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me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago and hes already talking to a few new girls. people warned me that he was like this before i went out with him. i had been "talking" with him since december and we finally started going out in march. he got mad at me over something really small so now he "hates" me but the thing is yesterday he called me to hang out..i was really confused and when i tryed talking to him later that night he was like fuck you im busy talking to my girlfriend. i still like him alot i had so much fun with him. hes a really great guy but i dont know what to do... hes really hard to get over. what should i do?!?

First off: boys are confusing and their game of choice is 'mixed signals'. Girls confuse them and they love taking the chance to confuse us right back.

It sounds like he's bitter about you two breaking up. Whether or not he broke up with you isn't important. Sometimes people do things they regret and they try to blame anyone but themselves.

All I can say is that you should give him some time to cool off and then let him know you'd still like to be friends. Be as nice and as friendly about it as possible and try to put your feelings for him aside. If he's over you, the two of you aren't meant to be and, eventually, you will get over him. Yes, it will be hard and it will take a long time but I promise you will. And I speak from experience when I say that.

Just know that young love is fickle. You'll find someone else who'll make this guy look like nothing. :)

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how can i get rid of a zit FAST b4 it gets way bigger?!?!

Wash your face thoroughly EVERY night and, if possible, every morning. Eliminating dirt also eliminate the possibility that the zit will get any bigger.

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I hate my life and I have a lot of problems. My dad left me when I was 3 years old and he lives in Tenneessee with his girlfriend and my half brother. I only get to see them once a year on Christmas. My half sister lives about 45 mins away from me and I only get to see her about every other weekend and on some holidays. My mom lives about 30 mins away from where I live with her boyfriend. They are getting on my nerves because she wants me to move in with them and I don't want to be away from my friends or switch schools again. I live with my grandparents. I have gone through a lot these past 2 or 3 years. I moved away from all my friends in the 3rd grade (Im in 7th grade now), but my best friend changed to the same school as me. Then She moved About 2 and 1/2 hours away in the 4th grade and I didn't even know untill about 2 or 3 days after she left and I hardly ever get to see her. Also school is really stressing me out. A few days ago I cut myself and im thinking about doing it angain. I snap rubberbands on my rist and I get bruses and scars from it. I am thinking about going goth but im probably not. I just have a really bad life. I was wondering if anyone could give my any advice on how I can try to make it better. It's ok if you can't i know it's probably hard to give advice like this. Please and thanks.

~*~Britt~*~

Get perspective. Your life isn't as bad as you make it out to be.

You have family. You should cherish the fact that you're capable of seeing them. Even if it isn't quite as often as you'd like.

You're also very young. You have yet to experience so many things and the fact that you're reacting this way to your life means that you may be quite a bit more sensitive than others to very trivial things.

The only thing I can tell you to do is to see an adult. Your school counselor, a teacher, a friend's parent. Whomever you feel the most comfortable with.

One of the most effective solutions to depression is verbalizing the way you feel with someone else; having someone you know and trust give you advice.

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ok here is the thing... i have really curly hair its really crazy/wild stuff. my hair looks like that girl from the spice girls with the curly hair. any ways i cant put it down or it will look like clowns hair and i wanna get it straighten but i dunno. i got it straightened once but it lasted for like 2 days and sisnt work very well. does any one know a good way to get wild hair straightened, Thanks

There's are many semi-permanent methods that I know of for straightening hair. However, if you want it to last, be aware that you're going to have to spend money.

All my life, I've had VERY curly, thick, untameable hair. I could do nothing with it. I couldn't even straighten it with an iron. I tried EVERYTHING.

A year or two ago, my mother and I came across something called 'Chi'.

I suggest you see a professional hair-stylist and ask their opinion. The method is, although expensive, VERY effective. It involves chemicals that first weaken the thick, curly hair and then, once it's weakened, it's reformed.

My hair has been straight for almost a year, now. Completely straight. It does not get curly.

Like I said, for something that lasts, talk to a stylist. Otherwise, special gels and ceramic straightening irons are a great alternative.

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i am going to a party in an hour and a half and my hair is wet right now, if that matters, but it is kind of a pool party. What can i do with my hair that will look good but won't get all gross when its wet? and what can i do once my hair is wet to keep it looking good. This is kinda important because my ex and my crush are going to be there.

Well.. I'm not a hair expert but I would suggest a bun. Nothing perfect but at least, with a bun, it looks cute even when it's a little bit messy and hastily fixed. And then, when your hair dries after getting in the pool, it won't be too frizzy.

Or you could fix it up however you like and spray it and/or gel it. Although I don't particularly suggest that, since the hair-products wash out very easily in chlorine and can burn your eyes.

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is wakling just (or close) as good for you as running? like can i loose weight from walking 20 minutes a day or does it have to be running? thanks i rate!!

Walking is better than running.

Experts say that running and/or jogging for long periods of time without walking breaks can end up burning MUSCLE rather than FAT.

But when you're walking, always make sure you do everything right: Keep your back straight (don't slouch), stay relaxed (don't clench up), and keep your strides steady and comfortable.

And just because you're walking doesn't mean you can't end up over-heating or getting exhausted. Always keep a bottle of water with you when exercising.

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how come u use to have curly hair ??? is it like u dont ne more

No, I don't. There's a new chemical straightener out that I used on my hair and it was fantastic. I believe it's call Chi. (I didn't use it on my own hair. I went to a hair-boutique and got it done.)

Because of the length and thickness of my hair, it costed six-hundred dollars and took nine hours. I'm not sure how to explain it. It's a lot of sitting, washing, rinsing, etcetera.

But my hair was COMPLETELY curly. And now it's dead straight.

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My friend is a suicidal massicist. She cuts her wrists. She was molested when she was younger. She also does drugs and gets drunk a lot and likes it. Her mom is suicidal and her dad is a pot head. She went to a therapist before but stopped because he was annoying and cost too much. I think her life is taking a large turn down into a huge pile of shit, but I don't know how to help her. She is insecure, clingy but outspoken and is willing to fight anyone who makes fun of her, and that is admirable. She is also bisexual which has caused other probs. Can I do anything?

She. Needs. To. Stop.

First of all, I think she needs to get out of the house she lives in. If her dad is a pot head and her mom is suicidal, that's obviously not doing her any good. Try to find another relative she can stay with for a while. Talk to your parents about her situation and suggest to them that she needs a place to live. See if they're willing to give her a nice home for a while.

I suggest family therapy but that, too, is expensive and not all adults are willing to admit that they have a problem.

Second, I suggest that YOU try to counsel her. You obviously care about her and her well-being and she, obviously, needs someone to talk to. Tell her that you're there to listen to everything she has to say. Also let her know that cutting herself is dangerous and can be fatal.

(Here is a site that may help:

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting_p2.html

There is a paragraph titled Getting Help For Yourself or a Friend that may help you.)

Molestation is not an easy subject but I believe that it will help her to talk about it. I think she needs a shoulder to cry on and, maybe, she feels like no one cares about her. She needs to know that her friends love her and care about her and hate seeing her hurt herself.

Be brutally honest with her. Tell her that you do NOT want to get a phone call one day letting you know the date of her funeral.

Her sexuality should not cause any problems. To me, anyone who has a problem with bi-sexuality is narrow-minded and petty.

This girl obviously needs love. It may be hard to get support in such a household.

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OK. this is more of a problem for my friend. She used to be the happiest person and always nice and friendly. But i slowly watched her change. now she is constantly unhappy and she is always being mean. i really miss the old her. i asked her why she is like this. she said its because she has no self confidence. how can she get her confidence back so that shes the girl i used to know?!

Sit her down and talk to her. This coming from someone who also has no self-confidence, there's usually a reason behind someone's lack thereof.

Tell her -exactly- what you've just said. Let her know that you miss the way she was before and that it upsets you to see her unhappy. It could be family-related issues that are dragging her down and, chances are, she just needs someone to talk to. Let her know that you're there for her and that you're always there for her to talk to. But if she feels uncomfortable talking, don't force her.

Self-confidence is a touchy issue and it's not always easy to deal with. Treat her to a day at a spa or give her a make-over. Compliment her clothes or her hair. Just try to do and say things you think would make her feel confident.

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My boyfriend has been smoking pot for a few years now.. and we just hooked up a lil over a month ago. I have already talked to him about it.. and he lied to me and said he quit. Then one night I was with him and he was hittin pot again.

Is there any way I can talk to him or convince him to quit or even lay off of it a lil bit without him getting mad at me?

First of all, it is -extremely- hard to quit something when you're addicted and you've done it for years. Both of my parents have smoked for half their lives and it is EXCEPTIONALLY difficult to stop.

You need to talk to him, yes. Make sure you tell him that you only want him to quit because you care about him and you don't want to see him get into trouble or get sick because of his addiction. Addictions to things like pot, cigarettes, and alcohol are life-threatening. No matter how often he uses it.

Tell him that you're there for him. Do a bit of research on the dangers of using the drug that he's using. Find a support group near you and give him the information on that. Find someone around his age that quit smoking pot after a few years of being addicted. I find that the best advice given to me is given by those who were once under similar circumstances.

Here's a sit on the dangers of smoking marijuana.

http://familyeducation.com/article/0,1120,68-7516,00.html

If you need more help, go to Google.com and search 'Dangers of Smoking Pot'.

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i have gotten really close to my guy friend mike and we talk all the time. i have strong feelings for him and i DID tell him that i do like him. i think i put him in an akward position. did i do the right thing by telling him how i feel?

First of all, you should never, EVER keep your feelings to yourself. It's not healthy to bottle things up, no matter what they are. So my answer to your question is yes. You did do the right thing by telling him how you feel. It is better to take that chance by telling him that you feel more than friendship for him than to go on wondering what could have happened.

I think you should talk to him and let him know that if he isn't comfortable with taking on a relationship that goes further than friendship, you're okay with that. I'm sure that you would rather risk him not liking you in 'that way' than risk loosing him as a friend by trying to pressure him into liking you.

I've been under similar circumstances before. I've developed feelings toward friends and I've told them, before, that my feelings were somewhat deeper than friendships usually have. Just talk to him. :) The worst thing that could happen is that he could tell you he doesn't share your feelings.

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