the tragedy in your family. The best way to not lose either of your friends is hang out with each one seperatly and talk to them. Tell your girl friend you feel like your losing her as a friend because of her boyfriend and vice versa. There isnt really anything you can do, you just have to have trust in your friends that they will keep being your friend and not leave you out. If they arent inviting you to hang out, then invite them to your house to chill and watch movies or swim. Theres also a teen nightclub where I live and if you have one around you invite them there too or even just the girl or guy! Spend time with them and if they arent doing the calling, maybe you should.
The best advice I can give it talk to them and you said you already did that. Maybe do it more seriously and in person and try to really make them understand where you are coming from. Its hard losing a friend, trust me. I'm definitly the one to know :-/ Good luck sweetie!! I hope I helped..
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
[If YoU nEeD aNyThInG, jUsT aSk!!!]
when are the earliest signs of pregnancy and what are they??? how can you avoid a birth IF NESSECARY??
Some early signs of pregnancy are:
Missed period
Tender breasts
Bloating
Nausea
Fatigue
Increased or decreased appetite
Lightheadedness
The only way to "avoid" pregnancy is get an abortion :-/, have SAFE sex, or abstinence!
Good luck sweetie!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR! *Rate me!!*
My best guy friend hangs out with my boyfriend. Today he told me that my boyfriend was talkin about how annoying I am because I play mind games with him (I have NO idea what kind of mind games I play..) He said he doesn't love me as much anymore and he might break up with me.
Should I believe my best guy friend and expect the worst... or do I just ask my boyfriend about it and hope he doesn't get mad at my guy friend.
I don't want to ruin their friendship, but I don't want to get my heart broken because I didn't listen to my guy friend... What should I do??
I'm really sorry to hear that! You definitly need to ask your boyfriend before you go and belive your friend and just assume things. Once one of my best friend guy friends told me my boyfriend was dancing with other girls and I got so mad at my boyfriend and dumped him. The worst part was, it wasnt true. So just assuming things and believing other people can lead to trouble. Talking to him will give you a chance to prove to your boyfriend you dont play mind games if he seriously said it and you will get closer than before. Good luck sweetie with your boyfriend!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
HELP! I'm going to a party 2nite, and I need 2 get rid of two nasty looking pimples! I already popped them, but blood just came out. HELP!!! I'll rate, just please help! Don't delete this question, please! (:
If the pimple is really red but some ice in a plastic baggie and put it over the pimple for a few minutes. I would put toothpaste on it until you get ready or use Phisoderm Clear Swabs, which have medicine in them and really get rid of zits or Clearasil. When you put on concealer, put it directly on the zit and a little translucent powder of that. Good luck hun!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR! *Rate me please!!*
k me and my boyfriend had sex lat night...and we didnt use a condom but he pulled out right bofore he came. but i was kind of worried because he got a little "stuff" right below where he puts his....well you know...is it possible for something to happen? or does it actually have to be inside the girl?? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
The only reason you shouldnt use a condom is if youre married or if you are on birth control *and I think you should still use a condom to be extra safe* Pulling out early doesnt do much because there is something called "pre-cum" which comes out when he gets hard or really anytime hes horny! Pre-cum has thousands of sperm in it and cum has millions tons more! Good luck!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!! *Rate me please!*
There is this guy that is my friend. His name is steven. he doesn't know i like him. and there is a friend of mine erica. Steven likes erica. Erica is not his type and she doesn'tlike him. I am more of stevens type than erica. how do i tell steven he has a better chance w/ me than w/ her? i don't want to loose our good friendship.
>Random Leigh
When you and Steven are talking, ask him why he likes Erica and tell him that she really likes "bad boys" and that you are really into Steven. If you tell Erica that you like him, maybe she wont interfere and like him too. The best thing to do is talk to Steven and set things straight. Otherwise, keeping it to yourself and telling people you dont know wont do anything for you. Good luck sweetie!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
i really want to look different than i did last year. like totally different. so people will notice. does anyone have any tips??? i'm talkin anything- hair styles, clothes, make-up, the works! plz help!
The best way to change your look is get a hair cut, change the color and try different styles. I'm not sure how you looked before so I cant tell you how to change your clothes and make-up! Maybe going for a different style, last year I was really preppy and laid back and this year I was thinking about wearing more skirts and heels and being really girly. I'm dieing my hair and getting bangs too! I'm so excited! Even if you dont completely change your look, change your attitude towards situations and life. People notice those things too! Good luck girly!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
I like this guy..and i have known him for years..and he was dating one of my friends for a year and half..they broke up and now i like him i have been hanging out with him like everyday for the last month and i really really like him..he is everything i like..nice..funny..nice body:)..lolz..i told him i liked him and he also says he likes me 2...but i feel really bad if i were to go out with him...What do i do????
I agree with Hotblonde123! You definitly need to check with your friend to see if she would mind you dating her ex-boyfriend. Most likely she will mind and not tell you. If you are really good friends with this girl, dont hurt the friendship over a boy! If this boy is more important to you, then I say follow your heart and go for it!! If you decide to date him, dont be rude to her and dont talk about him around her. It might hurt her feelings. Good luck hun!
LoVe,
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I didnt read all of the other girls advice, I pretty much wrote the same thing.. sorry! :-/
me n my boyfriend are going to different highschools and i really think hes going to find someone new... What should I do? should i dump him...or what? its going to be really hard
I think it depends on you and your boyfriends relationship. If you know youre in love with him and you cant stand to be away from him, give it a chance. You can still see each other after school and on weekends. If my boyfriend went to another high school, I would definitly trust him not to be flirty and like other girls but thats because our relationship is strong.
If you think it should come to an end, then dump him now before school starts. Good luck sweetie with your boyfriend!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!! *Rate me please!!*