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well me and muh boiifrined jusr broke up and i rally liked him. lets just say i was really hooked. and i think he left me for another gurl but i aint sure. and this is like the third time i get muh heartbroken this bad. and im so thinkin bout becomin a lesbian. wut should i do??

You could try being with a girl.. but a girl can also break your heart as easily as a guy can. The thing is.. you shouldn't get attached too much. Try not to in the few first months because chances are.. the relationship may not work out.

You're going to go through many relationships and many heart breaks. You have to prepare yourself for it.

Maybe he didn't leave you for another girl.. maybe he didn't want a relationship anymore because it can add stress. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you.. but when you're in a relationship. You have to be in their life too and maybe that's taking out too much time.. and he has to get his school work done.. [if he's in school]

Many other girls have gotten their heart broken more than three times but kept going on strong and finally found a nice guy.

You could try to be with a girl .. not because guys hurt you too many times.. because maybe you really do like her.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and ever since i did i have no friends its like i stopped hanging out with all of them. I need someone close to talk to but it seems everytime i find someone like that they always backstab me and tell the hole world...

what should i do?

You shouldn't stop hanging out with them.
A boyfriend cant replace a friend. Because one day, when you really need a friend.. they won't be there.

You have to try to make new friends or strength the bonds between your current ones. Try to make amends and hang out. You have to earn their trust back again.. even if it was your close friend.

Because once you start hanging out with your boyfriend more.. your friends feel unwanted and unimportant.. that's like being backstabbed. You have to pay attention to them and make time for them.

Also, you shouldn't tell people things unless you didn't want it to get out. Because it always gets out. Unless it's your best friend.. You have to build trust for each other.. find a good person and don't let them get in so quickly. Get to know them and see if they are trustworthy.

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hey im a guy, 13, and i was wondering if 5 inches is a good size when its erected. also it takes quite a while to be its biggest size.

Yup it's a good size.
The average is about 6 inches when erected.

You're only 13, so you've got some more years to grow

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what is the meaning/difference of these words?

oral sex:
anal sex:
blow job:
hand job:

also, can a blow job and hand job be performed on both a man and a woman?

thank you very much

Oral sex = stimulating the penis or vagina with someone's mouth.

Anal sex means "insertion of the penis into the rectum."

A blow job =someone pleasures penis using their mouth/tongue.

A hand job is when someone uses their hand to stimulate the penis.

So no the woman doesn't get those

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out of these two beds, which do you like better for young teenage girL?? i am probably going to paint my walls light green...

http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_1/602-1619430-3919847?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B000JEODSM




http://www.laurenslinens.com/sebe.html




okay i know this is an easy question, but i will still rate!!


i think both would look cute if the walls were light green.

I'm really liking the second one though. it's a really pretty color!

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i have this project and i need to get 100 people to do this four question survey. me and my friends already got some people, but it will be very helpful if you answered these questions to increase the numbers.. seriously, this will take you like less than a minute to type!~ :]

1.Would you rather eat skittles or M&Ms?
2.What is your favorite kind of chocolate? White, Milk, or Dark?
3.Which would you like to have inside a chocolate bar? Nuts, caramel, or fudge?
4.What is your favorite flavor of starburst? Yellow, Orange, Pink, or Green?

thanks for answering! remember to choose one, and in your answer do something like the sample below:

1. skittles/m&ms
2. white/milk/dark
3. nuts/caramel/fudge
4. yellow/orange/pink/black

again, thankyou!

1. Skittles
2. Milk
3. Nuts
4. Orange

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when someone knocks on a bathroom door and your inside, what are you supposed to say? haha i know its a stupid question but i dont know what to say.

"Taken!"
"Occupied"
"I'll be out in a minute!"

Usually when I'm in the stall.. I put my feet out a little to make sure it doesn't happen or put a bag down there to show it's occupied.

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Okay, so my computer has the program "Sound Recorder". It's very standard and came with the computer. Is there any way to extend the amount of time it will let me record for because for now, an entire minute is the maximum.

A minute isn't the maximum.

When it almost hits the 60th mark, you press stop.
The red circled button should be enabled now. Press it, it adds on about 20-30 more seconds..
Do that a few more times. Sometimes it gives you more seconds.

But since it came with the computer, it's just the standard sound recorder. If you want more minutes.. you might have to buy a program.

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yesterday my best friend was really upset and she said she wanted to be left alone..should i do anything and if so what? i feel kinda bad just letting her be alone. help please?

the same thing happened to my guy friend. what should i do?

thanks soo much.

Let her know that you're here for her and that she can call you any time if she wants to talk.

That's about it. You should leave her alone and don't feel bad about it. Sometimes you're not in the mood to have somebody around. Maybe there's something going wrong with her and she needs time to think it out alone.

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Physically, is using an un opened 2 year old make up going to cause harm in my body or skin or eyes?

I know the colours probably ownt' be the same as when i opened it but I dont' have any money and it's the only make up I have to reply on.

I'm ogign to jsut wear make up once but I'll need a lot of practice and I'm scared I might damage my skin, what should i do?

Maybe if I find the exact colours maybe my parents will buy specific make up for me?

When i opened my mascara..it was pretty thick, is it supposed to look liek that?

Basically if you have had your makeup more than 6 months, it should be thrown away. You should at least throw away ALL your makeup after having it for a year.

You could get eye infections. If your mascara becomes thick and comes out in clumps.. throw it away. If you buy a new one and in a few weeks, it gets thick.. put some water in it.

Bacteria can live on old makeup. It will hurt your skin. The makeup should have an expiration date on it.

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this is most likely in the wrong category, sorry.

13/f

alright so i have like a lot of redness around my nose. it won't go away. it's been there for over a year. i have tried EVERYTHING. acne wash, hydrocortizone cream, washing it, lotion, everything. it will not go away! i have to put cover-up around my nose everyday & by the middle of the day, it's visible again. i don't know what it is. i don't think it's acne because there's no like zits on it. but it's really embarassing. here's a couple of pictures of me. look around my nose. you'll see it.

http://i168.photobucket.com/albums/u173/xlaura054/me.jpg
http://i168.photobucket.com/albums/u173/xlaura054/meeeeeeeeeeee.jpg
http://i168.photobucket.com/albums/u173/xlaura054/iamsexy.jpg

please, does anyone know what will make it go away forever? thank you sooooo much.

It's not all that noticeable.
I got distracted by your beautiful freckles :D

Yeah, just go to a derm. they will tell you what it is and how to treat it.

I think if you use face washes and stuff, it will irritate the skin more.. causing it to become more red. Then when you put on makeup.. it could make it worse.

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http://www.xanga.com/iloveyousomuch7

the song on her page...
whats it called
im in

Yeah, what killerface said.

Here's the song link-

http://media.imeem.com/m/1tq63CCcMG

Sanjaya sings it..

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Okay i like this song but i dont know who sings it nor what is the title

I am pretty sure its Cascada though... because it had that whole techno/dance beat to it

and i am not good at remembering lyric but only part I remember is

"We are in heaveennnnn"

so somebody please help?

Is it.. Dj Sammy- Heaven?

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i got extenstion and there the weve and sinthentic (sp?) hair. its not close to my hair color so is it possible to dye it and get it one color becasue i dont like it. also can you curly them even if it isint real hair. its like babrie doll hair just better.


thanks.

You can't dye or heat up synthetic hair. It will ruin it from what I've been told. It won't hold the color.

You should get the human hair type. You can dye, curl, straighten and cut those.. without messing it up.

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i just had a "lesbian" experiance..... i saw some pictures of girls in yano... n it turned me on i went furthur and masterbating... i was think of both girls && boys but it was the girl tht turned me on most.... am i lesbian?
im only 14
thanks X

Most girls are bi curious. You'll find out for sure later when you have experience.

But I really think that girls get turned on by that because they imagine themselves in that position blah blah. Of course it's good so you'll like it. There's other reasons to it too. But it doesn't make you a lesbian if you like it. Maybe it does but..

Just wait and get some experience.. and think about it.

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http://i16.tinypic.com/2d6v1hi.jpg


Thats me. Yeah I do have an advice column =). what is anyones opinion of a hair style/cut i should get. i really want long hair but i am not pacient enough. pics would be nice

Don't get a haircut! Your hair is pretty. If you must, just get some layers. Your bangs are perfect.

you'll also look cute if you get your hair cut a little under your chin.

like this http://www.samysalon.com/images/bob_cut_pic.jpg
but a little bit longer.

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I had a platinum blonde hair and I went brown and they told me it would be a slow process and i couldn't go all the way back to blonde because it would majorly damage my hair and even fall out so she said every 2 months to come back and get it blonder well i got it blonder and i was good with that but i really want that white blonde then i went back about a week ago and she said i can get to honey blonde which is what i wanted before i go to the white blonde well she only did a little bit of highlights and it looks the same but only slightly lighter and its still kinda brown on the bottom. i hate the salon so i'm going to do it myself the next time in probably a month can you give me help about going to white blonde and what good stuff to get and all that
thanks :]

There's always a chance that your hair will be completely fried. So you may need a trim after you bleach and everything. You'll need to go to a beauty supply store. Like Sallys.

Buy a bleaching kit and do what the instructions say. Make sure the bleach and activator are 30 volume. Pay close attention to your hair to see any changes and don't leave it on too long. If your hair has a brassy yellow tint to it, use a violet based toner. Leave it in for half an hour.

You may need to bleach again [if you don't like your results] but I'll wait at least a few days to do that. Just so your hair doesn't break off. Condition your hair a lot so it doesn't feel like straw and use shimmer lights shampoo

Once you get to white blonde, you may need a trim.. and a hot oil treatment or a deep conditioning one.

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my friend liked me, so my other freinds helped him ask me out. this is my first real boyfriend. i said yes. he was really, really, really happy. this happened today. i dont want to m/o with him, just like be friends still basically just like idk. he like lovessss me. its fine talking to him online, i feel akward talking to him in person. i dont know what to do. omfg help.

Do you like him though? If you don't... you shouldn't lead him on.

You shouldn't say yes just so you could get your first boyfriend. It wouldn't be a good experience. I can understand why you may not want to make out with him yet. Has he said he loved you though? If he has, then tell him it is too fast and that you would like him to say it when he truly means it. If he hasn't.. then you shouldn't think of it like that. Yes it sounds like he likes you a lot.. because he's happy and everything.. about you saying yes. So he may be excited and he's showing it.

You should be attracted to him.. and you should want to be with him. Want to kiss him too. Of course you two can be friends but you'll have to willing to be a little more than that.. to be in a relationship.

Things can start off awkward. But you can cuddle, hold hands and hug. Tell him you are not comfortable with making out or kissing.

You can tell him that you're nervous talking to him in person.

But if you don't like him, then don't be with him. It will hurt yourself and him. You don't want to be with someone you don't have any interest in. It really depends on how long you've been friends with him. You can always tell him you just want to be friends because you value your friendship and you don't want to ruin it.

You can tell him you aren't ready for a relationship or want one.

Because he's going to want to treat you like you're his girlfriend. Hugging you, getting closer to you, making plans with you.. and if you don't like that from him. It will keep bothering you.

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my guy friend has recently been saying he wants to go up his gf's shirt. his gf is COMPLETLEY flat - like, as flat as her back. so, my question is, how do guys go up girls' shirts when they have absolutely NOTHING? what is there to feel? why would they WANT to when theres nothing there?

Flat girls don't have absolutely nothing. So she's tiny, he doesn't have to get a handful of boob. He can also touch her nipples, which are very sensitive. So there is not absolutely nothing.



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i dont get it. i type in my question, and the thing about it just how im supposed to, but it always says no connection. how do i get it so my question works?

Um

Here's something that I came across:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5TkHJsaapok

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