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Q: im invited to this girls 14th birthday party. she only invited 20 people. we used to be best friends in 6th grade and were in love with eachother she told me she liked me but i wasnt in the mood so i said i didnt like her. that was in 6th grade. over that summer we totally lost contact by the next party she hated me then a month later school, she didnt notice me. i dont like her. she is creepy she is the gothic skater but too hyper and im a preppy jock she said. so its now end of 8th grade. since then her and her best friend they are always with eachother and they grew up around eachother, they keep falling for eachother but their friendship stays. i havent really thought about her till now she gave ME an invintation. i havent really talked to her since 6th grade. she changed so much since 6th shes the total oppasite i guess. im not the one to go to parties i never was. she always is she just has fun and talks to anyone. but she looks so miserable when shes not with any friends you can see the very deep pain in her eyes but shes so good at hiding it. her other friend told me she just hates life and is having a rough time and he said i dont have enough nerve to hurt her but if i did... i forget what he even said but her guy friends are extremely close to her more than they should be she constintly flirts with them but they say its fine. i want to know what is with her but im afraid of what her friends would say to me or what shed do to me. why did she invite me we dont even talk. what am i supposed to do. should i go or should i not and what do u think is with her? anything else u think or i mentiond please help

Well try to reason with her friends. Work together to try to help her out. If she is that depressed then she needs help.

Q: lol. the headline says it all. i go to a church and my crush plays drums in the big church, and my dad plays lead guitar. i have spoken to him twice and last year his mom was real nice. and now in the middle of service i keep looking over and seeing these really evil looks from his mom and older sister. and she ignores me when i try to say hi. his dad is cool, but thats just cause he has to be nice to everyone, i guess. but yeah. WTH do you think is going on?!?!

you might of pissed her off somehow. or maybe the woman is a cold hearted bitch.

Q: i love you how do you meet the great girl how should you act when you 1st meet the girl that you love and her parents?

Umm act like a human being. we expect you to act yourself so therefore you shouldnt be worried about acting a certain way. my family is crazy so you will fit right in. And i expect you to be you. BE YOURSELF. its not that hard. and i know its going to be awkward and all and it will be a little for me but just be spontanious about it. and remember that this girl loves you and she has already taken you for who you are.

Q: i wanna lose weight, so i go on the elliptical.
but i hear the treadmill is better.
the thing is, i have really bad stamina, i can't run for long periods of time without running out of breath, and i need to improve this a lot, and quickly.
any ideas on how to improve my stamina a lot, and quick, and also just how to lose weight.

thanks.

Ive seen a guy on tv loose like 5 pounds in one workout because he wore ALOT of layers of clothing which made him sweat and loose his water weight. so if you want to loose weight fast thats what i would do. And if you want to build stamina you have to push your self. like say you can run 100yds and then get out of breath well then push yourself to 105 yds and then the next day try 110yds. and just build up to the goal you want to acheive

Q: does your heart beat faster , when you talk to me , do you get this weird vibe down your spin telling you its love i dooo your to great

Yea my heart does beat faster. especially when you call me and i see your name on the screen. and i dont know what a spin is but i know what a spine is but no i dont really get it in that spot. i do get the feeling that your talking about though

Q: ok my boyfriend has A BBUNCH of stuff on valentines day weekend for me and him to do that he's keeping a surprise but idk what i could do because i have no money and i cant drive or take him anywhere what can i do?? please help!! :(

Love isnt about buying things for each other. whatever you do should come from the heart becaues that is just as good and buying a gift if not better. so if your going to do anything for him be really creative about it because the more creative you are the better it will be. Valentines Day is a special day so just have fun with him and tell him how you feel

Q: do u like doughts? do u like pie? what kind of pie? i love pie ,. its aMaZiNg

yes...i love doughts but only glazed. and for pie it depends on what kind

Q: ok

so my best friend K is going out with D
and D really likes me
but i dont like him
K is in love with D... and D likes her but he is in love with me
i dont like him
and even if i did
i would NEVER hurt K like that

what should i do...
and please dont say tell K because she already knows

thank you in advance

ha. ive had this happen to me too. and my advice to you is dont flirt with this guy if he flirts with you becaues that will just make him do it more. And also chicks before dicks, always!! remember that!! but as long as you will never hurt her like that then the only thing you can do is ignore the guy. That just about all you can do.

Q: have you ever loved? I have and it is amazing lmao is your name charlene how do you shave your down below will your mom love me

quit asking me that. your so retarded. lol but in a good way. and yes i have loved and still do love someone. and yes my mom will love you

Q: my bf is not that great of a kisser. hes ok and good with his hands and stuff but when it comes to kissing not so much. he loves frenching but im less into it so sometimes we makeout instead cause i like that better but even not frenching we slobbers! every time we are done kissing i wipe my mouth and it doesnt bother me but it just makes me not want to because i dont find it fun like with other guys. i luckily have kissed guys who were very good at kissing before him so what should i do??? cause its not that fun having him slobber all over me when we are kissing lol thanx!! :]

I had this same problem with my last boyfriend. I never said anything to him though but yea, i know exactly what you mean! But there is a trick to it. think of it this way the more you close your mouth the more he closes his so the less drool you get on you lol. Or be like hey baby kiss me like this and kiss him and then he will follow. In order to get what you want you have to ask!!

Q: im almost 16 and have NO boobs at all. it is pathetic and i prob have the smallest boobs of any girl in my grade maybe my whole school. i havnt had a boyfriend in like forever and i know boys are probably turned off by it. do you think guys wont wanna be with me cause of my no boobs? plus is there any way to make your boobs bigger. lol

sorry, there is no way to make your boobs bigger. Maybe your just a late bloomer or something. i dont know, there is always hope though. And yes that probably is the reason you havent had a boyfriend. guys are sooo shallow and retarded these days. And plus if thats the reason they wont date you then they arent worth dating in the first place.

Q: what would u do if a guy u met online came an actually seen you... bc thats what i am goin threw and i reali love this girl an how do you shave your "down below"

Sal, your retarded lol well i personally would just chill if i were you because im sure she loves you back so there isnt anything to worry about. Plus this girl you are talking about handles awkward situations well and she plans on loosening you up when you get down to her house. she doesnt want you to feel werid around her either, just because u havent met her doesnt mean you have to be worried. And if i ever met a guy online it would have to be for a really good reason like loving him ALOT.

Q: what is something really sexy i can do making out with my bf when we are standing up because on the couch we rub up on each other but Sunday im gonna see him but have no acess to a couch lol and i really want to do something sexy cause we only see each other once a week and our time together is very limited. thanx! :]

I have something awesome u should try. As you go up for a kiss and i know this may sound dumb but i have done this before and the guy loved it so....
When you finally get to him put your right leg behind him like up high though so it goes around his waste and then take his hand and put it on your ass and make sure u wear a skirt or something so he can put his hand up it or something. then take your hand and caress the back of his head because its a sensitive spot for guys and start kissing him like you really mean it. or if you dont want to do all that just jump in his arms and make out with him.

Q: well im 13/f and all my friends have made out, or been fingered and i havent. i really want to, but when your being fingered what are you soppose to do? if i do it to myself is that how it will feel when a guy does it?

Personally i like it better when a guy does it. They are more forceful and it feels really good when they do it. But thats just me. so no it wont feel the same. And like almost all the people below me said make sure you are with someone you love. dont just do it with a random person.

Q: my boyfriend and i make out and sumtimes when we do this on a couch or w/e i move my hips on him and he like moves on me too and we are really close and like on each other and he says its like having sex with your clothes on. is that what it is and any other info about it. im just wondering about it so anything is helpful even things to do that will turn him on more please! :)

Basically ur just humping each other. I always wondered if other people went through that because i had a guy do this with me too so your not alone girl. but its fun just as long as you keep it interesting and keep him begging for more!!

Q: i want to give my boyfriend a sexy strip dance but I don't wanna look stupid you know? anybody have any pointers? thanks

A guy is going to enjoy it no matter what you do. If you believe your sexy then he will pick up that vibe. Plus as long as you are butt naked at the end, he wont care what you do!! But really just make it fun. Its suppose to be fun.

Q: what exactly is the 69??

its just basically a guy is eating out a girl and the girl is sucking on his dick at the same time. thats all.

Q: 16/f ..first boyfriend. 15/m.

i'm not very experienced with relationships.
we've been going out for a month, and this guy has already started touching me. and telling me that he loves me. and discussing future plans to have sex. and all that.
i'm a good student. well, i used to be 2 months ago. my grades have dropped. i've stopped caring about certain subjects. i can keep a steady, mediocre gpa..but...its just NOT enough for me, you know? i just turned 16. i want to know what to do with my life. all this new overwhelming attention from a boyfriend...is..well...overwhelming...

and im not in love with him. i dont even "love" him. i think i just like his attention. i'm very attracted to him. i know this is very bad. but maybe not as bad..since i get this feeling..that he's using me just to let go of some of him horniness [according to half of my friends...] i even catch myself flirting with other guys.
i dont want to do something foolish with a guy...and give myself away to a guy that doesn't even like me for me. that i dont even "love". even though...it's probably not "love". there is no love at this age, i guess...

and, even for this ONE month...SO much has changed. i've gone from socially-challenged quiet/shy girl...to this social butterfly...a newborn.

but i dont care for these social gatherings of friends and my boyfriend anymore. they make me sick now. i want my shy and quiet life back. i don't know what to do.

if i break up with him, i know i'll be really heartbroken. he probably wont care though [maybe he will]. but im just really clingy like that, ive noticed...towards anything.
so. i don't know..

thank you so much in advance.

1st off the only way to get what you want is to ask. so if you dont want him to touch you then tell him that. if he is a good guy he will stop. if he doesnt punch him in the face!

And 2nd grades are more and important than anything. I dont care what people say, these grades determine your future and you dont even know if ur gonna stay with this guy so grades should be more important and you shouldnt let them drop no matter what.

i dont really understand why you get sick and all from socializeing but hey if you dont want to be around those people then you dont have to be.

hmm and one last thing. You shouldnt be with this guy if he is just with you for sex. If he is pressureing you to do that and you dont want to and he wont quit asking you then i suggest you get out of this relationship. But i hope everything gets better for you.

Q: Hi i'm 17 years old and me and my boyfriend (he is also 17) have been dating for 2 and a half years. I am so in love with him and I know that he loves me, but I think that since we have been dating for so long that he feels like he doesn't have to be romantic or say things like "I love you so much blah blah...you know the stuff that makes you feel happy really in love. Well how do I tell him that I miss it when he use to say stuff like that to me and how he used to treat me special. Now I feel like we are some married old couple I mean don't get me wrong everything is good I just miss that first time feelings of when he said sweet things to me. I'm sorry if this is really confusing ,but Idon't know what else to do.

instead of waiting for him to say things why dont u do it. Or maybe you can do something romantic for him. just use your imagination. ive had a situation like this before and complaining about it wont do any good because thats what i did so dont do that lol. Try to use reverse sycology(i dont know if that is spell right) because if you do something for him or say something to him chances are he will do the same right back to you.

Q: 14/f
i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.
weve been fighting the past three days and we usually never fight. but we came into a discussion that really bothered me.
apparently he said he could do better then me. so then i asked, how? and he said "listen i love your personality, and how you make me feel, i seriously love you, the only way i could do better then you is in looks" he kinda then saw me tearing and he told me he wasn't calling me ugly. and then i told him to just drop the conversation and we did but the rest of our day was good. i just really never thought i was ugly.. but i didn't think i was gorgeous.. just average you know? i mean other guys have asked me out in the past but yeah. so i guess im ugly.. what do i do now? :(

He had no right to say that to you. Every girl is beautiful in her own way. Boys have different tastes. If this whole "ugly" thing is bothering you then try something new with your look. Thats what i do when i get bored with looking the same way. i change my hair style or something. any girl can look gorgeous, you just have to apply the right methods. Good luck with that guy of yours, i hope yall work all this out.

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Hey im Charlene! Im 15. In highschool. I mainly just answer relationship questions/friendship questions. but i dable in other topics too. Im a pretty easy person to talk to, ive made tons of mistakes, but ive learned from them. So if u got a question ill probably be able to answer it.