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okay heres the story. my best friend cut really bad at the end of 7th grade(were in 8th now) and over that summer. the school, both friends and the administration, was aware but she never really got any kind of help. seh always carved peoples names who had hurt her or someone who was really important to her. okay this has to coem out to. shes bi so these people are girls. one was a best friend who stopped being friends with her another was a girlfriend and one is an x girlfriend. okay sorry that was kind of irrelevent. but anyway she got a lot better after this girl broke her heart. (i know you would think she would get worse) anyway she only cut maybe three times the whole school year. i stopped really worrying about it. but then in the past week she did it really bad. only me and this other girl who cuts too knows about it. before i always could see how unhappy my best friend was but this time i couldnt really understand. nothing really drastic happened and she seemed to be doing a lot better in recent months. okay heres my dilema. she siad not to tell anyone and if i did she would know it was me and not talk to me again or at least be extremely pissed. and i know shes not lying no matter how much i mean to her. now i want to get her help but i dont know how. i dont know if she can be helped with the additude she has now.
so: do i speak up and if so who should i tell?
what would be the best help to get her?
please give me any ideas. im open to anything. and dont waste youre time if youre going to be an ignorant a** like some people on this thing.
I would think if she was your friend she would be greatful that you were so concerned about her. This cutting thing is not exactly healthy for her and if you tell responsible adults, they may be able to help her seek help through terapist sessions and alot of other stuff. It's would be a good idea to spend more time with her too, take her out to fun places like the amusement park.
this dude at my school likes me and i dont like him back....i dont have the heart to say no to him...because i mite have a LITTLE crush on him.........i dont really knw what to do please help
I think you should get to know him more before you can truly judge if you like him or not.
My friend was raped by a bunch of guys. Now she's pregnant and she also has AIDS because of them. She's anemic which means she's already really tired all the time and gets short of breathe really easily. Well lately she's been really tired, like more than usual and it's really scaring me. Her parents don't know about what happened to her, they really don't care about her she's basically living with me. My parents take care of her and we give her a place to stay. She has a job but lately she's been skipping it and she just seems really tired. It's like she's a completely different person. She'll usually try to do things and not let the fact that she's anemic stop her but she hasn't been doing anything lately and she seems really sick. She says that it's just her anemia but I'm not really sure. My question is could she just be like this because of the anemia or could it be something else? I don't know that much about AIDS so could she be dying from it and that's why she seems so exhausted and sick all the time?
Please help me I'm really worried about her.
Sarah
I think you really should inform her parents of this. They may seem like they don't care but if it's something that bad you should really inform them. I hope you have told the police of this gang rape as well. My advice is that you just be there for your friend and comfort her as much as you can even if it's just little as cooking her soup and feeding it to her. I hope your friend will get better.
hey im one of those people who really likes helping other people, you know helping them with problems whether serious or not. well some times i get overwhlemed by all of their problems and i become depressed too. and sometimes it feels like they start to expect SO much out of me and i cant do everything...then we get into a fight! what should i doooooo???
Maybe you should take a little break and not give advice. But instead you can just give a few of your opinions or hints just little ones. I think it's becuz you give so much that they expect so much from you. So leave their problems to themselves but if it gets out of hand or you feel the absolute need to give advice then do so.
hey i wanna know where to get short shorts for not alot of money.. dont suggest hollister american eagel or any places like that.. that isnt my style and i also want some tight shirts.. i want low prices cause i dont have much money til next month and i need em now.. i wear mainly clothing like rocawear,babyphat,ecko..gunit..thanks bunches if you can help
Ross or Marshalls or Value City.
me adn my friend brooke spend an auwfull lota time together.. and people are starting to call us twins... we look nothing alike.. well kinda i guesss tall and blond hair... we both hate it so much and always say no we don't!! but people just keep saying it !! ugh ..what should we do~!
.__. What a case of Paris/Nikki and Ashley/Mary-Kate. Just Dye it.
Ok...I was coming across a lot of insensible Columnists and they were pretty much all girls. But im glad I found you, cause u seem like u can help me.
..Well im 17/f if that helps
Im still in love with my ex boyfriend. We went out for almost a year, and we loved eachother.Well we were really serious about eachother and we had so much fun and it was so crazy, but I knew he loved me. Well until the beginning of this year he went to a different school district and he completely changed. We broke up, and then went back out 1 or 2 months after, and he was an ass and he hurt me really bad. But I know thats not him. And ive tried giving so many guys chances and it jsut doesnt work cause I think about him all the time, and ive waited for a guy that i actually like to come along. And im so confused cause I see my ex every now and then and I see him just looking at me. And my friends tell me he probably still loves me cause he cant go from loving me one day to completely not loving me. And im just so confused cause hes stubborn, and if he does love me why doesnt he tell me?
Please help me....
I don't know why you want to be with a person who has hurt u so much in the past, can you really think they can change? I know you're suppose to give a person the benefit of a doubt and all. Maybe he regrets what he has done to you. I also do not believe just becuz some guy looks at that it means they still are in love with you, they can just be oogling. People change, that's not something you can help, maybe that is how he is now. Don't waste your time on a guy who won't come around. Men are stubborn creatures, very stubborn. Maybe he's embrassed because he knows how he has hurt you and he feels like he's paying the price for his actions. Maybe you can talk to him in private and work it out. Hope it works well for you.
I have no idea where I want to go to college. I have an idea of what I want to do but where do I go? Scholarships would be nice. I've been looking but I think I'm just really lost now. What should I do?
I think you should take a year off to explore professions you find interesting and some you never wanted to try. Maybe then you can find out what you want. Scholarships are hard to get. Talk with your guidance.
Okay this is really effed up and totally embarrasing but last night i had a dream. Im a 15 year old girl and it was about me and my father. We had just married or something and we were both in my room together..okay..and so i took everything iff except my underwear and he was fully clothes and he was laying on top of me and i was really horny but he didnt take off my underwear and then all he did was kiss me on my lips like you know a dad would usually do if he was going to work or something, anyways and in my dream all he did was tell me that he loves me. I'm really grossed out and scared and i dont know wehat to do, and i dont ever wanna go to sleep again because im afraid il get another dream! Plz help!
....Well..maybe it's from thing you've read, seen, etc. Maybe you guys are really close so people think of nasty stuff like that and you just did as well. Also daughters and fathers have this bond between them so that can be it too. Tho..you dream is scaring the hell outta me.
My boyfriend and I went out for six months, we were inseperable. Before that we had been best friends for little less then a year. We were so close, always with each other. He would always say to me "I love you. Someday we'll get married, we can be forever. Run away. Just you and me" he's romantic like that, but the I love you really stuck with me. Only a few weeks after he dumped me (He didn't even tell me why) He has a new girlfriend. His girlfriend always smiles at me when I walk by her in the halls, that bothers me so much. She's always giving me looks if I look at my ex. I like him so much, and I feel my heart drop to the ground whenever I see him! I've noticed though, he watches me. Whenever I walk by, or I'm talking with another guy- he's watching me. He says we can be friends, but he blocked me online and won't return my emails. I'm completely heartbroke and crushed,I just don't know what to do.
I'm 14 by the way
Thanks
Okay first off, you are 14! And you're gonna have other guys later so why are you buggin? The girl is just trying to be nice and you're being a total hater. As for the looks she gives you, it's cuz you're looking at HER boyfriend, she has a right to be jealous after all, you did go out with him. So what if he watches you? Don't you watch other people? It doesn't mean he still has feelings for you. Why don't you just give up on the guy? It looks like he's over you.
ok so I have this friend who I can't stand. (she isn't really my friend) She is so screwed up and I can't stand her. 1. She is a patheloical lier and 2. She snjoys screwing peoples lives up. So anyway my best friend recently started dating her and I can't fiure out why. She's mean, ugly, dramatic and really hurts people. No one likes her. So we were at a concert and he had his arm around me and I turn around and he was making out with her! How do I tell him how I feel about their relationship? Thanks. 14/f
I think you're being a real bitch. You are not in this relationship, it your friend and the girl you cannot stand. If you don't like her, why do you hang out with her? Or even considered her a friend? So what if he made out with his girlfriend in front of you? It is his girlfriend after all, DUH! She may be different with him then she is with you. I think you should just butt out.
theres this guy in my drama class who is really fat and is like 350 pounds and has a billion pimples all over his face that is not able to be cured. hes telling ppl that i'm his girlfriend and i'm not. plus he stalks me becasue he knows where my house is. today he went to my house and tried attacking me becuase i don't want to be with him. lately hes attacked 3 of my friends cuz hes really violent. one of them that hes had a crush on he stalked her by breaking into her house by breaking her window and bringing flowers and a boom box so he can sing to her. he tried kissing my other friend but then she refused and then he bruised her. he also ruined the birthday present that i spent alot of my time making for my best friend and so it got destroyed. he also started moving over on where i was sitting and tried to touch me and put his arm around me but then thank god before he was able to do that my friend susana yelled move outta my way!!! and i don't know what do becuse today i have to meet up with the drama group to finish a project and hes in my group and itz too late to kick him out of the group because the project is due tomorrow. and i'm just scared on what he'll do to me. hes nasty and doesn't even have a good personality.
OMG 911 WE HAVE A STALKER! Tell your parents and school adminstrators and your drama teacher about this. Never be alone! Get a restraining order on him. Make sure to warn all your friends about him too.
okay so me && my clique are gunna make "end of the year" shirts. were goin to 9th grade this yr. so we'll be called "fish" and grad. 8th grade. we have no ideas on what our shirts should say. please give me some ideas !! on the top (( back of shirt)) will prob. have our name but what should our lil' quote type thing say?
Is it tuna or is it Fish? XD I know I'm so unoriginal T_T and make a buncha your friends sign the shirt.
whats the best way to get my boyfreind back i kno he likes me still and i still like him hes just goin out with my other friend(she dosnt think hes hott she just likes him because he funny not sweet or nice but because he funny which he is but hes alot of other thing to)he left the school i still see him so how do i talk to him-when i see him his girlfriend isnt there most of the time-
plz help
How do you know that he still has feelings for you? What's wrong with your friend going out with him becuz he's funny? Having a sense of humor is a very sexy quality. I say you should just let it go but if you're one of those types who don't quit then call him to talk to him alone in private in a cafe or something.
I am going on a trip to another country and need to get some new clothes (in case I lose them in on the way). I need to find a place with cheap but cute clothes that I can take with me. I would like to look cute but be comfortable. Im not really a designer jeans gurl, but I wear what fits. What are some stores that I can get clothes from? Thanks do much!!
mAdDiE~*~
age 15
I say Ross. It's a nice store and the one I go to always has nice pants for girls and guys.
I go to an all girls Catholic School, except recently I was accepted into a co-ed boarding school. I'm going to go to the boarding school, except how do I tell all my frieds that I'm leaving them? Even more so, how do I tell them that I won't even be around?
Tell them the truth, tell them you're not going to be around. BUT! To not worry becuz you will keep in close contact with them via email,IM, and phone calls. I'm sure your friends will be sad, even you, but if they are really your friends, they will support you all the way.
me and my friend, lets call her Sarah, got into a huge fight over a little misunderstanding. I tried over and over again to tell her that i was sorry...but what ever i said it came out soo twisted and messed up!! she is my only friend and now she hates me...how can i tell her im sorry without screwing up?!?!?!
Write it out, proofread, rewrite it and give it to her in a nice sealed envelope.
I know that every girl down there is unique, but im not a lesbian or anything but i see pretty girls in magazines and all of them dont have any visible things in their bottoms. like my question is, is it unattractive to have larger "lips" than most girls and will guys be turned away by it? I dont wanna sound weird its just i dont know who to ask without seeming like a weirdo. lol thanx!
Men would just be happy to get down there. As long as it's not STD infested it's all good.
my dad recently died and i cried a lot when it happened but the day after i didnt really cry but i think about it a lot. I was wondering if if it is wrong not to be crying and should be.
It's not wrong at all. I am actually impressed that you got it over that fast but that's good it means that you can cope more easily.
I'm graduating high school in 2 weeks. My friends and I are planning a summer trip together. We are debating on weather to go to the Bahamas or touring around Eurpoe. Which would y'all do?
Totally for touring in Europe. The Bahamas are so close by and it's just an island, you can go anytime. Europe is big and has so many interesting cultures and more chances to try different foods. You can party when you're in college.