1) Don't use so much glue!

2) Take a hairdryer to it. I'm pretty sure that'll help.

3) Put it in the microwave. I'm not sure that'll help, but something interesting will happen I promise.

A guy cheats on you and you're wondering if he's the right one to go out with? What is wrong with people these days? Is there something in the water? Honestly, finding a woman with some self-respect around here is harder than finding penguins in the sahara desert.

JUST BECAUSE A GUY IS HOT, DOESN'T MEAN HE DESERVES TO BE WITH YOU.

Thanks, I'm done now.

Well, I'd invite him over and have them talk to them. Seriously, who's it going to hurt? Ask if he'd want to come hang out at your place, ask mom if you can bring a dinner guest friday night (offering to make dinner for the family is really convincing in these situations, by the way), and see what happens. Seniors really aren't that old, you could be inviting a 40 year old over or something, you know.

You should be friendly, but if he doesn't want to be friends then there's not much you can do about it. Just say hi and be your normal self and if he's cool he'll realize he could have a good friend if he'd just talk to you.

Find a set of stairs and stand on a step with just your toes on the step. Push yourself up and down until you can't move your calves. If you're good, hold some weights while you do this. Don't go down much past the edge of the step though or you could strain your achille's tendon.

If it's cool to you when you're shopping and energized, it's cool when you're wearing it around your friends at school. I think the issue is that you just don't feel cool in it. Be cool! Walk straight, strut your stuff, who cares what everyone else thinks of your outfit? You bought it, you love it, wear it like you got some!

No.

I'm serious. But you'd better tell him now before he gets deeper into it, otherwise you'll hurt him even more.

Okay, since you left out ANY LOGICAL REASON FOR STAYING WITH THIS GUY, I'm going to have to ask that you never speak to him again. He's a scumbag! What are you thinking? Don't be friends, don't be his girlfriend, don't be anything... if you being your cool self isn't good enough for him he not only deserves to be alone, but a good strong slap in the face. sheesh.

yes, but you might spill something on your sleeping bag.

Ah, addiction. I think it's okay when it's to me... quite nice, yes? Anyway, test it by staying away from spacefem.com for a day. Do you see things? Hear voices? Feel the urge to just sit in a corner rocking back and forth? Then yes, it's bad, get help. If you just feel the urge to paint your room blue and collect blob-shapped things, you're probably okay.

Well, you said you'd think about it, so you have every right to go back and tell him you decided no. But in the future, I wouldn't give people the "think about it" answer unless you're really comfortable with both alternatives. I'd have just said yes to the first guy if he was nice, the one who was late should have learned his lesson in my opinion.

Well, most of the questions were asked directly to me, so they don't fit into the site total. I've been answering questions for years, that's how I credit it. Not so much a rate as, um, a landslide.

PHP baby! But there's already one out there and it rocks so I wouldn't go through the trouble if I were you ;)

Hmmm... sounds like you're the thinking artists type. I like a lot of the names you just dropped so I'll recommend:

Joni Mitchell
Carol King
Liz Phair
Ani DiFranco
Putumayo's World Music CDs (my fav is Women of Spirit)
Joan Baez

Did you seriously just say that? No, making yourself throw up to lose weight is never okay. Just like driving drunk, and boyfriends who hit you, there are some things that you don't touch with a ten foot poll. It's NEVER okay, got it? You and your friends need to get help before you really hurt yourselves... you are starving your bodies, for one thing, which will only make it try to store more calories. Please get help right away.

Well, suicide is always the wrong choice, so I wouldn't do that. I think you need to re-analyze your friends. You've got a lot of crap going on in your life and you don't need drama royalty making it even worse. Talk to your friends and explain how you feel, then leave. Just walk off and do your own thing, learn to knit or program computers or chop down trees. It sounds like your at the age where friends can complicate things more than do good, and that's a crappy situation but if you put effort into it you can separate yourself and be the bigger person. It'll be okay. Just don't worry about what other people think.

Well, it's probably a good idea to ask someone before you run up and touch their hair. But if you remember to do that, I'd go for it, they might like it. Touch away, the world needs more contact, right?

Well, if you're really uncomfortable, you don't have to date anyone. But I'd give him a try. What do you have to lose? Some loser guys will act like 12 year olds and fight about it, even though you know which one you want. Let 'em fight, it's not your problem. Have fun and don't worry about what they think.

It's not as hard as you think, just cut back the message a bit. Tell him you think he's a great person, not that you're in love with him and you dream about him every night or something. Just catch his eye one day, smile, and say, "I think you're fantastically interesting. We should hang out more." and leave it at that. Be honest. Don't make a big deal out of it. He'll think you're much cooler because you'll come off as more mature than other girls your age, even the popular ones (hell, especially the popular ones, I always hated those posers)

I feel for you, I really do. I've been in this situation before. But there's not a lot you can do, if you kill him you'll get arrested, and if you yell and scream at her ("STOP BEING A MORON!") she'll just tunnel in and turn it into a you vs. him situation. Very bad. So I think the best way to get your feelings across would be to write her a long letter explaining exactly why you don't like her new man and telling her she could do better and you don't like how she's changed since he showed up. Letters are nice because she'll have to see everything you say and you have time to think about what you want to say so you won't say the wrong thing. If she still doesn't see things your way, you might have to call this one a loss and get a new best friend. Be there for her when the jerk leaves her in the dirt, but until then you don't need this stress in your life, you tried. She needs to find strength in herself. You can't give it, no matter how much you want to. If she's being physically abused or threatened, you can go to a school councellor or parent for help, otherwise, good luck.

I've been in the advice column over five years now so I think I've pretty much heard it all... the love, the hate, the random insanity. I don't take it too seriously, so I'm not always giving the best advice, but my column is fun to read!

I am a 23 year old electrical engineer, a feminist, a Christian. I don't know everything but I can sure pretend to.

Disclaimer: Now that I'm on advicenators I'm getting even more questions every day. It's fast and easy for me to answer them, yes, so at least I'm answering something now, but if your question contains the words "there's this guy that I like..." chances are I won't get around to it. I'm only answering interesting questions that I haven't answered before. Register at the site and ask everyone for advice if you must have an answer, because if people read my column and boring love advice was all they found, they'd never come back.

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