Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Okay so this guy and i have been close for a long time and he came to visit me this summer in texas from west virginia. We ended up liking eachother a lot. We even kissed. But i have a boyfriend. Well he knew that too but we figured it would never work out so one kiss wouldnt hurt but then it ended up being way more than just one kiss. i REALLY like this guy. He told me i was different and that when he went back home things wouldnt change. Well that was a month ago and so last week, he told me that he likes a girl and he was bumbed b/c she couldnt come over like they planned. He says he still loves me but we both know we cant be together b/c of the distance. But i dont think he actually ACTS like he likes me. I got so jealous so i told him i wanted to end it but it hurt so bad. Ive cried myself to sleep for the past three nights. I cant get over him but i told him i have to and in order to do that ive stopped all contact with him and tried as hard as i can not to think about him. Did i make the right choice?? what do i do if i didnt?? What do i say or how do i know that he really DOES love me?? By the way...i still have a boyfriend and i know its bad but im trying to figure out what the heck to do and who i love more and who to be with. I think im just plain confused. Someone help please. I dont want to cry myself to sleep anymore. Thanks. (link)
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Im so sorry this happend to you :( K so let me get this straight you have a bf. you have a guy that you are in love with but he's long distance, you've kissed a couple times and you get jealous when he sees other girls, then you broke up with him (even though you arent actually dating him? did i get that right?) K well thats tough!! First you have to think about your bf. lets call him 1. k if 1 likes/loves you then you have a problem. because you like another guy. I know this sounds like horrible advice, but you have to tell him that you kissed this guy. he deserves to know. if he kissed his ld (long distance) friend and was going behind your back you'd want to know right? talk to him about it. if hes a good guy he can give you some advice too. But if you still have majour feelings for him then you need to stay with him. you made a commitment to him adn not to guy 2(west v. guy)plus you just broke it off with 2. k now to part two of this. i realize that you were jealous and totally over whelmed when u ended it with 2. but you have to apologize no matter what. Guys dont get irrational things like that. When you talk to him be honest and talk about your feelings. Tell him that you feel like it wont work (which it probably wont and then you'll be even more heart broken) and see what he says. This is a really hard situation. And it sucks that you are in it but you have to be true to yourself and listen to your heart. I cant tell you what guy 1 and 2 feel or how you feel. but the way for you to find out is ask. keep communication open. if they are good guys they'll talk back. please let me know how this turns out. I feel really bad that I cant help more. but in the end its up to you. i hope everything works out. you probably wont get exactly what you want but it enevitable. good luck!!
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I recently (two months ago) became friends with this group of girls after I broke off with my friends of four years. The prime group of girls consist of D, H and M. I've suffered from depression and having it out with my old friends really took a toll on me and my new friends have helped me through it. H has always made me feel better, D has always cheered me up and M listens to all my problems.
Last week we went to this party. I saw C, this really hot bad boy type from back in high school. I don't know but whenever I see this guy, I feel electricity. Like I get goosebumps. So I was sitting with D later on and I was being casually like, "C is kinda hot. You think i'd I try, he'll give me a go?". D was silent for a second and then she's like, "You can't do that" and when I asked her why she told me that M and C had this thing going on for the past five years where he used to like her and she rejected him because he was a loser and then she started to like him four years ago (this is all without saying a word to each other) and only recently she had started talking to him again and he was cool with talking to her too but apparently she's still obsessed but trying to get over him. But she hasn't seen him for three months because she wasn't at the party.
I was kind of mad after that though and now I'm wondering whether I should still go after him. He's one of the only people who make me feel that way and I think he's exactly my type whereas M is kind of a good girl. I don't even know if he likes me back but I think he might. I know if I start something in front of M, that'll be too insensitive. But maybe I can keep it under cover until she's over him? I feel kinda guilty but if she's trying to get over him, he should be fair game and she deserves someone better than him anyway. He's kind of a trouble maker.
Any help will be appreciated. I'll feedback. (link)
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hey tricky!!
Wow relationships are deffinatly a tuffy! I think that you should talk to "M" and if she says she needs her space, then I'm sure that you can find some one else, at least for a while. C may be more to M than u think. You're right he should be fair game. but you have to think: would m do this to me? Would she stab me in the back? Boys can be hard to come by but friends are 10 harder to come by. and crushes are extremly hard to get over even if nothing happened. I remember once when i was like 14 i had this huge crush on this guy. I had liked him for over 3 years. and then my bff started hitting on him.I freaked out adn we fought for weeks. But then I realized that it is just a guy and i apologized. I still like him and she quit hitting on him(she lost interest) and we are still bffs. I know you may think that he's totally wrong for her but she obviously doesnt think so. I really wouldnt recomend sneaking around. thats the worst thing that you could possibly do. Not only will M get mad but so will H and D because they will think that you wil do it to them. I know you like c but he is just a boy keep the crush a secret just for now. I hope this helps. If not, sorry but just remember that everyone has a different level of sensitivity adn what you do may effect the future you adn in this case your future friends. Losing friends is tough and if you already lost some recently you shouldnt opt to lose anymore.
Good luck!
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is it good that people think you are a good kid, i mean never gets in trouble..goody goody..?? because people say im like that, and theyre shocked when i get detention..how can i stop being known as a goody goody..? (link)
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Hey!
It's totally the same for me. I Get All A's and B's and I work super hard for them. My friends hate me for it becuase when ever I go to there houses they wish i was their daughter instead of the one they've got who does drugs and stays out late. But you're right it is very hard to break out of your shell because everyone thinks that you will rat them out or that their parents like you too much. But you shouldnt change who you are to be more rebellious and stuff. Just because other people tease you that shouldnt matter. I cant tell you to ignore them cause I know how hard that is and its really mother-like but who really cares what grades you get or who really does keep track of when you get detention (I've never had on btw :S lol) if they bother you say soemthing sarcastic like: Well at least I dont practically live there. I know that one was bad. I'm not very good at on the spot sarcasm. But just keep in mind they are probably just teasing you because they wish they could bring their grades home to their parents :) hope this helps good luck
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im a 15/f and i like this guy alot that ive known for about 3 years who just turned 15 but is in the grade below me, but ive only started liking him recently. we have so much in common and hes absolutely hilarious. yesterday at his football game i was there on the sidelines because i work with football and a team ( the team hes on) played second so the entire time b team was playing he was just bugging me. there are 2 other girls that work the games with me that are closer to his age but he doesnt seem to care about them. i would just be standing there and hed walk by and shove me and i'd stumble a bit and he'd smile at me and say something stupid and sarchastic so i know hes just kidding. Before his game he came up to me and shoved me a little and said "good luck shove", smiled and walked away. during the game he would stand next to me really close and talk to me or just joke around. im pretty sure hes flirting with me but how do i make sure? he doesnt joke in a friendly way it just seems more flirtatious. Hes really touchy feely, not in a creepy way but like in an innocent way like hugs or playing with your hand, stuff like that. Oh, and at practices he always comes to talk to me. thanks sooooo much, sorry this was so long, i just didnt want to leave anything out! (link)
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Hey!
My BFF went through the EXACT same thing. I told her to act on it. She was one of his best friends and the only time they spent together was with their other 10 or so friends. I told her to ask him out to do something alone. She said that she was too shy and that she was just going to wait a few weeks to see if he did anything. The next day he announced to everyone in the school that he was moving in three weeks. She came to my house crying because she knew that nothing could ever happen between them. I told her that she should still tell him the way she feels so that she can get over it and move on with her life. The night before he was going to move she walked over to his house to give him a letter with her confession in it. She hugged him good bye and handed him the letter. He looked at it with surprise and she walked home. A week and a half later. After days of her sobbing and depression, she got a letter from him it was the same letter he wrote all his friends giving them his return address. But she also received a letter telling her that he also had feelings for her. Of course they never acted on it from then on because he lives too far away, but they both really regret not acting on their feelings. If you dont act on your feelings he will never know how you feel. And you never know, he may like you back. But guys are weird you never know how he'll react. Whatever you do though, dont let it affect your friendship. Because there are millions of guys out their and only a few are your friends. I hope this helps.
good luck with whatever you choose to do.
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ok so here is the thing, me and my best friend(both girls) can talk about anything...but her and her loser boyfriend have been on and off for the past year. She told me after the broke up the last time they were done for good, well they have been hanging out a lot, and she told me that they have been having sex. I really don't care that they have sex, but there not going out anymore. She told me that she doesn't want to do the whole friends with benfits thing, but everytime they start kissing it leads to sex. I've tried to tell her that if she doesn't wanna have sex then she shouldn't kiss him cuz she knows what it leads to. But she doesn't think when they have sex thats it's her fault, but it both o there fault. How can I make her underdtand that? Any help would be amazing! (link)
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Hey!
I Understand what you're going through. I have a friend who has a reputation of dating horrible guys. I recently found out that she got back together with her first bf who presured her into doing things she didnt want to do. I dont know whether or not she's still a virgin, but I always tell her that she's smart and can make her own dissicisions she doesnt need her bf or anyone else to make them for her. If your friend is denying that its her fault for having sex slap her in the face. It takes two to tango and when she gets pregnant and has to have his kid... she will be regretting it, and probably still be saying its his fault. I doubt anyone in custody court, her parents or anyone else will believe her. There are two things you can do. A) tell her in a super nice way that she is a strong person and that she should make the decisions in her sex life. Tell her that she has to make a choice date him or not date him. Its not healthy to be where she is. Tell her to tell him to make a commitment. Help her nicely to change what shes doing. OR B) As her BFF you can only do so much. Tell her you love her and that you support her (even if you dont) Ultimatly its your friends decision and no matter how much yelling and screaming you do she will just get mad and hate you and feel worse. If you choose a and she gets mad stop bugging her. If she's mature enough to have sex, shes mature enough to manage the consequences. Good Luck!!
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