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Q: My boyfriend just broke up with me because he said' " i dont think it will work because, you know im going into to high school & your still in middle school" because im in 8th grade and hes in 9th. Plus insead of me being in his profile now its about another girl. and im really reallly sad because i think hes cheating on me. is there anything i can do to make me feel better :( thanks. xoxo

Try not to think about it for one. The same thing happened to me when my boyfriend went into high school and I was in 8th. He probably just wants to be single going into high school so he can experiacnce new things. It just the high school scene. It might be better for you two to take a break, while he experiances that. I know me and my x from when that happened, are still extremely close. Just try and remain friends with him, and hopefulyl when you get to high school things will work out and you'll get back together =)!

Q: My brother is away for the week and i'm normally allowed to stay up to 11 and my brother makes sure i go to bed. So i'm staying up later (a lot later) and i'm eating a lot at night. i'm afraid that i'm going to gain a lot of weight because i'm not going to be able to work it off. i don't want to throw it up because 1.that's just nasty 2.it's unhealthy 3.if i try it i might continue and become bulimic. could someone help me on what to do?

Try to find something to do to occupy your time, its not good to eat late at night because then you cant burn it off during the day, and when you sleep it can turn to fat. Try occupying yourself at night by watching movies, talking to friends, or listening to music. Try not to think about eating. Dont throw up your food for sure because that can cause serious health problems. If you feel the urge to eat, just go to bed. Its better than having a health problem.

Q: ok.. i have this friend, and she's been my friend ever since pre-k! i haven't been in her class for a while, and now i am. we've been hanging out a lot more often, and she gets really annoying!! please help! thanks!

Well. If she gets really annoying when you hang out with her.. dont hang out with her that much. Eliminate it down to once or twice a week or something, or maybe none at all. Thats the best I can do =(

Q: Hi there! Could I ask what different types of styles people wear? I promise to rate you...

If you'd elaborate more on this question than I'd be happy to help you out .. but . styles of what ? Clothes, hair, makeup ?

Q: I'm re-doing my entire room & I've been looking for new beddings but I can't find anything. I want to try to find a bedding that has some red in it because red is my favorite color. I tried looking at JcPenneys, Target, Dillards, Sears, & Bed Bath & Beyond. If anyone knows any other sites, let me know. I'll rate high. Thanks =]

Ah! Im redoing my room also, but Im doing it in playboy bunny, lol .. try www.potterybarn.com or www.pbteen.com they have the CUTEST things =)!

Q: 16/F (I'm a waitress..)

There's this guy from work that I like, and I'm not sure if he likes me as more than a friend, or just a friend.

I'm not sure, but I think he flirts with me. He'll steal a salt shaker from one of my tables, and won't give me it back unless I chase him around the kitchen for it. He shouts my name across the dining room, and risks getting fired for it. He talks to me a lot, and will usually even help me clear a table just to talk to me.. he does little things for me like that. If I'm carrying a tray, or something, he'll put his hand on my back and help guide me through the doors. I'm a pretty shy person, so I hate it when I talk to customers as I'm clearing a table, so usually he'll come over and talk to them for me...

But.. there's two other girls.. and they usually go up to him, and hug him. And they're pretty. And outgoing. And I don't know, I just don't think he likes me. How about you?

I really think he likes you too. If he'll go out of his way to do all those things thenhe probably wants to get to know you better, and not the "pretty' girls.

Q: how do you make a xanga layout?
someone said you need some kind of program...
is there anyway to do it with
paint
jasc paint shop pro studio
microsoft picture it photo preminum 9

thanxx
will rate 5s..

you dont need a program to make an actual layout code - if you want to make a banner than you would need psp7 8 or 9 -- or photoshop. - or if you justr want to put some pictures as a banner than yeah you could use paint.

Q: My birthday is next weekend, and everyone is asking me what I want, I really dont know, anybody know any cute things i should ask for?? But nothing too expensive, thanks alot

lol. Jewelry ? Cd's ? Clothes ? Purses? Makeup ? Noone can really tell you what you might want haha, it all depends on what you like, lol. Those are just a few things I'd want =)

Q: so i start school on tuesday and im gonna be a freshman. im a girl im 4'9 i have brown hair and green eyes. i dont know very many people i know like 6 poeple in the whole entire school. is there any way i can make friends fast? any tips or anything? i will rate high.

Be outgoing, dont be shy. Ask around, talk to people you dont know. Join clubs, after school activities, town sports, anything of that nature. If there isnt any time to do that, then just walk in there and talk to people and make friends that way. Confidence is the key =)

Q: my dad has never told me he's loved me until last week when we were on the phone. I said it first, but i am glad he said it back. it is awkward to say it again. My question is...is it normal for dads not to say he loves his daughtor and should i keep on saying i love him when i see him or talk to him on the phone?

I would keep on saying it and keep letting him know that you do. I wouldnt say that its normal but it does happen. Some parents arent able to express that sort of love towards their children, unless the child brings it up first. I would keep telling him that, so he knows that no matter what, you love him.

Q: I just had sex for first time, and both my inner labias have swelled up about 5x their normal size. Will the swelling go down, or should I be worried?

The swelling should go down. Ive heard of this happening before. If he doesnt subside within a week or less, you might want to ask your doctor.

Q: There is these 2 older guys.Im 14 and theyre 17. They have seemed to like me but I dont know.Would older guys like someone younger out of everyone of their own age?

Some do. They may think th at your mature for your age and they may like you for your personality, or on the other hand they may like the younger girls because of their immatureness and foolishness.. & it may be to take advantage of you - watch out with that. Thats why I dont date guys too much older than me.

Q: i was reading this thing that said most guys like to have the girl make the first move -- guys, is this true??

and when do you kno when to make the first move?? i usually dont do it, i wait for the guy
but like, say your sitting in the movies...and your holding hands or something...when do you kno when the "right time" is to kiss him?

Im not a guy but I think I could answer that. It all depends on the guys. That statement is a opinion probably based on a survey, that might not even still be true. Every guy is different. Some like it some dont. And there really is no right or wrong time.. you just sort of have to bite the bullet and take a go out on a limmb with that one.

Q: I got sunburn on my cheeks about a week ago and now it's starting to peel. The problem is It's coming off in tiny peices so when I try to get it odd I pull the little hairs on my cheek...is there anyway to get rid of the dead skin without purchasing anything. (I have no loofah.) Exfoliating tips??

Thanx I'l rate appropriately!

Just wash your face once or twice daily, in the shower, like stand under the shower head with your face underneath it, and it should come off with the water pressure. or use lotion to make it go away.

Q: How do you figure out someone's real number when they use the *67 (the ID block)? Yesterday, my friend pranked her friend's house on private, and her friend's mother called back angry and threatening to tell her parents. I'm just wondering because I get a lot of private calls and would like to know who keeps calling and hanging up. Thanks :)

I dont think theres any way to figure that out, maybe it was just a lucky guess because I get private calls too, and even if you *69 it, it doesnt trace it. I have a private number by requiest though, and noones been able to figure it out when I prank people, h aha. Sorry doll.

Q: okay i'm make this plain and simple: i have huge pores on my nose! i get blackheads easily, and i have tried a lot of products, but i'm not quite "consistent" w/using them every night or w/e. i might use them for 3 days in a row but then i won't for like a week or two. i can't keep up w/it every night/every monrning. is there any product that you can use every other night or less often??? thanks

I cant think of anything that you use not that often. Usually if you want it to go away you use it every night, You just need to get in a routine of doing it .. maybe set an alarm at a certain time every night to remind you.. or when your brushing your teeth - have a note on your medicine cabinet to remind you =)

Q: i wanna make my myspace pretty. so can someone give me like two really good colors that blend really good and it would be really pretty! thanks so much!

light pink & hot pink -- also try this website.. www.createblog.net

Q: Can anyone give me any tips on flirting but nothing too bold because I am quite shy.

will rate high for good answers.

I'd really like to help but Im not quite sure because Im outgoing, thats how Im able to flirt. You can get over being shy by being comfortable with yourself. Try confidence first. Then get to flirting later.

Q: I'm on the cusp of girls sizes and junior sizes. The thing is, I don't like any of the girls styles anymore. I love the stuff at american eagle but I just can't fit into it. I can't even wear abercrombie jeans becaus I have a large butt and a small waist so the waist is always big and the butt fits. What do I do?? I found a pair of really nice tractor pants at Bloomingdales, but thats just ONE pair!!!

Shop online for custom sizes. Theres a good site I use called www.alloy.com they have different fits for weist size, and butt size, lol! =) Try that and good luck !

Q: I don't wear make-up AT ALL, and i wanted to start wearing some eye-shadow and things like that. I'm white, have golden-hazel eyes, and really red lips. THANX!!

If you have a fairly white complexion, try wearing blues, greens & such. If your white but have a sort of tan complexion. Try lighter shades. As for lipgloss - clear.